Did I Cross The Line? AITA For Telling My Cousin This Isn't A Grief Competition?

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A woman who suffered a miscarriage and recently got divorced is accused of wanting attention by her cousin after asking for a soda. The cousin's fiance passed away recently, and she's going through a tough time, but did that give her the right to lash out at her cousin? The woman is now being accused of being insensitive and wanting attention.

Was she really in the wrong here? Read on to find out what happened and whether or not she was the a**hole in this situation.

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Grief is not a competition 🙅‍♀️

Losing a loved one is never easy, and it's important to support one another through the grieving process. But what happens when grief turns into a competition? In a recent family gathering, a woman asked her cousin for a soda, which led to a heated argument about grief.

The cousin, who had recently lost her fiance, accused the woman of wanting everyone to "fawn" over her and not caring about her loss. The woman responded by reminding her cousin that grief is not a competition and that they are all doing their best. However, the situation escalated when the cousin's sister later messaged the woman, calling her "awful" and accusing the family of being unsupportive.

Now, the woman is turning to the internet for opinions, wondering if she was in the wrong. Join the conversation and share your thoughts on this delicate topic in the comments below.

OP downplays cousin's recent loss, family sucks. YTA.

WokeJabber | WokeJabber

Insensitive OP receives some tough love in the comments. YTA.

5tevePi5ing | 5tevePi5ing

OP failed to understand A's feelings and needs. YTA 🤦‍♀️

Pumpkinkra | Pumpkinkra

OP prioritized their needs over a grieving cousin, YTA.

Carikos | Carikos

Cousin lost a loved one and OP made it a competition. YTA 💩

No_Cookie_145 | No_Cookie_145

Don't compete in grief. Invite her over for tea 🍵

ivylass | ivylass

Insensitive remarks cause family rift. YTA confirmed. 😔

Zealousideal-Ebb-970 | Zealousideal-Ebb-970

Grief isn't a competition, but OP's comments make them the a**hole 💩

VitaminD93 | VitaminD93

OP invalidates cousin's grief, called out for selfish behavior 🙅‍♀️

Adventurous_Wing2042 | Adventurous_Wing2042

Commenter calls out OP for being heartless and selfish during their cousin's funeral, and receives agreement in their replies. 💔

BoudicaTheArtist | BoudicaTheArtist

YTA. Grief isn't a competition, but if it were, she'd be winning by a mile 🏆

arseholierthanthou | arseholierthanthou

Don't downplay A's pain. Stop trying to win the misery Olympics.

buttercupgrump | buttercupgrump

Compassionate inquiry or insensitive prodding? 🤔

jellogoodbye | jellogoodbye

Don't compare grief. YTA for making her loss seem small.

Complex_Pin_8155 | Complex_Pin_8155

OP lacks empathy, makes cousin's trauma about herself. YTA 😒

FluffyOmen85 | FluffyOmen85

Insensitive move at a sensitive time. YTA 💩

cinnamonoblivion | cinnamonoblivion

A family feud over grief and support. 👥💔

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

YTA comment receives harsh response from readers 😬

Life_queen | Life_queen

YTA for prioritizing your aunt over your cousin's needs 😔

missdannyalvz | missdannyalvz

OP's insensitive comment sparks backlash from commenters. YTA.

Reevadare1990 | Reevadare1990

OP compares grief and demands aunt leave daughter's fiancé's funeral. YTA.

Spare-Article-396 | Spare-Article-396

Insensitive comment sparks justified backlash, YTA.

n3rdv10l3nc3 | n3rdv10l3nc3

Commenter shares personal experience to call out OP's entitlement 🤨

concrete_dandelion | concrete_dandelion

Commenter explains why OP is the a**hole for invalidating grief 💔

verymacberry | verymacberry

You may have crossed the line with this comment 😬

jerkface1983 | jerkface1983

Insensitive response to cousin's grief, YTA 🤦‍♂️

botenbooty | botenbooty

Insensitive remark about grief leads to family drama. 🤷‍♀️

CaterpillarNo6795 | CaterpillarNo6795

Commenter accuses OP of being self-absorbed, uses YTA acronym 😬

Tacos_and-tequila | Tacos_and-tequila

Commenter calls out YTA for being insensitive and selfish.

junipercanuck | junipercanuck

Grief isn't a competition. YTA and her anger is justified 😔

Geeklover1030 | Geeklover1030

Commenter sympathizes with OP but deems them TA for selfish behavior 💔

ecdysisthrowaway | ecdysisthrowaway

YTA gets called out for being selfish 🙅‍♂️

shortness-1029 | shortness-1029

Commenter shares heartbreaking experience, deems OP a trash human.

Quirky-Ad2698 | Quirky-Ad2698

Comparing grief is never okay 💔

ParsnipBusy | ParsnipBusy

Commenter called out for lack of details, deemed YTA 🤷‍♂️

debdnow | debdnow

Commenter calls out A for lacking TA gene 😂

One-Illustrator8358 | One-Illustrator8358

Grief competition gone wrong. YTA for taking all attention.

Mabelisms | Mabelisms

Insensitive comment. YTA should apologize and be more empathetic. 💔

notyourproblem666 | notyourproblem666

OP is called out for selfish behavior during family tragedy 😔

MixWitch | MixWitch

Ouch! A harsh reply calling out the OP's behavior. 💔

sarsar69 | sarsar69

Insensitive comment about miscarriage sparks heated debate. 🤨

Mother_Throat_6314 | Mother_Throat_6314

Commenter accuses OP of being a narcissist and YTA. 💥

Background-Cow8401 | Background-Cow8401

Lack of empathy and self-centeredness makes YTA. 💔

Sel-Reddit | Sel-Reddit

Insensitive comments & lack of empathy? YTA for sure 😒

skiaddict7 | skiaddict7

Insensitive behavior at a funeral, YTA according to most replies 😔

Kthaeh | Kthaeh

Family favoritism leads to grief competition and hurt feelings. 💔

ADawg28 | ADawg28

Commenter claims a miscarriage is not as bad as other losses 😬

SoupNo682 | SoupNo682

Commenter receives tough judgment for blaming woman's miscarriage.

Bunnyprincess34 | Bunnyprincess34

Questioning the authenticity of the post 🤔

ItsMe_HiImTheProblem | ItsMe_HiImTheProblem