Family Shuns Husband After Mental Health Breakdown, AITA for Declining Niece's Birthday Invitation?

Birthday balloons.
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A man's wife had a miscarriage, and he reacted in a way that his wife's family found inappropriate. The man's traumatic past left him vulnerable, and he was in the middle of a mental health crisis. Instead of being understanding, the family judged him and decided they didn't want him around their kids.

When the man's wife told their niece we wouldn't be able to come to her birthday party because her husband wasn't welcome, the family shamed her for telling the truth. The wife is now questioning if she's the a**hole for telling their niece the truth.

What do you think? Should she have lied to her niece, or did the family deserve to know the truth? Read the full story to find out.

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Mental health is a sensitive topic that should be handled with care. Unfortunately, not everyone understands this. The protagonist of our story has been with her husband for 10 years and things were going well until her husband had a mental breakdown after they lost their baby. He was judged by her family, who were aware of his history, and eventually shunned by them. This has caused a lot of pain and heartbreak for both the protagonist and her husband.

Now, their niece has invited them to her birthday party, but they cannot attend because the husband is not welcome by the other adults in the family anymore. This has caused a rift between the protagonist and her family. It's a tough situation to be in, and it begs the question, AITA for declining my niece's birthday invitation?

The answer is not so simple and requires a deeper understanding of mental health and family dynamics. Let's take a closer look at the situation.

Standing by her husband, NTA tells the truth to niece 🙌

ItsAllJustMalarkey | ItsAllJustMalarkey

Support for NTA OP who declined birthday invitation after husband's breakdown 🤝❤️

JupiterSWarrior | JupiterSWarrior

Hospital staff violated patient privacy, NTA for declining invitation.

Slight-Bar-534 | Slight-Bar-534

Family ignores mental health issue, commenter feels sorry for husband.

Larkiepie | Larkiepie

Hysterical laughter is a real and common stress response 😥

Aliteracy | Aliteracy

Supportive spouse stands up to family, NTA for declining invitation 🙌

Everythingbutmyears | Everythingbutmyears

Family's behavior towards mentally ill husband condemned by commenters. 👎

panalangaling | panalangaling

A heartwarming NTA comment shows how to make it up to the niece ❤️

always-indifferent | always-indifferent

NTA for telling the truth about mental health, despite family pressures. 🙌

Ibba60222 | Ibba60222

Standing up for her husband, OP is NTA 💪🏼

gdex86 | gdex86

Compassionate niece defends husband, family lacks intelligence and compassion 😔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Standing by your partner, NTA 🙌

Pandasrthebest | Pandasrthebest

Honesty might hurt but it's the best policy. NTA 🙏

McflyThrowaway01 | McflyThrowaway01

Supportive comment validates OP's actions and offers sympathy and gratitude.

tosser9212 | tosser9212

Support for spouse amidst family shunning, no A-holes here ❤️

unotruejen | unotruejen

Standing up for mental health, NTA! Family, shame on you!! 👏

No_Requirement_4316 | No_Requirement_4316

Husband's mental health doesn't define his worth as an uncle 🙌

Bitter-Conflict-4089 | Bitter-Conflict-4089

Family shuns husband, NTA declines niece's birthday invite 🎂

GMUcovidta | GMUcovidta

Family shuns husband after mental health breakdown, but OP chooses niece's love ❤️

fred_just_fred | fred_just_fred

Niece caught in the crossfire of family drama, NTA.

Manny_Da_Fatman | Manny_Da_Fatman

Choosing mental health over toxic family, NTA 🙌

kimariesingsMD | kimariesingsMD

Standing up for mental health, NTA shuts down family drama 💪

knittingneedles321 | knittingneedles321

Standing up for oneself against toxic family, NTA wins.

DoesntLikeTurtles | DoesntLikeTurtles

Commenter raises concern over sister's potential HIPAA violation 🤔

MariaInconnu | MariaInconnu

Family shuns husband after mental health breakdown. Commenter passes as NTA.

Fastr77 | Fastr77

Family's lack of empathy for husband's mental health is appalling 😔

semmama | semmama

Being honest about family drama is admirable. ❤

whatcanisay234 | whatcanisay234

12-year-old niece's empathy outshines entire family. NTA 👍

yuhju | yuhju

Supportive comment encourages seeking therapy after mental health breakdown ❤️

WiccadWitch | WiccadWitch

Family's callous attitude towards mental illness, NTA for declining invitation ❤️

Apprehensive_Set_519 | Apprehensive_Set_519

Standing up for her husband, OP is NTA 👏👍

katehater | katehater

Supportive comment section for husband's mental health struggle ❤️

Laraisbored | Laraisbored

Heartbreaking situation where family shuns husband for mental health, NTA

Scary-Alternative-11 | Scary-Alternative-11

Empathetic commenter relates to husband's mental health struggles. ❤️

Kaylek82 | Kaylek82

Nurse sister lacks empathy, family abandons husband. NTA wins.

Technical_Pumpkin_65 | Technical_Pumpkin_65

12-year-old shows more empathy than grown adults, heartwarming 🥰

Extremehotpockets | Extremehotpockets

Compassionate response to husband's mental health breakdown, NTA.

Nevada678 | Nevada678

Standing by your husband through thick and thin, 🙌🏼❤️

Odd_Calligrapher_932 | Odd_Calligrapher_932

Respectful boundaries for family events 👍

veni_vidi_dixi | veni_vidi_dixi

Being honest about not being the a-hole, 🙌🏼

jammy913 | jammy913

👏👏👏 Cheers to a supportive partner and a healing journey!

Fer_evilcupcake | Fer_evilcupcake

Commenter gets support for not attending niece's party, 🙌

Time_Neat_4732 | Time_Neat_4732

Stand by your man! 💪 Your husband's healing matters most.

an0nym0uswr1ter | an0nym0uswr1ter

Family judges husband for mental breakdown, OP NTA for declining invite 🤝

Raevyne | Raevyne

Politely declining niece's invitation, NTA. Family's behavior unacceptable. 😒

TaliesinWI | TaliesinWI

Standing up for husband's mental health, NTA wins this round 👏

Impossible-Peach-985 | Impossible-Peach-985

Surviving eclampsia and NICU, family being callous 🤬 NTA

SaraAmis | SaraAmis

Supportive comment highlights family's lack of empathy, 🤗❤️

Worth-Season3645 | Worth-Season3645

Commenter raises concern for confidentiality breach, 🤔

300091786 | 300091786

Speaking truth or burning bridges? 🔥

Safe_Frosting1807 | Safe_Frosting1807

Medical professional violates HIPPA, commenter supports declining invitation. 👍

HeadBonk | HeadBonk

Supportive comment calls out sister's lack of empathy, NTA.

joppaloppagus | joppaloppagus

Violation of patient confidentiality, NTA for distancing from family.

AuntJ2583 | AuntJ2583

Protecting your family from toxic relatives, 🚫 unsupervised visits

Randa246 | Randa246

Defending husband's mental health, calling out family's lack of empathy 😔

WillLoveCoffee4Ever1 | WillLoveCoffee4Ever1

Commenter defends OP's decision to tell truth about family situation 💪

wildshard13 | wildshard13

Standing up for you when you disagree - NTA 🙌

UrHumbleNarr8or | UrHumbleNarr8or