Mother Refuses to Change Twins' Names Despite Father's Disapproval

Parents holding the feet of their twin babies.
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A mother took to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for naming her twins without the father's input after he left her during her pregnancy. The father fought for 0% custody but demanded the mother change the twins' names. Read on to find out if she's the a**hole in this situation.

Single mom stands by twins' names despite ex's disapproval 😎

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Father fights for custody but only gets visitation rights 🤔

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Father absent during twins' NICU stay, disputes their names.

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Mom stands firm on naming decision despite dad's disapproval 💪

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Father disapproves of 'stuck up' names for twins 🙄

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Father demands name change for twins in custody battle 😠

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Parental dispute over twins' names sparks heated argument. AITA?

craftyhold598 | craftyhold598

Mother refuses to change twins' names despite father's disapproval 😡

A mother of newborn twins is facing backlash after refusing to change their names despite their father's disapproval. The couple, who planned the pregnancy and were engaged, had minimal contact during the pregnancy and the father fought for 0% custody. The mother, who named the twins and gave them her last name, refused to change their names after the father demanded it.

The situation escalated into a tense argument, with both parties accusing each other of being unreasonable. The post raises questions about parental rights and responsibilities, as well as the importance of communication and involvement during pregnancy and childbirth.

What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

NTA. Ex doesn't get to show up after birth and start making demands 🙅‍♀️

fizzbangwhiz | fizzbangwhiz

Father forfeits right to name opinion after abandoning twins. 👍


Document every interaction with the father and seek legal advice 📝

Agent_Onions | Agent_Onions

Father demands twins have his last name after being absent.

Mothkau | Mothkau

Father can't change his mind after the fact. NTA wins!

DinaFelice | DinaFelice

Father puts name over health, NTA mom stands her ground 🙌

BirBirPatPat | BirBirPatPat

Mom stands up to father's name change disapproval. NTA!

SaikaTheCasual | SaikaTheCasual

Support for the poster and subtle jab at the father 😏

Wide-Employment-7922 | Wide-Employment-7922

Father wants to disapprove of twins' names but not pay child support? 🤔

cyaveronica | cyaveronica

Absent father can't dictate twins' names. NTA.

Stormy_0686 | Stormy_0686

Mom claps back at absent dad over twins' names 👏👶

totalitarianbnarbp | totalitarianbnarbp

Unapologetic response shuts down father's control - 🙌

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Mystery breakup leaves father disapproving twins' names. 😱

eveyyyx3 | eveyyyx3

Mom stands her ground on twins' names without deadbeat dad.

Iamghostboooooo | Iamghostboooooo

You go girl! 💪🏼 Keep those names and your power.

Hater-Bot | Hater-Bot

No need to force visitation, focus on raising your babies! 🙌

Wwwweeeeeeee | Wwwweeeeeeee

Support for single mother keeping twins' names despite dad's disapproval 🙌

Giggle_interrupted | Giggle_interrupted

Not the a**hole for choosing your children's names 🤷‍♀️

waterballoontits | waterballoontits

Father's opinion on names disregarded. NTA wins.

wickedlucky214 | wickedlucky214

NTA for refusing to change your twins' names. Restraining order? 🤔

OverlyLeftLesbian | OverlyLeftLesbian

Supportive comment defends mother's naming decision against selfish father.

Economy-Cut-7355 | Economy-Cut-7355

Commenter sympathizes with father's situation. 😢

henofthewoods1 | henofthewoods1

Father disapproves twins' names, comment defends mother's decision. 🤷‍♀️

SlinkyMalinky20 | SlinkyMalinky20

Mother stands her ground against unsupportive father 🙅‍♀️

pendemoneum | pendemoneum

Single mom stands her ground against absent father's demands. 💪

JessicaT1842 | JessicaT1842

Commenter supports mother's decision to keep twins' names. 👍

4682458 | 4682458

Father's disapproval doesn't matter if he won't be involved 🤷‍♀️

PaperOperator | PaperOperator

Father's disapproval backfires, now twins keep their names. 😎

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Get a lawyer and document everything. Protect yourself. 📝

BarRegular2684 | BarRegular2684

Mother stands up for her twins' names despite absent father's opinion

vivaciousjo | vivaciousjo

Father has no right to name children he abandoned. NTA 👏

chaosandpuppies | chaosandpuppies

Father can't pick names and not visit. NTA.

