Brother Claims Ex Is Bad Mom, but Can't Answer Basic Questions About Their Kids

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Is it fair to criticize someone's parenting skills if you can't even answer basic questions about your own kids? That's the question at the heart of a family feud that has been ongoing since New Year's. One brother has been constantly claiming that his ex-wife is a terrible mother who doesn't know anything about their kids.

But when put to the test, it turns out that he doesn't know much about them either. Find out what happened when the family gathered and this brother was quizzed on his own children's favorite toys, allergies, and TV shows.

Was it a harmless prank or a legitimate call-out? Read the full story to find out.

Dealing with judgment for a new year's incident 💩

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Is the brother exaggerating or is the ex really negligent?

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Ex accused of bad parenting due to forgetful mistakes 🤦‍♀️

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Is he exaggerating? 🤔 Debating the validity of claims.

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Father's hypocrisy exposed as he fails to answer kids' questions

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Brother's lack of knowledge about his own kids is concerning 😬

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Family feud continues over embarrassing incident at gathering 🤦

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

Can brother prove ex's bad parenting or just talk the talk?

sentientgoop | sentientgoop

🤔 Is he really a better parent? 🤔

In divorce, it is common for one parent to accuse the other of being an unfit parent. However, in some cases, these accusations can be exaggerated or false. Such is the case of the Reddit user whose brother constantly accuses his ex-wife of being a bad mom. The brother claims that his ex doesn't know anything about the kids and doesn't deserve custody.

However, the user believes that his brother is exaggerating and that his examples are just moments of absent-mindedness. To prove his point, the user quizzed his brother on basic information about the kids, but he didn't do very well. The user believes that if his brother is going to make such serious accusations, he should be prepared to demonstrate that he actually knows things about his own children.

Do you think the brother is just exaggerating or is the ex-wife really a bad mom? Read on for comments and reactions to this situation.

NTA for standing up for ex-SIL and revealing brother's lack of parenting skills 🙌

MustangMimi | MustangMimi

Proving a bad parent with humor wins the day 🏆

Specific-Quick | Specific-Quick

Ex's parenting skills defended, brother's false accusations exposed. 👏

poppurplepuff | poppurplepuff

Agreeing with the commenter, hoping for brother's silence 🤞

fancythat012 | fancythat012

Supporting ex-wife, brother bullying is not acceptable. ✊

beth_hazel_thyme | beth_hazel_thyme

Commending OP for standing up to bad parenting with clap emoji.

SmadaSlaguod | SmadaSlaguod

Commenter advocates for less hostility in custody battles.

Right-Arm-619 | Right-Arm-619

Ex-bashing brother gets served a reality check. 🙅‍♂️🤥

CrepuscularCorvid | CrepuscularCorvid

No apology needed for calling out bad behavior 🤷‍♀️

YeetMeIntoTheVoid91 | YeetMeIntoTheVoid91

Defending a good mom and introducing a new vocabulary: Nibling ❤️

astoldbyelliot | astoldbyelliot

Brother badmouthing ex in front of family, NTA for correcting publicly 🤐

Kodiakke | Kodiakke

Aunt defends sister against brother's bad parenting accusations 🙅‍♀️

[deleted] | [deleted]

Don't mess with a sibling's parenting skills 😎

GoldenAlexanders | GoldenAlexanders

Double standard for moms: have to be perfect but dads just warm bodies. NTA.

elna_grasshopper | elna_grasshopper

Brother's bad behavior towards sister and kids called out. 🤬

jobrummy | jobrummy

Delivering karma to a bad-mouthing parent 🚗👋

Orphan_Izzy | Orphan_Izzy

Ex accuses OP of using custody as excuse to avoid child support 💰

Strange_Pop_3673 | Strange_Pop_3673

Brother's baseless accusations shut down with NTA judgement 👍

SlinkyMalinky20 | SlinkyMalinky20

Commenter defends OP's actions with NTA and supportive tone.

HauntedPickleJar | HauntedPickleJar

Brother gets called out for bad behavior, NTA stands up.

_Volly | _Volly

OP called out for public embarrassment of brother, YTA. Replies divided.

StingerAE | StingerAE

Ex-husband blames ex-wife for his own shortcomings as a parent. NTA.

[deleted] | [deleted]

👍 Brother's hypocrisy called out in custody dispute

justanother_simp | justanother_simp

Agreeing with comment that calls out hypocrisy 👍

New-Earth-5515 | New-Earth-5515

Allergies are serious, but forgetting them is no joke 😬

Neutraligon | Neutraligon

Being a good parent is more than just claiming it 👍

toast_ghost267 | toast_ghost267

Brother's negligence towards his child's allergy is concerning 😱

crappyrelathrow | crappyrelathrow

Father forgets child's life-threatening allergy 😱 NTA comment.

