Pregnant Stepsister Has No Support Network, But Is It My Problem?

Alfe Mercado
Pregnant woman
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A woman is wondering if she's in the wrong for not wanting to throw a baby shower for her stepsister. The two are not close, and the woman already has a shower organized by her close friends. The stepsister has no one to throw her a shower with and asks to share the one organized for the woman. When the woman refused, her mother told her that her stepsister had no support network for her baby. Despite this, the woman doesn't want to spend her money throwing a shower for someone she doesn't like.

Additionally, there is some history of tension between the two due to the stepsister's behavior in the past. Is the woman in the wrong for not wanting to help out her stepsister, or is she justified in her actions? Read on to find out.

Navigating an unwanted pregnancy with a difficult stepsister 👶

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Excited for my baby shower organized by my close friends 💕

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Declining to throw a baby shower for distant stepsister. 💸

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Navigating family boundaries when support is lacking. 🤔

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Navigating family boundaries with a pregnant stepsister. 🤰

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Step-sister's resentment and lies causing tension in blended family 🤔

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Dealing with a demanding and deceitful stepsister during pregnancy 🤰

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Navigating family drama over unsupported pregnant stepsister 🤰🏻

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AITA? Let's judge this pregnant stepsister situation 👀

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Pregnant stepsister wants to share my baby shower, AITA?

Two pregnant stepsisters, one baby shower. But one of them is disliked and needs a support network. Should she be included, or is it not her problem? The OP has made it clear she doesn't like her stepsister and even refused to throw her a baby shower. But is she justified in doing so? Read on to learn more about their relationship's background and dynamics and whether the OP is an a**hole for not being more supportive. The comments are divided on this issue, with some siding with the OP and others calling her out for being selfish. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions in the comments below.

Why doesn't the mom throw her a baby shower? 🤔

killer510200 | killer510200

Suggesting a shower for pregnant stepsister. Support network lacking. NTA.

sithmom_78 | sithmom_78

Let her parents throw the shower, not your responsibility 🤷‍♀️

einat162 | einat162

Why won't family support pregnant stepsister's baby shower? 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Pregnant stepsister not responsible for throwing shower 🎉

yachtiewannabe | yachtiewannabe

You don't owe anyone anything, not even family. NTA 👏

PrincessBuzzkill | PrincessBuzzkill

SS's lack of support is concerning, NTA calls it out 💪

[deleted] | [deleted]

Step-sister's cry for attention and love goes unheard.

bigbeardlittlebeard | bigbeardlittlebeard

Set boundaries now, NTA. 🙅‍♀️

Wetnosedcretin | Wetnosedcretin

OP not obligated to support entitled behavior. Family is a choice. 🤷‍♀️

ragnarockyroad | ragnarockyroad

Let's not force ourselves to like someone for a baby shower💁‍♀️

ClumsyBartender1 | ClumsyBartender1

Pregnant stepsister's lack of support, unanswered family questions ❓

NotShockedFruitWeird | NotShockedFruitWeird

Step sister's troubled past and lack of support network explained 💔

Fantastic-Arm-9136 | Fantastic-Arm-9136

Why should OP's mother throw a shower for the stepsister?


Lack of sisterly bond due to parental failures and trauma.

zaftig_ziggy | zaftig_ziggy

Why should OP be responsible for the baby shower? 🤷‍♀️

No-Rub1544 | No-Rub1544

Loss and grief cannot be measured, you are NTA 👏

Incredulous_Owl | Incredulous_Owl

Showing compassion is crucial, but at what cost? ❤️

lady72 | lady72

Commenter lacks empathy towards pregnant stepsister, shows no remorse 😒

[deleted] | [deleted]

Mom's fake closeness puts OP in a tough spot 🤔

BendingCollegeGrad | BendingCollegeGrad

Let your mom throw the shower! 🎉 NTA wins.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Don't let family guilt you into taking on their responsibilities 🚫

xInsomniCatx | xInsomniCatx

Navigating complex family dynamics and emotions 👍

boromir04 | boromir04

Step-sibling drama: Pregnant stepsister gets no baby shower support.

