Gifted Student Resents Mother for Holding Her Back Because of Sister

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A gifted teenager shares her story of being held back in school because her mother didn't want to hurt her sister's feelings. Now, after years of feeling held back, the teen has chosen to live with her dad full-time and confront her mother about her resentment.

But is the teen in the wrong for holding a grudge against her mother, or was her mother in the wrong for holding her back in school? Read the full story to find out the verdict.

Child prodigy held back by mother's favoritism towards sister.

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Overcoming sibling rivalry and academic differences with understanding ❤️

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Skipping kindergarten caused family resentment, gifted student says 🎓

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Gifted student held back for sister's feelings. Finds alternative solution.

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Opportunities missed due to sister's feelings. 💔

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Gifted student's potential held back by mother's decision 😔

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Private school dreams crushed by sister's shadow 🏫

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Mom blocks gifted daughter from special high school against dad's wishes

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Student resents mother for favoring sister and holding her back.

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Student resents mother for holding her back despite great friends.

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Leaving home due to family issues, seeking validation from strangers

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Gifted student held back by mother to protect sister's feelings 😔

Being gifted can be a blessing and a curse, especially when it comes to education. For this Reddit user, their advanced abilities were apparent from a young age, yet their mother refused to let them skip a grade or attend a school for gifted students - all to protect their sister's feelings.

Now, years later and in the midst of a divorce, the user is resentful of their mother's actions and the impact it had on their education. Is the user in the wrong for feeling this way or did their mother make a mistake by holding them back?

Join the discussion in the comments below and share your thoughts about the situation.

NTA, but mom needs to grow up and dad did his best.

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NTA for feeling held back by mother's favoritism towards sister.

ChungusPorn | ChungusPorn

Commenter calls out mother's excuse for holding back gifted child. 🙌

ICWhatsNUrP | ICWhatsNUrP

Being highly gifted has a lot of management needs from parents. NTA.

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NTA. Gifted student reflects on being held back by mother.

Nihilophile | Nihilophile

Mom holds back gifted child to protect sister's feelings? 😠

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Gifted student held back by mother for sister's feelings. NTA.

Ok_Yellow8056 | Ok_Yellow8056

Debate over whether early reading abilities warrant skipping grades 📚

stinkspiritt | stinkspiritt

NTA- Don't let your mother's poor decisions consume you 🌟

farrahlikefawcett | farrahlikefawcett

Mom didn't want to hear the truth, now she's the a**hole 🤷‍♀️

Commishw1 | Commishw1

Commenter doubts story authenticity, questions mother's motives with YTA.

LeftenantScullbaggs | LeftenantScullbaggs

Debatable claim on self-taught reading skills sparks skepticism 🤔

OnionKnightReturns | OnionKnightReturns

Mother playing favorites, holding back gifted student. NTA.

memes_lord69 | memes_lord69

Gifted student's setback not a big deal, but mom still TA 🤷‍♀️

Ana_jp | Ana_jp

Calling out the obvious: Mom is TA 😒

Pyroluminous | Pyroluminous

Mother blamed her choices on sister's feelings, NTA for resenting.

Jazzlike_Humor3340 | Jazzlike_Humor3340

Mother's jealousy holding back gifted student, NTA, heartless behavior. 💔

godrestsinreason | godrestsinreason

Skipping grades can have social consequences. Parent empathizes with difficult decisions.

jenn5388 | jenn5388

Comment section reminder to avoid unnecessary judgmental comments ⚠️

JazzyPhotoMac | JazzyPhotoMac

Held back for sister, now obnoxious at work 🤔

ComedianMountain6031 | ComedianMountain6031

Being a gifted student is a gift and a curse 📚

Aguilo7 | Aguilo7

Prioritizing siblings' feelings over education? Not cool, mom! 😠

SoValkyrieMama | SoValkyrieMama

ADHD doesn't make you less smart, NTA for feeling held back.

BettyBoopBettyBop | BettyBoopBettyBop

Sister's possible awareness of being held back questioned 🤔

GrWr44 | GrWr44

Don't let anyone hold you back from your dreams 👏

Utzah | Utzah

Commenter accuses OP of lying with poor grammar 🤔

squarehipflask | squarehipflask

Divorce can reveal unexpected truths, empathize with your mother's perspective 😔

njx6 | njx6

Money may have influenced schooling. Resourcefulness key to success.

wetryagain | wetryagain

Don't hold back! 🙌 Glad you're moving forward with opportunities.

False-Explanation702 | False-Explanation702

A single grade doesn't seem like much, but socially speaking it can be a lot especially pre-high school. INFO needed on how it affected the commenter. 🤔

mrsbuttstuff | mrsbuttstuff

Gifted student feels held back by mother's unfair expectations.

PerpetuallyChaotic | PerpetuallyChaotic

Don't let others hold you back from your potential 🚀

Skippy2716 | Skippy2716

Don't feel bad for going with your dad. You deserve better 💪

Purple-Tumbleweed | Purple-Tumbleweed

Empowering response to mother's favoritism and control over daughter's life 👏

Please_no_autographs | Please_no_autographs

Advocating for gifted children is crucial. NTA for your resentment.

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Overcoming insecurities about academic abilities - inspiring! ✨

rosie_24601 | rosie_24601

Mother's selfishness held back gifted student's potential 🤦‍♀️

Missykay88 | Missykay88

Commenter is not the a**hole in family drama 🙅‍♀️

PunkDoomer_22 | PunkDoomer_22