Terralia | Terralia

👍👏 Standing up to a hypocritical ex-partner. #NTA

LDCrow | LDCrow

Ex exposes dad's lie about not seeing kids. 👀🍿

HonorableJudgeTolerr | HonorableJudgeTolerr

Ex exposes bad parenting skills, OP advises to stand firm 💪

Maskydoo | Maskydoo

NTA commenter calls out hypocrisy in parenting situation 👏🏼

Cybermagetx | Cybermagetx

Equal parenting expectations for mothers and fathers. 🙌

EcstaticSalamander21 | EcstaticSalamander21

"Pointing fingers? Look at yourself first" 🤣

These-Process-7331 | These-Process-7331

Commenter sympathizes with OP's revenge towards bad ex, but encourages taking the high road ✌️

tomtomclubthumb | tomtomclubthumb

Sibling dispute over bad parenting exposes family tensions 🤔

copper_rabbit | copper_rabbit

Fathering is not just about knowing, it's about parenting ❤️

TheLavenderAuthor | TheLavenderAuthor

Defending a parent's basic responsibility: knowing their child's allergies 🤔

evilshenanigan | evilshenanigan

Commenter not in the wrong according to replies

[deleted] | [deleted]

Ex is still important as a parent, NTA for calling out.

2dogslife | 2dogslife

👏 Calling out the brother's BS on bad mom claims. #NTA

Seabastial | Seabastial

Commenter finds brother's hypocrisy amusing, delivers witty comeback 👏🤣

gluevah | gluevah

Brother's bad behavior exposed by insightful commenter 😒

raya__85 | raya__85

Sibling support! 🔥 Call out your brother's BS! 👊

Reddichino | Reddichino

Savage comment shuts down baseless claims 🔥🔥

Chocolatechip37 | Chocolatechip37

Agreeing with a pat on the back 👍

that-1-chick-u-know | that-1-chick-u-know

OP is NTA for calling out brother's bad parenting behavior 👏

J_2993 | J_2993

Don't dish it if you can't take it 🤷‍♀️

[deleted] | [deleted]

👍 Don't apologize for being right about bad parenting.

hairylegz | hairylegz

Support for overwhelmed mom amidst custody dispute 🤗

One_Discipline_3868 | One_Discipline_3868

Commenter supports OP's actions with playful tone and emoji.

peachyperfect3 | peachyperfect3

Supportive comment defends mother's parenting skills against critical brother.

SocksAndPi | SocksAndPi

Putting the kids first always wins 🏆 NTA

cecilpenny | cecilpenny

Respect the co-parenting relationship, don't talk sh*t 💩

uncle_xan | uncle_xan

Parenting struggles unite us all 🤝

BittyBird22 | BittyBird22

Supporting ex-sister-in-law, brother needs to apologize for behavior. 🤝

Environmental_Crab65 | Environmental_Crab65

Insightful comment on bad parenting with a touch of sarcasm 😏

Crimson_queen911 | Crimson_queen911

Fighting for custody? Learn about parental alienation ⛰️

2020Pandemic | 2020Pandemic

Commenter agrees ex is a bad parent, calls brother an a**hole 🤬

[deleted] | [deleted]

👏 Standing up to hypocritical ex's criticism. NTA.

BeatingsGalore | BeatingsGalore

Commenter applauds someone for not apologizing to clueless ex.

Mommashark1104 | Mommashark1104

Dad's badmouthing ex's parenting? Quiz him on their kids 🤔📝

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

Defending mom mix-up with relatable humor. NTA.

crumbledlighthouse | crumbledlighthouse

Agreed! NTA's last sentence is spot on! 👍

nitro1432 | nitro1432

Speaking ill of ex in front of kids can harm custody

Apprehensive_Eraser | Apprehensive_Eraser

Savage response to ex's bad parenting accusations 👏👏

exhibitionistbynight | exhibitionistbynight

Being a good parent means knowing the little things 👍

NoPersonality276 | NoPersonality276

Brother should know basic info about kids. NTA judgement confirmed.

mysticskyfall | mysticskyfall

👌🏼 NTA delivers a reality check to bad-mouthing father.

DoomxPhD | DoomxPhD

Brother needs to step up and engage with his kids 🤔

drunkenvalley | drunkenvalley