Should She Raise Her Boyfriend's Siblings Taken By CPS? 💔

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🏠💔 Moving in together can be a big step, especially when you've been dating for less than a year! 😬 I recently found myself in a tricky situation when my boyfriend Eric asked to move into my house after struggling to afford a place in our high COL area. 💰 Little did I know, his family situation was a total mess! 😱 His siblings were in desperate need of a home, and he wanted us to take them in. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 But was I ready for such a huge responsibility? 🤔 Let's dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story! 🎢😢

🏠 Moving In Together... Too Soon? 😬

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🏡 Inheriting Grandma's House in a High COL Area 💰

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🤔 Hesitantly Agreeing to Live Together After Less Than a Year 💑

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😕 Feeling Like It's Too Soon, But Seeing a Future Together 🔮

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🚨 Eric's Family Situation Is a Mess! 😱

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Eric's Three Younger Half-Siblings in Trouble 😢

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😴 Kids Sleeping on Aunt's Floor Due to Foster Home Shortage 🏠❌

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🙈 Eric's Mom Denies Boyfriend's Actions, Won't Leave Him 🤬

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🏠 Eric Wants Me to Let His Siblings Move In! 😳

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😞 Feeling Bad, But Not Wanting the Responsibility 🙅‍♀️

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

💸 I'd Have to Financially Support Them Without Government Help 💰❌

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😡 Fighting for Two Days, Relationship on the Rocks 💔

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🚫 Not Willing to Compromise, Don't Want to Evict Him & His Siblings 😤

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😢 Breakup Update: Things Didn't Go as Planned 💔

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😡 Boyfriend Flipped Out, Packed His Bags 🧳

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

💔 We've Broken Up... That's the End of It 😞

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🌟 He's Actually Hard-Working & Kind, Lashed Out Due to Stress 😔

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🔑 Returning My Key, Not Coming Back 🚪

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

😔 Sad, But Probably for the Best 💔

Marciella1900 | Marciella1900

🏠💔 Should I Have Taken In My Boyfriend's Siblings? The Internet Weighs In! 🤔💬

Well, folks, it looks like this story has come to a dramatic conclusion! 😢 After fighting for two days about whether to take in Eric's siblings, our relationship hit the rocks. 💔 I showed him this post, and he totally flipped out on me! 😡 He packed his bags and is staying in a hotel now. We've basically broken up. 💔 I feel awful for his situation and his siblings, but people in the comments pegged him as some kind of broke mooch. 😒 In reality, he's an incredibly hard-working and kind guy who lashed out due to stress. 😔 He gave me back my key, and it looks like he won't be coming back. 🔑🚪 I'm sad, but it's probably for the best. 💔 Let's see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster! 🎢💬

Taking on three kids not your responsibility 💔

HDeuce | HDeuce

Don't sacrifice yourself for your boyfriend's siblings. 😓

Disastrous_Ad_8561 | Disastrous_Ad_8561

Don't be a martyr. It's not your responsibility. 🙅

Nyankitty666 | Nyankitty666

Raising 3 kids after a year of dating? 🤔 NTA

Narrow-Strawberry830 | Narrow-Strawberry830

Raising trauma-filled kids requires training, don't do it. ⚠️

Sweet-Tension4066 | Sweet-Tension4066

Set boundaries and make sure he moves out before bringing siblings.

murphy2345678 | murphy2345678

Compassionate NTA refuses to take on boyfriend's siblings' guardianship 🙏

NickelPickle2018 | NickelPickle2018

NTA but it's not a feasible option to care for them 😞

Crazybutnotlazy1983 | Crazybutnotlazy1983

Be careful, agreeing to take them in may give them legal rights 🚨

mellamohungo | mellamohungo

Suspicious motives? Commenter doubts boyfriend's intentions. 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Self-care first, then help others. 🙌

carlylewithay | carlylewithay

Sarcastic suggestion turns into NTA affirmation without judgement. 👍

ConundrumBum | ConundrumBum

NTA, don't be guilted into raising his siblings alone 👍

Laquila | Laquila

NTA stands up for herself and seeks foster care advice. 👏

ihatemopping | ihatemopping

Boyfriend needs to step up and become a licensed foster parent. 👍

meresithea | meresithea

Retired psychotherapist advises against taking in boyfriend's siblings. 🚫

Scared-Agent-8414 | Scared-Agent-8414

Don't let him take advantage of your kindness. 😊

Top-Bit85 | Top-Bit85

NTA suggests boundaries to protect oneself when parenting traumatized children.

