Living with a stepsister who lost her mother during childbirth can be tough for anyone, but when she continuously uses her mother’s death as an excuse for bad behavior, is it fair? One Reddit user shares their story about how their stepsister has been getting away with things for too long and why enough is enough. From trashing a room to ruining a car and even ruining a custom gift and cake, this stepsister has continuously used her mother’s death to excuse her actions. But when does it become too much? Read on to find out what happens when this user finally confronts their stepsister and stands up for themselves.
Introducing a complicated family dynamic

Step-sister using dead mom as excuse for bad behavior.

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Stepsister ruins brother’s car and blames dead mom. AITA?

Step sister uses pandemic as excuse for bad behavior ♀️

When family drama gets out of hand

Stepsister uses dead mom as excuse for bad behavior

Calling out stepsister’s behavior after using dead mom as excuse

Encouraging therapy for step-sister, despite dad’s beliefs

Step sister’s behavior excused by dead mom, family in denial?

Taking legal action against stepsister for destructive behavior

Family drama unfolds, repercussions follow. Is honesty the best policy?

Step sister uses dead mom as excuse for bad behavior
Living with a stepsister who uses her mother’s death as an excuse for her terrible behavior can be very frustrating. It started with small things, but it has now escalated to the point where she destroys people’s property and ruins special occasions. In this post, a girl calls out her stepsister’s bad behavior after she ruins her father’s birthday celebration. Her stepsister’s father and her mother always excuse her behavior because of her mother’s death, but the girl decides to stand up for herself and her family.
Although she is called an A**hole for calling out her stepsister’s behavior, she refuses to apologize. The situation is complicated by the fact that her stepsister’s father doesn’t believe in therapy, and her mother doesn’t see the problem with her behavior. The post raises the question of whether it is right to excuse someone’s behavior because of a traumatic event, and whether there is a point where it becomes unacceptable. In the next section, we will look at some of the comments and reactions to the post.
NTA called out stepsister’s bad behavior and excuses, needs therapy.

Stepsister’s behavior is unacceptable, NTA for calling her out

Father enabling stepsister’s behavior, commenters share similar experiences.

Can you miss someone you’ve never met? NTA but she needs therapy.

Step sister’s behavior is criminal, NTA for calling her out.

When therapy is long overdue ️
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Cutting ties with toxic stepfamily, NTA

Manipulative stepsister uses dead mom excuse for bad behavior

Enabling her behavior won’t prepare her for the real world

Daughter’s bad behavior excused by dead mom, NTA for calling out.

Stepsister’s bad behavior excused by deceased mother, NTA calls her out

Using a tragic past as an excuse is not acceptable ♀️

Grief is no excuse for destructive behavior. NTA

Respect for the dead should not be used as an excuse.

Step-sister uses dead mom as excuse, Redditor calls her out

Teaching children to not use dead parents as an excuse.

User defends calling out stepsister’s bad behavior, NTA.

Cutting off toxic family members, or ✅?
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Calling out stepsister’s bad behavior justified, NTA

Enabling abusive behavior towards family is not okay ❌

Commenter calls out OP’s insensitivity towards stepsister’s loss.

Calling out stepsister’s behavior and enabling parents, NTA verdict.

Commenter suggests stepsister may have mental illness, urges empathy. ❤️

Commenter relates to OP and agrees, NTA

Debate over missing a never-met mom, with a personal touch

Losing a parent doesn’t excuse bad behavior. NTA
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Encouraging advice to consider living with dad, NTA

Holding someone accountable for their actions is important.

Move out ASAP, NTA. Her behavior won’t change, monster created.

NTA, but stepsister and stepfather are. Stepsister needs therapy. ὄ0

Petty revenge suggestions, ESH vibes

Grieving stepsister crosses the line, NTA for standing up.

Protect your possessions , sue her in small claims court!
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Legal action for property damage, what do you think?

Calling out a stepsister for using dead parent as excuse

A warning to the future roommates and coworkers of entitled stepsister

Setting boundaries with difficult family members is tough but necessary

Empathetic NTA comment: Revenge is living well, not lifting a finger.

Calling out stepsister’s bad behavior after using dead mom excuse

Turning trauma into excuse, but OP stands strong.

Commenter calls out bad parenting and lack of consequences for stepsister’s behavior, emphasizing the invalidity of using dead mother as an excuse ♀️.

Cutting ties with a toxic stepsister, NTA

Using a dead mom as an excuse for bad behavior? NTA.

Encouraging support for getting therapy, NTA.

Handling trauma is tough, but blaming it for bad behavior won’t help ⚡

NTA for calling out stepsister’s bad behavior, father neglects parenting.

Compassionate comment on stepsister’s behavior, with a touch of concern

Urgent concern for stepsister’s behavior, NTA for calling out

Commenter calls out stepsister’s manipulative behavior, NTA.

Unanimous NTA agreement sparks satisfying comment thread

Calling out manipulative stepsister after mom’s death, NTA

Hold her accountable, suggest therapy, and protect yourself.

Empathize with the commenter’s situation. NTA deserved.

Grief for someone you never met? NTA called her spoiled.
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