Mom Refuses to Care for Ex's Love Child During His Surgery 😲

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Imagine finding out your spouse has fallen for someone else, and then being asked to play a role in their new family. That's the predicament one mom found herself in after her ex-husband had a child with another woman. Now, with her ex facing major surgery, she's been asked to take care of his daughter from the affair, but she's not having it. 💔 Let's dive into this emotional rollercoaster and see what happened.

Marriage Breakdown and a New Woman

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A Bold Declaration

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Unforgivable Actions

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Fast Forward: New Marriage and Pregnancy

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Refusing to Play Happy Family

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Mom Leaves and Tragedy Strikes

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Ex Wants Mom to Step In

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Drawing the Line

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Friendly but Not Familial

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Ex Faces Health Issues and Surgery

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A Desperate Request

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Standing Firm

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Involving the Kids

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A Week of Arguments

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The Little Girl's Reaction

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Additional Information

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A Tough Decision and a Broken Family

This mom is caught in a tough situation after her ex-husband asks her to care for his daughter from an affair while he undergoes surgery. Despite being friendly with the little girl, she refuses to take on a motherly role or become her guardian. With a history of heartbreak and betrayal, she stands firm in her decision, even when her ex tries to involve their kids. But when she sees the sadness in the little girl's eyes, she can't help but question if she's doing the right thing. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 💭

Defending against emotional manipulation and exposing a narcissist 😠

GloomyPluto | GloomyPluto

Ex's love child, ex-BFFs, and a world of hurt. NTA 👍

Inevitable_Lab_1595 | Inevitable_Lab_1595

Heartbreaking situation for the daughter, but OP is NTA 😢

Britsgirl30 | Britsgirl30

NTA. Ex wants too much from someone not obligated. Tough situation 😕

ATC_zero | ATC_zero

Ex made a mess, now expects you to clean it up for him. NTA 👍

Active-Pace6341 | Active-Pace6341

NTA. Ex-husband abandoned you and his daughter, not your responsibility. 👍

Accomplished-Cheek59 | Accomplished-Cheek59

Heartbreaking stories of excluded stepchildren, NTA for not helping.

Ok-Writer-774 | Ok-Writer-774

Commenter calls out ex's irresponsible behavior with witty phrase.

Ordinary_Challenge74 | Ordinary_Challenge74

NTA. OP is not obligated to care for ex's love child during surgery. 😲

ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple

No obligation to help. Friends can assist. NTA 👍

sherlocked27 | sherlocked27

Ex's love child during surgery: NTA, she knows his character 👍

RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie

Compassionate NTA for refusing to parent ex's love child. 😊

DogsReadingBooks | DogsReadingBooks

NTA. Commenter sympathizes with OP's situation and suggests placing the child in a loving home. A reply suggests talking to the child.

Unpopularopinionpod | Unpopularopinionpod

NTA. Ex is trying to guilt trip you into co-parenting 😑

Used_Mark_7911 | Used_Mark_7911

Ex's love child? Not your problem. NTA for refusing.

Gypsy-Nyx | Gypsy-Nyx

Ex's manipulative behavior exposed, NTA for refusing help.

teresajs | teresajs

Choosing not to care for ex's love child during surgery 💔

Jocelyn-1973 | Jocelyn-1973

No family to help? NTA shouldn't have to alter life. 😒

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Stand your ground! NTA for refusing such a huge request 💪

lejerc | lejerc

Commenter empathizes with the little girl and suggests the father hire a nanny and get therapy instead of manipulating his ex. 💔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Setting boundaries with ex's love child during surgery is understandable. 🙏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Commenter empathizes with OP and advises to be kind but not guilt-tripped by ex, while reply suggests temporary help with transition plan. 🙏

Flowethics | Flowethics

Ex-husband expects his ex-wife to care for his love child during his surgery. Commenter thinks he's TA and suggests he should find other options. Replies suggest he doesn't trust his friends to do a great job.

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Setting boundaries with ex's love child during his surgery. NTA 👍

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

Setting boundaries with ex's love child during his surgery. #NTA 👍

mrblabu | mrblabu

No obligation to ex's love child during surgery. NTA 👍

everythingistaken427 | everythingistaken427

Ex's love child is not OP's responsibility. NTA 👍

Turbulent-Army2631 | Turbulent-Army2631

Commenter sympathizes with child, but acknowledges OP's difficult position.