Demonkey44 | Demonkey44

Taking on his siblings is too much, NTA 👍

madplumber1 | madplumber1

Don't take on other people's burdens. Learn from this experience.

Subpar_Mario | Subpar_Mario

Dump the leech and his family. 💯

AffectionateAd5373 | AffectionateAd5373

Don't burn your life down. He thinks you're a monster 🙄

phdoofus | phdoofus

Don't be guilted into raising his siblings for a bad boyfriend 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Boyfriend wants her to take in siblings, relationship over. 💔

Dachshundmom5 | Dachshundmom5

NTA! Don't let him baby trap you 😡 Kick him out!

eternally_feral | eternally_feral

NTA. Boyfriend and girlfriend ≠ marriage. Financially unprepared for kids. 👍

Emergency-Variation6 | Emergency-Variation6

NTA. Foster care might be better. Reconsider this relationship. 🤔

Zolarosaya | Zolarosaya

Partner's worldview shaped by addict mother, believes they owe siblings.

Historical_Agent9426 | Historical_Agent9426

NTA. Providing a loving home is hard work, not for everyone. 🏠❤️

[deleted] | [deleted]

State intervention may be best for traumatized siblings. NTA.

RiverDependent9672 | RiverDependent9672

Stand your ground! 🙅‍♀️ Boyfriend is crossing a line.

Mayyamamy | Mayyamamy

Becoming an instant mom of 3 with a man of 1 year? NTA.

03118413 | 03118413

Don't become a mother of 4, consult a lawyer & move on 👋

Broad-Discipline2360 | Broad-Discipline2360

Nope. Boyfriend expects too much & relationship may not survive.

Straysmom | Straysmom

Relationship turned transactional? NTA, kick him out! 😡

raffles79 | raffles79

NTA but boyfriend's request is unreasonable. Time to move on. 🙄

CartmansTwinBrother | CartmansTwinBrother

Taking in boyfriend's 3 siblings can be a legal nightmare. 🤯

Sparky_Zell | Sparky_Zell

NTA. Talk to CPS about not raising the family but helping financially.

AnastasiaDelicious | AnastasiaDelicious

Red flags raised about boyfriend's family overstaying and predatory behavior.

flickeraffect | flickeraffect

User advises against taking in boyfriend's siblings due to complications. 👎

Regeatheration | Regeatheration

NTA. Eric should find housing for siblings instead of exploiting GF's house. 👍

mindymadmadmad | mindymadmadmad

Relationship over. Boyfriend wants her to support his entire family. 💔

Adventurous-Bee-1517 | Adventurous-Bee-1517

Concerns raised about work schedules and childcare arrangements 😓

Girl_with_tools | Girl_with_tools

Boundaries crossed? Commenter questions boyfriend's intentions and actions. 🤔

xxrth | xxrth

Dating less than a year, struggling financially, don't take in siblings. NTA 👍

Mysterious_Acadia_99 | Mysterious_Acadia_99

Taking in three siblings is a huge commitment. NTA. 👏

Greyeyedqueen7 | Greyeyedqueen7

Boyfriend's siblings are not your responsibility, it's time to break up 💔

AdAccomplished6870 | AdAccomplished6870

Legal and financial hurdles make it difficult for boyfriend to adopt. NTA.

