Woman Wonders If She Is An A**hole for Questioning Her Husband's Reaction to Friend's Miscarriage

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A woman is questioning her own empathy after suggesting her husband may need therapy following his friend's miscarriage. Her husband has been acting as if the miscarriage happened to him and she is concerned about his mental health. But when she suggested therapy, her husband got angry and accused her of lacking empathy.

Is she being reasonable or is she an a**hole? Read the full story to find out.

Long-time friend's miscarriage: Wife's concerns, husband's reaction and empathy

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Husband's excitement over friend's pregnancy raises questions for wife 🤔

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Empathizing with friend's miscarriage, woman questions husband's reaction. 💔

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Husband's support for friend's miscarriage leaves wife feeling neglected

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Navigating grief and empathy in complex relationships 🤔

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Husband's intense emotions over friend's miscarriage cause tension at home

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Navigating grief can be tough. Is suggesting therapy insensitive? 🤔

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Struggling with empathy towards husband's reaction to friend's miscarriage 😔

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Is she heartless or reasonable? 🤔

A woman questions if she's being insensitive for thinking that her husband's reaction to his friend's miscarriage is over the top. Her husband's best friend, Bill, suffered a miscarriage at the six-month mark, and the husband has been comforting him ever since.

The woman empathizes with the couple's loss but is concerned that her husband is taking it too hard. He's been acting as if the miscarriage is still fresh, and his emotions are intense. She suggested therapy, but her husband got angry and accused her of lacking empathy.

Now, she wonders if she's the a**hole for questioning her husband's reaction. Read on to find out what other people think and whether or not the woman is being reasonable.

Husband grieving friend's miscarriage like it was his own child. NTA.

PhePheLaFrou | PhePheLaFrou

Husband's unusual grief and relationship with friend raises concerns 🤔

AggravatingPatient18 | AggravatingPatient18

Commenter suggests therapy and raises suspicions about husband's behavior 👀

chaos_coordinator_X3 | chaos_coordinator_X3

NAH commenter gives compassionate advice on grief and therapy.

crnkls | crnkls

Supportive commenter suggests therapy for husband's unusual behavior ❤️

conchitu | conchitu

Supportive comment and replies on handling a partner's grief

Jovon35 | Jovon35

Commenter suggests seeking professional help for husband's strong emotions 🙏

Low-Professional-700 | Low-Professional-700

Commenter clarifies that it was a stillbirth, husband is understandably emotional 💔

GroundBest1105 | GroundBest1105

Supportive comment section offers helpful advice 💛

ConversationTime9793 | ConversationTime9793

Wife seeks advice on husband's reaction to friend's miscarriage. NAH.

learning_moose | learning_moose

A shocking accusation met with a clear denial 🤨

lemons66 | lemons66

Suggesting therapy for husband's unusual reaction to miscarriage - NTA

khrys1122 | khrys1122

Supportive comment validates woman's reaction to husband's extreme grief.

Zestyclose-Egg6211 | Zestyclose-Egg6211

Empathetic comment validates woman's concern about husband's behavior.

Flappityassfwap | Flappityassfwap

Understanding the complexity of grief and being a supportive team ❤️

jayzuzmayte | jayzuzmayte

Couple without kids navigates complex emotions after friend's miscarriage

Malibu921 | Malibu921

Husband's reaction to friend's miscarriage questioned, NAH consensus reached

Snuffaluphagus_1 | Snuffaluphagus_1

Understanding the full picture of grieving a stillbirth and chosen family.

RiByrne | RiByrne

Supporting someone through grief can be tricky 🙏

blueavole | blueavole

Supportive comment suggests therapy for grieving husband, NTA.

Western_Ad4843 | Western_Ad4843

Commenter suspects husband's odd reaction to friend's miscarriage.

Blinky_Kitty_61 | Blinky_Kitty_61

Supportive comment suggests therapy for husband's friend's stillbirth grief.

vgabrielle8a | vgabrielle8a

Is Bill's reaction to his friend's miscarriage offensive? 💭

Any-Kaleidoscope4472 | Any-Kaleidoscope4472

Husband's excessive grief over friend's miscarriage raises concerns. #NTA

ArwenandEowyn | ArwenandEowyn

Commenter explains the severity of miscarriage, calls out OP's lack of support. 😔

iraddney | iraddney

Encourage therapy for grieving husband. 💆‍♂️

Ultronomy | Ultronomy

When secondhand grief becomes a barrier in marriage 🤔

addisonavenue | addisonavenue

Questioning husband's reaction to friend's miscarriage - NTA

Number-Eleven-11 | Number-Eleven-11

Age difference raises suspicion, but commenter is NTA.

DML197 | DML197

Redditors urge OP to encourage husband to seek therapy 💆‍♂️

CommunicationTop7259 | CommunicationTop7259

Husband's strange reaction to miscarriage, NTA seeks explanation 💔

HelenaSaphir | HelenaSaphir

Seeking help: Commenter suggests marriage counseling for troubled relationship 💔

Super_Reading2048 | Super_Reading2048

Supportive comment receives unnecessary accusation. 🙄

Hairy-Budget-6522 | Hairy-Budget-6522

Encouraging support for seeking therapy to address abnormal behavior.

fermat9997 | fermat9997

Suggesting therapy for godparent's reaction to miscarriage 🙏

cdreid26 | cdreid26

Commenter suspects husband's friend might be a pedophile 👀

ThymesToddler | ThymesToddler

Breaking gender stereotypes in grieving; why can't men be emotional?

Schnitzelgruben | Schnitzelgruben

Compassionate response to husband's hidden emotions about miscarriage 🤰

Longjumping_Low1310 | Longjumping_Low1310

Dealing with grief differently and unhealthy attachments.

Funny_Badger_6931 | Funny_Badger_6931

Commenter questions husband's sudden commitment to friend's pregnancy 🤔

Marzipan_civil | Marzipan_civil

Comment shuts down homophobic replies with humor 🌈

AloneAssistant5326 | AloneAssistant5326

Suggesting therapy for grief - a compassionate NTA response ❤️

jstaobsrvr | jstaobsrvr

Commenter suggests husband's reaction is suspicious. 🤔

Fallon2154 | Fallon2154

Questioning husband's odd reaction to friend's miscarriage, NTA receives support.

elliptical-wing | elliptical-wing

The double standard of emotional availability and toxic masculinity 🤔

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