Mother Calls Out Adult Son for Obsessing Over Past Relationship

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When does one need to let go of the past and move on? A mother is struggling to answer this question as she watches her adult son obsess over his ex-girlfriend from middle school. The issue is further complicated by the fact that her daughter is now dating this ex-girlfriend. The son is calling his sister disloyal and a wh*re, causing the mother to step in and take drastic measures.

But is she right in doing so? Is the son justified in feeling upset? Or is it time for him to grow up and let go of his nostalgia? Join the conversation in this AITA post.

A mother's perspective on her adult children's lives 🤔

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Mom confronts son's obsession with first love from middle school ❤️

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Moving on and growing up: son and daughter's love lives.

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Lila finds love with Jenna in a heartwarming lesbian story ❤️

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Son's obsession with ex-girlfriend causes family drama 😕

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Mother intervenes as adult son obsesses over past relationship 🤦‍♀️

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Son's nostalgia for childhood relationship raises mother's concern

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Mother sets boundaries with obsessed son over past relationship 💔

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Redditor seeks judgement on son's breakup obsession, sparks debate 🤔

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Mother confronts son's obsession with past relationship 💔🙄

A woman is fed up with her adult son's obsession with his middle school relationship. Despite being married and having a baby on the way, he can't seem to let go of his ex-girlfriend and is now upset that his sister is dating her.

Read on to find out more about this family drama and the mixed reactions it has received.

NTA. Adam's obsession with a relationship from when he was 11 is ridiculous. He needs to get his sh*t together before he loses his current 'love' too. 🤦‍♀️

OhNoaDynamiteshark | OhNoaDynamiteshark

Man takes ex-girlfriend's sexuality too personally, wife unhappy. NTA.

Suitable-Cod-1381 | Suitable-Cod-1381

Humorous exchange on effective therapy for ex-obsessed son 🐱💦

Specialist-Quote2066 | Specialist-Quote2066

Hilarious observation on immature behavior earns top comment spot 😂

Traveling-Techie | Traveling-Techie

Commenter defends the son and calls out ex's sexuality. 😒

ThotsforTaterTots | ThotsforTaterTots

Commenter shares similar childhood experience and gives perspective.

Electrical_Treat_591 | Electrical_Treat_591

Son's jealousy threatens family relationships, therapy recommended. 🙏

Lonely_Shelter_4744 | Lonely_Shelter_4744

Commenter suggests jealousy as reason for son's obsession 👀

Allie614032 | Allie614032

Let it go! 🎶 Adult man still hung up on middle school ex.

Visual_Organization3 | Visual_Organization3

Let bygones be bygones 🤝 Middle school relationships don't count

Amazing_Excuse_3860 | Amazing_Excuse_3860

Setting boundaries with exes of friends and family - NTA comment.

Corpuscular_Ocelot | Corpuscular_Ocelot

Mother sets healthy boundary with son's obsession over ex-girlfriend

UnwillingCouchFlower | UnwillingCouchFlower

Mother seeks help for son's unresolved emotional outburst. 🤔

Total-Suggestion2591 | Total-Suggestion2591

NTA, but wife needs escape plan from grudge-holding husband 🏃‍♀️💨

myglasswasbigger | myglasswasbigger

Helping an adult son move on from an 11-year-old relationship 💔

Status-Pattern7539 | Status-Pattern7539

Adult son needs to move on from past relationship 💔

showmethegreen | showmethegreen

Red flag alert! Possessive behavior at age 11? 😬

embopbopbopdoowop | embopbopbopdoowop

Son needs to grow up and deal with his feelings 🙄

Sklibba | Sklibba

Lesbian couple moving in fast, classic sapphic move 😂

Dense_Homework2908 | Dense_Homework2908

Son needs to let go of childhood love, grow up 🤷‍♀️

Snackinpenguin | Snackinpenguin

Sibling's dating history challenges brother's fragile masculinity. 🤦

myamazhanglife | myamazhanglife

Mother defends son against past relationship obsession accusation.

