Am I Wrong for Wanting Adult Time During Family Gatherings?

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A 26-year-old woman with two kids skipped Easter because she was tired of every family event revolving around children. Despite asking for some time for the adults to catch up, her family acted like it was a ridiculous request. She ended up staying home and spending time with her sister who is also excluded from family events because she doesn't have kids.

Now, her family is calling her and her sister a**holes for treating their family like that. She's wondering if she's wrong in this situation and if she needs to accept never seeing her sisters one on one without their kids being the focus. Read on to find out the verdict.

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👥 Wanting adult time during family gatherings: Is it wrong?

As we grow older, we cherish the time we spend with our family even more. But what if every family gathering revolves solely around the kids? This is the dilemma faced by a 26-year-old mom with two kids, who just wants some quality adult time with her sisters.

Despite being met with resistance and accusations of being out of line for wanting to exclude the kids, she stands by her desire to have a conversation that doesn't revolve around her children. Her sister, who doesn't have kids, is also excluded and understands the feeling of being left out.

While it's important to spend time with family, constantly catering to the kids' needs can be exhausting. Is it really too much to ask for some adult conversation during family gatherings? \

Share your thoughts about the situation in the comments below.

Moms need adult time too! NTA for asking.

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Mom needs adult time, not a break from kids. 💆‍♀️

Magj0y | Magj0y

Parents need adult time, but kids dominate conversation at gatherings 🚫👶

vorticia | vorticia

Taking a break from your kids is normal and healthy! NTA 👍

MamaofTwinDragons | MamaofTwinDragons

Don't feel guilty for wanting adult time! 🍷

lotiloo | lotiloo

Child-free individuals discuss feeling left out of conversations.

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Arranging activities for kids can give adults much-needed break 😌👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

fourteensquares | fourteensquares

Exclude Serena no more! Have adult conversations, kids might participate too.

sensual_baboon | sensual_baboon

Adult time is normal and healthy. Do your sisters understand?

Sweet_Baby_Grogu | Sweet_Baby_Grogu

NAH for having different views on family time and kids, but family is being AHs for shunning OP and not respecting her views. OP values family time for conversations, not just activities without kids. It's sad that her family doesn't want to deliver that, but OP can't change people. Her family should stop guilt tripping her for not having the same views.

broke_reflection | broke_reflection

Prioritizing kids can make you lose touch with family. 😔

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Being a parent doesn't mean giving up personal development. 🙌

Dark54g | Dark54g

NTA. Family time is important, but adults need adult time too 🍷👨‍👩‍👧

Specialfrancine | Specialfrancine

Bringing back the "adults only" rule for family gatherings 🙌

Sheila_Monarch | Sheila_Monarch

Accepting family won't change and prioritizing adult time with friends 🕺🏻

terpischore761 | terpischore761

Don't let family gatherings be all about the grandparents 🙅‍♀️

TheBaddestPatsy | TheBaddestPatsy

Commenter faces cruel attacks on a hate subreddit 💔

nogoyolo | nogoyolo

Don't sacrifice your adult time for the sake of family gatherings 👨‍👩‍👧

Mysterecks7812 | Mysterecks7812

Finding a balance: it's okay to want adult time 👍

thebutchone | thebutchone

Take a break from the kids, it's okay! 🧑‍🦳👵

aclockworksmorange | aclockworksmorange

Create your adult time with Serena and friends 😉

emherrera1960 | emherrera1960

Different identity priorities cause tension at family gatherings. 🤔

Reichiroo | Reichiroo

Take a break from family gatherings and indulge in self-care 👬💅

ManaFrmHeaven | ManaFrmHeaven

OP wants adult time during family gatherings without being judged. NTA 👍

KarenJoanneO | KarenJoanneO

Parents deserve adult time too! 🍸👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

vance_mason | vance_mason

Find friends who value adult time as much as you 🙌

terrapharma | terrapharma

Being childfree doesn't mean hating kids. NTA for wanting adult time.

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Keeping the kids entertained at family gatherings 😊

BeccasBump | BeccasBump

Taking time for yourself is important! Your kid wants it too 😎

IntrepidNectarine8 | IntrepidNectarine8

Commenter expresses confusion over use of phrase 'just the family'

itiso | itiso

Parents deserve adult time too 🍹👩‍❤️‍👨

JennaFarce | JennaFarce

NTA: Commenter criticizes coddling culture & praises independence 🌟

Boga11 | Boga11

Balancing kid time and adult time is key 🙌

Consistent_Language9 | Consistent_Language9

Dealing with family can be tough 💔. Support for NTA.

GenoFlower | GenoFlower

Learning to be one-on-one with adults is important 👨‍🎮

Sea_Marble | Sea_Marble

NTA. Single parent deserves adult time, but consider discussing it.

ruralife | ruralife

Adult time during family gatherings is important for everyone! 🍷👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

caffeinated_kibbles | caffeinated_kibbles

Being a parent is amazing but don't forget adult time 🤪

luckydidi18 | luckydidi18

Child-free commenter feels disrespected by family during gatherings. 🤔

BeleagueredOne888 | BeleagueredOne888

Can't adults and kids enjoy cake and coffee together? 🤔

navit47 | navit47

Sometimes parents can't help but focus on their children's lives. 🧒👦 But it's important to remember that everyone needs a little adult time, too. 🍸


Child-free adult time at family gatherings: European tradition vs modern parenting

Vogonner | Vogonner

Parenting solo is exhausting, NTA for wanting adult time 🙌

radiolover1 | radiolover1

Mom's comparison of adult time without kids is weird. NTA.

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Kids' age and dads' presence questioned, moms projecting issues

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