Father Reconnects With Daughter, But Issues Arise When She Asks To Live With Him

Alfe Mercado
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A father who was absent from his daughter's life for 10 years reconnected with her and is now facing a dilemma. When his daughter asked to live with him, he agreed but with one condition. This has caused a rift between him, his daughter, and his mother. The father believes that a child needs to follow rules and be respectful, but his mother disagrees. The daughter's behavior has also been an issue, as no punishment seems to work on her and she can be very disrespectful at times. However, after talking with his daughter, he discovered the real reason why she wants to live with him and it may not be what he expected. Read on to find out how this father handles the situation and what the outcome is.

Father seeks redemption after 10 years of absence from daughter's life

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Challenges of parenting a rebellious daughter 🙍‍♀️

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Nova's mom's parenting style questioned by concerned father 🤔

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Father sets condition for daughter's wish to live with him

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Reconnecting with daughter brings dilemma on living arrangements 🤔

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Strained family dynamics and tough parenting decisions. 👮

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Mom's too busy, can dad handle full-time parenting? 🤔

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Father tries to understand daughter's request to live with him 🤔

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Daughter's sleeping arrangements with dad cause conflict with mom's decision 🤔

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Father and daughter reconnect with love and playful banter ❤️

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A heartwarming moment as a father reunites with his daughter ❤️

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Father reconnects with daughter after 10 years, but issues arise 😔

A man who was once a terrible person, has reconnected with his daughter after a decade. However, he is now struggling with how to parent her. Despite Nova being a generally good kid, she can be disrespectful and no punishment seems to work on her. When Nova asked to live with him, he agreed but with a condition that she follows his rules and is respectful. This decision has caused tension between him and his daughter, as well as his mother. In this post, we will explore the challenges of parenting a child who has been absent from your life for years and the difficulties of enforcing rules. We will also look at the struggles of a father who wants to be there for his daughter but is unsure of how to discipline her. Stay tuned for comments and reactions from the community.

YTA but it's not unfixable. Take her in and focus on building the relationship. Parenting is 95% love, fun, and care and 5% punishments, correction.

Ok-Writer-774 | Ok-Writer-774

Father's conditional love for daughter causes issues with living together 💔

Elean0r89 | Elean0r89

Father expects too much from 10-year-old daughter, YTA. 😒

Jocelyn-1973 | Jocelyn-1973

Parenting isn't just punishing wrong doing. Listen to your mother. YTA.

katamino | katamino

ESH except for the 10-year-old girl. OP needs to welcome her with open arms, show her love, patience, and understanding. Look into why she is asking to live with him, and commit to being a good father.

EmpressJainaSolo | EmpressJainaSolo

Engaging in effective communication with children is important 🗣️

Violetsme | Violetsme

Commenter calls out father for being a deadbeat parent 🔥

arabelladella | arabelladella

Reconnecting with his daughter, but demanding rules, makes him YTA 😒

that_ginger927927 | that_ginger927927

User suggests OP is the a**hole for threatening to abandon daughter.

toby_finn | toby_finn

Parenting advice: Punishment should be rare, not automatic. 🤔

Wild_Cauliflower2336 | Wild_Cauliflower2336

Stranger father tries to discipline daughter, receives backlash. ❌

SpicyMargarita143 | SpicyMargarita143

Reconnecting with your child after a decade is tough. 💔

Fancy_Association484 | Fancy_Association484

Teaching respect is key. 🤝 YTA needs to listen.

Dingdonghellom8 | Dingdonghellom8

Father refuses daughter's request to live with him, YTA

azula1983 | azula1983

Setting rules is fine, but 'you can't stay' is not.

SpawnOfTheBeast | SpawnOfTheBeast

Trust is key when reconnecting with estranged loved ones ❤️

bitterjamjelly9 | bitterjamjelly9

Reconnecting with estranged daughter leads to attitude issues 😕

Common_Frosting_6096 | Common_Frosting_6096

Mixed feelings expressed in comment about father-daughter relationship.

Brainjacker | Brainjacker

Father faces criticism for not understanding daughter's perspective 🤔

unsafeideas | unsafeideas

Helping a troubled child requires patience, therapy and mutual understanding ❤️

Minority2 | Minority2

Reconnecting with daughter doesn't mean you can ignore boundaries 💔

lonnielee3 | lonnielee3

Struggling to connect with daughter after months apart. YTA or NAH?

OkRepresentative3558 | OkRepresentative3558

Have an open conversation with daughter to make things right 👍

bob_dole- | bob_dole-

Reconnecting with estranged daughter, father contemplates living arrangement. NTA.

Missysgettinpissy | Missysgettinpissy

Newbie parent gets understanding feedback on phrasing, learns and improves

NightBard | NightBard

Father's strict parenting raises concern for daughter's well-being.

azula1983 | azula1983

Commenter calls out 'deadbeat dad' and offers advice 💡

Soon_trvl4evr | Soon_trvl4evr

Setting boundaries makes you a better parent. 🙌

Pharmacienne123 | Pharmacienne123

Parenting classes may help both you and your daughter. 😕

Quix66 | Quix66

Positive reinforcement can work wonders in parenting ⭐

cannycandelabra | cannycandelabra

Reconnecting with your daughter isn't easy, but with communication and counseling, it's possible ❤️

Either_Ad_8757 | Either_Ad_8757

Father faces criticism for not stepping up for his daughter.

charleyxy | charleyxy

Setting clear boundaries and rules for daughter's move in. 🚫🤕❤️

SpookyCatLime | SpookyCatLime

Parenting classes recommended for NTA father with rebellious daughter.

Yeppie123 | Yeppie123

Advice for a new parent, make it fun and model good behavior 😊

PeepsDeBeaul | PeepsDeBeaul

Supportive comment suggests talking to daughter about rules and consequences ❤️

Upset_Custard7652 | Upset_Custard7652

Never give up on being a good parent 👏

Scared-Move122 | Scared-Move122

Providing structure can make a difference. Show, don't ask.

PsychologicalSink187 | PsychologicalSink187

Father reconnects with daughter after 10 years of absence ❤️

Redbeard0860 | Redbeard0860

Redemption story: Father goes from YTA to NTA with edit ✨

flax97 | flax97

Parenting a kid like Nova can be tough, but don't give up 💪🏼 Keep revisiting the conversation and try natural consequences 🤔

schwarzekatze999 | schwarzekatze999

Father faces backlash for conditional love, needs to apologize.

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Father seeks redemption after abandoning daughter, but still has work.

Chaosangel48 | Chaosangel48

OP receives advice on how to help emotionally abused daughter 💜

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Reconnected father urged to be responsible parent by commenter 👍

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Heartbreaking comment about Nova 💔

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Commenter calls out OP for being TA towards his 10-year-old daughter 😂

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Reconnecting after 10 years, but expecting obedience? ESH (except the kid) 👎

GeneralChaos2005 | GeneralChaos2005

Father reconnects with daughter after 10 years, but struggles to earn authority.

Medium_Person | Medium_Person

Setting boundaries for daughter doesn't make him the a**hole 🚫🍑

GemofSpice | GemofSpice

Setting boundaries with daughter and expressing love. ❤

No_Dance1739 | No_Dance1739

Parenting crisis: A 10-year-old paying the price. 😔

chronicpainprincess | chronicpainprincess

Reconnecting with estranged daughter, but is love for her unconditional? 💔

aproclivity | aproclivity

User calls out deadbeat dad for putting conditions on daughter's love

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Encourage counseling for both to improve your relationship ❤️

dianem1965 | dianem1965