Friend's Dating Struggles: AITA For Suggesting He Lowers His Standards?

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Are physical standards necessary in a relationship? One guy seems to think so, and his friend disagrees. They say beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but what happens when your standards keep you from finding love? Read on to find out what this guy's friend said that upset him. Are you the A-hole for telling someone to lower their standards? Dive into this debate and decide for yourself.

Your friend's got the money, but where's the love? ❤️

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Navigating dating standards: Is my friend too picky?

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Is his high standard for women affecting his love life? 🤔

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Navigating dating standards: When to compromise looks for intelligence?

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Encouraging a friend to lower his dating standards. Is it okay?

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Friend's obsession with beauty affecting his dating life. 💔

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Navigating tough love: Helping a friend with dating standards 💔❤️

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Suggesting to lower dating standards: tough love or A-hole move?

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Is it wrong to suggest a friend lower their dating standards? 🤔

A friend's dating struggles can be hard to watch, but is telling them to lower their standards ever okay? In this post, a 22-year-old man is faced with the dilemma of whether or not to tell his friend to reconsider his approach to dating. Despite his positive qualities, this friend has never had a girlfriend due to his exclusively high standards regarding physical attractiveness and success. The author believes that his friend's parents have given him a distorted view of his appearance and worth, leading him to miss out on potential relationships. However, when the author mentions lowering his standards, the friend angrily gives him the cold shoulder. Is the author in the wrong here? Is it ever okay to suggest a friend lower their standards? Join the conversation in the comments below.

Encouraging someone to lower standards: a sensitive topic 😬

Emotional_Koala_ | Emotional_Koala_

Encouraging support for helping friend navigate dating challenges. 🙌

Dull-Owl-1763 | Dull-Owl-1763

Encouraging a friend to adjust their dating standards: a delicate balance 💕

BeneficialDark1662 | BeneficialDark1662

Lowering standards won't fix his ego problem. Stay away, ladies. 😒

BloodberrySmoothie | BloodberrySmoothie

Why being a 10 doesn't guarantee a 10/10 relationship 😕

Disastrous-Low-5606 | Disastrous-Low-5606

NTA for calling out friend's shallow dating standards. 🚫👀

123197123 | 123197123

Compromising on looks for success - a fair trade? 🤔

WiseRequirement9277 | WiseRequirement9277

Being a true friend means telling hard truths 💔 #NTA

ariesemerald | ariesemerald

When your friend asks for advice, but you still gotta tread lightly 😅

Lady-Faye | Lady-Faye

Navigating the harsh truth of a friend's unrealistic dating standards 😔

kimariesingsMD | kimariesingsMD

Commenter expresses concern for friend's entitled behavior 😬

x_cft_x | x_cft_x

Being a good friend means giving tough love sometimes 💔

lmoran916 | lmoran916

Being honest with a friend about their attractiveness, NTA 🤔

Donnathesinger | Donnathesinger

NTA's comment and reply - play on words with 'Inceltervention' 😂

Snowconetypebanana | Snowconetypebanana

Is he really looking for love or just another opportunity to win? 🤔

Megpyre | Megpyre

Being honest with a friend about their dating standards. 👍

medievalsandwich34 | medievalsandwich34

Supportive friend gives helpful dating advice 🤝❤️

JudgeDrake | JudgeDrake

The commenter suggests that the friend defines himself by the attractiveness of his partner and will probably settle for an attractive but not successful female. 💔

Fancy_Avocado7497 | Fancy_Avocado7497

Sometimes the truth hurts 🤷‍♂️ Let him learn on his own.

neochimaphaeton | neochimaphaeton

Commenter compares situation to American Idol, receives relatable reply.

survival-nut | survival-nut

Inner beauty matters more 🌟 Therapy can help him see it

blinkinbanana | blinkinbanana

Misreading 'magna cum laude' as 'mega cum lord' 😂

maximumchippies | maximumchippies

Friend's unrealistic dating standards: NTA for suggesting he lower them 🤦‍♂️

LongjumpingLab3092 | LongjumpingLab3092

Breaking dating standards: NTA for giving advice with empathy ❤️

MommaLokiLovesYou | MommaLokiLovesYou

Not the a**hole for calling out his shallow behavior 😒

shinsegae20092013 | shinsegae20092013

Why should women have to lower their standards for men who put in minimal effort? 🤔

PurpleFlavoredCherry | PurpleFlavoredCherry

Honesty is key 🔑 Friendship requires truth, even if it hurts. #NTA

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Realism is key 🔑 NTA for suggesting lowering standards

SosFreeze | SosFreeze

A fedora won't fix his dating problems 🎩😕

TheOneSloth | TheOneSloth

Helping a friend navigate dating and self-image at 22 🙌

IndependentFilm4353 | IndependentFilm4353

👀 Ouch, harsh but fair. When standards are unrealistic...

