Wife Threatens to Stop Paying for Everything Including Husband's Therapy

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When a husband with depression and anxiety refuses to look for a job, his wife threatens to stop paying for everything including his therapy. She feels that he is milking it and not taking responsibility for his life.

But his mother and in-laws are accusing her of holding his progress back. Who is the a**hole in this situation? Read on to find out.

When depression takes over, is it fair for one partner to bear the financial burden?

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Breaking the stigma: Wife supports husband's therapy 💪

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Husband's post-transformation unemployment causes financial strain on marriage

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Husband's unemployment and spending habits cause strain in marriage 💰💔

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Wife threatens to cut off husband's therapy in heated argument.

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Husband refuses job search while living lavish life, wife threatens stop funding.

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In-laws interfere with couple's argument causing more tension 👀

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Is the husband milking his therapy? Wife threatens to stop paying.

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Wife faces backlash for refusing to pay for husband's therapy.

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Wife threatens to stop paying for husband's therapy 💸

When a spouse is dealing with mental health issues, it can be difficult to know how to support them. For one woman, paying for her husband's therapy seemed like the best decision. However, after months of him using her money for non-essential items and refusing to look for a job, she's had enough.

In a heated argument, she threatened to stop paying for everything, including his therapy. Now, she's facing backlash from her in-laws who believe she's hindering his progress. But is she in the wrong?

Let's dive into the complexities of supporting a partner with mental illness and the challenges that come with it.

NTA. Don't let him mooch off you, speak to a lawyer.

indiajeweljax | indiajeweljax

Enabling husband's lavish lifestyle jeopardizes wife's mental health. NTA.

annrkea | annrkea

Partner not a child. In-laws pushing responsibility. 🤔


Protect your finances and help your husband address his issues 💰💔

Full_Worldliness1480 | Full_Worldliness1480

Husband's reckless spending puts wife in a tough spot 💸

ImCold555 | ImCold555

Wife threatens to stop paying for everything, seeks therapist's letter.💔

zwergschnauzer | zwergschnauzer

Divorcee relates to OP's situation, advises to stand strong. NTA 👍

Opinionated_123 | Opinionated_123

Limiting extras is fair, but couple's therapy can help communication 💬

stroppo | stroppo

Supporting mental health doesn't mean being someone's ATM 💵

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NTA. Time's up for this husband's free ride 🕰️⏰💳

noonecaresat805 | noonecaresat805

Supporting a partner with mental health struggles shouldn't be a one-way street 🤝

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

Depression isn't an excuse for laziness. 💪🏽

Kam_the_devil | Kam_the_devil

Time to cut the cord 🚪. No more therapy on you 💰

FondantHelpful | FondantHelpful

Supporting spouse threatened to cut off finances for irresponsible husband.

slothonstiltz | slothonstiltz

Commenter calls out husband's laziness in unsympathetic tone 💪

B1gD0gDaddy | B1gD0gDaddy

NTA but seriously, why are you with this entitled man? 💔

Independent_Big3345 | Independent_Big3345

Suggest couple's therapy, depression can be complicated and powerful 💪

NoiseProvesNothing | NoiseProvesNothing

Suggesting marriage counseling if husband won't get a job. 💰💑

Leading_Ad6748 | Leading_Ad6748

Spouse threatens to cut off support for husband's therapy 💰


Husband's mommy issues lead to ultimatum in marriage. 😬

NoreastNorwest | NoreastNorwest

Return the watch and make a budget. NTA.

Savelives4love | Savelives4love

Wife considers cutting off husband's finances for being a leech. 💸

HolyUnicornBatman | HolyUnicornBatman

Commenter suggests divorce for husband's lack of partnership. 💔

tatasz | tatasz

32-year-old man calls mommy, commenter says NTA

jsmith7450 | jsmith7450

Husband's therapy or financial stability? A tough choice for wife. 💰🤔

HarlesBronson | HarlesBronson

Commenter supports wife's decision to stop paying for therapy

World_Explorerz | World_Explorerz

Don't let him use you as a charity or an ATM 💰

[deleted] | [deleted]

Financial support vs financial abuse. Navigating a tough situation. 💰

4614065 | 4614065

Time to separate? NTA suggests husband should handle his journey

NotSoBunny | NotSoBunny

Stand up for yourself! 🚫 Don't let him take advantage.

MrsJonesy2012 | MrsJonesy2012

Commenter advises tough love for husband's financial dependence. 💸

PsychologyAutomatic3 | PsychologyAutomatic3

Husband's financial abuse and useless spending. NTA.

BrilliantInferno | BrilliantInferno

Encourage partner to do charity work, discourage luxury expenses. NTA.

evilfazakalaka | evilfazakalaka

Questioning the root of depression, potential parasitic behavior 🤔

TwoCentsPsychologist | TwoCentsPsychologist

Partner's mental health issues aren't an excuse for not working 💼💔

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Spouse with anxiety takes advantage of partner financially. NTA.

Aethermist88 | Aethermist88

Struggling in your marriage? A trial separation could be helpful. ❤️

SnooFoxes4362 | SnooFoxes4362

Is this a case of copy-pasting gone wrong? 🤔

GodHug | GodHug

Setting boundaries with a childish husband 🙄

Icy_Conversation_612 | Icy_Conversation_612

NTA gets validation, but why? 👀

lattelane682 | lattelane682

Is he really taking advantage of her? 🤔

captainkaiju | captainkaiju

Protect your finances and prioritize your mental health. 💰💆‍♀️

lady_forsythe | lady_forsythe

Support your partner, but not at the cost of your own well-being 💔

K-no-B | K-no-B

Commenter suggests dropping husband off at his mother's house.

Ardeeke | Ardeeke

Overcoming mental illness is a battle, but trying is key 👊

MrsLoki12Odin | MrsLoki12Odin

You go, girl! 💪 Stand up for yourself and your finances.

Suitable-Cod-1381 | Suitable-Cod-1381

Setting a monthly budget might help in this situation 💰

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Set boundaries for your own happiness. 💪🏼

SlinkyMalinky20 | SlinkyMalinky20

Generosity has its limits, but beware of potential consequences 💰⚠️

Knitsanity | Knitsanity

Husband's prolonged therapy: NTA for wanting him to work.

FoolMe1nceShameOnU | FoolMe1nceShameOnU

Encouraging couples therapy to navigate husband's unemployment and mental health 💑

ijustwanttoaskaq123 | ijustwanttoaskaq123

🚫💰Time to cut ties and move on from deadweight spouse.

darkstarr82 | darkstarr82

Time to cut the cord and let him grow up 🚶‍♂️


Take control of your life and kick the leech out 🦐

Namshoke | Namshoke

Financially supporting your partner may lead to future alimony payments 💸

edemamandllama | edemamandllama

Husband called a leech in NTA comment section 💸🐛

Thermitegrenade | Thermitegrenade

Time to reevaluate the marriage? 💔 NTA

Hemantobarish | Hemantobarish

Insist on couples therapy, he's setting himself up for luxury 🤑

tnscatterbrain | tnscatterbrain

NTA! But will the husband understand and change?

WeOwnThis2017 | WeOwnThis2017

Not the a**hole, but is therapy really the issue here?

bizianka | bizianka

Commenter struggles with mental health, but still contributes to household.

SparkleTheFarkle | SparkleTheFarkle