Man Refuses Cousin's Interpretive Dance at Father's Funeral

A funeral service.
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Funerals are a time for mourning and paying respects to those who have passed away. But what if a family member wants to perform an interpretive dance at the service? That's the dilemma facing one man who recently lost his father. His cousin, who has Asperger Syndrome, wants to perform a dance to bid farewell to the deceased, but the man is opposed to the idea.

He feels it would be disrespectful and turn the funeral into a spectacle. The situation has caused a rift in the family, with the man's aunt and cousin upset with him. Read on to find out more about this family drama and weigh in on whether the man was in the wrong.

Dealing with a difficult loss and unwanted interpretive dance.

da_rooster913 | da_rooster913

Respectful funeral planning turns sour over cousin's dance proposal.

da_rooster913 | da_rooster913

Funeral is not the right venue for cousin's interpretive dance 💃

da_rooster913 | da_rooster913

Debate over funeral etiquette sparks drama and hurt feelings.

da_rooster913 | da_rooster913

Respectful funeral or interpretive dance? AITA for refusing cousin?

da_rooster913 | da_rooster913

Man denies cousin's funeral dance request 😕

A man who lost his father was asked by his cousin with Asperger Syndrome to perform an interpretive dance at his funeral. However, he refused the request as he believed it was not the right venue to showcase his cousin's moves to Candle in the Wind. He also thought that it would not be respectful to his father and that his dad would have hated the thing turning into a spectacle.

The man's aunt and his cousin were upset with his decision and accused him of not letting his cousin say goodbye to his father in his own way. The man told his cousin that he was more than welcome to have a dance at the grave whenever he wants but the funeral wasn't that time.

Despite his explanation, his cousin was still upset and accused him of being insensitive. Now, the man is questioning whether he was in the wrong. What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below about the situation.

Commenters share their own bizarre funeral stories. 💃🕺

cjack68 | cjack68

A cousin's interpretive dance at a funeral, NTA's response is hilarious 😂

Dont-ask-me-sht | Dont-ask-me-sht

Funeral decorum is dead 💀💃🏻. Condolences, hope you manage well.

DarkObserver0457 | DarkObserver0457

Plan ahead and prevent cousin's dance from interrupting the funeral 💃

disney_nerd_mom | disney_nerd_mom

Rejecting interpretive dance at funeral deemed not a-hole behavior 💃

jinxdrain | jinxdrain

Autistic adults agree: cousin's interpretive dance at funeral is inappropriate 💃

HannahCatsMeow | HannahCatsMeow

Funeral is not the place to seek attention with interpretive dance 💃

jstonesworld | jstonesworld

Karaoke funeral raises eyebrows and questions among mourners 🎤👀

rakfink | rakfink

NTA refuses cousin's interpretive dance at father's funeral. Priest to blame.

bad_ash_d | bad_ash_d

NTA commenter finds recording funeral dance for YouTube rude 😒

ghostcraft33 | ghostcraft33

A beautiful and unexpected twist to a funeral 😍

Vaanja77 | Vaanja77

Comment section turns into SNL debate 🤔🎭

Mangosaregreat101 | Mangosaregreat101

Discovering interpretive dance at a funeral, a surprising TIL moment 🕺

PomeloPepper | PomeloPepper

Respectful decline of cousin's funeral performance, sympathy expressed. 🙏

llpss | llpss

Commenter finds humor in cousin's funeral dance request.

cosmosandcalendula | cosmosandcalendula

NTA. Funeral talent shows are a cringy disaster. 💃

Invisigoth2113 | Invisigoth2113

Condolences for the loss. Appreciation for the wife's humor 😂

1999falcon | 1999falcon

NTA. Commenter finds humor in cousin's awkward interpretive dance.

lifetooshort4bs | lifetooshort4bs

Commenter invites interpretive dancer to their future funeral 🕺

sylvanwhisper | sylvanwhisper

NTA shuts down cousin's funeral dance performance 🙅‍♂️

whatsmypassword73 | whatsmypassword73

Support for standing ground on awkward interpretive dance at funeral 😬

Ok_Bumblebee_2869 | Ok_Bumblebee_2869

Aunt's request adds insult to injury. NTA for refusing.