Aradene | Aradene

Compassionate NTA commenter empathizes with pregnant stepsister's difficult past. Replies encourage personal accountability for seeking support.

nathistj | nathistj

Step-siblings can be tough. 🙄 This commenter is done with theirs.

MasalaChaiSpice | MasalaChaiSpice

Spread kindness, not hate. Be there for others. ❤

bd10112 | bd10112

Standing up for family and karma prevails! 👏👍

Mr_Extraction | Mr_Extraction

No support for pregnant stepsister, but why blame OP's mother?

VT_Maid | VT_Maid

Supporting a pregnant stepsister: boundaries and family dynamics.

crbryant1972 | crbryant1972

Is there unresolved tension with your stepsister? 🤔

csunberry | csunberry

Mother should throw shower, not OP. NTA 👍

MsBaseball34 | MsBaseball34

Step sister has no support for baby shower, but NTA.

panditaMalvado | panditaMalvado

No obligation to engage with pregnant stepsister. NTA 👍

Adept-One-819 | Adept-One-819

Why isn't anyone throwing her a party? Not the a-hole 🤔

carmachu | carmachu

Don't let others guilt-trip you into sharing your baby shower 🤚

Wonder-woman206 | Wonder-woman206

Despite being a single mom, NTA commenter suggests no shower.


Delicate situation. Can past trauma excuse present behavior? 🤔

arazzberry | arazzberry

Navigating blended families is tough, equality is a myth 🤷‍♀️

Kmia55 | Kmia55

Parents expecting too much? 🤔 NTA takes a stand.

DelibirdIsaLegendary | DelibirdIsaLegendary

Not responsible for stepsister's choices and situations. NTA 👍

LadyLu-ontheLake | LadyLu-ontheLake

Mom should step up, not the stepsister's responsibility. 🙅‍♀️

periwinklepeonies | periwinklepeonies

Don't be an a-hole, throwing a baby shower is not compulsory 🤷‍♀️

ThePickleWhisperer | ThePickleWhisperer

Mastering the art of polite refusal in tough situations 🙅

reallybirdysomedays | reallybirdysomedays

Red flags raised in NTA comment about pregnant stepsister 👀

Newdaytoday1215 | Newdaytoday1215

Is the baby daddy's family stepping up? 🤔

abc123doremi69 | abc123doremi69

Why won't the mother throw her a baby shower? 🤔

cherry__12345 | cherry__12345

Don't let guilt stop you from setting healthy boundaries 🙌

Fickle_Sandwich_7075 | Fickle_Sandwich_7075

Sometimes being the bigger person is not worth it 🤷‍♀️. Suggesting a DIY baby shower 🎉

AbbyBirb | AbbyBirb

Avoiding a baby shower doesn't mean avoiding drama 🤷🏻‍♀️

DaxxyDreams | DaxxyDreams

Empathy triumphs over resentment 🤝

freddible | freddible

Commenter blames pregnant stepsister for alienating her support network.

agentofchaossince95 | agentofchaossince95

Supporting step-siblings not my responsibility. NTA 🙅‍♂️

LilyL0123 | LilyL0123

Stepsister's poor behavior led to her isolation. NTA.

kb-g | kb-g

Believing her is key 👍 NTA

Borageandthyme | Borageandthyme

Step-sister's lack of support for baby shower, not OP's responsibility. 💁‍♀️

Used_Mark_7911 | Used_Mark_7911

Is the mother absent? 🤔

ResoluteMuse | ResoluteMuse

Pregnant stepsister's baby shower: NTA prioritizes own finances and boundaries 💰

NowWithMoreChocolate | NowWithMoreChocolate

Not your responsibility to cater to pregnant stepsister 🤷‍♀️

Professional_Grab513 | Professional_Grab513