Imagine finding out your spouse has fallen for someone else, and then being asked to play a role in their new family. That's the predicament one mom found herself in after her ex-husband had a child with another woman. Now, with her ex facing major surgery, she's been asked to take care of his daughter from the affair, but she's not having it. 💔 Let's dive into this emotional rollercoaster and see what happened.
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A Tough Decision and a Broken Family
This mom is caught in a tough situation after her ex-husband asks her to care for his daughter from an affair while he undergoes surgery. Despite being friendly with the little girl, she refuses to take on a motherly role or become her guardian. With a history of heartbreak and betrayal, she stands firm in her decision, even when her ex tries to involve their kids. But when she sees the sadness in the little girl's eyes, she can't help but question if she's doing the right thing. Let's see what the internet thinks of this situation... 💭
Defending against emotional manipulation and exposing a narcissist 😠
GloomyPluto | GloomyPluto
Ex's love child, ex-BFFs, and a world of hurt. NTA 👍
Inevitable_Lab_1595 | Inevitable_Lab_1595
Heartbreaking situation for the daughter, but OP is NTA 😢
Britsgirl30 | Britsgirl30
NTA. Ex wants too much from someone not obligated. Tough situation 😕
ATC_zero | ATC_zero
Ex made a mess, now expects you to clean it up for him. NTA 👍
Active-Pace6341 | Active-Pace6341
NTA. Ex-husband abandoned you and his daughter, not your responsibility. 👍
Accomplished-Cheek59 | Accomplished-Cheek59
Heartbreaking stories of excluded stepchildren, NTA for not helping.
Ok-Writer-774 | Ok-Writer-774
Commenter calls out ex's irresponsible behavior with witty phrase.
Ordinary_Challenge74 | Ordinary_Challenge74
NTA. OP is not obligated to care for ex's love child during surgery. 😲
ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple
No obligation to help. Friends can assist. NTA 👍
sherlocked27 | sherlocked27
Ex's love child during surgery: NTA, she knows his character 👍
RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie
Compassionate NTA for refusing to parent ex's love child. 😊
DogsReadingBooks | DogsReadingBooks
NTA. Commenter sympathizes with OP's situation and suggests placing the child in a loving home. A reply suggests talking to the child.
Unpopularopinionpod | Unpopularopinionpod
NTA. Ex is trying to guilt trip you into co-parenting 😑
Used_Mark_7911 | Used_Mark_7911
Ex's love child? Not your problem. NTA for refusing.
Gypsy-Nyx | Gypsy-Nyx
Ex's manipulative behavior exposed, NTA for refusing help.
teresajs | teresajs
Choosing not to care for ex's love child during surgery 💔
Jocelyn-1973 | Jocelyn-1973
No family to help? NTA shouldn't have to alter life. 😒
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Stand your ground! NTA for refusing such a huge request 💪
lejerc | lejerc
Commenter empathizes with the little girl and suggests the father hire a nanny and get therapy instead of manipulating his ex. 💔
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Setting boundaries with ex's love child during surgery is understandable. 🙏
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Commenter empathizes with OP and advises to be kind but not guilt-tripped by ex, while reply suggests temporary help with transition plan. 🙏
Flowethics | Flowethics
Ex-husband expects his ex-wife to care for his love child during his surgery. Commenter thinks he's TA and suggests he should find other options. Replies suggest he doesn't trust his friends to do a great job.
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Setting boundaries with ex's love child during his surgery. NTA 👍
HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366
Setting boundaries with ex's love child during his surgery. #NTA 👍
mrblabu | mrblabu
No obligation to ex's love child during surgery. NTA 👍
everythingistaken427 | everythingistaken427
Ex's love child is not OP's responsibility. NTA 👍
Turbulent-Army2631 | Turbulent-Army2631
Commenter sympathizes with child, but acknowledges OP's difficult position.
Flat_Worldliness3430 | Flat_Worldliness3430
Ex cheated and now needs help during surgery. NTA response.
