When family obligations conflict with personal plans, it can be tough to choose. One mom shared her story of having to decide between taking her daughter to see her ex's family, as per their agreement, or going on her sister's bachelorette trip. When her sister offered to make the trip kid-friendly, she decided to bring her daughter along. But her ex was less than understanding when he found out and accused her of breaking their agreement. Now, tensions are high and the mom is wondering if she made the wrong decision. What do you think?
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When it comes to co-parenting, agreements are crucial to maintain a healthy relationship with your ex. However, what happens when your sister's bachelorette party falls on the same week as your daughter's visitation with your ex's family? This is the dilemma that one mom faced, and her decision has caused a rift in her co-parenting relationship. Despite getting permission from her ex to take their daughter on the trip, he was furious when he found out that she didn't take their daughter to see his family. The mom feels like she was in a no-win situation, and now her ex is using this incident to justify breaking their co-parenting agreement. What do you think about this situation? Was the mom in the wrong for choosing her sister's bachelorette party over her daughter's visitation with her ex's family, or was she justified in wanting to include her daughter in a family-friendly trip? Share your thoughts and reactions below.
Father should take daughter to visit his family during visitation.
TCTX73 | TCTX73
Co-parents should aim for clear communication to avoid drama. ESH.
PARA9535307 | PARA9535307
Curiosity about family agreement and possible manipulation 🤔
unotruejen | unotruejen
Commenters question why OP is solely responsible for visitation schedule.
Calm_Initial | Calm_Initial
Misunderstanding cleared! Dad called on the arranged meeting date.
BountyMounty | BountyMounty
Choosing sister's bachelorette over daughter's family visit. ESH.
PetrogradSwe | PetrogradSwe
Commenter advises sending follow-up email to cover all bases 😎
Ok-Mode-2038 | Ok-Mode-2038
Commenter calls out lack of communication and blames OP. YTA.
salmonberrycreek | salmonberrycreek
Miscommunication leads to canceled family trip, ESH for not offering alternative 🤔
Acceptable-Read-5428 | Acceptable-Read-5428
Protecting yourself is key - NTA for doing so 🤝
Street-Wing | Street-Wing
Engaging discussion on family dynamics and responsibilities 🤔
johnjonahjameson13 | johnjonahjameson13
Miscommunication leads to YTA verdict in family visit scheduling dispute.
dart1126 | dart1126
Communication is key! 😅 ESH need to work on that.
YourMothersButtox | YourMothersButtox
Poor communication and scheduling leads to a**hole behavior from both parties.
Mother_Tradition_774 | Mother_Tradition_774
Curious about the validity of the missed visit 🤔
One-Stranger | One-Stranger
Miscommunication leads to daughter missing out on seeing father's family
ellerknick | ellerknick
Negligence on both sides + lack of written agreement 🤝
DeepFudge9235 | DeepFudge9235
Father forgets yearly trip, blames ex for not taking daughter. 🙄
disappointedvet | disappointedvet
Clever solution suggested, but is revenge really the answer? 🤔
TracyMinOB | TracyMinOB
Curious about the context behind the father's family visit
beatupcar | beatupcar
Father revokes permission for daughter's trip, causing conflict.
Capable_Ad7619 | Capable_Ad7619
Father may have grounds to file contempt order over missed visit
Major_Barnacle_2212 | Major_Barnacle_2212
Verbal agreements aren't enough, written permission is key. NTA 👍
Few-Sheepherder-6383 | Few-Sheepherder-6383
Communication is key. Get things in writing to avoid conflicts 😕
SeigePhoenix | SeigePhoenix
Miscommunication about custody leads to missed family time. 🤦♀️
runedued | runedued
Miscommunication leads to family drama. 🤦♀️
HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366
Getting permission in writing can save you trouble later ✏
gorgeouswvr | gorgeouswvr
Protect yourself: always have written proof of communication.
Gur_Weak | Gur_Weak
Father's family comes second to sister's bachelorette? NTA says comment.
