Young Woman Walks Out of D&D Game After Being Harassed by Male Players

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A young woman joins a coworker's Dungeons & Dragons game to try out IRL gameplay. What she experiences is anything but fun. The all-male group questions her every move and even harasses her character. When she finally walks out, they accuse her of ruining the game. Was she wrong to leave? Find out what Reddit users had to say about this uncomfortable situation.

20-year-old woman seeks new D&D group after harassment

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Excited for IRL D&D game turns into a nightmare for woman.

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Frustrated female player leaves game due to sexist comments 🙅

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Breaking gender norms in D&D character roles 🎲⚔️

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Female player harassed during D&D game by male players 🎲👧

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Female D&D player walks out after harassment and objectification 🚶‍♀️

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Female gamer harassed by male players for leaving D&D game 😠

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Feeling guilty for standing up against harassment in D&D game

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Overwhelming support for woman who left D&D game after harassment 👏

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Don't give up! Keep searching for a welcoming D&D group! 🔍

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🚶‍♀️Woman walks out of D&D game after being harassed by male players

A young woman's excitement to join an IRL D&D game quickly turned into a nightmare after being continuously harassed and objectified by male players. Despite being the only female player, she was met with skepticism and belittlement from the start. Throughout the game, her character was flirted with and harassed by the other player's characters, and her choices were ignored or questioned. The situation escalated when one of the players asked for her character's bra size, causing her to finally walk out.

Although the group blamed her for ruining the game, she has since blocked most of them due to their insulting messages. While she wonders if she should have tried to resolve the issue differently, she ultimately did what was best for her. Sadly, this is not an uncommon experience for women in gaming, and it highlights the larger issue of misogyny and harassment in the gaming community. In the next section, we take a look at some of the responses to this woman's story and what can be done to make the gaming community a safer and more inclusive space for all.

Token girl harassed and sexually assaulted in D&D game - NTA 🚫👨‍👦‍👦

JBagginsKK | JBagginsKK

Woman walks out of D&D game due to male harassment. Pathetic morons.

NerdCrush | NerdCrush

Female player leaves game due to harassment. DM fails to intervene.

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Female D&D player faces harassment and role pigeon-holing from male group. NTA.

PrettyFly4AYaoGuai | PrettyFly4AYaoGuai

Misogynistic behavior in D&D game leads to NTA verdict and actionable hostile work environment

JEFFinSoCal | JEFFinSoCal

Player leaving mid-session due to harassment. NTA, game ruined.

YourWerewolfBF | YourWerewolfBF

Sexual harassment in D&D game. NTA for walking out.

Cheeseissue | Cheeseissue

Female player harassed and leaves D&D game, supported by commenters 👏

Horkersaurus | Horkersaurus

Coworker failed to stop harassment of female D&D player 👎

eggelemental | eggelemental

Male players harassed woman in D&D, NTA for leaving 💪

WhiteLanternDarkClaw | WhiteLanternDarkClaw

Setting boundaries and guidelines at the beginning of games is important 🎲

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Female D&D player leaves group after being harassed by male players 😡

Popular-Talk-3857 | Popular-Talk-3857

Toxic players and poor DM - full on sexual harassment. NTA.

Arctic_DM | Arctic_DM

A woman's traumatic experience in a D&D game.

RazzyZee | RazzyZee

Standing up to harassment: Woman leaves D&D game, NTA 👊

Tear_2bad4U | Tear_2bad4U

Supportive comment acknowledges harassment, hopes for better behavior in future.

Sk111W | Sk111W

DM shows support for player facing sexist harassment from gatekeepers.

LylDuke | LylDuke

Male player fails to handle harassment during D&D game 🎲

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Standing up against harassment in D&D game, NTA 👏🏼

bamf1701 | bamf1701

Female player leaves D&D game due to harassment by males 👩🎲🚶‍♀️

GiantPixi | GiantPixi

Weighted trick-dice to avoid abuse in D&D? NTA for leaving.