Idontfallforstupid | Idontfallforstupid

Be honest, but be kind. 🤝

YoureNotSpecialLol | YoureNotSpecialLol

Letting him lower his standards: good intentions, bad outcome 😕

cinnamon_dreams | cinnamon_dreams

Lowering standards for love: A relatable struggle for many men.

Major_Bother8416 | Major_Bother8416

A true friend speaks honestly, NTA for giving dating advice 🤝

babyru926 | babyru926

Commenter expresses concern for friend's incel-like behavior. 🤔

RushHot6174 | RushHot6174

Encouraging a friend to date based on personality, NTA.

familyofrobot | familyofrobot

Encouraging therapy without consent is not okay 🚫

Milothechocoman | Milothechocoman

Suggesting to quit porn and reddit to improve dating life. 📵

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Dating tip: Focus on building depth as a person 👨‍🎓👨‍💼

TheGoldDragonHylan | TheGoldDragonHylan

Honesty hurts: Friend in denial about looks and dating standards. 😕

Asaneth | Asaneth

Lowering standards in dating: age matters, but so does maturity 😌

laughingBaguette | laughingBaguette

🚫 Shallow friend deserves rejection, commenter says. #NTA

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Helpful advice on dating standards. 💕

londonmyst | londonmyst

Lowering standards: when to stop and when to keep trying? 🤔


Commenter advises friend to improve appearance to attract women. 💇‍♂️💪

Own-Safe-4683 | Own-Safe-4683

Lowering standards: A cautionary tale 😔

Bambi_MD | Bambi_MD

Friend's unrealistic standards could lead to a loveless relationship. 😔

dell828 | dell828

Encourage your friend to focus on compatibility, not just looks 😊

secretly_ethereal_04 | secretly_ethereal_04

Looks aren't everything: NTA suggests friend lower standards 👀

TopAd7154 | TopAd7154

Support for suggesting to lower standards and avoid toxic friend.

tpmac44 | tpmac44

Real talk with a hint of humor 💯🤣

U2hansolo | U2hansolo

Steering a friend away from an incel path. 👍

Colywog25 | Colywog25

Honesty isn't always the best policy 😬

skirril | skirril

Helping a friend with dating standards 🙌🏼

LobsterLovingLlama | LobsterLovingLlama

Breaking out of a grand delusion: NTA for suggesting standards?

Thyumos | Thyumos

Advice given, now give him space to figure things out 💭

floydfan | floydfan

Rejecting women for looks? 🤢 OP had a valid point.

Megmelons55 | Megmelons55

Don't settle for a dragon, wait for your princess 👸🏼💕

TA-Sentinels2022 | TA-Sentinels2022

Being a true friend means telling the honest truth. 👍

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Facing reality: friend holding out for unrealistic standards. NTA.

SuperSassyPantz | SuperSassyPantz

Don't judge a book by its cover! 📖 NTA for suggesting to lower standards.

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Being a good friend means being honest, but it's all about delivery 💁‍♂️

Background-Pitch9339 | Background-Pitch9339

You're a true friend! 🤝❤️

Carlsoti77 | Carlsoti77

Encouraging advice to support a struggling friend's possible closeted sexuality 🌈

Ecofre-33919 | Ecofre-33919

A heartwarming NTA comment with insights and empathy ❤️

0kairosclerosis | 0kairosclerosis

Encouraging self-care could lead to better dating prospects 😊

Doll_girl516 | Doll_girl516

Comparing your friend to a Seinfeld character 😂

elfbentovertheshelf | elfbentovertheshelf

Friend's shallow dating strategy exposed in NTA comment.

stiletto929 | stiletto929

Satisfying read exposing entitled men's dating struggles 🍿👀

Defiant_Breakfast308 | Defiant_Breakfast308

Kindly suggesting to lower standards: NTA, friend appreciates it 💕

ActHealthy6468 | ActHealthy6468