Couple Refuses to Let In-Laws Move In: Selfish or Justified? 😲

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Imagine having a strained relationship with your in-laws for decades, only for them to demand to move in with you after your kids leave for college. That's exactly the predicament this couple found themselves in! After years of being treated like an outsider by her husband's family, this wife and her husband decided to downsize their home and enjoy their retirement together. But their mother-in-law had other plans - she expected them to take care of her and her husband in their old age. 🤯🏠

The Long-Standing Feud 😒

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Going No Contact 🚫

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Downsizing Dreams 🏠

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MIL's Unexpected Plan 😲

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Cultural Expectations 🌏

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Financially Stable In-Laws 💰

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A Burden on the Couple 😓

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Standing Their Ground 💪

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MIL's Campaign 📞

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Kids Agree with Parents ✅

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Family's Accusations 🗣️

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The Big Question ❓

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Update: Final Decision 📢

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Alternative Solution 🏥

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Racial Tensions 🌍

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Couple Stands Firm: No Room for In-Laws! 🚫

After discussing the situation, the couple decided to stand their ground and told their in-laws that they cannot move in with them. They believe that it's their time to enjoy their retirement together without the burden of caring for their financially stable and healthy in-laws. The couple's children support their decision, but other family members have accused them of being selfish. The husband plans to tell his parents that their treatment of his wife is the reason they're not welcome to live with them, and will suggest finding an assisted living facility if they need care. 😤💔

In-laws want to move in despite actively excluding OP. NTA.

SonuvaGunderson | SonuvaGunderson

NTA. In-laws treated them poorly for 20+ years. Stick to guns 💪

Capable-Confusion-55 | Capable-Confusion-55

In-laws denied move-in request, commenter calls out hypocrisy. 😏

Aunty-Sociale | Aunty-Sociale

NTA. Commenter supports OP's decision and explains why MIL's request is unreasonable.

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NTA comment and replies: Standing up to toxic in-laws 💪


MIL wants to move in but never accepted DIL. 🤷‍♀️

firefly232 | firefly232

NTA. MIL has not accepted you as family for 20+ years. 😍

purpleglitterkitty | purpleglitterkitty

NTA comment sparks patriotic metaphor, receives praise from reply.

subm3rge | subm3rge

NTA stands up to rude in-laws, refuses to be used. 👏

Substantial-Noise-87 | Substantial-Noise-87

Culture clash causes in-law housing drama. NTA stands firm. 😊

KmartDino3 | KmartDino3

NTA for refusing in-laws to move in. Protect your marriage 😍

legends_of_nisty | legends_of_nisty

Couple justifies not letting in-laws move in due to past behavior 😍

teresajs | teresajs

NTA. Taking care of parents doesn't mean toxic in-laws moving in 😂

Seelvor | Seelvor

Commenter suggests cultural background may be a factor. NTA.

anight0wl | anight0wl

Commenter supports couple's decision with a warning 🚨

christina0001 | christina0001

NTA. The in-laws can take care of themselves 😊

Consistent-Leopard71 | Consistent-Leopard71

Suggests nursing home for in-laws, offers alternative care options. 😊

XxQueenOfSwordsXx | XxQueenOfSwordsXx

Stand your ground and sell the house, you owe them nothing 👊

imvotinghere | imvotinghere

👍 Stand your ground! NTA.

DystopianEye | DystopianEye

MIL dislikes OP and wants to move in? NTA, boundaries needed 😎

darthfruitbasket | darthfruitbasket

Compassionate suggestion for MIL's care. NTA wins hearts 💖

Walktothebrook | Walktothebrook

Legal obligation ≠ forced cohabitation. MIL was arrogant. NTA 👍

johnnyrockett0 | johnnyrockett0

No obligation to care for in-laws who excluded you. NTA 👏

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Culture is not an excuse for lack of communication. NTA 👍

gw2kpro | gw2kpro

Stand firm and say no to nightmare in-laws. NTA 👍

cmarie2949 | cmarie2949

MIL gets what she deserves, NTA wins! 👏

Huldukona | Huldukona

Cultural differences in elder care: NTA for refusing in-laws.

