A wife who is an active jiu jitsu competitor faces a dilemma when her husband starts taking extra money from his paychecks and depositing it into a separate account, which she has no access to. She is left with no personal account and has to rely on him financially to pursue her expensive hobby. When she spends money on a tournament, her husband suggests that she get her own account with an allowance to pay for her expenses. This causes a big fight, leaving her feeling controlled and financially edged out of her hobby. Who's the AH? Read on to find out.
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Passionate about jiu jitsu but husband trying to cut funds.
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Husband threatens to end wife's hobby over personal spending.
Financial control and hobby deprivation by spouse - unfair treatment 🤔
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A woman who left her full-time job to take care of their children and lowered her income by half, is being asked by her husband to get her own account for her expensive Jiu-jitsu tournaments. The husband, who runs a successful eBay store, has a separate account with no access to his wife and he also takes extra money from his paycheck each week and deposits it into that account. The wife manages their finances, budgets, and pays all the bills, but her husband wants her to have her own account so that she can pay for her expensive hobby. This sudden demand has come as a surprise to the wife and has started a big fight. The couple has mutual accounts, but the husband spends his money on whatever he wants, without any accountability. The wife, on the other hand, has to rely on her husband financially for her hobby. Is the husband controlling or is he right in asking his wife to be financially independent? Read on to find out what the people have to say.
NTA. Protect yourself financially and go back to full-time work.
Husband's financial separation may indicate impending divorce, NTA.
Husband wants wife to work for free, internet supports her. 💪
Suggests a practical solution to financial independence in NTA post 🤑
Charge him for babysitting, but remember, favors shouldn't be counted. 🤑
🚨 Financial abuse alert! NTA should lawyer up and leave.
Stand up for yourself and your worth 💪👊
Don't let him control your passion 💰🚫 Stand up for yourself!
Husband's financial control over wife's hobby is abusive. NTA.
Protect your hobby! Molly's husband is definitely the a**hole 🚩
Protect yourself from financial abuse. Red flags = possible affair 💰❌💔
Financial abuse isn't just a punch, it's a punch to freedom 💸🥊
Don't let him control you! NTA. Use the facts 💰👶
A costly decision to avoid daycare expenses. 💰
NTA. Suggesting petty solution to husband's unfair financial demand. 🤔
NTA. Financial control and lack of communication from husband. 🤨
NTA and toxic behavior in a marriage. Consider divorce. 😠
NTA. Discuss finances and contribute equally to mutual expenses. Separate accounts.
Husband wants to limit hobby funds. OP suggests 3 options. 💰🤷♀️
OP refuses to be financially edged out of hobby by husband 💪
🚨 Beware of financial abuse in relationships, even in small ways!
Stay-at-home mom stands up to controlling and ignorant husband 🙅♀️
Take control of your finances 💰💪
Couple resolves financial conflict through communication and compromise 👏
Don't let him financially control you! Take steps to protect yourself 💪
Husband's separate account and unfair expenses. NTA.
Take control of your finances and hobbies! NTA 🙌
Equal allowance for stay-at-home parents. NTA for ju jitsu.
Husband wants to financially edge out wife's hobby 💰🚫 NTA wins
Equal financial contribution for bills and childcare. 🔥 NTA
Take control of your finances 💰 and stand up against financial abuse 💪
Take charge of your finances and hobbies 💰👩🎨
Partner's selfishness may be causing financial strain and relationship issues 🤔
Secure your future. Prepare for the worst, hope for the best.
Spouse wants to edge out hobby, but bought car without consent
Fight for your hobby and your worth! 💪🏼 You're NTA
Take control of your finances 💰 while pursuing your hobbies 🎨
Protect your assets 💰💰, divide it in half 💔 & keep your fun money 💃
Financial abuse and silent treatment from husband. Consider therapy 💔
Communication is key 🔑. Separate account for hobbies 💰.
Partner not supporting shared finances 👎 NTA 👍
Warning signs of controlling behavior. NTA, be careful. 🚨
Stand up for your passion 💪 and financial independence 🤑
Empowering suggestion! 🥋 Take control of your hobby 💪
Husband's financial control over wife's hobby - NTA vs. AH debate with advice on equal treatment 🚩
Stand your ground! 💪 You're NTA and deserve respect.
Get that 💰, NTA 👏
NTA. Unfair financial distribution in the relationship. 💰
Passionate jiu jitsu fighter defends hobby against unsupportive husband.
🚨 Financial abuse alert! NTA for pursuing your hobby.
Stand up for yourself and your hobby! 💪🏼
Unpaid labor matters too 💪👩👧👦
Spouse financially abusing hobbyist partner - NTA. 🛑💰
Stand up for yourself and your hobby. 💪 You're NTA!
Stand up for yourself and your hobby 💪🎨
Stand up for yourself and your hobby 💪
Protect yourself! Financial abuse is a serious issue. 🛠
Concerned commenter advises investigation and independence from mysterious husband.
Charge him for childcare and eBay money. 💰💸
OP's relationship is on the rocks. NTA!