Husband furious after wife's parents secretly baptize their son

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A couple left their 2-year-old son with the wife's parents for a weekend getaway. The father was raised Lutheran and the mother was raised Catholic but neither practice religion. The mother's mother, however, insisted on baptizing the child in secret at her church. The father was outraged when he found out and forbids the in-laws from ever watching their son unsupervised again. The mother is upset and thinks the father is overreacting. The couple is at a stalemate and the father is willing to go to counseling if necessary. Do you think the father is justified in his decision or is he being too harsh? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

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A long weekend getaway turned into a nightmare for a couple after the wife's parents secretly baptized their grandson without their consent. The husband, who was raised Lutheran, and his wife, who was raised Catholic, but neither currently go to church, had not baptized their son. The mother-in-law, who thinks their grandson needs to be baptized, went ahead and did it without their consent. The husband was furious and felt it was a huge breach of trust. He told his wife that her parents would no longer be allowed to watch their son unsupervised. The wife disagreed and accused him of being an a**hole for trying to control her relationship with her parents. They have been at an impasse for a month now, and the husband is not budging. He sees it as a hill he's willing to die on. What do you think about this situation? Have you ever experienced a similar breach of trust? Share your thoughts and reactions in the comments below.

NTA parent discovers secret baptism, seeks bishop complaint & support.

Critical_Aspect | Critical_Aspect

Unilateral religious decisions by grandparents breach trust. Counseling suggested. 🚫⛪

Query8897 | Query8897

Hold that boundary firm. NTA. Report the priest/parish for unauthorized baptism. 👏

naranghim | naranghim

NTA for being upset about secret baptism but consider counseling.

BroadElderberry | BroadElderberry

Is it worth destroying your marriage over a secret baptism?

superfastmomma | superfastmomma

Debate over whether father is overreacting to secret baptism.

ShadowsObserver | ShadowsObserver

Navigating in-laws can be tricky, but it's still a team effort 🤝

thatonepersoniam | thatonepersoniam

OP should have discussed with wife, not dictated terms. 🤝

Cent1234 | Cent1234

Not the a**hole for being upset after son's secret baptism 💦

MsBaseball34 | MsBaseball34

Teaching religion to young children is insidious 🙅‍♀️

White_RavenZ | White_RavenZ

Commenters call out OP's controlling behavior while acknowledging MIL is also in the wrong for violating their wishes.

ta_probably_mostly | ta_probably_mostly

Breach of trust by MIL, but banning in-laws may hurt marriage. ESH.

theseattlegirl | theseattlegirl

Redditors recall similar post, deja vu on this thread 🤔

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Debating the authenticity of a strange baptism story 🤔

LostZer0 | LostZer0

Commenter empathizes with husband, advises calm conversation for resolution 🤝

SuspiciousTurtle | SuspiciousTurtle

Man's anger over infant's secret baptism sparks debate.

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Stand your ground, seek counseling, and protect your family ❤️

Sm_Banks | Sm_Banks

MIL's actions were wrong, but threatening marriage counseling is extreme. ESH.

Madm4nmaX | Madm4nmaX

Setting boundaries with grandparents about religion 🙏

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Debate over infant baptism leads to religious autonomy dispute. 🤔

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Couple might need counseling after in-laws secretly baptize son 😬

KA1017inTN | KA1017inTN

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thepillowparliament | thepillowparliament

Unconventional solution proposed for secret baptism debacle 🤔👹

cthulu05 | cthulu05

Counseling can help you understand each other better 💑

lamamaloca | lamamaloca

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isitkino | isitkino

Cutting off parents for baptism? The Satanic Temple has you covered 🔥

MaybeNotYourDad | MaybeNotYourDad

Supportive comment calling out manipulative mother-in-law behavior 👍

Trin_42 | Trin_42

Deja vu? Redditors notice similar post from yesterday's frenzy 🤔

davidbatt | davidbatt

Atheist NTA dad vs ex-Catholic uncovering fraudulent priest baptism 🙏

Scheme-Disastrous | Scheme-Disastrous

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stateofgrace17 | stateofgrace17

Different perspectives on secret baptism, no resolution in sight 🤷‍♂️

god-is-the-evil-one | god-is-the-evil-one

Baptism creates family feud; ESH, but what's the solution? 🔥

salzmann01 | salzmann01

Couple needs counseling after baptism dispute with in-laws 💒

zebrafish- | zebrafish-

Commenter calls out OP for lying with receipts 🤥

Fatlantis | Fatlantis

Taking matters into your own hands. 🙅‍♀️

itookthemobi | itookthemobi

Trust issues in marriage after secret baptism? NTA.

bibliophile14 | bibliophile14

NTA. Boundaries crossed. 🙅‍♂️

stallion8426 | stallion8426

Baptism isn't a big deal, embrace loving grandparents ❤️

alohakamara | alohakamara

Don't let MIL's actions ruin your relationship. Choose your battles 😊

FreddieTheDoggie | FreddieTheDoggie

Navigating religious pressure on parenting decisions is stressful 😔

MagicCoffeeBeanSpaz | MagicCoffeeBeanSpaz

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