I Want to Attend My Sister’s Wedding but My Boyfriend Won’t Let Me

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A woman has been dating a man with three kids for two years but has only recently been able to meet them. She's grateful that they've taken to her, but her boyfriend's overprotectiveness is causing issues. When she's invited to her sister's child-free wedding, her boyfriend insists that she can't attend because the kids will be upset. She insists on going anyway, leading to a family conflict. Is she an a**hole for wanting to attend her sister's wedding, or is her boyfriend being unreasonable? Read on to find out.

Dating a single dad - navigating boundaries with his children 🤔

throwsrag546799 | throwsrag546799

Caught between a busy boyfriend and clingy kids 😩

throwsrag546799 | throwsrag546799

Struggling to balance work and relationship, no time for myself 😢

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Boyfriend forbids girlfriend from attending sister's wedding without kids 🚫👰

throwsrag546799 | throwsrag546799

Boyfriend refuses to let her attend sister's wedding 😕

throwsrag546799 | throwsrag546799

Boyfriend won't let me attend sister's wedding, kids caught in middle 😔

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Boyfriend prioritizes stepkids over sister's wedding, insults her. 😡

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Sister's wedding vs. boyfriend? AITA for wanting to attend? 🤔

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Navigating complex family dynamics at a wedding 🤔

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Rebuilding family ties while balancing a busy partner 👥❤️

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Boyfriend forbids girlfriend from attending sister's wedding

Dating a single dad can be tough, but this woman is facing a difficult dilemma. She wants to attend her sister's wedding, but her boyfriend won't let her because he doesn't want to be left alone with his children. The woman has been living with him and his kids for a while and has become very close to them, but now she is facing a conflict between her love for her sister and her responsibilities to her boyfriend's children. Is she being selfish for wanting to attend the wedding, or is her boyfriend too controlling? Read on to find out more about this complex situation and the different perspectives that people have on it.

Commenter advises against controlling boyfriend with red flags 🚩

Redittor72529 | Redittor72529

Boyfriend is using OP as a babysitter and housekeeper 🤦‍♀️. Commenters suggest leaving him.

000-Hotaru_Tomoe | 000-Hotaru_Tomoe

Controlling partner? 🚩 NTA wants to attend sister's wedding.

kr0mb0pulos_michael | kr0mb0pulos_michael

Wake up and see the red flags 🚩. You are just the unpaid help. NTA

unionmom4 | unionmom4

A stepmom facing scrutiny, but trying to do her best 👍

ChinSpin_1986 | ChinSpin_1986

Boyfriend using kids to manipulate OP, leave him and go!

ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple

Hilarious replies to a snarky comment 👀💥

BirdEyrir | BirdEyrir

Boyfriend manipulates and throws girlfriend under the bus. NTA.

gottahavemysay | gottahavemysay

Commenter advises girl to leave controlling boyfriend, with humorous replies.

CommunicationOdd9406 | CommunicationOdd9406

Support for OP, condemning boyfriend's behavior 👍👎

ImStealingTheTowels | ImStealingTheTowels

Supportive comment thread about attending sister's wedding despite boyfriend's control. 🎉

Clover-Blue3 | Clover-Blue3

Run, girl! 🏃‍♀️🚪 You deserve respect and autonomy, not servitude.

wildferalfun | wildferalfun

Red flag alert 🚩. Boyfriend won't let OP attend sister's wedding.

KFCanucklehead | KFCanucklehead

🚩 Not normal. Keeping you from family is an abuse tactic. #NTA

BusyDadGaming | BusyDadGaming

Stranger advises to run from controlling boyfriend (YWNBTA) 👟💨

Charming_Ad6049 | Charming_Ad6049

NTA. Boyfriend's controlling behavior and neglectful parenting are red flags. Attend wedding.

Various-Bridge-325 | Various-Bridge-325

OP's boyfriend is manipulating her into being a bang maid 🤨

TemptingPenguin369 | TemptingPenguin369

Recognize the signs of domestic violence and take appropriate action 💪

Sledge313 | Sledge313

Don't let your boyfriend control you, attend your sister's wedding! 😊

coppeliuseyes | coppeliuseyes

Don't be a live-in maid/babysitter for free! Wake up! 😴💤

issy_haatin | issy_haatin

Dump the controlling boyfriend and live your life. 🚩

Living-Price-314 | Living-Price-314

Don't be a bang nanny, go to the wedding! 🎉

Select-Anxiety-1557 | Select-Anxiety-1557

Stand your ground and run for the hills 💪

tmg2010 | tmg2010

Leave the controlling boyfriend and attend sister's wedding 👏

Pineapple_Wagon | Pineapple_Wagon

Toxic boyfriend controlling sister's wedding attendance, run now 🏃‍♀️

grandoledog | grandoledog

🚩 Possessive and controlling boyfriend? Time to reconsider the relationship.

