Imagine having a strained relationship with your in-laws for decades, only for them to demand to move in with you after your kids leave for college. That's exactly the predicament this couple found themselves in! After years of being treated like an outsider by her husband's family, this wife and her husband decided to downsize their home and enjoy their retirement together. But their mother-in-law had other plans - she expected them to take care of her and her husband in their old age. 🤯🏠
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The Long-Standing Feud 😒
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Going No Contact 🚫
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Downsizing Dreams 🏠
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MIL's Unexpected Plan 😲
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Cultural Expectations 🌏
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Financially Stable In-Laws 💰
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A Burden on the Couple 😓
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Standing Their Ground 💪
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MIL's Campaign 📞
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Kids Agree with Parents ✅
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Family's Accusations 🗣️
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The Big Question ❓
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Update: Final Decision 📢
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Alternative Solution 🏥
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Racial Tensions 🌍
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Couple Stands Firm: No Room for In-Laws! 🚫
After discussing the situation, the couple decided to stand their ground and told their in-laws that they cannot move in with them. They believe that it's their time to enjoy their retirement together without the burden of caring for their financially stable and healthy in-laws. The couple's children support their decision, but other family members have accused them of being selfish. The husband plans to tell his parents that their treatment of his wife is the reason they're not welcome to live with them, and will suggest finding an assisted living facility if they need care. 😤💔
In-laws want to move in despite actively excluding OP. NTA.
SonuvaGunderson | SonuvaGunderson
NTA. In-laws treated them poorly for 20+ years. Stick to guns 💪
Capable-Confusion-55 | Capable-Confusion-55
In-laws denied move-in request, commenter calls out hypocrisy. 😏
Aunty-Sociale | Aunty-Sociale
NTA. Commenter supports OP's decision and explains why MIL's request is unreasonable.
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NTA comment and replies: Standing up to toxic in-laws 💪
RACHELwithanEL | RACHELwithanEL
MIL wants to move in but never accepted DIL. 🤷♀️
firefly232 | firefly232
NTA. MIL has not accepted you as family for 20+ years. 😍
purpleglitterkitty | purpleglitterkitty
NTA comment sparks patriotic metaphor, receives praise from reply.
subm3rge | subm3rge
NTA stands up to rude in-laws, refuses to be used. 👏
Substantial-Noise-87 | Substantial-Noise-87
Culture clash causes in-law housing drama. NTA stands firm. 😊
KmartDino3 | KmartDino3
NTA for refusing in-laws to move in. Protect your marriage 😍
legends_of_nisty | legends_of_nisty
Couple justifies not letting in-laws move in due to past behavior 😍
teresajs | teresajs
NTA. Taking care of parents doesn't mean toxic in-laws moving in 😂
Seelvor | Seelvor
Commenter suggests cultural background may be a factor. NTA.
anight0wl | anight0wl
Commenter supports couple's decision with a warning 🚨
christina0001 | christina0001
NTA. The in-laws can take care of themselves 😊
Consistent-Leopard71 | Consistent-Leopard71
Suggests nursing home for in-laws, offers alternative care options. 😊
XxQueenOfSwordsXx | XxQueenOfSwordsXx
Stand your ground and sell the house, you owe them nothing 👊
imvotinghere | imvotinghere
👍 Stand your ground! NTA.
DystopianEye | DystopianEye
MIL dislikes OP and wants to move in? NTA, boundaries needed 😎
darthfruitbasket | darthfruitbasket
Compassionate suggestion for MIL's care. NTA wins hearts 💖
Walktothebrook | Walktothebrook
Legal obligation ≠ forced cohabitation. MIL was arrogant. NTA 👍
johnnyrockett0 | johnnyrockett0
No obligation to care for in-laws who excluded you. NTA 👏
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Culture is not an excuse for lack of communication. NTA 👍
gw2kpro | gw2kpro
Stand firm and say no to nightmare in-laws. NTA 👍
cmarie2949 | cmarie2949
MIL gets what she deserves, NTA wins! 👏
Huldukona | Huldukona
Cultural differences in elder care: NTA for refusing in-laws.
