Did I Overreact by Kicking My Friend’s Fiance Out of My Birthday Dinner?

A woman planned a birthday dinner with just her girlfriends, but her friend’s fiance showed up uninvited. She had specifically asked her friend not to bring him, as it was meant to be a girls-only event. When the friend and her fiance arrived, the hostess asked them to leave, causing the friend to become angry and stop talking to her. The hostess is now questioning whether she was being unreasonable and has asked for opinions on whether she was in the wrong. Many people are divided on the issue, with some saying that it was rude to ask them to leave, while others believe that the hostess had every right to have a girls-only event and that her friend should have respected her wishes. What do you think? Was the hostess an a**hole for kicking her friend and her fiance out of her birthday dinner?

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Fiance shows up uninvited to all-girl birthday dinner ‍♀️

Surprise guest at birthday dinner sparks conflict among friends.

Girl’s birthday dinner turns into a drama with fiance’s presence

Standing up for myself or being an a**hole? AITA?

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When the fiancé ruins the party before it even starts

Girls only birthday dinner ruined by friend’s fiancé

When you plan a girls-only birthday dinner, you expect only your girlfriends to show up. But what happens when your friend’s fiancé, who always seems to be around, shows up uninvited? This is the dilemma faced by one Redditor , who kicked her friend’s fiancé out of her birthday dinner because she wanted it to be a girls-only affair.

Despite specifically telling her friend not to bring her fiancé, he showed up anyway, and the birthday girl was not having it. She asked them to leave, and now her friend isn’t talking to her. Some of the other girls in the group think she overreacted, but she stands by her decision. Was she in the wrong or was her friend being disrespectful of her wishes? Read on to find out what Reddit thinks and share your thoughts in the comments.

Girls night out ruined by friend’s controlling fiance, NTA.

Setting boundaries is crucial. NTA for enforcing them

NTA kicks friend’s fiance out of birthday dinner for girls-only night.

Uninvited guest at birthday dinner? NTA for kicking out.

Women have every right to want to be in a female-only space.

Guest list dispute before the wedding ‍♀️

NTA and good on you for holding both accountable

Concerns raised about controlling behavior in friend’s relationship.

Setting boundaries is important in any relationship

Friend brings uninvited fiance, sounds controlling. OP not at fault.

Girl’s only birthday dinner becomes a relationship red flag

Standing up for religious friends = NTA. Clashing priorities = drama.

NTA for kicking out friend’s fiance who brought unwelcome guest ‍♀️

Girlfriend violated rules, NTA for kicking out; friend’s attitude sucks

Support for standing up for religious friend against entitled BF

Girls only birthday dinner is totally fine. NTA

Concerns raised about friend’s controlling fiance, advice given for discussion.

Setting boundaries is important, NTA for enforcing them

Strictly girls-only event, NTA for kicking out male attendee.

Uninvited guests? NTA takes action at birthday dinner

Girls night only, not fiance night . NTA ‍♀️

Setting boundaries and sticking to them. ‍♀️

Setting boundaries: NTA kicks out friend’s fiance from birthday dinner

Consider red flags in friend’s fiance behavior.

Friends feel uncomfortable around friend’s fiance at gatherings

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself.

Setting healthy boundaries is key to avoiding drama ‍♀️

Friend’s fiance showing red flags with controlling behavior.

Respect goes both ways

Red flag alert! Beware of controlling and possessive partners

Standing up for yourself is always the right move

When you clearly set boundaries and they get violated ‍♀️ #NTA

Girls only means girls only ‍♂️ NTA

Girls only night was ruined by inconsiderate friend with veil.

Sometimes it’s okay to just have a girls’ night ‍♀️

Girls only birthday dinner, kicking friend’s fiance out. NTA

Setting boundaries and enforcing them, NTA

Girls only means girls only. NTA for setting boundaries.

Setting boundaries is important, NTA for standing up for yourself

You were clear about the invitation. NTA

Setting boundaries and prioritizing comfort should be respected. NTA ‍♀️

Friend’s fiance’s clinginess is a red flag #NTA

Supportive comment, advising not to involve in friend’s relationship.

Worried about friend’s relationship after NTA birthday dinner incident

Respect goes both ways, and she has none ‍♀️

Kicking out a creepy fiance from a birthday dinner

Girls night out, not girls plus one. NTA for enforcing boundaries.

Standing up for oneself

Friend disrespects birthday request, potential red flag in fiancé’s behavior.

Friend prioritizes fiancé over friends, NTA for kicking him out ‍♀️

Discussing boundaries and motives for fiance’s constant presence at events.

Respect boundaries and veils, SO can’t be there ALL time

Respect is key , NTA for setting boundaries

Protecting your space and friends, but also concerned for her safety.

Setting boundaries: NTA for kicking uninvited fiance out

Girl only birthday dinner gets intruded by fiance. NTA

Controlling partner costs her friendships, she needs to realize it. ‍ ‍ ‍

Isolating her from her friends? Definitely NTA in this situation.

Setting boundaries is healthy, even in relationships

This NTA comment raises a red flag for potential abuse.

This commenter agrees that you’re not the a**hole

Setting healthy boundaries with friends can be tough

Friend’s fiance kicked out of birthday dinner, commenter supports OP

Healthy boundaries make for healthy friendships

A controlling relationship? This NTA comment thinks so

Standing up for boundaries and friends. NTA

Religious respect matters, and NTA for standing up for it.

Clear boundaries set for girls night, NTA for enforcing them

Leave your fiance at home NTA

NTA, but bringing spouses everywhere is annoying AF

Dealing with a selfish friend who always invites extra people NTA.

Girls’ night out, not boys allowed! NTA ‍❤️‍