Stepsister Uses Dead Mom as Excuse for Bad Behavior, AITA for Calling Her Out?

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Living with a stepsister who lost her mother during childbirth can be tough for anyone, but when she continuously uses her mother's death as an excuse for bad behavior, is it fair? One Reddit user shares their story about how their stepsister has been getting away with things for too long and why enough is enough. From trashing a room to ruining a car and even ruining a custom gift and cake, this stepsister has continuously used her mother's death to excuse her actions. But when does it become too much? Read on to find out what happens when this user finally confronts their stepsister and stands up for themselves.

Introducing a complicated family dynamic 🤔

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Step-sister using dead mom as excuse for bad behavior.

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Stepsister ruins my room and excuses it with mom's death 😔

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🚗🤬 Stepsister ruins brother's car and blames dead mom. AITA?

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Step sister uses pandemic as excuse for bad behavior 🤦‍♀️

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When family drama gets out of hand 🙄

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Stepsister uses dead mom as excuse for bad behavior

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Calling out stepsister's behavior after using dead mom as excuse 💀

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Encouraging therapy for step-sister, despite dad's beliefs 🤓

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Step sister's behavior excused by dead mom, family in denial?

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Taking legal action against stepsister for destructive behavior 💸📷

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Family drama unfolds, repercussions follow. Is honesty the best policy?

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Step sister uses dead mom as excuse for bad behavior 😠

Living with a stepsister who uses her mother's death as an excuse for her terrible behavior can be very frustrating. It started with small things, but it has now escalated to the point where she destroys people's property and ruins special occasions. In this post, a girl calls out her stepsister's bad behavior after she ruins her father's birthday celebration. Her stepsister's father and her mother always excuse her behavior because of her mother's death, but the girl decides to stand up for herself and her family.

Although she is called an A**hole for calling out her stepsister's behavior, she refuses to apologize. The situation is complicated by the fact that her stepsister's father doesn't believe in therapy, and her mother doesn't see the problem with her behavior. The post raises the question of whether it is right to excuse someone's behavior because of a traumatic event, and whether there is a point where it becomes unacceptable. In the next section, we will look at some of the comments and reactions to the post.

NTA called out stepsister's bad behavior and excuses, needs therapy.

Poison-walker3 | Poison-walker3

Stepsister's behavior is unacceptable, NTA for calling her out 🚫🤬

mckinnos | mckinnos

Father enabling stepsister's behavior, commenters share similar experiences.

kkpls | kkpls

Can you miss someone you've never met? NTA but she needs therapy.

chichilex | chichilex

Step sister's behavior is criminal, NTA for calling her out.

lejolipamplemousse | lejolipamplemousse

When therapy is long overdue 💸🛋️

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Cutting ties with toxic stepfamily, 🙌 NTA

sweetpeabby | sweetpeabby

Manipulative stepsister uses dead mom excuse for bad behavior 🙄

dusktildawn9 | dusktildawn9

Enabling her behavior won't prepare her for the real world 💼

cynical-mage | cynical-mage

Daughter's bad behavior excused by dead mom, NTA for calling out.

jinyuki_91 | jinyuki_91

Stepsister's bad behavior excused by deceased mother, NTA calls her out 💪

ElViirafights | ElViirafights

Using a tragic past as an excuse is not acceptable 🙅‍♀️

thatonefallenangel | thatonefallenangel

Grief is no excuse for destructive behavior. NTA 👏

pzreich | pzreich

Respect for the dead should not be used as an excuse. 💀🚫

dmdjdjkd | dmdjdjkd

Step-sister uses dead mom as excuse, Redditor calls her out

piutharbheag | piutharbheag

👍 Teaching children to not use dead parents as an excuse.

Iwillsingyoulullabys | Iwillsingyoulullabys

User defends calling out stepsister's bad behavior, NTA.

TwistedTomorrow | TwistedTomorrow

Cutting off toxic family members, 🚫 or ✅?

