Mom chooses sister's bachelorette over taking daughter to see father's family

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When family obligations conflict with personal plans, it can be tough to choose. One mom shared her story of having to decide between taking her daughter to see her ex's family, as per their agreement, or going on her sister's bachelorette trip. When her sister offered to make the trip kid-friendly, she decided to bring her daughter along. But her ex was less than understanding when he found out and accused her of breaking their agreement. Now, tensions are high and the mom is wondering if she made the wrong decision. What do you think?

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When it comes to co-parenting, agreements are crucial to maintain a healthy relationship with your ex. However, what happens when your sister's bachelorette party falls on the same week as your daughter's visitation with your ex's family? This is the dilemma that one mom faced, and her decision has caused a rift in her co-parenting relationship. Despite getting permission from her ex to take their daughter on the trip, he was furious when he found out that she didn't take their daughter to see his family. The mom feels like she was in a no-win situation, and now her ex is using this incident to justify breaking their co-parenting agreement. What do you think about this situation? Was the mom in the wrong for choosing her sister's bachelorette party over her daughter's visitation with her ex's family, or was she justified in wanting to include her daughter in a family-friendly trip? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

Father should take daughter to visit his family during visitation.


Co-parents should aim for clear communication to avoid drama. ESH.

PARA9535307 | PARA9535307

Curiosity about family agreement and possible manipulation 🤔

unotruejen | unotruejen

Commenters question why OP is solely responsible for visitation schedule.

Calm_Initial | Calm_Initial

Misunderstanding cleared! Dad called on the arranged meeting date.

BountyMounty | BountyMounty

Choosing sister's bachelorette over daughter's family visit. ESH.

PetrogradSwe | PetrogradSwe

Commenter advises sending follow-up email to cover all bases 😎

Ok-Mode-2038 | Ok-Mode-2038

Commenter calls out lack of communication and blames OP. YTA.

salmonberrycreek | salmonberrycreek

Miscommunication leads to canceled family trip, ESH for not offering alternative 🤔

Acceptable-Read-5428 | Acceptable-Read-5428

Protecting yourself is key - NTA for doing so 🤝

Street-Wing | Street-Wing

Engaging discussion on family dynamics and responsibilities 🤔

johnjonahjameson13 | johnjonahjameson13

Miscommunication leads to YTA verdict in family visit scheduling dispute.

dart1126 | dart1126

Communication is key! 😅 ESH need to work on that.

YourMothersButtox | YourMothersButtox

Poor communication and scheduling leads to a**hole behavior from both parties.

Mother_Tradition_774 | Mother_Tradition_774

Curious about the validity of the missed visit 🤔

One-Stranger | One-Stranger

Miscommunication leads to daughter missing out on seeing father's family

ellerknick | ellerknick

Negligence on both sides + lack of written agreement 🤝

DeepFudge9235 | DeepFudge9235

Father forgets yearly trip, blames ex for not taking daughter. 🙄

disappointedvet | disappointedvet

Clever solution suggested, but is revenge really the answer? 🤔

TracyMinOB | TracyMinOB

Curious about the context behind the father's family visit

beatupcar | beatupcar

Father revokes permission for daughter's trip, causing conflict.

Capable_Ad7619 | Capable_Ad7619

Father may have grounds to file contempt order over missed visit

Major_Barnacle_2212 | Major_Barnacle_2212

Verbal agreements aren't enough, written permission is key. NTA 👍

Few-Sheepherder-6383 | Few-Sheepherder-6383

Communication is key. Get things in writing to avoid conflicts 😕

SeigePhoenix | SeigePhoenix

Miscommunication about custody leads to missed family time. 🤦‍♀️

runedued | runedued

Miscommunication leads to family drama. 🤦‍♀️

HunterDangerous1366 | HunterDangerous1366

Getting permission in writing can save you trouble later ✏

gorgeouswvr | gorgeouswvr

Protect yourself: always have written proof of communication.

Gur_Weak | Gur_Weak

Father's family comes second to sister's bachelorette? NTA says comment.

