Friend Bemoans Lack of 'Village' Help 😲: Ungrateful or Justified?

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We've all heard the saying, 'It takes a village to raise a child.' But what happens when that village no longer exists? Meet Bella, a late 20-something mom of two, who constantly complains about the lack of support from her friends and family. She believes society has become selfish and terrible, and she's bitter that her mother won't retire to babysit her kids for free. But when her friend finally speaks up, the conversation takes a dramatic turn. 😮🔥

Bella's Bitterness 🤬

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Society's Selfishness? 🤔

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No Village, No Fun 🚫🎉

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A Different Perspective 👩💼

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Kids as an Excuse? 🤷‍♀️

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The Triggering Moment ✈️🎤

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Accusations Fly 🗣️

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The Village Vanished, but Is It for the Better? 🏘️🤷‍♀️

Bella, a mom of two, is fed up with the lack of support from her friends and family, blaming society's selfishness. But when her friend speaks up, she reveals that the 'village' Bella misses was built on the unpaid labor of women. As a childfree woman, she's glad to be free from those social obligations. Bella accuses her friend of being selfish and a bad feminist, but is it really so black and white? Let's dive into the top responses from the internet and see what they think! 🌐💬

Unpaid women's labor relied on for child-rearing. Friend not ready.

EtoileFragile | EtoileFragile

NTA commenter sympathizes with friend's lack of support network.

Shitsuri | Shitsuri

Parenting is not 'suffering', NTA for setting boundaries. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Parenting struggles: Is expecting help from others justified?

guppytub | guppytub

Not everyone had the 'village' support, NTA for feeling ungrateful 😊

similar_name4489 | similar_name4489

Childfree person defends themselves against unfair accusations. 🙏

KronkLaSworda | KronkLaSworda

Friend expects self-sacrifice without reciprocation. NTA.

Beginning_Ad_1371 | Beginning_Ad_1371

Historical context refutes friend's 'village' parenting justification. NTA.

SirDaeltanFernagdor | SirDaeltanFernagdor

Parenting rant sparks debate over 'village' expectations 🤔

AwarenessEconomy8842 | AwarenessEconomy8842

Parent rejects one-way street 'village' model. NTA.

Dora_Diver | Dora_Diver

User defends friend's lack of 'village' help, calls out parenting.

tiny_198855 | tiny_198855

Parent struggles with no support, but individualism over community sucks 😒

cryrabanks | cryrabanks

Friend complains about lack of 'village' but didn't help build one 🤔 NTA

Auntie-Mam69 | Auntie-Mam69

Suggest a fun day out to help her feel supported ❤️

Ok-Stretch7308 | Ok-Stretch7308

Grandparent explains parental responsibility, but willing to help in emergencies 🙏

No_Mathematician2482 | No_Mathematician2482

Misuse of African proverb sparks unnecessary argument. ESH 😑

Zealousideal-Law-513 | Zealousideal-Law-513

Being single has its own pros and cons. NTA.

napsrule321 | napsrule321

Mother's 'village' complaint met with NTA response and a valid question.

embopbopbopdoowop | embopbopbopdoowop

Single parent shares how to create a village for support 👥

ms_sinn | ms_sinn

Parenting restrictions or entitled friend? 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Debate on feminist perspectives: capitalist vs communist ideals 🤔

thomaeaquinatis | thomaeaquinatis

Projection and lack of compassion result in ESH judgement 😒

ExactTadpole5918 | ExactTadpole5918

Creating a village with other parents is better 🤝

BreadButterHoneyTea | BreadButterHoneyTea

Friend calls out commenter for lack of empathy and support 😒

chrysanthemumwilds | chrysanthemumwilds

Friend wants a 'village' to raise her kids? Commenter says NTA 👍

AbleRelationship6808 | AbleRelationship6808

The 'village' is for survival and mental health, not freebies. 🙏

etds3 | etds3

No obligation to provide free child care. NTA 👍

Live_Solid_1918 | Live_Solid_1918

Friend is entitled, but commenter acknowledges societal issues with individualism.

Specialist-Gur | Specialist-Gur

Retirement age increase affects 'village' support, NTA for friend.

Ok-Context1168 | Ok-Context1168

Parenting responsibility: NTA, but 'the village' is overrated 😒

Agostointhesun | Agostointhesun

Navigating the trenches of motherhood and friendship 🙏

Baldricks_Turnip | Baldricks_Turnip

Choosing not to have kids doesn't make you a free nanny 👭. NTA.

Evinshir | Evinshir

Debunking the myth of 'the Village' with a heartwarming example ❤️

Leighgion | Leighgion

Friend complains too much, but community support is important 🙏

mmhmmyesokay | mmhmmyesokay

Choosing to have kids doesn't entitle you to help. 🤷‍♀️ NTA.

