A woman planned a birthday dinner with just her girlfriends, but her friend's fiance showed up uninvited. She had specifically asked her friend not to bring him, as it was meant to be a girls-only event. When the friend and her fiance arrived, the hostess asked them to leave, causing the friend to become angry and stop talking to her. The hostess is now questioning whether she was being unreasonable and has asked for opinions on whether she was in the wrong. Many people are divided on the issue, with some saying that it was rude to ask them to leave, while others believe that the hostess had every right to have a girls-only event and that her friend should have respected her wishes. What do you think? Was the hostess an a**hole for kicking her friend and her fiance out of her birthday dinner?
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Girls only birthday dinner ruined by friend's fiancé
When you plan a girls-only birthday dinner, you expect only your girlfriends to show up. But what happens when your friend's fiancé, who always seems to be around, shows up uninvited? This is the dilemma faced by one Redditor, who kicked her friend's fiancé out of her birthday dinner because she wanted it to be a girls-only affair.
Despite specifically telling her friend not to bring her fiancé, he showed up anyway, and the birthday girl was not having it. She asked them to leave, and now her friend isn't talking to her. Some of the other girls in the group think she overreacted, but she stands by her decision. Was she in the wrong or was her friend being disrespectful of her wishes? Read on to find out what Reddit thinks and share your thoughts in the comments.
Girls night out ruined by friend's controlling fiance, NTA.
CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000
Setting boundaries is crucial. NTA for enforcing them 👍
ClothesQueasy2828 | ClothesQueasy2828
NTA kicks friend's fiance out of birthday dinner for girls-only night.
Glock212327 | Glock212327
Uninvited guest at birthday dinner? NTA for kicking out.
beautyofmemory | beautyofmemory
Women have every right to want to be in a female-only space. 🚺
imothro | imothro
Guest list dispute before the wedding 👰🏻♀️👀
TemptingPenguin369 | TemptingPenguin369
NTA and good on you for holding both accountable 👍
[deleted] | [deleted]
Concerns raised about controlling behavior in friend's relationship. 🚩
dcoleski | dcoleski
Setting boundaries is important in any relationship 👏🏽
Ok_Sherbert_2750 | Ok_Sherbert_2750
Friend brings uninvited fiance, sounds controlling. OP not at fault.
No_Service2135 | No_Service2135
Girl's only birthday dinner becomes a relationship red flag 🚩
isitpurple | isitpurple
Standing up for religious friends = NTA. Clashing priorities = drama.
imankitty | imankitty
NTA for kicking out friend's fiance who brought unwelcome guest 🙅♀️
Gur_Weak | Gur_Weak
Girlfriend violated rules, NTA for kicking out; friend's attitude sucks 😒
skipadoodledoo | skipadoodledoo
Support for standing up for religious friend against entitled BF 👍
Straight-Singer-2912 | Straight-Singer-2912
Girls only birthday dinner is totally fine. NTA 👏
MouthwashAndBandaids | MouthwashAndBandaids
Concerns raised about friend's controlling fiance, advice given for discussion.
doodleywootson | doodleywootson
Setting boundaries is important, NTA for enforcing them 👍
coolstorybroskiii | coolstorybroskiii
Strictly girls-only event, NTA for kicking out male attendee. 👍
Mouthtrap | Mouthtrap
Uninvited guests? 🤔 NTA takes action at birthday dinner
SataySue | SataySue
Girls night only, not fiance night 🚫. NTA 🙅♀️
smooch992 | smooch992
Setting boundaries and sticking to them. 🙅♀️
Dye_Harder | Dye_Harder
Setting boundaries: NTA kicks out friend's fiance from birthday dinner 💪
TruckOk7081 | TruckOk7081
Consider red flags in friend's fiance behavior. 🚩
Immediate_Refuse_918 | Immediate_Refuse_918
Friends feel uncomfortable around friend's fiance at gatherings 😕
MakeUpAName93 | MakeUpAName93
Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself. 👏
renaissance-Fartist | renaissance-Fartist
Setting healthy boundaries is key to avoiding drama 🙅♀️
CatsEatGrass | CatsEatGrass
Friend's fiance showing red flags with controlling behavior. 🤔
Hairy-Budget-6522 | Hairy-Budget-6522
Respect goes both ways 🤝
Jans47 | Jans47
Red flag alert! Beware of controlling and possessive partners 👀
bestaunty | bestaunty
Standing up for yourself is always the right move 💪
Junior_Performer3756 | Junior_Performer3756
When you clearly set boundaries and they get violated 😠🙅♀️ #NTA
FrequentEgg4166 | FrequentEgg4166
Girls only means girls only 🚫🧔♂️ NTA
Tasty_Doughnut_9226 | Tasty_Doughnut_9226
Girls only night was ruined by inconsiderate friend with veil.
