Father Refuses to Use Saved Money for Stepdaughter's Car to Help With Daughter's IVF Treatment

IVF process.
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A father is facing a difficult decision after saving up money to buy his stepdaughter a car for her 18th birthday. His daughter and son-in-law are struggling with infertility and cannot afford another round of IVF treatment. They asked to borrow the money, but the father is torn between fulfilling his stepdaughter's dream and helping his daughter become a mother.

The situation is complicated by family drama and the father's strained relationship with his daughter's in-laws. Read on to find out how the father handled the situation and what advice Reddit users gave him.

Loving stepfather refuses to use savings for stepdaughter's car.

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Father's tough choice: Stepdaughter's car or daughter's IVF treatment?

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Father prioritizes car gift over daughter's IVF treatment 🚗

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Couple's financial struggles pause fertility treatments, father withholds support.

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Father denies daughter IVF funds saved for stepdaughter's car 🚗

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Heartless father refuses to help daughter with IVF treatment 💔

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Stepdaughter's car or daughter's IVF? Family dilemma 🤔

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Heartbreaking: Father denies daughter IVF money for stepdaughter's car 💔

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Grandfather denies step-granddaughter's car funds for daughter's IVF treatment 💰🚗

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Struggling couple turns to family for IVF treatment funds 💰

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Debt and family planning clash in heated argument 💰👶

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Stepdaughter favored over blood daughter causing family tension 😔

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Father puts stepdaughter's car above daughter's IVF treatment 💰👨‍👧‍👧

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When in-laws cross the line, even a civil relationship ends 🙅

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Family feud over stepdaughter's car and daughter's IVF treatment 🔥

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Daughter pressured by husband's family for IVF, father hesitant to help.

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Medical expenses strain family finances, causing tension between step and daughter.

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Father prioritizes stepdaughter's car over daughter's IVF treatment 🤔

A father is facing criticism after refusing to use saved money for his stepdaughter's car to help his daughter and son-in-law with their IVF treatment. The father had been saving up for years to buy his stepdaughter a car for her 18th birthday but has not yet made the purchase. His older daughter has been struggling with infertility and requested to borrow the money for their IVF treatment, but the father declined, stating that he did not want to disappoint his stepdaughter.

The daughter's husband argued that the money should go towards a better cause and that his parents had already helped with previous treatment costs. The father's refusal has caused tension in the family, with his sister and son-in-law criticizing his priorities.

Despite the criticism, the father is standing by his decision. The situation raises questions about familial obligations and priorities, and the difficult decisions that come with them.

NTA. It's YOUR money, they're not entitled to it 👍

faayth | faayth

Adult entitlement vs responsible parenting. NTA wins.

DubbocredoKiev | DubbocredoKiev

Choosing to support older daughter's savings over stepdaughter's IVF.

jiffyfly6 | jiffyfly6

Delaying IVF treatment may be more responsible than having a child. 🤔

Plenty_Metal_1304 | Plenty_Metal_1304

NTA. Commenter agrees with OP that stepdaughter and her partner are acting entitled about IVF treatment, but notes that the cost of IVF doesn't replace any of the normal expenses, it adds to them.

tootiredforthisshit1 | tootiredforthisshit1

Commenter justifies why stepfather is NTA for not funding IVF.

TruckOk7081 | TruckOk7081

Debt-ridden couple can't afford IVF, OP not obligated to help. NTA 🚫👶

flyingfred1027 | flyingfred1027

Supporting daughter's IVF treatment over stepdaughter's car, NTA.

An-Ugly-Croissant17 | An-Ugly-Croissant17

Has the bio daughter been treated fairly? NTA for not giving money.

bitchy_badger | bitchy_badger

Sibling rivalry or unequal treatment? 🤔

Kandlekid97 | Kandlekid97

ESH in this situation. Daughter is entitled, but OP's response is cruel 😕

bl_air | bl_air

Daughter demands IVF money despite dad saving for sister's car 😡

JHawk444 | JHawk444

Commenter defends father's decision to not use saved money for IVF.

Aethermist88 | Aethermist88

User questions potential favoritism towards stepdaughter over bio daughter 🤔

Analyze_this_now | Analyze_this_now

Bio daughter unreliable with money, father NTA for refusing.

little-face9 | little-face9

NTA - Daughter needs to accept reality. Money is for car.

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Boundaries are important. Keep your financial plans private 💰

starbaby87 | starbaby87

Father refuses to lend money for IVF, gets guilt tripped 😞

KSknitter | KSknitter

Prioritize savings for IVF treatment, not stepdaughter's car. 💰👶

Algebralovr | Algebralovr

Did OP spoil stepdaughter and neglect biodaughter? 🤔

UnicornCackle | UnicornCackle

Infertility is tough, but entitlement to someone's savings is wrong. 💰

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Did the older daughter receive an equally expensive gift? 🤔

Ikbenikk | Ikbenikk

Having a car is important and experiencing it may be once in a lifetime opportunity. People should not rush to have kids considering the current situation. The comment replies mention entitlement in the birthing industry.

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Personal responsibility for IVF treatment, but be kind in refusal 😊

pensaha | pensaha

Curious comment sparks discussion about fairness in gift-giving 🤔

dbee8q | dbee8q

Debate over using saved money for IVF vs car expenses.

FarCommand | FarCommand

Debate on father's obligation to pay for daughter's IVF treatment

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Commenter suggests adoption instead of IVF, but replies note the high cost and difficulty of the process.

xInsomniCatx | xInsomniCatx

No money for a car or baby? NTA, let them be.

Due-Swim2089 | Due-Swim2089

Couple's IVF success shows bio daughter can handle her own life 💪

panda_pandora | panda_pandora

Choosing between stepdaughter's car and daughter's IVF treatment

wickedlucky214 | wickedlucky214

Choosing daughter's education over expensive IVF treatment. 🚗💰👨‍👧

Sisbera | Sisbera

Your money, your choice! 💰

25atria | 25atria

Is waiting for financial stability a better option? 🤔

nkh86 | nkh86

NTA refuses to fund stepdaughter's IVF treatment, suggests adoption instead. Commenter disagrees.

missOmum | missOmum

Dodging the question? 🤔 Father's favoritism sparks suspicion.

Current-Photo2857 | Current-Photo2857

Commenter supports the father's decision and calls out entitlement 👍

bookshelfie | bookshelfie

Fairness concerns arise in stepdaughter vs daughter's IVF treatment decision

Walktothebrook | Walktothebrook

NTA: Priorities first 🤔💰

stupidpunname54 | stupidpunname54

Supportive comment suggests adoption and emotional support for daughter's IVF.

MaybeParadise | MaybeParadise

Daughter & son-in-law being entitled. Stepdaughter shamed for luck. NTA 🙌

ForwardPlenty | ForwardPlenty

Commenter advises against IVF and suggests medical procedure for daughter.

Starlight_Sparrow | Starlight_Sparrow

Generous 18th birthday gift for elder daughter justifies stepdaughter's exclusion.

iolaus79 | iolaus79

Curious if bio daughter received expensive gift before IVF treatment

the_nada_life | the_nada_life