TharHolyGamer | TharHolyGamer

Don't let in-laws move in, NTA. DH needs to handle.

Remarkable_Sea_1062 | Remarkable_Sea_1062

In-laws expect hospitality after treating couple poorly. NTA. 👍

Ksage777 | Ksage777

User suggests humorous revenge plan against in-laws, supports OP's decision.

MissMurderpants | MissMurderpants

Choosing happiness over in-laws: NTA comment wins 🙌

Mysterious_Weird987 | Mysterious_Weird987

Independence is key! NTA for not letting in-laws move in 🙌

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NTA stands up to critics of not letting in-laws move in 👏

lucie1986 | lucie1986

Culture clash: MIL expects to move in, but it's their house 🌚

blepImNotARobot | blepImNotARobot

NTA, no obligation to care for abusive in-laws. Move out 👍

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

Block them and don't look back 👍

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Commenter firmly supports couple's decision to not let in-laws move in. 💪

reeseinpeaces | reeseinpeaces

Commenter says NTA, they made their bed and lie elsewhere

WirelessThingy | WirelessThingy

NTA - No in-laws, no problems 😎

t27lyne | t27lyne

NTA. In-laws can't expect maid service after 25 years of shunning. 😊

Brigantias | Brigantias

NTA and cut off toxic family members. 👍

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User supports in-laws moving in with family but not strangers. NTA.

Laramila | Laramila

NTA suggests a clever way to shut down entitled in-laws 😎

dannyisagirl | dannyisagirl

In-laws not liked, NTA for refusing to let them move in 😊

madginny6666 | madginny6666

Family members calling them selfish, but they're not the a**holes. 😊

NanoRaptoro | NanoRaptoro

United front against entitled in-laws. NTA 💯

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NTA. Sell the house and downsize. Tradition isn't necessary. 😊

No_Proposal7628 | No_Proposal7628

Family drama: Commenter refuses to let in-laws move in. 😒

sirmeliodasdragonsin | sirmeliodasdragonsin

Setting boundaries with family is important 👍

dmbxox | dmbxox

NTA. MIL moving in means a living hell. Enjoy your life! 😎

andyjh64 | andyjh64

Taking care of elders doesn't mean letting them move in. NTA 👍

ordinaryhorse | ordinaryhorse

Taking care of toxic in-laws? No thanks! NTA 👍

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In-laws' secret retirement plan causes family tension. NTA response.

50MilesOfElbowRoom | 50MilesOfElbowRoom

When it comes to cultural differences, humor is universal 😂

kelseysays26 | kelseysays26

Enjoy your life after raising kids, NTA 👏

PasDeTout | PasDeTout

Short and to the point. 🙄

Octerboss | Octerboss

Respectful boundaries are important. NTA 👍

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

NTA for refusing to let in-laws move in. 😍

Thia-M | Thia-M

Outdated tradition? NTA stands up to in-laws' expectations. 🙌

revmat | revmat

NTA comment praises OP for standing up to toxic in-laws.

Skippy2716 | Skippy2716

NTA. In-laws can't shun you for 20 years then move in. 🙌

SmoochNo | SmoochNo

NTA. In-laws should respect boundaries. 🙅‍♂️

Blue_icecream88 | Blue_icecream88

NTA. Taking in abusive in-laws would make you an a**hole. 😲

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In-laws are never welcome. NTA. 😊

loudent2 | loudent2

Culture clash: NTA refuses to care for in-laws. 😑

eatthebunnytoo | eatthebunnytoo

Protect your sanctuary. NTA. Toxic in-laws never end well. 🙏

stuckinnowhereville | stuckinnowhereville

NTA. Congrats on breaking tradition and avoiding family drama. 🎉

friendlily | friendlily

Don't let toxic in-laws ruin your life. NTA 👏

UisgeRuithe | UisgeRuithe

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