I Made a Budget to Show My Niece the Reality of Marrying Her New Fiancé, AITA?

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When my niece visited me, she told me about her plans to marry her boyfriend of just four months. I offered to help her make a budget to prepare for married life, but when her fiancé was being shady about his income, I made some generous assumptions about his earnings.

After showing her the true cost of living, she broke up with him and moved back home. My wife thinks I was manipulative, but I feel guilty for playing a part in their breakup. Did I go too far in this situation? Read more to find out.

Tough love for a spoiled niece's 4-month engagement 💍

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Helpful aunt educates niece on budgeting for married life 💰

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Calculating a wedding budget for my niece's shady fiancé 💰

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Realistic budgeting opens eyes to the realities of marriage 💰

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Teaching the value of budgeting to a new generation 💰

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When budget reality check becomes a relationship deal breaker 😬

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Uncle's budget reality check upsets niece, causes tension 😬

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Oops! Clarification on the tips amount in a budget discussion.

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Making a budget for my niece's fiancé, AITA? 💰💔

A spoiled 19-year-old niece got engaged after dating her boyfriend for only 4 months. Her father threatened to cut off her funds if she marries him. She visited her uncle, seeking support only to be given a reality check. Her uncle helped her make a budget assuming that her fiancé makes good money. After realizing how much their new life would cost, she broke up with him, leaving her heartbroken.

Her uncle and wife think he was manipulative with his assumptions, but his intentions were to show his niece the truth. Now, let's take a look at what people have to say about his actions in this situation.

Budgeting lesson saves niece from financial disaster 💸

QuinGood | QuinGood

Niece needs a reality check before tying the knot 💍

fernAlly | fernAlly

NTA teaches life lesson on budgeting and realistic expectations 💰

hBoBh | hBoBh

Giving budget advice to spoiled niece, boyfriend too broke for her 💰

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Debating the feasibility of a budget plan, ESH.

BelichicksBurner | BelichicksBurner

Breaking someone's fantasy is hard, but necessary. 💥 NTA

Prof_Fuzzy_Wuzzy | Prof_Fuzzy_Wuzzy

Commenter amazed by $10k tips, others discuss income.

CalgaryChris77 | CalgaryChris77

Financial transparency is key in any relationship 💸💕

asianinindia | asianinindia

Debating whether OP is NAH or NTA for budgeting niece's fiance

ZucchiniCatalyst | ZucchiniCatalyst

Real world realities. 💰

Shot-Association-702 | Shot-Association-702

Taking it slow is always a good idea 👍

AffectionateBite3827 | AffectionateBite3827

Budgeting for a reality check: Niece not ready for marriage 💔

Usrname52 | Usrname52

Helpful advice for a niece's financial future, 🤑💰

Thia-M3762 | Thia-M3762

Realistic budget opened 19-year-old's eyes to marriage, NTA 💰👀

nim_opet | nim_opet

Commenter critiques unrealistic budget, others joke about wealth.

Drive-by-poster | Drive-by-poster

User calls out OP for being ungrateful for being "cut off" from wealthy parents.

TherulerT | TherulerT

Helpful budget advice given with good intentions. NTA 👍

wmciner1 | wmciner1

Tough love pays off in the end, 💰💔

Saxong | Saxong

Helping niece see future, not forcing decision. 🤔🤝

NorthernLitUp | NorthernLitUp

Budgeting reality check for niece's fiancé, NTA 🤑

Newauntie26 | Newauntie26

Budget reality check leads to relationship break-up, NAH 😢

kanna172014 | kanna172014

Budgeting for worst-case scenarios, NTA with a hint of AH.

ChocolateChipShame | ChocolateChipShame

Encouraging advice on love and finances, 🤑💕

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👍 Real talk with a positive outcome. Good job, OP.

TheSciFiGuy80 | TheSciFiGuy80

Teaching financial responsibility, NTA 👍🏼

SomeoneYouDontKnow70 | SomeoneYouDontKnow70

Love isn't just about money, NTA for stopping a mistake 😊

mzpljc | mzpljc

Aunt/uncle budget intervention saves niece from bad fiancé 💰🤵

fatalisticshrug | fatalisticshrug

Helping a niece avoid heartache and stress, NTA 🙌

CatAnne119 | CatAnne119

Family like Andy Bernard? NTA teaches fiancé reality. 😂

Lettuce-Beginning | Lettuce-Beginning

Realistic budgeting advice for a niece's marriage decision 💰

teresajs | teresajs

Real talk 💰: Commenter thinks OP went too far but has a point.

ThatGirlMariaB | ThatGirlMariaB

Teaching budgeting skills is essential, 👍 for this NTA comment.

dwells2301 | dwells2301

Sibling uses financial control to manipulate daughter's life, AITA? 🤔

badnewsfaery | badnewsfaery

Realistic budget helped niece dodge bullet 💰🙅‍♀️

tacwombat | tacwombat

Family's financial control raises red flags, 🤔NTA for budgeting.

ducktruck27 | ducktruck27

💰💍 Niece's fiance is broke. OP made a budget to show reality

juicyjuice706 | juicyjuice706

Giving a reality check to a loved one, NTA 👍

Azurlium | Azurlium

Teaching reality, NTA wins the day! 😎

Solrackai | Solrackai

Setting financial boundaries in relationships, NTA's reasonable explanation.

Himkano | Himkano

Niece learns $$$ lesson from OP, 🙌 for reality check

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A reality check worth its weight in gold! 💰

mypreciousssssssss | mypreciousssssssss

Budget reality check leads to breakup, NTA 👍

starryskies_8 | starryskies_8

Commenter questions adult's entitlement in budgeting for niece's fiancé

Lov3I5Treacherous | Lov3I5Treacherous

👏 Being a wise family guide, OP made a budget to show the reality of marriage to their niece's fiancé, NTA.

DesertSong-LaLa | DesertSong-LaLa

Supportive uncle/aunt helps immature niece realize financial reality 💰❤️

human_doing_things | human_doing_things

Teaching the reality of life's cost, but love should matter 💰❤️

bruuhh1234 | bruuhh1234

Realistic budget wakes up naive niece. NTA 🙌

CK5634 | CK5634

Family threatens financial help, but will they follow through? 💰

Time-U-1 | Time-U-1

Helpful budget advice causes family drama, NTA 🤷‍♀️

Numerous-Remove-511 | Numerous-Remove-511

Being cut off at early thirties, but NTA for budgeting responsibly 👍

Half-Over | Half-Over

Reality check given 🤑 Niece needs to learn the value of hard work 💪

MsBaseball34 | MsBaseball34

Realistic budgeting helps niece face marriage reality, NTA 😊

konnichihuahua28 | konnichihuahua28

Helping with budget leads to breakup, but NAH. 🤷‍♀️

catsaway9 | catsaway9

Realistic budget wakes up bride-to-be, NTA.

NotHisRealName | NotHisRealName

Budget reality check for niece's fiancé, NTA wins.

MamaofTwinDragons | MamaofTwinDragons

👏 Kudos for being a responsible family member! 👍

LittleRedCarnation | LittleRedCarnation