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Calling out stepsister's bad behavior justified, NTA 👍

nouralshams | nouralshams

Enabling abusive behavior towards family is not okay ❌

Foreverblowingbubble | Foreverblowingbubble

Commenter calls out OP's insensitivity towards stepsister's loss. 😔

Stickytoffeeballs | Stickytoffeeballs

Calling out stepsister's behavior and enabling parents, NTA verdict.

TCGislife | TCGislife

Commenter suggests stepsister may have mental illness, urges empathy. ❤️

moonchildsarah | moonchildsarah

Commenter relates to OP and agrees, NTA 👍

kaymo93 | kaymo93

Debate over missing a never-met mom, with a personal touch 💔

Animegirl35 | Animegirl35

Losing a parent doesn't excuse bad behavior. NTA 🚫👩‍👧‍👦

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Encouraging advice to consider living with dad, NTA 👍

periwinkle_cupcake | periwinkle_cupcake

Holding someone accountable for their actions is important. 💪

Travelwithbex | Travelwithbex

Move out ASAP, NTA. Her behavior won't change, monster created.

compassionfever | compassionfever

NTA, but stepsister and stepfather are. Stepsister needs therapy. ὄ0

CyanideSpikedTea | CyanideSpikedTea

Petty revenge suggestions, ESH vibes 🤪

AcanthisittaAVI | AcanthisittaAVI

Grieving stepsister crosses the line, NTA for standing up.

ExcitementGlad2995 | ExcitementGlad2995

Protect your possessions 💰, sue her in small claims court!

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Legal action for property damage, what do you think? 🤔

clairew1987 | clairew1987

Calling out a stepsister for using dead parent as excuse 💀

cultqueennn | cultqueennn

A warning to the future roommates and coworkers of entitled stepsister 🚨

LatteandWaffles4Ever | LatteandWaffles4Ever

Setting boundaries with difficult family members is tough but necessary 🤝

Justbrowsing616 | Justbrowsing616

Empathetic NTA comment: 🙌 Revenge is living well, not lifting a finger. 🌟

LaFlibuste | LaFlibuste

Calling out stepsister's bad behavior after using dead mom excuse 🤔

Teh_Hammerer | Teh_Hammerer

Turning trauma into excuse, but OP stands strong. 💪

MomsMatter2k20 | MomsMatter2k20

Commenter calls out bad parenting and lack of consequences for stepsister's behavior, emphasizing the invalidity of using dead mother as an excuse 🤦‍♀️.

Kenshin86 | Kenshin86

Cutting ties with a toxic stepsister, NTA 🙌

Izzy4162305 | Izzy4162305

Using a dead mom as an excuse for bad behavior? NTA.

IndyAndyJones7 | IndyAndyJones7

Encouraging support for getting therapy, NTA. 🤝

BG_1952 | BG_1952

Handling trauma is tough, but blaming it for bad behavior won't help ⚡

sami_leigh | sami_leigh

NTA for calling out stepsister's bad behavior, father neglects parenting.

memeparmesan | memeparmesan

Compassionate comment on stepsister's behavior, with a touch of concern 😔

esqweasya | esqweasya

Urgent concern for stepsister's behavior, NTA for calling out 🚨

Cocobaconbits | Cocobaconbits

Commenter calls out stepsister's manipulative behavior, NTA.

Alinaoana | Alinaoana

Unanimous NTA agreement sparks satisfying comment thread 🎉

momin_zed | momin_zed

Calling out manipulative stepsister after mom's death, NTA 👍

dystopianpirate | dystopianpirate

Hold her accountable, suggest therapy, and protect yourself. 💪

MrsBarbarian | MrsBarbarian

Empathize with the commenter's situation. 🤝 NTA deserved.

imabowlofs0up | imabowlofs0up

Grief for someone you never met? 🤔 NTA called her spoiled.

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