Ok_Upstairs5713 | Ok_Upstairs5713
Commenter sympathizes with child but supports OP's decision. 😢
majorslax | majorslax
Ex cheated, now needs help. NTA for refusing to help.
sctt_dot | sctt_dot
Taking care of ex's love child during surgery? Don't do it! 😲
Average-Joe78 | Average-Joe78
RN supports NTA's decision, warns against guilt-tripping tactics. 😲
ajflipz | ajflipz
Setting boundaries to avoid confusion. NTA 😊
EndoHaze559 | EndoHaze559
NTA for not wanting to raise ex's love child permanently. 😔
maddiep81 | maddiep81
You're not the a**hole for refusing to care for love child 😊
nerdiesthomemaker82 | nerdiesthomemaker82
Ex is an AH and mom is NTA for not helping.
Tyberious_ | Tyberious_
Former foster parent advises not to take care of love child. Encourage CPS.
DetectiveResident391 | DetectiveResident391
Ex's love child, ex's problem. NTA 👍
swaldo283 | swaldo283
NTA. Medical social worker can help find temporary placement for child. 🏥
MorriganNiConn | MorriganNiConn
Compassionate comment and replies condemn ex's behavior. 👏
IndigoHG | IndigoHG
Don't be his emotional support system 🙌. NTA.
EmergencyShit | EmergencyShit
Fiery comment sparks no replies in controversial section 😳
sindyisdatchu | sindyisdatchu
NTA. She's not your responsibility. He made his bed 👍
StarNightLynx | StarNightLynx
Ex's love child surgery puts everyone in tough spot 😬
Angelgirl127 | Angelgirl127
Ex's love child needs surgery, but expecting his ex to care for her? NTA, he's the AH 🙅♀️
horror-fan81 | horror-fan81
Ex's love child and surgery? NTA, according to commenters. 👍
skullvulture | skullvulture
NTA for not caring for ex's love child during surgery 😲
kityderry- | kityderry-
Choosing not to help doesn't make you a bad person 👍
Damnbee | Damnbee
Ex needs to stop using you as his backup plan. NTA 👍
excel_pager_420 | excel_pager_420
Heartbreaking situation for a love child, NTA for mom.
CreatrixAnima | CreatrixAnima
Commenter sympathizes with OP but votes NTA for standing ground.
Mr_Jacobsen | Mr_Jacobsen
NTA! Don't feel bad, he made his bed 🙌
CORNisLOVELY | CORNisLOVELY
NTA. Commenter suggests considering emotional impact on OP's children and potential options for child's care.
liveda4th | liveda4th
Commenter defends mom's decision not to care for love child 🤷♀️
Time-Equivalent5004 | Time-Equivalent5004
Commenter calls out ex's behavior, earns NTA judgment 👏
Human_Step | Human_Step
Ex cheated and brought affair partner around kids. Mom NTA.
Public-Ad-9827 | Public-Ad-9827
Ex's love child not her responsibility. Suggests resources for help. 👍
Help24-7 | Help24-7
No involvement from late gf's family in this situation 😐
cherry__12345 | cherry__12345
Not your child, not your obligation. Life isn't always fair. 😔
jammy913 | jammy913
NTA, but no family to help care for love child 😔
Yankee39pmr | Yankee39pmr
NTA refuses to care for ex's love child during surgery 😲
Ok-Abbreviations4510 | Ok-Abbreviations4510
Choosing a new partner doesn't absolve them of responsibilities. NTA 👍
SpecialistAfter511 | SpecialistAfter511
Ex needs to take responsibility for his child during surgery 😲
Successful_Dot2813 | Successful_Dot2813
NTA. Ex's love child is not your responsibility. Move on.
slendermanismydad | slendermanismydad
Commenter supports OP's decision not to care for love child. NTA 👍
Netty1420 | Netty1420
Heartbreaking situation, but NTA for not caring for love child 😢
Every-Requirement-13 | Every-Requirement-13
NTA. Refusing to be legal guardian of ex's affair trophy 😱
Probably_0ffensive | Probably_0ffensive
Setting boundaries after cheating ex's love child request. 🙅
No-Mechanic-3048 | No-Mechanic-3048
