Woman Refuses to Cook for Boyfriend's Friends, Causing Rift

Serving food from a pan.
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Cooking for one's partner is a common gesture of love, but where do you draw the line? For one woman, cooking for her boyfriend's friends became too much to bear. Her boyfriend's friends couldn't cook and relied on her to provide meals, even going so far as to ask for deliveries to their homes.

She finally put her foot down, leading to a rift between her boyfriend and his friends. Was she right to refuse, or was she being selfish in this situation? Read on to find out what happened.

Boyfriend's sociability causing issues with girlfriend's cooking?

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Boyfriend's 15+ single 'brothers' and a cooking ultimatum 🍴

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Boyfriend's friends love her cooking, but is it too much?

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Woman sets boundaries with boyfriend's friends over cooking responsibilities 🍲

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Boyfriend's friend demands free dinner, girlfriend refuses. Drama ensues.

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Woman stands up for herself, refuses to be personal cook 🙅‍♀️

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Cooking conflict causes relationship rift. AITA for refusing?

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When is it too much to cook for your partner's friends? 🍴

A woman has been refusing to cook for her boyfriend's 15+ guy friends who can't cook and are always over at their place. After agreeing to only cook three times a week for her boyfriend, he hosted a dinner party at their place for his friend's birthday without consulting her and sent her a list of meals to cook for all his friends.

She refused, causing an argument and leaving him to go to the restaurant with his friends. Was she in the wrong or is it unfair for her to be expected to cook for so many people? Read on for reactions and comments to this story.

NTA- Cooking is a life skill, not a gender role. Boyfriend's disrespect is outrageous.

saeranhaeyo | saeranhaeyo

Boyfriend wants a den mother, not a life mate. NTA.

garthastro | garthastro

Stand up for yourself 💪. Don't be his personal chef 🍴.

Zibellina | Zibellina

NTA, don't let them voluntell your cooking services. 👩‍🍳

talibob | talibob

"Men" in their 30s can't cook and can't find girlfriends. 🙄 NTA

Adept_Neck_3178 | Adept_Neck_3178

Boyfriend acting like a cooking pimp 💁‍♂️👨‍🍳

fancythat012 | fancythat012

Cooking individual orders for boyfriend's friends? NTA for refusing!

Puzzleheaded-Jury312 | Puzzleheaded-Jury312

NTA for refusing to cook, BF's behavior is outrageous 😤

Kris82868 | Kris82868

Boyfriend expects girlfriend to cook for his friends, she says no.

CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000

Cooking for boyfriend's friends not your job. NTA 💪

LucidOutwork | LucidOutwork

Standing up for herself, OP is praised for refusing to cook.

mxcrnt2 | mxcrnt2

Setting boundaries is hard when they're gradually crossed. 🤷‍♀️

Left-Car6520 | Left-Car6520

15 guys can't cook and they're all single? 🚩 NTA, OP.

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Cooking isn't a gender-specific skill; don't be their mommy forever 😏

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Leave him! 🚪🏃‍♀️ Don't let him treat you like a servant. 👩‍🍳

tatasz | tatasz

Boyfriend's friends expecting too much. NTA for setting boundaries. 🙅‍♀️

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Setting boundaries in relationships is important 👏

Kitchen-Arm-3288 | Kitchen-Arm-3288

Girlfriend puts her foot down after being taken for granted 💪

SexyMaiOfficial | SexyMaiOfficial

Boyfriend expects girlfriend to cook for his friends, she refuses. NTA.

Anizziepluto | Anizziepluto

Commenter calls out boyfriend's friends, supports poster. 👍

bists | bists

Boyfriend's lack of loyalty exposed by girlfriend's simple request 😳

AntheaBrainhooke | AntheaBrainhooke

NTA for refusing to cook for selfish boyfriend and friends.

lauribro | lauribro

Boyfriend's friends treat girlfriend as personal chef, NTA for refusing.

QuitaQuites | QuitaQuites

Cook what you want, not what others demand 🍴👩‍🍳

Natural_Candidate_74 | Natural_Candidate_74

Red flags in relationship, RUN! 🚩🏃🏻‍♀️

Swimming-Item8891 | Swimming-Item8891

OP's boyfriend's friends are entitled and deadbeats. 🙄

TherulerT | TherulerT

Army vet calls out lack of self-reliance in cooking dispute 🍴


Boyfriend prioritizes friends over girlfriend's feelings and time. 🙄

J-D-96 | J-D-96

Boyfriend made her their mom? 👀 NTA for setting boundaries.

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Commenter suggests alternatives to cooking for boyfriend's friends.

KeepLkngForIntllgnce | KeepLkngForIntllgnce

Don't be a cook-for-hire 🔥. Stand your ground 💪

doodleywootson | doodleywootson

Stand up for yourself! 🙌 You're not a personal cook.

Bathsheba02 | Bathsheba02

Empowering response to entitled friends and basic life skills 🙌

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Red flag alert! Don't settle for someone who treats you poorly 🚩

throwaway22242628 | throwaway22242628

Consider turning your passion for cooking into a business 💼👩‍🍳

foxyfree | foxyfree

Stand up for yourself, cooking isn't the only way to contribute! 🍴

anxiousjellybean | anxiousjellybean

Stand your ground! 🙅‍♀️ Find a partner, not a chef! 👩‍🍳

updownclown68 | updownclown68

Boyfriend wants a short order cook with benefits 🍳💔

3Heathens_Mom | 3Heathens_Mom

Military guys stay single for a reason 🤷‍♀️ NTA

birchwtf | birchwtf

Empowering response to men who can't cook and impose on women.

smarthagirl | smarthagirl

Grown men can learn to cook 🍳👨‍🍳🙌

RebeccaMCullen | RebeccaMCullen

Woman stands up to immature boyfriend's friends, not the a-hole

plm56 | plm56

You're NTA for standing up to your disrespectful boyfriend 🚫👨‍🍳

Interesting_Sea_7815 | Interesting_Sea_7815

Don't be a servant to your boyfriend and his friends. 💪

Old-Poet6587 | Old-Poet6587

Setting boundaries in relationships is important 👍

warrinerdot | warrinerdot

Don't be a pushover, hire a chef! 💪🍴

byebyelovie | byebyelovie

Boyfriend's entitled friends assumed she'd cook, but she's NTA

phiwong | phiwong

NTA refuses to cook for boyfriend's friends, hilariously calls them overgrown children

EffectiveMinute4625 | EffectiveMinute4625

Boyfriend's friends expect free labor and disrespect boundaries. NTA.

bettytomatoes | bettytomatoes

Supportive comment urges person to end toxic relationship 👍

sweetlife04 | sweetlife04

Stand up for yourself and don't let anyone devalue you! 💪

Otherwise-Drama-8586 | Otherwise-Drama-8586

Commenter labels situation as 'not a relationship', NTA

TheOneAndOnly75 | TheOneAndOnly75

Standing up for herself! 🙌 Cooking for a crowd ≠ short order cook. #NTA

Parking_Mission5687 | Parking_Mission5687

Cooking for boyfriend's friends? Let him do it. 💁‍♀️

Violet351 | Violet351

Find someone who doesn't treat you like a servant! 👋🏼

ApprehensiveJello7 | ApprehensiveJello7