Certain-Car-6474 | Certain-Car-6474
Divorce with kids sucks even worse. Get everything in writing.
plainfully_oblivious | plainfully_oblivious
Always get consent in writing, NTA for taking daughter.
veni_vidi_dixi | veni_vidi_dixi
Miscommunication leads to disappointment for ex-in-laws and daughter. 😔
CasperGGGD | CasperGGGD
Responsibility of father to communicate with family, NTA for choosing sister
little_odd_me | little_odd_me
Recording agreements could save future family disputes ⚖️
AmsterdamJimmy420 | AmsterdamJimmy420
Communication breakdown leads to custody conflict. ESH 💬🤝
miasabine | miasabine
Commenter defends mother's decision, calls out father's lack of attention. 😒
molotovmerkin | molotovmerkin
Miscommunication leads to custody agreement breach. YTA with explanations.
BenjiCat17 | BenjiCat17
When legal and personal matters collide 🔍
cinnamngrl | cinnamngrl
Daughter's visitation with dad's family causes conflict. ESH.
rayneonthebeach | rayneonthebeach
Balancing family visits can be tough 😕
No-Investment-2121 | No-Investment-2121
Divided responsibility, petty omission and a missed opportunity for compromise.
grw313 | grw313
Scheduling conflict? Rescheduling the trip may be a better option 😕
flabbergasted-528 | flabbergasted-528
Father's agreement excuses mother's absence, NTA 👍
PK_737 | PK_737
User suggests an alternative in family visit debate 🤔
PastaM0nster | PastaM0nster
Clearer communication could have prevented this NTA judgement.
jrm1102 | jrm1102
Quick clarification: it was just a phone call 📞
soccerswimmerss | soccerswimmerss
Did OP have permission to visit father's family? 🤔
Beginning_Fennel5010 | Beginning_Fennel5010
Curious about the custody agreement and communication between parents.
spottysasquatch | spottysasquatch
Putting family first, daughter still had a brilliant time! ❤️
SoupSatireSleep | SoupSatireSleep
Prior engagements, not your fault. NTA 👍
evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee | evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Should she visit father's family? NTA or YTA?
No-Elderberry2072 | No-Elderberry2072
Communication is key! YTA for not discussing plans beforehand 😕
winesis | winesis
Let him take responsibility for his family's visit. NTA 👍
hope1083 | hope1083
Don't let a deadbeat ruin your family time 🚫⏰
distant-starlight | distant-starlight
A complex situation with ESH, record conversations to avoid issues 👍
GinnieWitch | GinnieWitch
Father not the a**hole for missing Paris trip.
TheQuietType84 | TheQuietType84
Divided opinions on the responsibility of handling paternal family arrangements.
HunterIllustrious846 | HunterIllustrious846
Father should take responsibility for daughter's family visits. #NTA
charlybell | charlybell
When communication fails, no one's the a**hole 👍
RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie
Avoid miscommunication, put it in writing 📝
TieRepresentative506 | TieRepresentative506
Choosing bachelorette over father's family? ESH. Daughter's neglected. 😒
Distorted_Penguin | Distorted_Penguin
Miscommunication leads to family feud. ESH for not clarifying availability.
Working_Raccoon417 | Working_Raccoon417
Engaging suggestion to handle family visit conflict. 🙌
Old-Bee-4773 | Old-Bee-4773
Father shirks responsibility, commenter not the a**hole 👍
clay-teeth | clay-teeth
Curious about dad's family? User wonders if rescheduling possible.
Apprehensive-Jelly42 | Apprehensive-Jelly42
Age of daughter confirmed for context 👶
Strong-Bottle-4161 | Strong-Bottle-4161
You're not the a**hole for not catering to his family.
DontStopMe_ | DontStopMe_
Commenter suggests OP is the a**hole for not being honest with husband about trip plans.
IGotBunsForDays | IGotBunsForDays
Uninvited to family gathering? YTA for ghosting family without notice 🙄
thiswillsoonendbadly | thiswillsoonendbadly