walkonbi0207 | walkonbi0207

Dump the boyfriend and the guilt. NTA 🙌

Acrobatic-Initial-40 | Acrobatic-Initial-40

Dump him ASAP! 🚮 NTA for not taking his burden.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Becoming a licensed kinship placement and accepting financial help is important 💪

sideofsunny | sideofsunny

Don't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. 🔥

[deleted] | [deleted]

Protect your assets and cut him off. 👋

Gigmeister | Gigmeister

Don't be a**ed to raise your boyfriend's siblings. 😜

lenajlch | lenajlch

NTA. Don't take in these children, it's a horrible mistake. 😱

ConvivialKat | ConvivialKat

Don't let anyone tell you that you're the a**hole. Taking in traumatized children requires more than just providing a roof over their heads. 💔

Beautiful-Story2811 | Beautiful-Story2811

Don't be a doormat, you're NTA for setting boundaries. 💪

Substantial_Rest817 | Substantial_Rest817

Dating for a year doesn't mean being a foster parent. 🙄

rgnkge66_ | rgnkge66_

User advises to stop being a mom to boyfriend and demand equality ❤️

MarsupialMaven | MarsupialMaven

NTA warns about legal risks of letting boyfriend's siblings stay. 🚨

Sassypants2306 | Sassypants2306

Kick him out before he squats and ruins your life. NTA

pensplace | pensplace

Boyfriend's irresponsibility shouldn't guilt-trip you into taking his siblings. 👍

Intelligent_Emu_9464 | Intelligent_Emu_9464

You're NTA for not wanting to raise your BF's siblings 🙅

Meep42 | Meep42

NTA. Taking on Eric's siblings is a huge responsibility 💔

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA, but raising the siblings might not be the best option 😕

Brief_Ad_1735 | Brief_Ad_1735

Taking in boyfriend's siblings is an emotional Kobayashi Maru 💔

MeatShield12 | MeatShield12

Not obligated to support his whole family. He should take responsibility. 👍

Sheila_Monarch | Sheila_Monarch

Don't sacrifice your future for someone else's problems 👍

nw23reddit | nw23reddit

Taking on kids is a huge responsibility. You're NTA 👍

StraightAsparagus259 | StraightAsparagus259

Help him find a new place, end the relationship 💔

Quiet-Hamster6509 | Quiet-Hamster6509

Supportive comment urges boyfriend to take responsibility for siblings. 👏

scrappy8350 | scrappy8350

NTA, ditch him. Supporting his siblings is too much. 💯

Sarrias10 | Sarrias10

Raising his siblings is a big ask for a new relationship 💔

youknowyouare1010 | youknowyouare1010

Boyfriend wants her to raise siblings, but won't take responsibility. NTA


Important questions to consider before taking in siblings. 🤔

happysunshyne | happysunshyne

Get him out! You're NTA for wanting boundaries. 🙌

adjudicateu | adjudicateu

Foster parenting is a huge responsibility and requires immense effort. 💪

ImTheCraftyOne | ImTheCraftyOne

BF's request to take in siblings shows red flags 👊

Sufficient-Dinner-27 | Sufficient-Dinner-27

Self-care is important! You made the right decision. ❤

Interesting-Moose527 | Interesting-Moose527

Not equipped to raise traumatized siblings, NTA for setting boundaries.

MonikerSchmoniker | MonikerSchmoniker

Adding 3 kids to a new relationship? NTA, take care.

Ok-Owl-1332 | Ok-Owl-1332

Proud and knowledgeable commenter supports OP's decision. 👏

Professional-Cry-339 | Professional-Cry-339

Be cautious about getting involved with someone from a troubled family 🧐

Top_Vast1969 | Top_Vast1969

Red flag alert! 🚩 Think twice before committing financially.

Still_Storm7432 | Still_Storm7432

Becoming a foster parent takes under 3 months 🤔

FairyFartDaydreams | FairyFartDaydreams

Don't let yourself get pulled into that toxic mess. 👌

Tight_Engineering421 | Tight_Engineering421

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