She Refused To Teach Her Boyfriend Chores

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A 20-year-old woman is questioning whether she's wrong for refusing to teach her boyfriend how to do household chores. Her boyfriend, who's 23, asked to learn how to do things like cook and clean because his mother did everything for him. However, after two weeks of helping him learn, the woman found herself still doing most of the chores.

She confronted him and told him to do his own laundry, cook every other day, and do the dishes on the days he doesn't cook. He got upset and said relationships are about helping each other. She's not sure if she's being too harsh or if he's being too reliant on her.

What do you think? Read the full story here.

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Frustrated partner tired of doing all the chores herself 😩

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When teaching chores becomes a relationship issue 😒

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Should she teach him or is he a grown man? 🤔

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🤔 Is she really the a**hole here?

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When teaching basic chores becomes an unnecessary burden 😒🤷‍♀️

notmymainobvii | notmymainobvii

👩‍🍳🧑‍🍳 She refused to teach her boyfriend chores

A woman has refused to continue teaching her boyfriend how to do household chores after he continuously failed to learn. The boyfriend, who grew up with his mom doing all the chores, moved in with his girlfriend and asked her to help him learn. After weeks of trying to teach him how to cook, clean, and do laundry, she became tired of doing most things by herself.

She decided to give him an ultimatum, and now he has to do his own laundry and cook every other day. She feels like he's not putting in enough effort, while he thinks she's not being supportive enough.

What do you think about the situation? Is she being too harsh on him, or is he not trying hard enough to learn? Share your thoughts and experiences with teaching others how to do household chores.

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MissionRevolution306 | MissionRevolution306

NTA - Don't fall for weaponized incompetence. 🙄

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NTA. Commenters agree that the boyfriend is using weaponized incompetence 👎

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Empowerment through YouTube tutorials 🎥👩‍🏫 NTA comment section.

ArcanTemival | ArcanTemival

Don't settle for a man-baby. 🙅‍♀️

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Don't let him weaponize incompetence! Stand your ground 💪

i_declareathumbwar | i_declareathumbwar

Teaching basic skills important regardless of gender. 🙌

Ejclincoln | Ejclincoln

Hold the line, on behalf of women everywhere. 💪

Left-Car6520 | Left-Car6520

NTA for not wanting to teach basic adult skills. Parents should have taught him.

Jemma_2 | Jemma_2

NTA. Learning practical life skills is important and empowering 💪

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megarammarz | megarammarz

Empowering response to gendered chore imbalance 💪👏

AbbreviationsOk5071 | AbbreviationsOk5071

Empowering and helpful comment with a touch of humor 😄

CaroSCP | CaroSCP

Stay strong and refuse to be his maid. 💪 NTA

metupaki222 | metupaki222

Cook separate meals if he's a lazy manipulator 🍴

paul_rudds_drag_race | paul_rudds_drag_race

Learning to cook is easy, he just wants you to do it 🙄

AgeParking1034 | AgeParking1034

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bambamkablam | bambamkablam

When your boyfriend acts like a child 🙄

uhimsyd | uhimsyd

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Traveling-Techie | Traveling-Techie

Don't let him get away with it! 💪🏼

dianaprince2022 | dianaprince2022

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Don't be helpless! NTA for refusing to teach chores 🙄

Robbie-Bobbie1223 | Robbie-Bobbie1223

NTA, if he can read he can learn household chores 🧹🍲

Nikiciaq | Nikiciaq

Don't let weaponized incompetence stop you from living your life 💪

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NTA forgets cooking techniques but asks specific questions, practical solutions suggested.

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Single mom shares her thoughts on teaching men household chores 💪

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Partner's helplessness is pathetic. Information is easily accessible. NTA.

the_fatal_lozenge | the_fatal_lozenge

Empowerment 💪: Teaching your partner basic chores is a must.

letbehotdogs | letbehotdogs

Teach him to cook! Send him on a course 🍲

BeneficialName9863 | BeneficialName9863

Partner refuses to learn chores, commenter says "Nope he does this or he can go back to living by himself or with his mommy" 🙅‍♀️

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Living with a partner who refuses to help with chores 😤

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