Birthday Dinner Dilemma: AITA for Turning Away a Friend who didn't RSVP?

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A birthday dinner should be fun and stress-free, but what if an uninvited friend shows up? This is the dilemma that one Redditor had to face when their friend failed to RSVP to their dinner invitation. Despite sending reminders and making a reservation for the RSVP'd guests, the uninvited friend showed up and caused chaos. The Redditor had to turn their friend away, which resulted in hurt feelings and accusations of being a bad friend. But was the Redditor really in the wrong? Read on to find out and share your thoughts on this AITA post.

RSVP deadline missed: Friend uninvited from birthday dinner 🍴

ga2az | ga2az

Uncertain RSVPs causing birthday dinner drama 🤔

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Importance of proper RSVP etiquette for birthday dinner reservations 🎂

ga2az | ga2az

Friend shows up unannounced to birthday dinner causing seating dilemma 😕

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No RSVP, no food 🍽️ Was I wrong? 🤔

ga2az | ga2az

Friend didn't RSVP, AITA for turning him away? 🤔

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OP defends not assuming friend's attendance despite hearsay rumors. 🤔

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🎂🤔 Did I do the right thing? Turning away an unannounced guest.

Planning a birthday dinner can be stressful, especially when dealing with friends who don't RSVP. One Redditor faced a dilemma when a friend who didn't respond to the invitation showed up unannounced. Despite sending a mass text and reminding everyone to RSVP, the friend who didn't respond showed up right as the hostess was asking for the name of the reservation. The Redditor was forced to turn the unannounced guest away, causing drama and hurt feelings. Did the Redditor make the right decision? Should they have assumed the unresponsive friend was coming? Join the debate in the comments below.

NTA. Friend didn't RSVP twice and blamed OP for it. Cut him off from your life, you don't need this toxic and manipulative embarrassment of a human being for a friend. 😒

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NTA for turning away friend who didn't RSVP. End of story.

ClothesQueasy2828 | ClothesQueasy2828

NTA, no RSVP is a no. You did due diligence being nice to someone with questionable manners. 😒

snarkbeastie | snarkbeastie

Proper etiquette prevails! 🙌 NTA for turning away uninvited guest.

Minute-Inflation-713 | Minute-Inflation-713

Polite decline of uninvited guest. 🙌

Atala9ta | Atala9ta

Friend missed 2 chances to RSVP, fair to not wait 2 hours. 🤷‍♀️

BadgeForSameUsername | BadgeForSameUsername

Stand your ground with RSVPs, NTA 🙌

waywardjynx | waywardjynx

Friend tries power move, fails and becomes salty 🧂

wifeofamarriedman | wifeofamarriedman

Don't let inconsiderate friends ruin your plans 🙅‍♀️

bLaZe_iT_420_69 | bLaZe_iT_420_69

NTA for turning away friend who didn't RSVP 👏

Yen-sama | Yen-sama

NTA for turning away unresponsive friend. Basic courtesy needed. 🤷

SataySue | SataySue

Don't be a party pooper- RSVP on time! 🎉

[deleted] | [deleted]

NTA! RSVPs are important, he's the AH for not responding 😒

bkupisch | bkupisch

Don't be a party pooper! NTA for enforcing RSVP etiquette 🎉

dwotw | dwotw

Being an adult means RSVPing, not my fault 🤷‍♂️

candie_bits | candie_bits

Friendship fiasco: When a flaky friend flakes too far.

Sarah-Magoo | Sarah-Magoo

NTA shuts down entitled friend for not RSVPing 😈

Legitimate_Effect_27 | Legitimate_Effect_27

Clear communication wins! NTA 🎉

Few_Improvement_6357 | Few_Improvement_6357

Don't let an inconsiderate friend ruin your birthday plans 🎉👋 #NTA

equimot | equimot

Respect the RSVP! 🙄 NTA for sticking to plans.

sjyffl | sjyffl

NTA for turning away friend who didn't RSVP 👏

Kla1996 | Kla1996

Polite decline of uninvited guest sparks discussion on boundaries.

OpenRepair4390 | OpenRepair4390

Friend didn't RSVP to birthday dinner, turned away: NTA

BaffledMum | BaffledMum

Clear communication saves the day! 🎉👍

anathema_deviced | anathema_deviced

No harm, no foul 🤷‍♀️

Mysterious_Dealer_32 | Mysterious_Dealer_32

Standing up to rudeness: NTA calls out a no-RSVP friend 👊

BrinaGu3 | BrinaGu3

No RSVP, no dinner 🍽️ NTA sets the rules.

