Being human does not equate to being perfect.
Sure, we can try our very best to react to every situation in a fair and logical way, but assuming that we'll react fairly every single time just isn't realistic.
As much as we don't want to admit it, we've all felt misguided envy, anger, or hatred at one point in our lives.
A Reddit user recently shared his personal sibling story online, and to say that the circumstances are complicated would be an understatement.
He writes that his sister is non-verbal and unable to take care of herself.
"Despite the fact that she is only 12 she is extremely destructive and violent and destroys anything she gets her hands on."
He explains that since his sister was born, he's never had his parents' attention.
When he was seven, he was moved out of his room into the basement so his sister could be closer to his parents.
"Even when I was 14 and she destroyed a mac my school gave me," he writes, "I was told that I was in the wrong"
His sister's actions were excused over and over again, while his disagreements were ignored.
He explains that he can never make plans with friends because his parents expect him to be on call in case is sister needs something.
"It seems as if I am nothing more than a slave to them" he writes.
"Even when I do somehow get time to myself I am required to leave if they need me. If I do not then I am punished."
His parents have essentially made it clear to him that his main priority should be being a brother, not a kid.
On one hand, it really isn't an equal situation, since the parents need to devote more time to a child with behavioral issues. However, it isn't fair to completely disregard their son.
"This last week I was chosen to give a speech at a school event," he explains, "I was so excited and my parents promised to be there, but they never showed and claimed it was because of my sister."
While talking about college with his parents, The Redditer's father told him that he should get a degree that pays well so that he can take care of his sister once his parents are gone.
This teen is legitimately being told that his entire purpose is to look after his sister.
"I don't know why but this caused me to break down," he said, "I cried and screamed about how it always about her. I'm nothing more than a caretaker to them".
A lot of people said that even though the Redditer's sister needs more attention, the parents aren't handling the situation in the right way.
One commenter suggested family therapy, so that the teen is able to communicate the way he feels to his parents in a safe space.
Since the poster's sister is non-verbal, this commenter was able to give key insight into what she might be thinking in feeling within the dynamic, which hadn't be mentioned up to that point.
"We aren't pets and we shouldn't just be thrown around like 'okay you’ll take care of him now' no, if you dont wanna take care of us, fine, but don't throw us in someone’s hands without even asking US first"
"Parents shouldn't have more kids than they can personally supervise," one person said.
Fairness was the central issue. Why should a child have to take care of another child? He certainly didn't sign up for that.
"After thinking about it for these past hours," he shared, "you are right that I don't despise my sister. It's not her fault that she was born the way she is".
He explained that though him and his parents are still at odds, he hopes to have a productive conversation about the issue with them in the future.
"Thank you again for all the love and support through this".
