Update: AITA for Revealing the Real Reason Why Me and My Dad Were Never Close?

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This post is an update on a previous post that received a lot of love and support. A man revealed to his dad's wife the real reason why he and his dad were never close. The update reveals that the dad and his wife are splitting up due to the man's revelation. The man is struggling with guilt, but the wife reassured him that he made the right choice.

The man met with his dad and had a conversation about his mom. The conversation was emotional, but in the end, the dad apologized for trying to put the man in a difficult position. The man is processing his emotions with therapy and support from his family and his girlfriend.

The update is unexpected and shocking, revealing the powerful impact that family secrets can have on relationships.

Updates on OP's post about strained relationship with father.

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Internet moms provide emotional support in heartfelt update on family issues ❤️

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Divorce news breaks family apart, leaving daughter in awkward position 😔

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Mom tells me truth about dad, leaves him. Grateful for honesty.

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Dealing with the guilt of a failed marriage. 😔

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Divorcee receives unexpected call from dad amidst heartbreak.

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Protective mom blocks dinner with dad, causing mental distress 😔

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Reconnecting with estranged father - a lesson learned about listening 🤝

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Father shares emotional regret over son's mom's death 💔

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Rebuilding relationships can be tough, but honesty goes a long way 😊

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

Family conflict resolved with tears, therapy, and support ❤️

toldhiswifeee | toldhiswifeee

👨‍👦 A father's love and regret 👨‍👦

The aftermath of revealing the truth about a broken relationship. After his dad's wife decided to leave him, the author was left to process the guilt and heartbreak. While the father and son had a difficult conversation about the past and the death of the author's mother, they both agreed that a relationship was not possible.

The author's girlfriend and family provided support during this emotional time. Read on for the comments and reactions to this heartbreaking story.

Commenter and replies condemn the father's actions and empathize with the late wife. 💔

sinfolop | sinfolop

OP's revelation helped ex-wife see dad's true colors 💔

CheerilyTerrified | CheerilyTerrified

Honesty is the best gift. OP did the right thing ❤️

leslielaughs | leslielaughs

Father blames OP for mother's death, but it's not their fault. Support from aunt and girlfriend helps OP through the pain. Commenters agree father's logic is flawed and selfish.

xavii117 | xavii117

Don't blame yourself, your dad is projecting 😔👉👈

ManaSpellFae | ManaSpellFae

Empathetic comment and replies provide support for OP's difficult situation ❤️

Obvious-Somewhere-11 | Obvious-Somewhere-11

Finding family in those who love you ❤️

Dounesky | Dounesky

Heartbreaking comment about a cruel-hearted father 😢

Primary_Chemistry420 | Primary_Chemistry420

Wishing OP the best in healing from their father's horribleness ❤️

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Terrible dad blamed, commenter offers support and sympathy. 😔

Pohkopf | Pohkopf

The tragic story of coerced pregnancy and its aftermath. 😢

curiousgirl364 | curiousgirl364

A comment about blaming oneself for a loved one's death.

Laramila | Laramila

Finding a new family member? 🤔❤️

The_Fires_Of_Orc | The_Fires_Of_Orc

Heartbreaking story of a father who blamed his child for wife's death 😢

Sheeps_n_Birds | Sheeps_n_Birds

Heartwarming reply to OP, who revealed mistreatment from their dad ❤️

zcsnightmare | zcsnightmare

The twisted logic of blaming a child for their mother's death 🤯

PaperboysDitty98 | PaperboysDitty98

OP's honesty may have led to a divorce 💔

Amring0 | Amring0

A heartwarming message from a mother to a son ❤️

Azalis | Azalis

Blaming an infant for your issues? 🤦‍♂️

thefastleen | thefastleen

Heartwarming support for OP's aunt as a better parental figure ❤️

BatmanDosPampas | BatmanDosPampas

Commenter empathizes with OP and calls out dad's unfair blame.

Crafty-Escape-874 | Crafty-Escape-874

Find true love and move on *in spite of him* 💖

Scary-Holiday-5016 | Scary-Holiday-5016

Honesty is the best policy 👍 You did the right thing!

loopylandtied | loopylandtied

Projection and guilt can be destructive. Good on you OP 🙌

phoenyxperson | phoenyxperson

Setting yourself free from a lying father is a happy ending 🎉

JuliaX1984 | JuliaX1984

Love is in the air! 💖

TastyPerception9603 | TastyPerception9603

A heartfelt comment supporting the OP against their abusive father.

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Heartwarming reply from a loving dad ❤️

meatbeater | meatbeater

A thought-provoking reply to the blame game 🤔

Vampiyaa | Vampiyaa

Heartfelt support for OP's difficult situation. ❤️

RideTheWindForever | RideTheWindForever

OP's dad blamed them for mom's death, now blames them for divorce 😔

ThaneOfCawdorrr | ThaneOfCawdorrr

Empathetic internet stranger offers support and encouragement ❤️

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Your dad needs help, don't blame yourself for his mistakes 🙏

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Kudos to OP for exposing the truth and helping the wife 🙌

AGoodSO | AGoodSO

Heartfelt support for OP's healing and closure. ❤️

Little-Sea-6868 | Little-Sea-6868

A heart-wrenching story of a father's neglect and a mother's love ❤️

Whythebigpaws | Whythebigpaws

Heartbreaking reminder that grief affects us all in different ways 💔

Upbeat-Adorablisa | Upbeat-Adorablisa

Don't blame yourself! Your dad is the reason for the split 😔

pnutbuttercups56 | pnutbuttercups56

Don't blame yourself, they didn't split because of you 👍

ICWhatsNUrP | ICWhatsNUrP

Empathetic comment applauding OP's strength and growth despite neglect.

howdypie51698 | howdypie51698

Don't blame yourself 😔 You're innocent in this situation 🙏

eli121012 | eli121012

Don't blame yourself. You did the right thing ✔

Larry-Man | Larry-Man

Commenter calls out toxic attitude of OP's dad, sparks discussion

KikiLynn42 | KikiLynn42

Heartbreaking comment on losing a part of a loved one.

islandstateofmind21 | islandstateofmind21

NTA. Commenter empathizes and encourages OP to prioritize their well-being.

Shyam09 | Shyam09

A scathing comment on a father's behavior, devoid of redemption 😠

FlamiaTheDemon | FlamiaTheDemon

Heartfelt support for OP's tragic loss and father's abandonment. ❤️

whiteshadd | whiteshadd

Commenter blames OP's father for their mother's death 😕


Positive closure as OP receives apology from dad. 🙌

Itz_Zodia2020 | Itz_Zodia2020

Commenter expresses intense anger towards father with dark humor.

6738ngkdt | 6738ngkdt

Parent blames child for mother's death - not okay 👎

tontovila | tontovila

Heartfelt support for OP and admiration for SM/ex's actions ❤️

hatchetfaces | hatchetfaces

Commenter blames father for blaming them for mother's death 😡

jenesuisunefemme | jenesuisunefemme

Don't blame yourself for their divorce, it's not your fault! ❤️

Cloudswalker | Cloudswalker

Baffled deadbeat blaming innocent baby for mother's death 😡💔

MadamnedMary | MadamnedMary

Mom's love was priceless, dad's selfishness is inexcusable. You're amazing ❤️

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A heartfelt comment about a father's failure and moving on ❤️

Darksusan | Darksusan

Heartwarming support from a fellow mom 💞

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