Word-Artist | Word-Artist

Father had his chance to give input, now he has no say 👍

neeksknowsbest | neeksknowsbest

Supportive comment, no need to change names. 🤝

Binky_Thunderputz | Binky_Thunderputz

Choosing the mother's last name can have its advantages 😉

DamInterstelar | DamInterstelar

Legal advice for new parents, but cherish every moment ❤

WeeWooBooBooBusEMT | WeeWooBooBooBusEMT

Set boundaries and get legal help to protect your twins 🚫👨‍⚖️

6poundpuppy | 6poundpuppy

Empowering response! Taking ownership of naming children is important! 🔥

No-Mud-8971 | No-Mud-8971

Confident ruling in favor of the OP 🙌

thisisstupid202020 | thisisstupid202020

Mother stands her ground on twins' names, netizens approve 👍

SpicyMargarita143 | SpicyMargarita143

Father wants legacy but not the responsibility. NTA. 🤷‍♀️

Tablesafety | Tablesafety

Father treats twins like trophies, NTA for not changing names 🏆

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Congrats on the twins! Dodged a bullet with the ex.

Hungry-Inside2572 | Hungry-Inside2572

Father abandons twins, gets mad at names. NTA, pound sand.

monkey_doodoo | monkey_doodoo

Commenter defends OP's decision, shut down YTA accuser 🙅‍♀️

Kitties_Whiskers | Kitties_Whiskers

Father's entitlement questioned by commenter for twins' names

dairybear_ | dairybear_

Surprising judgment shift in comment section. NTA reigns supreme 👀

Arc_Sodium | Arc_Sodium

Mother stands up for naming rights, community shows support 👏

bunny-bean | bunny-bean

NTA, but drama-filled family history may be at play 👀

ProfessionalCar6255 | ProfessionalCar6255

Curious minds want to know 🤔

GoddessOfMagic | GoddessOfMagic

Mom stands her ground on twin names despite absentee father.

WinEquivalent4069 | WinEquivalent4069

Mom stands her ground on twins' names. NTA wins.


Stand your ground! Your choice, your kids, your name. 💪

Greenelse | Greenelse

Lawyer up and stand your ground 💪👩‍⚖️

spaceyjaycey | spaceyjaycey

Mother stands her ground on twins' names against controlling father.

LowImagination3028 | LowImagination3028

Empowering response to father's disapproval of twins' names 👏🏼

charlotta98 | charlotta98

Commenter defends mother's decision, insults father with humor

Intelligent-Kiwi-574 | Intelligent-Kiwi-574

Commenter defends mother's decision with fiery language 🔥

Coco_Dirichlet | Coco_Dirichlet

Single mom stands up to absent father - no apologies given 🙅‍♀️

Bizarre_Protuberance | Bizarre_Protuberance

Father gets what he wanted, but complains. NTA 🤷‍♀️

AlreadyGone77 | AlreadyGone77

Your babies, your choice on names, and anything else! 😎

greeniewillow | greeniewillow

Supportive comment acknowledges tough consequences of co-parenting with ex.

ELSquared71 | ELSquared71

Father wants his cake and eats it too. NTA 🙌

bulletproof_fae | bulletproof_fae

Mother stands firm on twins' names, commenters support her decision 🤜👊🤛

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Father disapproves of twins' names, but he's the real AH. NTA 👏

KombuchaBot | KombuchaBot

Controversial comment sparks agreement and disagreement 🔥

cyberpunkcr | cyberpunkcr

Empathetic reply supports mother's decision to keep twins' names.

Lokie_Firestar | Lokie_Firestar

Mom keeps twins' names despite dad's disapproval, comment praises

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Supportive comment section congratulates mother on twins' names.

psyk2u | psyk2u

Support for not being the a**hole in naming dispute.

shadynasty55 | shadynasty55

Mother stands her ground against father's naming demands. #NTA 🙌

FitOrFat-1999 | FitOrFat-1999

Mother stands her ground on twins' names. NTA wins.

TreeTrunkTrick | TreeTrunkTrick

Sperm donor has no say in naming or raising children. 👍

Serafnet | Serafnet

Clear NTA judgement with no room for debate 🙅‍♀️

jiveassjake | jiveassjake

Father's disapproval of twins' names backfires, commenters side with mother 🤷‍♀️

lapsteelguitar | lapsteelguitar