Flat_Worldliness3430 | Flat_Worldliness3430

Ex cheated and now needs help during surgery. NTA response.

Ok_Upstairs5713 | Ok_Upstairs5713

Commenter sympathizes with child but supports OP's decision. 😢

majorslax | majorslax

Ex cheated, now needs help. NTA for refusing to help.

sctt_dot | sctt_dot

Taking care of ex's love child during surgery? Don't do it! 😲

Average-Joe78 | Average-Joe78

RN supports NTA's decision, warns against guilt-tripping tactics. 😲

ajflipz | ajflipz

Setting boundaries to avoid confusion. NTA 😊

EndoHaze559 | EndoHaze559

NTA for not wanting to raise ex's love child permanently. 😔

maddiep81 | maddiep81

You're not the a**hole for refusing to care for love child 😊

nerdiesthomemaker82 | nerdiesthomemaker82

Ex is an AH and mom is NTA for not helping.

Tyberious_ | Tyberious_

Former foster parent advises not to take care of love child. Encourage CPS.

DetectiveResident391 | DetectiveResident391

Ex's love child, ex's problem. NTA 👍

swaldo283 | swaldo283

NTA. Medical social worker can help find temporary placement for child. 🏥

MorriganNiConn | MorriganNiConn

Compassionate comment and replies condemn ex's behavior. 👏

IndigoHG | IndigoHG

Don't be his emotional support system 🙌. NTA.

EmergencyShit | EmergencyShit

Fiery comment sparks no replies in controversial section 😳

sindyisdatchu | sindyisdatchu

NTA. She's not your responsibility. He made his bed 👍

StarNightLynx | StarNightLynx

Ex's love child surgery puts everyone in tough spot 😬

Angelgirl127 | Angelgirl127

Ex's love child needs surgery, but expecting his ex to care for her? NTA, he's the AH 🙅‍♀️

horror-fan81 | horror-fan81

Ex's love child and surgery? NTA, according to commenters. 👍

skullvulture | skullvulture

NTA for not caring for ex's love child during surgery 😲

kityderry- | kityderry-

Choosing not to help doesn't make you a bad person 👍

Damnbee | Damnbee

Ex needs to stop using you as his backup plan. NTA 👍

excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420

Heartbreaking situation for a love child, NTA for mom.

CreatrixAnima | CreatrixAnima

Commenter sympathizes with OP but votes NTA for standing ground.

Mr_Jacobsen | Mr_Jacobsen

NTA! Don't feel bad, he made his bed 🙌


NTA. Commenter suggests considering emotional impact on OP's children and potential options for child's care.

liveda4th | liveda4th

Commenter defends mom's decision not to care for love child 🤷‍♀️

Time-Equivalent5004 | Time-Equivalent5004

Commenter calls out ex's behavior, earns NTA judgment 👏

Human_Step | Human_Step

Ex cheated and brought affair partner around kids. Mom NTA.

Public-Ad-9827 | Public-Ad-9827

Ex's love child not her responsibility. Suggests resources for help. 👍

Help24-7 | Help24-7

No involvement from late gf's family in this situation 😐

cherry__12345 | cherry__12345

Not your child, not your obligation. Life isn't always fair. 😔

jammy913 | jammy913

NTA, but no family to help care for love child 😔

Yankee39pmr | Yankee39pmr

NTA refuses to care for ex's love child during surgery 😲

Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510

Choosing a new partner doesn't absolve them of responsibilities. NTA 👍

SpecialistAfter511 | SpecialistAfter511

Ex needs to take responsibility for his child during surgery 😲

Successful_Dot2813 | Successful_Dot2813

NTA. Ex's love child is not your responsibility. Move on.

slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad

Commenter supports OP's decision not to care for love child. NTA 👍

Netty1420 | Netty1420

Heartbreaking situation, but NTA for not caring for love child 😢

Every-Requirement-13 | Every-Requirement-13

NTA. Refusing to be legal guardian of ex's affair trophy 😱

Probably_0ffensive | Probably_0ffensive

Setting boundaries after cheating ex's love child request. 🙅

No-Mechanic-3048 | No-Mechanic-3048

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