Husband Wants to Financially Edge Me out of My Hobby

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A wife who is an active jiu jitsu competitor faces a dilemma when her husband starts taking extra money from his paychecks and depositing it into a separate account, which she has no access to. She is left with no personal account and has to rely on him financially to pursue her expensive hobby. When she spends money on a tournament, her husband suggests that she get her own account with an allowance to pay for her expenses. This causes a big fight, leaving her feeling controlled and financially edged out of her hobby. Who's the AH? Read on to find out.

Struggling with hobby as husband tries to cut my funds 💰

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Fighting for her passion, but at what cost? 💰

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Passionate about jiu jitsu but husband trying to cut funds.

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Is he being controlling or financially responsible? 💰

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Husband threatens to end wife's hobby over personal spending.

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Financial control and hobby deprivation by spouse - unfair treatment 🤔

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Feeling helpless as husband's control over finances limits hobby choices

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Husband's secret income causing trouble for hobby funds.

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Money fights? 💸 Discuss financial boundaries and find common ground.

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Debate alert! Who's the AH? 🤔

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Financial control or mutual responsibility? 💸

A woman who left her full-time job to take care of their children and lowered her income by half, is being asked by her husband to get her own account for her expensive Jiu-jitsu tournaments. The husband, who runs a successful eBay store, has a separate account with no access to his wife and he also takes extra money from his paycheck each week and deposits it into that account. The wife manages their finances, budgets, and pays all the bills, but her husband wants her to have her own account so that she can pay for her expensive hobby. This sudden demand has come as a surprise to the wife and has started a big fight. The couple has mutual accounts, but the husband spends his money on whatever he wants, without any accountability. The wife, on the other hand, has to rely on her husband financially for her hobby. Is the husband controlling or is he right in asking his wife to be financially independent? Read on to find out what the people have to say.

NTA. Protect yourself financially and go back to full-time work.

wildferalfun | wildferalfun

Husband's financial separation may indicate impending divorce, NTA.

errerrr | errerrr

Husband wants wife to work for free, internet supports her. 💪

LuluLucy- | LuluLucy-

Suggests a practical solution to financial independence in NTA post 🤑

Accomplished_Cup900 | Accomplished_Cup900

Charge him for babysitting, but remember, favors shouldn't be counted. 🤑

AnteatersAreAwesome | AnteatersAreAwesome

🚨 Financial abuse alert! NTA should lawyer up and leave.

cattripper | cattripper

Stand up for yourself and your worth 💪👊

Anti-Charm-Quark | Anti-Charm-Quark

Don't let him control your passion 💰🚫 Stand up for yourself!

mdthomas | mdthomas

Husband's financial control over wife's hobby is abusive. NTA.

No_Stand4235 | No_Stand4235

Protect your hobby! Molly's husband is definitely the a**hole 🚩

rockintheburbs77 | rockintheburbs77

Protect yourself from financial abuse. Red flags = possible affair 💰❌💔

Peasplease25 | Peasplease25

Financial abuse isn't just a punch, it's a punch to freedom 💸🥊

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Don't let him control you! NTA. Use the facts 💰👶

Sublixxx | Sublixxx

A costly decision to avoid daycare expenses. 💰

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NTA. Suggesting petty solution to husband's unfair financial demand. 🤔

redditAloudatnight9 | redditAloudatnight9

NTA. Financial control and lack of communication from husband. 🤨

Tangerine_Bouquet | Tangerine_Bouquet

NTA and toxic behavior in a marriage. Consider divorce. 😠

SatanicSunflower | SatanicSunflower

NTA. Discuss finances and contribute equally to mutual expenses. Separate accounts.