Shoereader | Shoereader

NTA's comment exposes son's unhealthy obsession with childhood love.

JKPhantom86 | JKPhantom86

Encouraging NTA comment supports moving on 💪

oldcreaker | oldcreaker

Mother puts 26-year-old son in timeout for obsessing over ex

Strange_Public_1897 | Strange_Public_1897

Mother gives tough love to son obsessing over ex ❤️

tehkrux | tehkrux

Mother expresses concern over son's behavior towards past relationship. 🤔

BarRegular2684 | BarRegular2684

Respecting sentimental attachments to first love and dating etiquette discussed.

ElectricBugs | ElectricBugs

Commenter calls out immature son for past relationship obsession 😒

KetoLurkerHere | KetoLurkerHere

Mom calls out son for obsessing over 15 y/o relationship 🤦‍♂️

Dresden_Mouse | Dresden_Mouse

Breaking the 'dibs' culture: A healthy perspective. 👍

socialistrock | socialistrock

Let it go, man 🙄 Obsessing over an 11-year-old crush? Yikes.

Envy_The_King | Envy_The_King

Adult son's behavior towards sister's partner is insane. NTA.

Jiang_Rui | Jiang_Rui

Let it go: Mother defends son's obsession over an 11-year-old relationship

airpillow | airpillow

Commenter suggests therapy for son's rejection insecurities. 💭

MissIndigoBonesaw | MissIndigoBonesaw

Adult son can't move on from pre-teen breakup, calls sister wh*re 😠

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

Not the a-hole! Tell us more, what happened?

Short_Engineering_88 | Short_Engineering_88

Savage comment burns someone's kissing skills 😂

katehenry4133 | katehenry4133

Navigating life's twists and turns with grace. NTA ❤️

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Mother hilariously reminds son he was 11 during past relationship 😂

TheQuietType84 | TheQuietType84

Not the a-hole, but what's the backstory? 🤔

Laughingfoxcreates | Laughingfoxcreates

Overreacting to 5-month relationship at 11 years old? 🤔

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Commenter implies bad kissing caused relationship problems. Not the a-hole.

mandypanda1852 | mandypanda1852

Let it go, bro! NTA comment shuts down obsession. 😎

Allafreya | Allafreya

Stockholm dating scene has a 'no one the other person has slept with' rule 😮

ikeasyndrome | ikeasyndrome

Mother defends NTA status, son acts like child 🧒🚲

Dittoheadforever | Dittoheadforever

Understanding a son's distress without taking sides is challenging but important ❤️

T0mbaker | T0mbaker

Sibling loyalty is understandable, but let's not bash the son.

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Commenter puzzled by situation and declares not the a-hole.

Hopeful_Bid_2191 | Hopeful_Bid_2191

Mother stands up to son's bad behavior towards sister's sexuality 🙅

Immediate_Refuse_918 | Immediate_Refuse_918

Not the a-hole for moving on from past relationship 💪

CakeZealousideal1820 | CakeZealousideal1820

NTA commenter empathizes with situation and seeks deeper understanding.

Sea_Help_5556 | Sea_Help_5556

Childish behavior or harmless fun? 🤔

LadyFlyTrap | LadyFlyTrap

Mother suspects son's obsession with ex-girlfriend, seeks advice.

Individual_Baby_2418 | Individual_Baby_2418

Mother supports daughter, calls out son's misogyny and nostalgia.

theunbearablebowler | theunbearablebowler

Mother gets support after calling out son's incel behavior.

Formal-Marsupial-588 | Formal-Marsupial-588

Mother supports son's stance on ex. NTA 🤝

Booticus_1207 | Booticus_1207

Mother defends son's behavior in failed childhood relationship. NTA.

pacazpac | pacazpac

Support for calling out name-calling and concern for his wife. 🤔❤️

johjo_has_opinions | johjo_has_opinions