Is It Fair That My Girlfriend Slacks Off at Work Yet Earns Nearly Twice as Much as I Do?

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A tech worker is questioning whether his girlfriend is overpaid and underworked compared to him. They both work in tech, but he works in network infrastructure support while she's a safety validator for software at a consulting firm. He recently discovered that she makes nearly twice as much as him, and since they've been working from home, he's observed that her daily schedule is vastly different from his.

She works about 4 and a half hours daily and blocks work-related messages outside of 9 to 5, while he works nonstop 8.5 to 9.5 hours a day. He voiced his frustration to her, and she accused him of undervaluing her and being jealous.

Do you think he's the a**hole in this situation for questioning her work ethic and salary?

A tale of two tech jobs with a pay gap 👩💻👨💻

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Discovering the truth about my girlfriend's workday struggles 😕

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Job hopping pays off: Should you consider it too? 💸

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WFH has revealed stark differences in our daily schedules 😴

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When the morning meeting is the only task of the day 😴

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Lazy or efficient? Exploring morning routine of high-earning girlfriend.

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Balancing work and household chores, is she actually slacking off?

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When work-life balance goes too far 🤷‍♂️

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Is your girlfriend really working or just pretending to work? 🤔

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Work-life imbalance? This person works nonstop while girlfriend earns more.

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When your girlfriend earns more but works less 🤔

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Balancing work and life, my girlfriend's pay is well-deserved 💰

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Is slacking off at work ethical when earning six figures?

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Navigating salary differences with communication and understanding 💰

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My girlfriend earns more despite slacking, AITA for complaining?

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🤔 Is it fair that his girlfriend earns nearly twice as much while working half the time? 🤔

Working from home has given this man a glimpse into his girlfriend's daily schedule and he's not impressed. While he works nonstop for 8.5 to 9.5 hours a day, his girlfriend only works for about 4.5 hours, taking breaks for showering, breakfast, and household chores. He feels that she's overpaid and slacking off at work, but she argues that she was hired for her knowledge and it's not his place to undervalue her.

She also chose this job for work-life balance, not just for the salary. But is it fair that she earns nearly twice as much while working half the time? Share your thoughts and opinions about the situation in the comments below.

OP is jealous of girlfriend's dream job and salary, YTA.

MadPiglet42 | MadPiglet42

Don't be the jealous a**hole, focus on your own work 💪

rawsugar87 | rawsugar87

Expecting girlfriend to work harder for less money? YTA 💸

NotThatKarin | NotThatKarin

Work smarter, not harder! 💪🏼 Your girlfriend is a pro at it.

giantbrownguy | giantbrownguy

Job hopping for the win! 🙌

wolfcaroling | wolfcaroling

Don't be the invisible hand, bro. YTA 🙄

internetpointsiguana | internetpointsiguana

Jealousy or justified? A comment on work ethics. YTA.

RonitSarangi | RonitSarangi

Partner's higher income means more disposable income, YTA needs change.

anabolic_beard | anabolic_beard

Commenter called out for being bitter and jealous 😒

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

Her performance is up to her employer, not you. YTA 😒

Saint-Redfield | Saint-Redfield

OP is jealous of girlfriend's well-paid, low-stress job. YTA.

Noelle_Frostmas | Noelle_Frostmas

Don't be jealous of your girlfriend's work-life balance 😒👩‍💻🏋️‍♀️. Salary generally reflects experience and expertise, not hours worked.

skcup | skcup

Stop putting her down, be happy for her, and job search 😊

iamnoking | iamnoking

Don't hate, congratulate! Your GF negotiated that salary 💰👏

that-1-chick-u-know | that-1-chick-u-know

Misogyny at work. YTA needs to check his privilege 🙄

patrickroseapthocary | patrickroseapthocary

Don't undervalue your girlfriend's work just because she has better work-life balance 😒

