Coworker Apologizes for Homophobic Rant, but I Don’t Believe It’s Sincere

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A recent online meeting took a negative turn when a coworker made homophobic comments, directed toward the only gay person on the team. The coworker was removed and demoted but now wants to apologize directly in front of the team. However, the gay coworker doesn't believe the apology would be sincere and is wondering if they're in the wrong for not accepting it. The situation has sparked a debate among coworkers, with some saying to let the coworker save face, while others agree that an insincere apology is worthless. Read on to find out more about this workplace dilemma.

Not much to say, but let's hope for true apologies.

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Navigating insincere apologies in the workplace 🤔

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Confronting homophobia in the workplace: one coworker's disturbing rant.

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Homophobic coworker faces consequences but apology seems insincere 🏳️‍🌈

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Doubting coworker's apology, is it for real or just damage control?

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Is it worth accepting an insincere apology? 🤔

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Rejecting a coerced apology, avoiding extra drama ✌

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Homophobia at work: Coworker apologizes, but is it sincere?

Homophobia is never okay, especially in the workplace. A team member's negative rant about gay relationships left one person on the team feeling hurt and uncomfortable. While the coworker was removed from the project and demoted, he now wants to apologize to the person he directed his outburst towards. However, the target of the rant doesn't believe the apology would be sincere and is unsure whether to accept it or not. Some coworkers are urging them to accept the apology and move on, while others agree that an insincere apology is worthless. What would you do in this situation? Let's dive into the comments and reactions to see what others think.

Empty apologies and insincere remorse from homophobic coworker. NTA.

danooli | danooli

Coworker's apology deemed insincere by commenters, HR's approach criticized.

GlaxenFlux | GlaxenFlux

NTA. Insist on mandatory workplace sensitivity training and community service.

EntertainmentOk6284 | EntertainmentOk6284

Suggest a written apology to avoid an uncomfortable public situation 🙌

superfastmomma | superfastmomma

Coworker's insincere apology not enough to save his reputation 🙅‍♂️

CamronJK | CamronJK

Commenter questions sincerity of coworker's apology after homophobic rant.

WineOrDeath | WineOrDeath

Being queer doesn't mean you owe anyone forgiveness. Stand strong 💪

LadyLexi14 | LadyLexi14

Insincere apologies are worthless, but a public one might be best.

iopele | iopele

Coworker's insincere apology for homophobic rant warrants termination. 🏳️‍🌈

ipsos_custodes420 | ipsos_custodes420

Don't fall for it! Coworker's apology may be insincere 😒

VerendusAudeo | VerendusAudeo

Validating skepticism towards insincere apologies is reasonable. 🤔

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Sincere apology or just for show? 🤔

Left_Ad8182 | Left_Ad8182

NTA. Don't cover for a**holes. Let him face consequences 😤

Whimsical_Mara | Whimsical_Mara

Don't owe anyone forgiveness. Listen, but no obligation to react. 🚫❤️

GreekAmericanDom | GreekAmericanDom

Standing up for yourself and not accepting insincere apologies 💪

walnutwithteeth | walnutwithteeth

Don't let a fake apology rug-sweep homophobic behavior 🏳️‍🌈

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Accept the apology to protect your career, but educate the idiot.

MrWobbles2 | MrWobbles2

Don't settle for an insincere apology. NTA for wanting accountability. 💪

Yogafunkgirl | Yogafunkgirl

No forgiveness for homophobia. 🏳️‍🌈

missmyrajv | missmyrajv

Insincere apologies can add insult to injury. NTA.

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Don't let them off the hook yet 🎣, your skepticism is valid.

Anonymotron42 | Anonymotron42

Homophobic coworker's apology seems insincere, and you're NTA.

bcoftheimplication7 | bcoftheimplication7

Skepticism towards coworker's apology after homophobic rant due to timing.

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Don't fall for it! The apology seems insincere. 🚫

TogarSucks | TogarSucks

You're right, an insincere apology is worthless 🙅🏼

immediatethor | immediatethor

Don't fake it till you make it with apologies. 🙅‍♂️

ProbablyMyJugs | ProbablyMyJugs

Manager prioritizes homophobe over employee, HR norms questioned. 🤔

DisneyAddict2021 | DisneyAddict2021

Actions speak louder than words. 🙌

thevoiceofreason5 | thevoiceofreason5

Standing up for LGBTQ+ rights with a 🔥 NTA comment.

marxisttwat | marxisttwat

Predictable non-apology apology 🙄

cmlobue | cmlobue

Standing up to hate, NTA refuses to forgive homophobic coworker 🏳️‍🌈

AidanAva | AidanAva

Forced apologies are worthless. NTA for not believing him. 🙅‍♀️

tomtomclubthumb | tomtomclubthumb

Calls for consequences after homophobic comment 💬👀

JakeGoblinn | JakeGoblinn

Don't let anyone tell you that you're a bad guy for not accepting a homophobic's apology 🌈

Beautiful_mistakes | Beautiful_mistakes

NTA confronts coworker's homophobic rant with an opportunity to educate 🌈

OkapiEli | OkapiEli

Empty apologies deserve a 🙄, not forgiveness. #NTA

BusyBeeBusyBee | BusyBeeBusyBee

Performative apology? 🤔 NTA for being skeptical.

MrsVashalgrim | MrsVashalgrim

Standing up against insincere apologies 🙅‍♂️

Ickulus | Ickulus

Stand your ground, make it clear you won't forget easily 🤝

Sweet-Interview5620 | Sweet-Interview5620

Stand your ground, you're not the a**hole. 💪

Ymap3rSpark | Ymap3rSpark

Accept written apologies, move forward without insincere public apology ✨

EmpressJainaSolo | EmpressJainaSolo

Standing up to bigotry at work: NTA, but be cautious ⚠️

HoldFastO2 | HoldFastO2

Suggest writing sincere apology letter, ask manager for handling procedure 🤔

TeamChaos17 | TeamChaos17

Stand firm on not accepting insincere apologies. Turn it on them.

NYCQuilts | NYCQuilts

Don't be fooled by false apologies, stand your ground 🚫🏳️‍🌈

Profit_Careful | Profit_Careful

Redemption is earned through actions, not forced apologies. NTA 👍

Trini1113 | Trini1113

Accept the apology only if it's sincere and private. 🤝

LhasaApsoSmile | LhasaApsoSmile

Supportive reply to a homophobic incident. 🌈

quietdesperation14 | quietdesperation14

Coworker's insincere apology exposes bigotry in the workplace 🏢🏳️‍🌈

rat_marhar | rat_marhar

Don't let anyone pressure you into accepting an insincere apology 🚫🙅‍♂️

ElPretzelCoatl | ElPretzelCoatl

Stand up for yourself! Report the incident to HR 💪

KelseaKennadee | KelseaKennadee

Standing up for yourself against bigotry. NTA 👏

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Apologies in these situations can feel forced and pointless 💭

Horror_Secretary61 | Horror_Secretary61

Standing up against discrimination at work is always NTA 👏

Ebyanyothername | Ebyanyothername

Manager puts OP in tough spot, coworker should apologize publicly

allen33782 | allen33782

Stand your ground! NTA for not accepting insincere apologies 🙅

soracha8 | soracha8

How to acknowledge an apology without absolving the other person 💭✅

CaliforniaJade | CaliforniaJade