Friendly_little_wasp | Friendly_little_wasp

Supporting NTA's decision to refuse cousin's funeral dance request 😂

[deleted] | [deleted]

Funerals are solemn events, not dance parties 💃🏻

bzsbal | bzsbal

Commenters agree: NTA for refusing inappropriate funeral performance.

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Support for not participating in bizarre dance at funeral 💃

[deleted] | [deleted]

Savage yet justified response to cousin's funeral dance 💃

BlueRFR3100 | BlueRFR3100

Respectful rejection of cousin's funeral dance proposal. 😬

Background_Fraggle | Background_Fraggle

Commenter and reply find humor in funeral dance refusal 🕺😂

Beanisfreaked | Beanisfreaked

Aunt prioritizes cousin's need over yours at father's funeral 😒

Odd_Pride_4841 | Odd_Pride_4841

Respectful funeral etiquette prevails over self-aggrandizing interpretive dance. NtA.

Consistent_Street_25 | Consistent_Street_25

Creative solutions to unwanted interpretive dance at funerals 🎶🕺

afridgetoofar1 | afridgetoofar1

Agreeing with the judgment without even reading the story! 🙌

Embarrassed_Hat_2904 | Embarrassed_Hat_2904

Laughter at a funeral? 😅 It's not always inappropriate.

PomegranateReal3620 | PomegranateReal3620

Rejecting interpretive dance at a funeral - NTA

LittleRedCarnation | LittleRedCarnation

Proof of funeral interruptions can be priceless. NTA.

Borageandthyme | Borageandthyme

Setting boundaries at funerals. NTA for standing your ground. 💪

d_spitz | d_spitz

Condolences to the OP, NTA comment brings needed validation.

ArwenandEowyn | ArwenandEowyn

Encouraging recording of personal dance expression at funeral.

malmikea | malmikea

User sympathizes with OP's refusal of interpretive dance at funeral 💃

Mystral377 | Mystral377

Bizarre funeral request denied, reminiscent of Curb Your Enthusiasm 😳

[deleted] | [deleted]

Funeral etiquette 101: No interpretive dance without consent 😬

Neenknits | Neenknits

NTA, Napoleon Dynamite vibes in funeral interpretive dance refusal 🕺🚫

ClutchingMyTinkle | ClutchingMyTinkle

Set boundaries at funerals too. NTA 🙌

Neenknits | Neenknits

Clear judgement, no a**holes here. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Funerals should be respectful, not a dance off. 💃🕺

lapsteelguitar | lapsteelguitar

Commenter thinks the situation is ridiculous, and we agree 🙄

Adventurous-Pool6284 | Adventurous-Pool6284

Funeral turned into a circus 🎪 with confessions and singing 🎤

Former-Income4899 | Former-Income4899

Interpretive dance at a funeral? Hard pass. NTA.

JenantD80 | JenantD80

Executor offers alternative to interpretive dance at funeral. NTA.

YoflamA | YoflamA

Exclude disrespectful family members from important events. 🙌

Lani_567 | Lani_567

Respectful funeral etiquette: No interpretive dance performances allowed. 🙅

Pand0ra30_ | Pand0ra30_

Respect for the deceased should be prioritized over cousin's closure 💍

g1rlfr1day | g1rlfr1day

Commenter questions similarity to Bob's Burgers in funeral story

24hourcoffeeandpie | 24hourcoffeeandpie

Commenter finds situation hilarious, declares NTA obviously.

Glock0Clock | Glock0Clock

Not the a-hole for declining interpretive dance at funeral 💃

narnarqueen | narnarqueen

Condolences for your loss, NTA. Hope you have better support.

whereyouatdesmondo | whereyouatdesmondo

Standing up for oneself with Asperger's: NTA 🙌

Glorwen_79 | Glorwen_79

Suggesting alternative way to honor deceased without disrespecting funeral.

SwampWitch1995 | SwampWitch1995