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Husband wants to limit hobby funds. OP suggests 3 options. 💰🤷‍♀️

Sad-Teacher-1170 | Sad-Teacher-1170

OP refuses to be financially edged out of hobby by husband 💪

No_River_5476 | No_River_5476

🚨 Beware of financial abuse in relationships, even in small ways!

wishforagiraffe | wishforagiraffe

Stay-at-home mom stands up to controlling and ignorant husband 🙅‍♀️

Raindripdrop | Raindripdrop

Take control of your finances 💰💪

Sea-Ad9057 | Sea-Ad9057

Couple resolves financial conflict through communication and compromise 👏

kacrats | kacrats

Don't let him financially control you! Take steps to protect yourself 💪

brokeanail | brokeanail

Husband's separate account and unfair expenses. NTA.

thumpmyponcho | thumpmyponcho

Take control of your finances and hobbies! NTA 🙌

Disastrous_Ad_8561 | Disastrous_Ad_8561

Equal allowance for stay-at-home parents. NTA for ju jitsu.

zukolover96 | zukolover96

Husband wants to financially edge out wife's hobby 💰🚫 NTA wins

FaeraFae | FaeraFae

Equal financial contribution for bills and childcare. 🔥 NTA

[deleted] | [deleted]

Take control of your finances 💰 and stand up against financial abuse 💪

filthybananapeel | filthybananapeel

Take charge of your finances and hobbies 💰👩‍🎨

Sea-Ad9057 | Sea-Ad9057

Partner's selfishness may be causing financial strain and relationship issues 🤔

princessofperky | princessofperky

Secure your future. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.

regallll | regallll

Spouse wants to edge out hobby, but bought car without consent

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Fight for your hobby and your worth! 💪🏼 You're NTA

ArtHobbies4440 | ArtHobbies4440

Take control of your finances 💰 while pursuing your hobbies 🎨

It_s_just_me | It_s_just_me

Protect your assets 💰💰, divide it in half 💔 & keep your fun money 💃

Gobadorgosleep | Gobadorgosleep

Financial abuse and silent treatment from husband. Consider therapy 💔

kacrats | kacrats

Communication is key 🔑. Separate account for hobbies 💰.

Special-Attitude-242 | Special-Attitude-242

Partner not supporting shared finances 👎 NTA 👍

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Warning signs of controlling behavior. NTA, be careful. 🚨

Minimum_Reference_73 | Minimum_Reference_73

Stand up for your passion 💪 and financial independence 🤑

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Empowering suggestion! 🥋 Take control of your hobby 💪

sitonachair | sitonachair

Husband's financial control over wife's hobby - NTA vs. AH debate with advice on equal treatment 🚩

MebbeitsOK | MebbeitsOK

Stand your ground! 💪 You're NTA and deserve respect.

KimmyStand | KimmyStand

Get that 💰, NTA 👏

WitchyBurrito | WitchyBurrito

NTA. Unfair financial distribution in the relationship. 💰

rmric0 | rmric0

Passionate jiu jitsu fighter defends hobby against unsupportive husband.

Bt1841995 | Bt1841995

🚨 Financial abuse alert! NTA for pursuing your hobby.

Rustbelt_Rebound | Rustbelt_Rebound

Stand up for yourself and your hobby! 💪🏼

xxSKSxx_ | xxSKSxx_

Unpaid labor matters too 💪👩‍👧‍👦

OkBoss3435 | OkBoss3435

Spouse financially abusing hobbyist partner - NTA. 🛑💰

telepathicathena | telepathicathena

Stand up for yourself and your hobby. 💪 You're NTA!

Ravenclaw79 | Ravenclaw79

Stand up for yourself and your hobby 💪🎨

Additional_Fig1877 | Additional_Fig1877

Stand up for yourself and your hobby 💪

kcamms97 | kcamms97

Protect yourself! Financial abuse is a serious issue. 🛠

winsomebunny | winsomebunny

Concerned commenter advises investigation and independence from mysterious husband.

erikpurne | erikpurne

Charge him for childcare and eBay money. 💰💸

nevaneva21 | nevaneva21

OP's relationship is on the rocks. NTA!

sunfries | sunfries