SaltyDangerHands | SaltyDangerHands

Finnish girlfriend takes revenge on D&D misogynists as rogue-healer 👊🏻💥

KnaprigaKraakor | KnaprigaKraakor

Female D&D player harassed by males - NTA for leaving.

dfjdejulio | dfjdejulio

Navigating D&D culture as a woman can be tough. #NotTheA**hole

Raddatatta | Raddatatta

Experienced player confirms NTA, offers encouragement to continue playing 🎲

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Female player walks out of D&D game after harassment by males 👩🎲🚶‍♀️

Shadocat42 | Shadocat42

Female DM stands up for player and bans harassers. 🙌

BabyCowGT | BabyCowGT

Female D&D player harassed by male players - NTA for leaving 🎲🚶‍♀️

TheWrongFusebox | TheWrongFusebox

Male ally supports woman's decision to leave D&D game

Texas_Wookiee | Texas_Wookiee

Standing up to harassment in D&D game with a powerful message 💪

draugrswaugr | draugrswaugr

Female D&D player stands up against harassment. Sisters before misters! ✊

Nyhmai | Nyhmai

Female D&D player harassed by male coworkers, NTA for leaving.

Current-Read | Current-Read

Encouraging response to young woman's negative D&D experience 🎲

IBeTrippin | IBeTrippin

Empathetic response to woman's harassment experience in D&D game ❤️

ExileFTW-YT | ExileFTW-YT

Female player harassed in D&D game, stands up against abhorrent behavior 👏

HopelessVetTech | HopelessVetTech

Supportive comment validates victim's experience of harassment. 🙌

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Agreeing with NTA comment, no further discussion in replies.

9okm | 9okm

Empowering response to young woman standing up to harassment. 👏

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Male players' immature behavior drove woman out of D&D game 😒

whateverisnttaken22 | whateverisnttaken22

Walking out of a D&D game due to sexual harassment 👏

ConsistentCheesecake | ConsistentCheesecake

Breaking gender barriers in D&D with respect and equality ♛

Kayliee73 | Kayliee73

Female D&D player calls out sexist tropes and harassment. 🙅‍♀️

GracieBalloon | GracieBalloon

No healer needed: Commenter points out flaws in group argument.

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A clever way to deal with toxic players in D&D 🤔

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Female TTRPG player shares solidarity and offers safe space to learn.

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Experienced gamer shares struggles with male gatekeeping and insecurity 🎮

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Standing up against sexual harassment during a game 👏

MariaInconnu | MariaInconnu

Encouraging words for female D&D players to find supportive groups 💪

Kalista-Moonwolf | Kalista-Moonwolf

Female D&D player stands up to harassment, NTA 👏

besalasestrellas | besalasestrellas

Standing up against workplace harassment is always the right move. ✊

notmydayJR | notmydayJR

It's time to make nerdy spaces inclusive for all 🙌

jerebun | jerebun

Female D&D player stands up against sexist male players 👏👩‍🦰

Penkniferious | Penkniferious

Female D&D players face sexism and disrespect online. 😠

Smooth_Association76 | Smooth_Association76

Empowering response to woman's decision to leave uncomfortable situation ✊

Dashkatae5991 | Dashkatae5991

Female DnD player walks out of game due to sexual harassment 👎

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Walked out of D&D game due to male harassment. NTA.

False-Dream511 | False-Dream511

Good for her! 👏 Standing up to harassment takes courage. #NotTheAsshole

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Commenter applauds woman for standing up against harassment in D&D.

IHateDarlaSherman | IHateDarlaSherman

No surprise no other girls show up to their game 🤷‍♀️

Kaliasluke | Kaliasluke

Standing up to harassment in gaming 🎮🚫

Commonpixels | Commonpixels

Standing up to toxic friends: NTA's experience with D&D.

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