Linzy23 | Linzy23

Don't be a no-show! RSVP and don't keep your friends waiting 😊

tempeluvr | tempeluvr

Ignoring an RSVP is rude 😒, but is a group text any better?

lizyouwerebeer | lizyouwerebeer

Friend didn't RSVP but got turned away: NTA wins!

saltyfeminist_ | saltyfeminist_

Don't be a flake! NTA for holding friend accountable 🍽️

Iamnotanorange | Iamnotanorange

Friend didn't RSVP, expected everyone to wait for him. NTA 🙅‍♂️

nikokazini | nikokazini

Friend didn't RSVP but expected an invite? NTA for saying no 🚫

GadaboutTheGreat | GadaboutTheGreat

Friend couldn't RSVP twice but expected an invite? 🤔 NTA.

EvilFinch | EvilFinch

Friend's lack of RSVP leads to birthday dinner drama 🎂

Noir_Shield | Noir_Shield

Friend refused to RSVP and got turned away: NTA 🙅‍♂️

Repulsive_Kick_6764 | Repulsive_Kick_6764

Friend doesn't RSVP, throws tantrum at birthday dinner. NTA.

riot1man | riot1man

Don't be an a**hole, RSVP! 🙄

chrystalight | chrystalight

NTA for turning away friend who didn't RSVP 💁‍♀️

The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver

NTA for turning away friend who didn't RSVP 👏

JimmyGodoppolo | JimmyGodoppolo

Friend didn't RSVP? 🤔 NTA, don't stress it! 🎉

emotional-empath | emotional-empath

NTA! Friend was inconsiderate, but can't add chair at hibachi 🍟

The1TrueClairvoyant | The1TrueClairvoyant

RSVP is not optional 🙅‍♂️ NTA for turning away friend.

abitchything | abitchything

Shitty friend didn't RSVP? NTA for turning him away 🙄

Gingernut2712 | Gingernut2712

Skipping RSVP is a headache for planners, NTA for denying entry.

ShutInLurker | ShutInLurker

RSVPs are important, manners matter! 🙅‍♂️📩

Noladixon | Noladixon

No RSVP, no dinner 🍽️. NTA for not waiting.

Worth-Jaguar-3167 | Worth-Jaguar-3167

Friend did not RSVP but showed up. NTA for turning away.

playcavalier | playcavalier

Friend doesn't RSVP, expects everyone to wait 2 hrs 🤨

kmccarr | kmccarr

Lesson learned 🎂 NTA for turning away rude friend.

heathenliberal | heathenliberal

Friend didn't RSVP to birthday dinner, got upset when asked to leave. NTA 🙅‍♀️

NephilimFire | NephilimFire

Friend didn't RSVP but expected a seat at dinner. NTA 👍

No-cheese-o | No-cheese-o

Taking the blame for someone's mistake? NTA 🙅‍♀️

evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee | evieeeeeeeeeeeeeee

Friend's lack of RSVP makes them TA 😒

FragilousSpectunkery | FragilousSpectunkery

Don't mess with reservations - NTA for expecting RSVPs 🍽️

Hulkemo | Hulkemo

Taking responsibility is key - NTA 👍

fmlwhateven | fmlwhateven

NTA! Let's RSVP people, it's not that difficult 🙄

milli-mill | milli-mill

NTA! RSVPs are important 📲

BillyJayJersey505 | BillyJayJersey505

Friend disregards RSVP, shows up anyway. NTA for turning away.

Piper6728 | Piper6728

Agreed! RSVPs are common courtesy ✔

Hefty_Host_4504 | Hefty_Host_4504

Being indecisive has its consequences 🤷‍♂️ NTA

Errvalunia | Errvalunia

"NTA - You sent a mass text, did he not read it? 😑"

jettaboy04 | jettaboy04

Be an adult and RSVP or be treated like a child 🙄

slayalldayyyy | slayalldayyyy

Friend expected everyone to wait 2 hours without RSVPing 🤔

Professional-Lynx124 | Professional-Lynx124

Always RSVP! 🙄 NTA for enforcing it.

Chaoticgood790 | Chaoticgood790

No response? No problem. NTA wins this dinner dilemma 🍽️

Dogmother123 | Dogmother123

RSVP: Respect the host, show up or cancel! 💌

Jaded-Size-7898 | Jaded-Size-7898

Gendered expectations of RSVP? Let's discuss 👀

boydbunny03 | boydbunny03

Don't be a party pooper, RSVP like a responsible adult 🎉

ProfessionalFinger76 | ProfessionalFinger76

Bringing uninvited guests to a restaurant is not cool 🙅‍♂️

NotesToTheNoteable | NotesToTheNoteable

Friend didn't RSVP and got turned away: NTA wins 👍

MissSmoking | MissSmoking

Taking responsibility for your actions is important. 🙌

Content-Potential191 | Content-Potential191

Teaching common courtesy: NTA for turning away friend 👍

MK_King69 | MK_King69

Friend didn't RSVP and backed out last minute. NTA.

deadpansuzanne | deadpansuzanne

You're not the a**hole for turning away the unresponsive friend 🙅‍♀️

StarNightLynx | StarNightLynx

Directly reach out to friends who don't RSVP 📞🤔

c_burton | c_burton