Ickyhouse | Ickyhouse

OP's boyfriend sounds like he wants a nanny, not a partner 🤔👎

OneWithoutaName2 | OneWithoutaName2

Run, don't walk, away from this manipulative relationship. 🏃‍♀️

5footfilly | 5footfilly

Empowering response encouraging the poster to stand up for herself 💪

StrawberryAstre | StrawberryAstre

Partner controlling and emotionally manipulative, OP should run 🚩

SafiiriNoir | SafiiriNoir

Boyfriend's controlling behavior, NTA should run 🏃‍♀️

curiositycat2022 | curiositycat2022

Boyfriend guilt-trips and uses you for childcare? NTA for attending sister's wedding 🚩

Anxious_Bun | Anxious_Bun

Boyfriend uses partner for childcare. NTA, go to wedding.

Aadorabledead | Aadorabledead

Boyfriend lied to his children and won't let her attend sister's wedding. 🚩

OhioGirl22 | OhioGirl22

Boyfriend wants free babysitting, not supportive partner. 🙄

Livia11176 | Livia11176

🚩 Boyfriend won't let her attend sister's wedding, NTA to reconsider 🤔

Swimming_Tennis6641 | Swimming_Tennis6641

Boyfriend preventing sister's wedding attendance, but commenter says NTA 🤔

MzAnon777 | MzAnon777

Reconsider your relationship with him 🤔 It might be toxic.

bakerandonutmaker | bakerandonutmaker

Don't let him control you. Leave the manipulative father.

RunningOutOfSpac | RunningOutOfSpac

Commenter advises against raising boyfriend's kids in long-term relationship.

sarcasmislife28 | sarcasmislife28

🚩 NTA but red flags everywhere. Run, girl, run! 🏃

invomitous-rex | invomitous-rex

Commenter sympathizes with OP and calls the boyfriend controlling. #NTA 🤨

Trasht79 | Trasht79

Don't let him control you. Keep your independence and boundaries! 🚫🧔🏻

northstarette | northstarette

Boyfriend bad mouthing sister's wedding to his kids? Run girl! 🚩

2tinymonkeys | 2tinymonkeys

Don't let your boyfriend control you or miss your sister's wedding! 👏

boniemonie | boniemonie

Don't ignore the red flags, time to rethink the relationship 💔

Blood-Upbeat | Blood-Upbeat

Commenter calls out boyfriend's behavior and suggests investigation 👀

Just-Internet4780 | Just-Internet4780

Wedding bells 🎊👰🏼🤵🏼 and maybe a new beau 💕

Little_Grogu | Little_Grogu

A dire warning to cut all contact with the boyfriend 😱

Lynfran | Lynfran

🚩 Red flag alert! Controlling partner, NTA for considering leaving.

Swimming_Outside_563 | Swimming_Outside_563

Don't let your boyfriend control you, stand your ground! 💪

ezenn | ezenn

Boyfriend using his kids to control her? 🤔 NTA.

Ladybird1412 | Ladybird1412

Support for commenter's NTA stance against controlling partner 👍

snoozing_ | snoozing_

A commenter calls out toxic behavior in a controlling relationship.

KaiJonez | KaiJonez

Don't let him isolate you from your family. 🚫👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💍

alittlelessbear | alittlelessbear

Leave the bad boyfriend behind 🚶‍♀️, go to the wedding 🎉

Amegami | Amegami

Realizing your partner is using you? NTA, but caution advised 😕

Multipass08 | Multipass08

Supportive comment encourages attending sister's wedding despite boyfriend's objection

ohcommash_t | ohcommash_t

Dump the boyfriend who treats you like an unpaid nanny 💔

Sirenaide | Sirenaide

Commenter defends OP, calls out controlling behavior with angry emojis.

NeedleworkerWarm2477 | NeedleworkerWarm2477

Escape from the controlling boyfriend and embrace freedom! 💃🏻 NTA

RaysUnderwater | RaysUnderwater

Boyfriend isolates OP and manipulates children, NTA for leaving.

Overall-Hour-5809 | Overall-Hour-5809

Don't be played by this dude 🙅‍♀️ NTA

bobledrew | bobledrew

Don't let emotional manipulation control your life. 💪🏻

MrsActionParsnip | MrsActionParsnip

A serious accusation. Share your thoughts on this comment.

abaldwi86 | abaldwi86

Run from his emotional abuse and control. 🏃‍♀️🚪

winesis | winesis

Comment provides unhelpful comparison, sparks no discussion or solutions.

tspoulton | tspoulton

Prioritizing kids over family? 🤔 NTA for wanting sister's wedding

wintajonny | wintajonny

Leaving might be tough, but it's the right thing to do 💪 #NTA

DubiousPeoplePleaser | DubiousPeoplePleaser

Boyfriend using his kids to control you? NTA, run for it! 🚩

ExpressionMundane244 | ExpressionMundane244

Don't let him emotionally blackmail you, you deserve better 🙅‍♀️💔

konstantynopolitanka | konstantynopolitanka

NTA. Red flags everywhere. Pack important documents and leave him. 🚩

allflowerssmellsweet | allflowerssmellsweet

Boyfriend wants free babysitting, NTA for wanting to attend sister's wedding 😒👎

Darth_Hufflepuff | Darth_Hufflepuff