Certain-Car-6474 | Certain-Car-6474

Divorce with kids sucks even worse. Get everything in writing.

plainfully_oblivious | plainfully_oblivious

Always get consent in writing, NTA for taking daughter.

veni_vidi_dixi | veni_vidi_dixi

Miscommunication leads to disappointment for ex-in-laws and daughter. 😔

CasperGGGD | CasperGGGD

Responsibility of father to communicate with family, NTA for choosing sister

little_odd_me | little_odd_me

Recording agreements could save future family disputes ⚖️

AmsterdamJimmy420 | AmsterdamJimmy420

Communication breakdown leads to custody conflict. ESH 💬🤝

miasabine | miasabine

Commenter defends mother's decision, calls out father's lack of attention. 😒

molotovmerkin | molotovmerkin

Miscommunication leads to custody agreement breach. YTA with explanations.

BenjiCat17 | BenjiCat17

When legal and personal matters collide 🔍

cinnamngrl | cinnamngrl

Daughter's visitation with dad's family causes conflict. ESH.

rayneonthebeach | rayneonthebeach

Balancing family visits can be tough 😕

No-Investment-2121 | No-Investment-2121

Divided responsibility, petty omission and a missed opportunity for compromise.

grw313 | grw313

Scheduling conflict? Rescheduling the trip may be a better option 😕

flabbergasted-528 | flabbergasted-528

Father's agreement excuses mother's absence, NTA 👍

PK_737 | PK_737

User suggests an alternative in family visit debate 🤔

PastaM0nster | PastaM0nster

Clearer communication could have prevented this NTA judgement.

jrm1102 | jrm1102

Quick clarification: it was just a phone call 📞

soccerswimmerss | soccerswimmerss

Did OP have permission to visit father's family? 🤔

Beginning_Fennel5010 | Beginning_Fennel5010

Curious about the custody agreement and communication between parents.

spottysasquatch | spottysasquatch

Putting family first, daughter still had a brilliant time! ❤️

SoupSatireSleep | SoupSatireSleep

Prior engagements, not your fault. NTA 👍

evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee | evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Should she visit father's family? NTA or YTA?

No-Elderberry2072 | No-Elderberry2072

Communication is key! YTA for not discussing plans beforehand 😕

winesis | winesis

Let him take responsibility for his family's visit. NTA 👍

hope1083 | hope1083

Don't let a deadbeat ruin your family time 🚫⏰

distant-starlight | distant-starlight

A complex situation with ESH, record conversations to avoid issues 👍

GinnieWitch | GinnieWitch

Father not the a**hole for missing Paris trip.

TheQuietType84 | TheQuietType84

Divided opinions on the responsibility of handling paternal family arrangements.

HunterIllustrious846 | HunterIllustrious846

Father should take responsibility for daughter's family visits. #NTA

charlybell | charlybell

When communication fails, no one's the a**hole 👍

RoyallyOakie | RoyallyOakie

Avoid miscommunication, put it in writing 📝

TieRepresentative506 | TieRepresentative506

Choosing bachelorette over father's family? ESH. Daughter's neglected. 😒

Distorted_Penguin | Distorted_Penguin

Miscommunication leads to family feud. ESH for not clarifying availability.

Working_Raccoon417 | Working_Raccoon417

Engaging suggestion to handle family visit conflict. 🙌

Old-Bee-4773 | Old-Bee-4773

Father shirks responsibility, commenter not the a**hole 👍

clay-teeth | clay-teeth

Curious about dad's family? User wonders if rescheduling possible.

Apprehensive-Jelly42 | Apprehensive-Jelly42

Age of daughter confirmed for context 👶

Strong-Bottle-4161 | Strong-Bottle-4161

You're not the a**hole for not catering to his family.

DontStopMe_ | DontStopMe_

Commenter suggests OP is the a**hole for not being honest with husband about trip plans.

IGotBunsForDays | IGotBunsForDays

Uninvited to family gathering? YTA for ghosting family without notice 🙄

thiswillsoonendbadly | thiswillsoonendbadly

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