Cooking for one’s partner is a common gesture of love, but where do you draw the line? For one woman, cooking for her boyfriend’s friends became too much to bear. Her boyfriend’s friends couldn’t cook and relied on her to provide meals, even going so far as to ask for deliveries to their homes.
She finally put her foot down, leading to a rift between her boyfriend and his friends. Was she right to refuse, or was she being selfish in this situation ? Read on to find out what happened.
Boyfriend’s sociability causing issues with girlfriend’s cooking?

Boyfriend’s 15+ single ‘brothers’ and a cooking ultimatum

Boyfriend’s friends love her cooking, but is it too much?

Woman sets boundaries with boyfriend’s friends over cooking responsibilities

Boyfriend’s friend demands free dinner, girlfriend refuses. Drama ensues.

Woman stands up for herself, refuses to be personal cook ♀️

Cooking conflict causes relationship rift. AITA for refusing?

When is it too much to cook for your partner’s friends?
A woman has been refusing to cook for her boyfriend’s 15+ guy friends who can’t cook and are always over at their place. After agreeing to only cook three times a week for her boyfriend, he hosted a dinner party at their place for his friend’s birthday without consulting her and sent her a list of meals to cook for all his friends.
She refused, causing an argument and leaving him to go to the restaurant with his friends. Was she in the wrong or is it unfair for her to be expected to cook for so many people? Read on for reactions and comments to this story .
NTA- Cooking is a life skill, not a gender role. Boyfriend’s disrespect is outrageous.

Boyfriend wants a den mother, not a life mate. NTA.

Stand up for yourself . Don’t be his personal chef .

NTA, don’t let them voluntell your cooking services.

“Men” in their 30s can’t cook and can’t find girlfriends. NTA

Boyfriend acting like a cooking pimp ♂️

Cooking individual orders for boyfriend’s friends? NTA for refusing!

NTA for refusing to cook, BF’s behavior is outrageous

Boyfriend expects girlfriend to cook for his friends, she says no.

Cooking for boyfriend’s friends not your job. NTA

Standing up for herself, OP is praised for refusing to cook.

Setting boundaries is hard when they’re gradually crossed. ♀️

15 guys can’t cook and they’re all single? NTA, OP.
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Cooking isn’t a gender-specific skill; don’t be their mommy forever
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Leave him! ♀️ Don’t let him treat you like a servant.

Boyfriend’s friends expecting too much. NTA for setting boundaries. ♀️
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Setting boundaries in relationships is important

Girlfriend puts her foot down after being taken for granted

Boyfriend expects girlfriend to cook for his friends, she refuses. NTA.

Commenter calls out boyfriend’s friends, supports poster.

Boyfriend’s lack of loyalty exposed by girlfriend’s simple request

NTA for refusing to cook for selfish boyfriend and friends.

Boyfriend’s friends treat girlfriend as personal chef, NTA for refusing.

Cook what you want, not what others demand

Red flags in relationship, RUN! ♀️

OP’s boyfriend’s friends are entitled and deadbeats.

Army vet calls out lack of self-reliance in cooking dispute

Boyfriend prioritizes friends over girlfriend’s feelings and time.

Boyfriend made her their mom? NTA for setting boundaries.
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Commenter suggests alternatives to cooking for boyfriend’s friends.

Don’t be a cook-for-hire . Stand your ground

Stand up for yourself! You’re not a personal cook.

Empowering response to entitled friends and basic life skills
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Red flag alert! Don’t settle for someone who treats you poorly

Consider turning your passion for cooking into a business

Stand up for yourself, cooking isn’t the only way to contribute!

Stand your ground! ♀️ Find a partner, not a chef!

Boyfriend wants a short order cook with benefits

Military guys stay single for a reason ♀️ NTA

Empowering response to men who can’t cook and impose on women.

Grown men can learn to cook

Woman stands up to immature boyfriend’s friends, not the a-hole

You’re NTA for standing up to your disrespectful boyfriend

Don’t be a servant to your boyfriend and his friends.

Setting boundaries in relationships is important

Don’t be a pushover, hire a chef!

Boyfriend’s entitled friends assumed she’d cook, but she’s NTA

NTA refuses to cook for boyfriend’s friends, hilariously calls them overgrown children

Boyfriend’s friends expect free labor and disrespect boundaries. NTA.

Supportive comment urges person to end toxic relationship

Stand up for yourself and don’t let anyone devalue you!

Commenter labels situation as ‘not a relationship’, NTA

Standing up for herself! Cooking for a crowd ≠ short order cook. #NTA

Cooking for boyfriend’s friends? Let him do it. ♀️

Find someone who doesn’t treat you like a servant!