HoshiJones | HoshiJones

ESH. Friend complains about lack of 'village' help, but misunderstands concept.

skweekykleen69 | skweekykleen69

Entitled friend complains about lack of 'village' help. ESH.

LowerEntertainer7548 | LowerEntertainer7548

User argues for the benefits of a 'village' community. 🌍

yiotaturtle | yiotaturtle

Misunderstanding 'the village': ESH sounds selfish in parenting expectations. 🤷‍♀️

MonitorBrilliant119 | MonitorBrilliant119

Friend regrets motherhood, child suffers. NTA for speaking up.

lookingForPatchie | lookingForPatchie

Harsh comment suggests parenting regret. 😱

Next_Craft5639 | Next_Craft5639

The downside of 'The Village': free help but constant meddling. 😕

Echo-Azure | Echo-Azure

Insensitive comment to struggling mom? YTA, according to replies.

aravah_and_allon | aravah_and_allon

Creating your own 'village' is key to getting help 🌍

ThxItsadisorder | ThxItsadisorder

Agreeing with the commenter's NTA stance on parenting expectations 👍

MissKrys2020 | MissKrys2020

Misunderstanding 'the village' concept 🤔

ryancm8 | ryancm8

Parenting choice reminder sparks debate on community support.

Plus_Data_1099 | Plus_Data_1099

Empathetic response to friend's struggle with motherhood and isolation.

WendroidCymru | WendroidCymru

Choosing to be child-free is selfless, not selfish. NTA.

abitofasitdown | abitofasitdown

Kindness begets kindness, and 'the village' exists in echoes and ripples. #NTA 🙌

part-time-whatever | part-time-whatever

No free childcare? No friendship. 🙅‍♀️

[deleted] | [deleted]

Defending the concept of 'the village' and its benefits. 🤝

jjrobinson73 | jjrobinson73

Nostalgia for the 'village' is misplaced, says commenter. 😐

No_Individual_672 | No_Individual_672

Friend expects too much from others to help with her kids. 😒

TheLastLibrarian1 | TheLastLibrarian1

US lacks services for new mothers, Denmark has better support 🤔

My_MeowMeowBeenz | My_MeowMeowBeenz

User calls out entitled friend for expecting 'village' help. 😱

Holdontomyfur1 | Holdontomyfur1

Not everyone has a supportive 'village' for raising kids 😔

Status_Ease_3100 | Status_Ease_3100

Building a village takes effort, but it's worth it 👍

Repattingwaswrong | Repattingwaswrong

Empathetic comment receives appreciation for childless woman's perspective 🙏

sausagerollsister | sausagerollsister

Childless people need support too, NTA points out. 👍

ScaryButterscotch474 | ScaryButterscotch474

Parents just want a break sometimes 🙏

storagerock | storagerock

Gender debate and unrealistic expectations lead to AH behavior.

FifthFormCooler | FifthFormCooler

NTA. Friend wants a 'village' but expects too much from others.

Swimming-Dot9120 | Swimming-Dot9120

Is individualism in America incompatible with feminism? #ESH 🤔

PartOfTheTree | PartOfTheTree

Parent laments loss of freedom, but not an a**hole. Fair.

Inner-Nothing7779 | Inner-Nothing7779

Friendly reminder: 'village' parenting is not a free nanny service 😂

Dank009 | Dank009

Friend expects free childcare from 'village', commenter calls out entitlement 👏

Novel_Fox | Novel_Fox

NTA. 'The village' never meant free childcare for lazy parents 🙄

mauvebirdie | mauvebirdie

Friend wants 'village' help but doesn't want to listen. NTA.

lonelyronin1 | lonelyronin1

Building a village requires mutual investment and support. #NTA

StrangeArcticles | StrangeArcticles

Blunt comment defends against friend's entitlement. NTA wins.

TwinGemini_1908 | TwinGemini_1908

Choosing to be a parent doesn't entitle you to help 🙅

Pentagramdreams | Pentagramdreams

Childfree commenter applauds OP for rejecting 'village' expectations. 💯

CurvePuzzleheaded361 | CurvePuzzleheaded361

Entitled parent-to-be bemoans lack of 'village' help 😲

SoulRebel726 | SoulRebel726

Friend pressured to do things for free, NTA for refusing. 👍

CosmosOZ | CosmosOZ

Mid-50s commenter sympathizes with NTA and slams entitled friend 😠

liveswithcats1 | liveswithcats1

Mom's 'village' expectations questioned by commenter. 🤔

mcderrick | mcderrick

Parenting is a choice, no one owes you a 'village' 🙅

BasketNo1006 | BasketNo1006

Parenting is hard in America due to capitalism and isolation. 😔

MaybeHughes | MaybeHughes

The 'village' mentality is a thing of the past. NTA.

lai4basis | lai4basis

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