NotSoAverage_sister | NotSoAverage_sister
Sometimes it's okay to just have a girls' night 🎉💁♀️
Mo-2s2 | Mo-2s2
Girls only birthday dinner, kicking friend's fiance out. NTA 🚺
mellowcheddar | mellowcheddar
Setting boundaries and enforcing them, NTA 🚫💩
EducatedOwlAthena | EducatedOwlAthena
Girls only means girls only. NTA for setting boundaries.
Deana-Marie | Deana-Marie
Setting boundaries is important, NTA for standing up for yourself 👏
ForceAccomplished890 | ForceAccomplished890
You were clear about the invitation. NTA 🙌
RiverSong_777 | RiverSong_777
Setting boundaries and prioritizing comfort should be respected. NTA 🙅♀️
[deleted] | [deleted]
Friend's fiance's clinginess is a red flag 🚩 #NTA
DakiLapin | DakiLapin
Supportive comment, advising not to involve in friend's relationship.
Sad-Pipe-1044 | Sad-Pipe-1044
Worried about friend's relationship after NTA birthday dinner incident 🤔
mcntm4 | mcntm4
Respect goes both ways, and she has none 🤷♀️
a-_rose | a-_rose
Kicking out a creepy fiance from a birthday dinner 🎂
dect69 | dect69
Girls night out, not girls plus one. NTA for enforcing boundaries.
dart1126 | dart1126
Standing up for oneself 🙌
tmk | tmk
Friend disrespects birthday request, potential red flag in fiancé's behavior. 👍
Shoddy_Lifeguard_852 | Shoddy_Lifeguard_852
Friend prioritizes fiancé over friends, NTA for kicking him out 💁♀️
Spirit-Chan | Spirit-Chan
Discussing boundaries and motives for fiance's constant presence at events.
eyore5775 | eyore5775
Respect boundaries and veils, SO can't be there ALL time 🚫
[deleted] | [deleted]
Respect is key 🔑, NTA for setting boundaries
Accomplished_Idea957 | Accomplished_Idea957
Protecting your space and friends, but also concerned for her safety.
crepuscularcunt | crepuscularcunt
Setting boundaries: NTA for kicking uninvited fiance out 💪
kelli-fish | kelli-fish
Girl only birthday dinner gets intruded by fiance. NTA 👍
Cybermagetx | Cybermagetx
Controlling partner costs her friendships, she needs to realize it. 🚫👨👩👧👦
The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver
Isolating her from her friends? 🤨 Definitely NTA in this situation.
TherulerT | TherulerT
Setting boundaries is healthy, even in relationships 👍
PrestigiousWedding36 | PrestigiousWedding36
This NTA comment raises a red flag for potential abuse.
asuwest | asuwest
This commenter agrees that you're not the a**hole 🙌
KnittedWhit | KnittedWhit
Setting healthy boundaries with friends can be tough 😢
imnotyourproblemyet | imnotyourproblemyet
Friend's fiance kicked out of birthday dinner, commenter supports OP
veni_vidi_dixi | veni_vidi_dixi
Healthy boundaries make for healthy friendships 💪
Affectionate-Match67 | Affectionate-Match67
A controlling relationship? This NTA comment thinks so 👀
bunnybunny690 | bunnybunny690
Standing up for boundaries and friends. NTA 👏
MarigoldCat | MarigoldCat
Religious respect matters, and NTA for standing up for it.
DaLoCo6913 | DaLoCo6913
Clear boundaries set for girls night, NTA for enforcing them 👍
Resagarden | Resagarden
Leave your fiance at home 🏡👋 NTA
jazzyx26 | jazzyx26
NTA, but bringing spouses everywhere is annoying AF 😒
tangysushi | tangysushi
Dealing with a selfish friend who always invites extra people 😒 NTA.
celex_bell | celex_bell
Girls' night out, not boys allowed! NTA 🚫👨❤️👨
Momo-kkun | Momo-kkun
