Man Gives Mother Ultimatum Over Adopted Daughter

Alfe Mercado
Man with a baby
Unsplash | Devon Divine

A 22-year-old man adopted his friend's neglected baby, and his parents disapproved. The young man is currently studying for the MCAT, but his parents believe he made a mistake by adopting the child. The man's mother consistently comments about his twin brother and how he is living his life to make him feel like he made a mistake. The young man got fed up and gave his mom an ultimatum, telling her she either needed to accept the situation or opt out. Read more about this story and the young man's decision to adopt his friend's neglected baby.

Selfless act of adopting baby from neglectful birth mother ❤️

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Overcoming judgment from parents while pursuing dreams for adopted daughter

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Feeling judged by mother for not having a partner 😒

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Man confronts mother over adopted daughter, gives ultimatum for acceptance.

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Clarifying some points about the previous discussion 👍

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MCAT not a must for med school: post sparks discussion.

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Confident about adoption decision with support from friends and plan. 🙌

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Determined parent shuts down adoption debate with powerful statement 🙌

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Updates on the story, what happened next?

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Parent defends love for adopted daughter amidst criticism. ❤️

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Adoptive parent shuts down criticisms on parenting choices. 🙅🏻

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Man stands up to mother's criticism over adopted daughter 🚫👵

A man who adopted his daughter after her birth mother neglected her has grown tired of his mother's comments about how he threw his life away. Despite keeping up with his studies and preparing for the MCAT, the man's mother continues comparing him to his twin brother and girlfriend. He has given her an ultimatum: either accept the situation and support him or opt-out and not have a relationship with his daughter. The man has a childcare plan and support outside of his family, and he can be a parent. Nowadays, it's important to remember that family dynamics come in all shapes and sizes. In the next section, let's examine what people say about this man's adoption decision and his mother's reaction.

Single dad stands his ground against unsupportive family. 🙌

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Parental support matters. NTA stands firm in adopting daughter. 👍

paradox_jinx | paradox_jinx

Mother tries to control adult son's decision to adopt daughter 😒

Stoat__King | Stoat__King

Adopting without a support system: Are you prepared? 🤔

MaccysPeas | MaccysPeas

Is 22 too young for med school and single parenthood? NAH.

FairieWarrior | FairieWarrior

Heartwarming support for man adopting daughter despite gender stereotype

theshadowppl9 | theshadowppl9

Support and resources can make parenting during med school doable 👍

taylferr | taylferr

Wishing them both the best of luck 🤞

Soulessnight | Soulessnight

Adoption laws questioned, but commenter supports OP's actions. 👍

heart_over_board | heart_over_board

Debate over single men adopting babies sparks skepticism and personal anecdotes 🤔

almostbogan | almostbogan

Defending life choices, the commenter suggests a tough choice for grandma.

Traumatized-Trashbag | Traumatized-Trashbag

Single parent's unrealistic plan for med school and childcare 🤔

manimopo | manimopo

Curious about the 22-year-old's support system for adopted daughter 🤔

EntertainmentOk6284 | EntertainmentOk6284

Medical school and parenthood, a difficult balancing act 🤔

SnooDoughnuts7171 | SnooDoughnuts7171

Adopting affects everyone, OP needs to work on preserving relationships.

Dioptre_8 | Dioptre_8

Adopting friend's daughter not in best interest of child 🚫

WildSpandrel | WildSpandrel

Concerns raised about single mother's career and childcare balance. 🧡

Pale_Cranberry1502 | Pale_Cranberry1502

Single mother defends adopting at 21 amidst criticism 🙌

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Adopting an older child while unstable? Noble but risky move. 💰

Shanstergoodheart | Shanstergoodheart

Adopting a child while studying for MCAT and med school? Reality check.

FireyKorean | FireyKorean

Doubts raised over the authenticity of the post 🤔🤷‍♀️

dhmy4089 | dhmy4089

Can OP balance parenting and med school? One reply thinks not 💼👶

dam11214 | dam11214

You're in charge of your own life 🙌

No-Jellyfish-1208 | No-Jellyfish-1208

Mother's intentions clear, ultimatum justified. 🤷‍♀️

PPukeko | PPukeko

Questioning the validity of the adoption agency's decision 🤔

dualboy24 | dualboy24

NTA for adopting and mom needs to be proud of you 🤗

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Empathy is key. Understanding both perspectives is important here. ❤️

Seguefare | Seguefare

Being a single parent and a med student is tough. NTA.

salmon4breakfast | salmon4breakfast

Adopted daughter accepted, but parents not on board. NTA.

bigcatspoop | bigcatspoop

Choosing family over negativity, NTA wins the day! 🙌

pioroa | pioroa

Be patient with worried moms 😉

sophisticatedteacher | sophisticatedteacher

Proud mother of three commends son's selflessness ❤️

CrazyFanGeek | CrazyFanGeek

Asserting independence as a parent, NTA 👍👶

mindlessmandee | mindlessmandee

Supportive comment encourages parent to accept adopted daughter 👏

Lotex_Style | Lotex_Style

Adoptive parent stands up to critical mother, chooses daughter first ❤️

windyorbits | windyorbits

Financial strain on family after adoption, INFO comment raises questions.

Astral_Nox | Astral_Nox

Live your life, make your choices, and be happy! 😊 NTA.

Groundbreaking_Boat8 | Groundbreaking_Boat8

Love knows no blood. Spread love and adopt today! ❤️

Mimila1111 | Mimila1111

Adoptive mother praised for making a selfless and thoughtful decision 👏

oneawkwardkid | oneawkwardkid

Supportive comment receives praise with thumbs up emoji 👍

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Choosing to be a father, NTA wins this round 🎉

bizianka | bizianka

Single dad takes in adopted daughter; NTA, despite mother's disapproval 👏

aclownandherdolly | aclownandherdolly

Encouraging response to NTA comment about MCAT with 🤞emoji

NoCleverUsernameIdea | NoCleverUsernameIdea

NTA but can't juggle 5 full-time jobs, need help 🤔

Banana_Havok | Banana_Havok

Supportive comment defends young parent's decision to adopt ❤️

blueswampchicken | blueswampchicken

Redditors judge OP's parenting decision, but he's NTA for standing up for himself.

sailingisgreat | sailingisgreat

Supportive commenters agree: NTA for cutting out negativity ❤️

CMSkye | CMSkye

Mom gets a time out for adoption ultimatum. 👍

ionlytakebubblebaths | ionlytakebubblebaths

Set firm boundaries with family for adopted daughter's sake. 🚫

Grannywine | Grannywine

Respectful OP stands up to mother's unwanted opinions. 👏

Katy_moxie | Katy_moxie

Unwavering support and love for adopted child 🙌❤️

dichingdi | dichingdi

Adopted daughter is not a pandemic puppy. 👏

Seeksherowntruth | Seeksherowntruth

Commenter supports the man's decision 👍

sassymammas | sassymammas

Choosing to adopt young doesn't make you a bad parent. 🙌

BeTheCheeto | BeTheCheeto

Adopting a child is a noble decision! 👏

Wyshunu | Wyshunu

Adopted daughter deserves love too ❤️ Stand your ground!

SnooGiraffes3591 | SnooGiraffes3591

Heartwarming support for single dad's adoption decision ❤️👨‍👧

nikbik17 | nikbik17