TharHolyGamer | TharHolyGamer
Don't let in-laws move in, NTA. DH needs to handle.
Remarkable_Sea_1062 | Remarkable_Sea_1062
In-laws expect hospitality after treating couple poorly. NTA. 👍
Ksage777 | Ksage777
User suggests humorous revenge plan against in-laws, supports OP's decision.
MissMurderpants | MissMurderpants
Choosing happiness over in-laws: NTA comment wins 🙌
Mysterious_Weird987 | Mysterious_Weird987
Independence is key! NTA for not letting in-laws move in 🙌
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NTA stands up to critics of not letting in-laws move in 👏
lucie1986 | lucie1986
Culture clash: MIL expects to move in, but it's their house 🌚
blepImNotARobot | blepImNotARobot
NTA, no obligation to care for abusive in-laws. Move out 👍
Kettlewise | Kettlewise
Block them and don't look back 👍
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Commenter firmly supports couple's decision to not let in-laws move in. 💪
reeseinpeaces | reeseinpeaces
Commenter says NTA, they made their bed and lie elsewhere
WirelessThingy | WirelessThingy
NTA - No in-laws, no problems 😎
t27lyne | t27lyne
NTA. In-laws can't expect maid service after 25 years of shunning. 😊
Brigantias | Brigantias
NTA and cut off toxic family members. 👍
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User supports in-laws moving in with family but not strangers. NTA.
Laramila | Laramila
NTA suggests a clever way to shut down entitled in-laws 😎
dannyisagirl | dannyisagirl
In-laws not liked, NTA for refusing to let them move in 😊
madginny6666 | madginny6666
Family members calling them selfish, but they're not the a**holes. 😊
NanoRaptoro | NanoRaptoro
United front against entitled in-laws. NTA 💯
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NTA. Sell the house and downsize. Tradition isn't necessary. 😊
No_Proposal7628 | No_Proposal7628
Family drama: Commenter refuses to let in-laws move in. 😒
sirmeliodasdragonsin | sirmeliodasdragonsin
Setting boundaries with family is important 👍
dmbxox | dmbxox
NTA. MIL moving in means a living hell. Enjoy your life! 😎
andyjh64 | andyjh64
Taking care of elders doesn't mean letting them move in. NTA 👍
ordinaryhorse | ordinaryhorse
Taking care of toxic in-laws? No thanks! NTA 👍
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In-laws' secret retirement plan causes family tension. NTA response.
50MilesOfElbowRoom | 50MilesOfElbowRoom
When it comes to cultural differences, humor is universal 😂
kelseysays26 | kelseysays26
Enjoy your life after raising kids, NTA 👏
PasDeTout | PasDeTout
Short and to the point. 🙄
Octerboss | Octerboss
Respectful boundaries are important. NTA 👍
Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes
NTA for refusing to let in-laws move in. 😍
Thia-M | Thia-M
Outdated tradition? NTA stands up to in-laws' expectations. 🙌
revmat | revmat
NTA comment praises OP for standing up to toxic in-laws.
Skippy2716 | Skippy2716
NTA. In-laws can't shun you for 20 years then move in. 🙌
SmoochNo | SmoochNo
NTA. In-laws should respect boundaries. 🙅♂️
Blue_icecream88 | Blue_icecream88
NTA. Taking in abusive in-laws would make you an a**hole. 😲
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In-laws are never welcome. NTA. 😊
loudent2 | loudent2
Culture clash: NTA refuses to care for in-laws. 😑
eatthebunnytoo | eatthebunnytoo
Protect your sanctuary. NTA. Toxic in-laws never end well. 🙏
stuckinnowhereville | stuckinnowhereville
NTA. Congrats on breaking tradition and avoiding family drama. 🎉
friendlily | friendlily
Don't let toxic in-laws ruin your life. NTA 👏
UisgeRuithe | UisgeRuithe
