Man Takes Friend to Restaurant Wife Reserved for Them on His Birthday

People eating at a resturant.
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Birthdays are special, but what happens when your wife chooses to spend time with her friend instead of you on your birthday? This husband was left feeling angry and hurt, but instead of waiting for his wife to return, he decided to spend the day with his friend.

When his wife returned, he took her to the same restaurant but with his friend instead. Was he wrong to do so? Read the full story to find out what happened and decide for yourself if he is the a**hole.

Birthday dinner at Korean BBQ with pregnant wife 🍖🎉

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Wife prioritizes friend over husband's birthday, goes to sleepover instead

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Betrayed husband celebrates birthday with friend at Korean BBQ 🍴

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Understanding partner forgives wife for birthday dinner mishap 🎂❤️

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Choosing friend over husband's birthday dinner, who's controlling here? 🤔

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Navigating spousal conflicts over social obligations 😬

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Judging if the man's behavior is acceptable or not 🤔

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Man takes friend to wife's reserved birthday restaurant

A man's wife prioritized her childhood friend over his birthday plans and went to a sleepover at her friend's place instead of celebrating with him. He got mad and decided to spend the day with his friend instead, including going to the Korean BBQ restaurant they had booked. His wife got upset when she came back and found out, saying that he's controlling and shouldn't be deciding who she spends time with.

Now, the man is wondering if he's the asshole. Read on to find out what people think about this situation and whether the man overstepped his boundaries.

Wife prioritizes friend over husband's milestone birthday, gets upset he had a good time with friend. NTA

B4pangea | B4pangea

Wife ditches husband on birthday, expects him to cry. He has fun instead. NTA 💃

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Celebrating your birthday alone? Not on my watch! 🎉

emmakobs | emmakobs

Birthday plans canceled by wife for friend, NTA for celebrating with friend.

AcceptableHome3 | AcceptableHome3

"Unavoidable circumstance" or selfish behavior? Birthday dinner controversy. 🍽️🎂

28Improved | 28Improved

Taking a friend to wife's reserved restaurant on birthday 👍

EffectiveApricot | EffectiveApricot

Wife cancels birthday plans, husband takes friend to restaurant, NTA.

CalgaryChris77 | CalgaryChris77

Comment section suspects cheating and advises paternity test. 🤔

StellaBella2010 | StellaBella2010

Commenter defends NTA but someone finds it suspicious 🤔

forgottenenvies | forgottenenvies

Prioritizing a friend over a partner on a birthday? NTA 🎉

CuriosiT38 | CuriosiT38

Stand up for yourself and seek therapy before baby arrives 👍

Salty_Hedgehog5874 | Salty_Hedgehog5874

Commenter calls out OP for being TA, suspicions of infidelity 🤔

claymore3911 | claymore3911

Friend steals reservation, wife mad, commenter thinks NTA 🤷‍♂️

Smegma_On_Demand__ | Smegma_On_Demand__

Choose your own birthday dinner, not manipulative wife's friend 🎂🍴

TinyRascalSaurus | TinyRascalSaurus

Choosing to celebrate his birthday with a friend causes wife's anger. NTA 🎂

TooTall2Function | TooTall2Function

Comment section takes a wild turn with cheating accusations 🤯

noyou42 | noyou42

Birthday dinner reservation drama: taking control and standing up for yourself.

lnwint | lnwint

Comment and replies highlight gender bias in relationship conflicts 🤔

kt99_ | kt99_

Wife's birthday surprise for husband goes wrong, friend intervenes. NTA.

Rage-Parrot | Rage-Parrot

Spotting manipulation tactics: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender 🚩

Academic_Snow_7680 | Academic_Snow_7680

Spouse ditches birthday plans, gets mad when husband hangs with friend. NTA 👍

gabbyfitzzz | gabbyfitzzz

When your wife reserves your birthday restaurant for someone else 😒

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Support for standing up to unreasonable behavior 🙌

1Fully1 | 1Fully1

Friend's company better than wife's birthday surprise 🎉🍽️

NotTwitchy | NotTwitchy

Fiancé chooses friend over wife on birthday, is she crazy? 😳

Takub | Takub

Respectful boundaries and compromise are key in any relationship 👍

Commercial-Letter252 | Commercial-Letter252

Friend's wife reserves birthday restaurant, man not in the wrong

moondoggie1960 | moondoggie1960

Communication issues now? Baby's arrival will make it tougher 🤔

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Cheating exes and toxic behavior: NTA stands strong 💪

SWG_138 | SWG_138

Celebrated birthday without wife after she prioritized friend over plans. NTA.

muskiesfan1 | muskiesfan1

Friendship over birthdays? NTA stands up to hypocrisy 👊🏼🎂

wastingM3time | wastingM3time

Supportive comment validates OP's actions and shares helpful information.

Captain-Stunning | Captain-Stunning

Enjoying birthday with a friend, NTA despite wife's expectations. 🎂

SubRedditLurker08 | SubRedditLurker08

Wife changed plans, not the friend. NTA. 🙅‍♂️🍽️

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Don't let a good reservation go to waste! 🍽️

del901 | del901

Red flags or just forgetful? NTA for enjoying birthday dinner.

Morrisonbran | Morrisonbran

Friendship or cover up? NTA comment sparks speculation 🔍

natscat76 | natscat76

Wife leaves husband alone on birthday, gets mad when he doesn't spend it alone. 🤔

someone-w-issues | someone-w-issues

Cancelled birthday plans, NTA. Wife needs to re-plan.

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Commenter sympathizes with man whose wife ruined his birthday.

hibernativenaptosis | hibernativenaptosis

Friend takes reserved birthday restaurant spot, NTA and relatable 🤣

Icy_Conversation_612 | Icy_Conversation_612

Don't let anyone ruin your birthday 🎉🎂 You did the right thing!

HeartlessW | HeartlessW

Wife's mistake, friend's treat. Not the a**hole 👍🏼

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Birthday dinner with a friend - NTA, irrelevant reservation.

caw81 | caw81

Don't let your wife dictate your birthday plans! 🎉 NTA.

SnooGiraffes3591 | SnooGiraffes3591

Comment suggests paternity test due to wife's suspicious behavior 👀

Tbone2797 | Tbone2797

Questioning the marriage and paternity? 🤔 NTA though.

bervuxo | bervuxo

Spouse prioritizing friend over husband's birthday? 🤔

razzec_phone | razzec_phone

Birthday dinner reservation kept, wife still mad. NTA 🎂🍴

Decent_Ad6389 | Decent_Ad6389

Defending cancelled plans, commenter says NTA with confidence 🙌

BrandalieK | BrandalieK

Questioning paternity? 🤔 NTA according to Redditor's experience.

SquallZ34 | SquallZ34

Questioning partner's loyalty on birthday plans, NTA or ESH?

devilsadvo886 | devilsadvo886

Commenter suspects infidelity after suspicious behavior from friend's wife 👀

amerika77 | amerika77

Friendship or Cheating? Troubled marriage on his 30th birthday 🤔

Actual_Geologist_316 | Actual_Geologist_316

Curious about the wife's expectations? Read this comment.

QuantityAccording750 | QuantityAccording750

Not the a**hole, but maybe a paternity test? 🤔

Juan_DLC | Juan_DLC