Throwaway894326y4333 | Throwaway894326y4333

Stop comparing and spying on your girlfriend at work, YTA 👀

ConstructionNo2780 | ConstructionNo2780

Commenter accused of jealousy and misogyny for girlfriend's success 💁‍♂️🤷‍♀️

Agreeable-Asparagus | Agreeable-Asparagus

Don't be a workaholic, appreciate your girlfriend's productivity 😊

Revolutionary-Bus448 | Revolutionary-Bus448

Don't blame her for having a better job, YTA. 🙄

Melight_ | Melight_

Managing jealousy when your partner earns more 💰

SG-2000 | SG-2000

Commenter calls out toxic masculinity in relationship. 💪

IllustriousComplex6 | IllustriousComplex6

Don't hate, appreciate efficiency 💪

stares-motherfuckily | stares-motherfuckily

Don't be the a**hole, focus on your own job 🙄

Remarkable-Echo9427 | Remarkable-Echo9427

Don't hate the player, hate the game 🤷‍♂️

holigramj56 | holigramj56

Don't let jealousy cloud your perception of your partner's success 🎉

purpleit11 | purpleit11

User called out for being bitter over girlfriend's salary. YTA 👎

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Don't be a dick, find a better job 😜

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Don't be an a**hole, be inspired by your girlfriend's success! 💪

the7thfollower | the7thfollower

Don't be an a**hole, her pay isn't your problem 😒

ObamaGuava | ObamaGuava

Ouch! A sarcastic comment about the OP's insecurity.

Sassrepublic | Sassrepublic

Jealous OP calls girlfriend out for slacking, YTA confirmed 💼🙄

Sunkisst88 | Sunkisst88

Don't hate the player, hate the game 🤷‍♀️

sun_shine4 | sun_shine4

Commenter called out for jealousy and entitlement 😬

Lizardxxx | Lizardxxx

The incredulous response that says it all 🙄

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Life isn't fair, learn from your girlfriend's career moves 💪

mference123 | mference123

Being jealous makes you the a**hole 😒

gh8ter | gh8ter

Commenter jealous of girlfriend's high-paying, low-effort job 🤑

megzies1997 | megzies1997

Your girlfriend is doing well and you're just jealous. 💁‍♂️

thefallenS117 | thefallenS117

Dealing with a jealous partner? Here's what NOT to do 😬

ScubaCC | ScubaCC

Don't compare jobs or pick fights with your SO 😒

srslyeffedmind | srslyeffedmind

Don't be the a**hole. Appreciate your partner's worth. 🤝

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Think you work harder than someone on a factory floor? 💪🏽💼 YTA

fluffybullet | fluffybullet

Mind your own business and find a better paying job 💼

MiaouMiaou27 | MiaouMiaou27

Commenter gets called out with YTA judgement 👀

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Stop criticizing your girlfriend and start working on yourself 💪

Waxdoll42 | Waxdoll42

Work smarter, not harder. YTA gets a reality check.

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Commenter calls out OP for being insecure and a loser. 💥

terrificsmith | terrificsmith

Encouraging skipping breaks and lunch? YTA and a bad influence 😒

vixprd91 | vixprd91

Commenter calls OP out for being petty and jealous 😒

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Commenter defends girlfriend's work habits, calls her a queen 👑

lucaatiel | lucaatiel

Don't be jealous! She earned her 6 figures, live your dream 😎

eljohoto401 | eljohoto401

Commenter calls OP 'green jelly bean' for criticizing girlfriend's success - YTA 😒👎

ThisIsSoDamaris | ThisIsSoDamaris

Commenter is called out for valuing their own job too highly 💼🤔

ZealousEar775 | ZealousEar775

Don't be jealous, just enjoy life 💰

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You're the a**hole, according to her. 💁‍♀️

AnotaCocktail | AnotaCocktail

Don't be envious, be motivated! 💪👨‍💼

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Partner criticized and insulted for expressing concern over pay disparity.

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Maximizing quality of life: Partner's success vs. dissatisfied employee

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