Teen Tells Mom She Won't Put Her Future On Pause Just Because She Decided To "Start Over" With New Baby

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When a young woman's mother asks her to put her dreams on hold to be with her new baby brother, she faces a tough decision. Should she stay, or should she go? The woman, a dual-enrolled student, has been offered a full-ride scholarship to study abroad. Her mother worries about how much time she'll be spending away from home and how it will impact her relationship with her brother. However, the woman argues that it's unfair for her to pause her future just because her mother decided to start a new family. The situation has left the woman feeling torn and wondering if she's in the wrong. What do you think? Is she the a**hole for wanting to pursue her dreams, or should she prioritize her family? Share your thoughts in the comments below! 🤔

A daughter stands up to her mom's unrealistic expectations. 💪

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Reflecting on a heated conversation with mom. AITA?

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A teen's decision to study abroad has caused a rift in her relationship with her mother. The 18-year-old will receive a full-ride scholarship to study in another country next year, but her mother does not support the idea. The mother's biggest concern is that her daughter will be spending too much time away from home, causing her to miss important family moments and the chance to bond with her younger brother. On the other hand, the daughter feels like her dreams and future should not be put on hold because her mother decided to have another child. The situation has caused tension between the two, with the daughter feeling guilty for wanting to pursue her dreams. However, her father has been supportive and advised her to choose the best for herself. In this AITA post, the daughter questions if she is wrong for standing up for herself and not putting her future on pause for her family. Read on to see what others have to say about the situation.

NTA. Commenters agree mom wants built-in babysitter, seize opportunity abroad.

CaliforniaJade | CaliforniaJade

Don't be your mom's free babysitter. Live your own life! 🚫👶

SDstartingOut | SDstartingOut

Don't let your mom's projection hold you back. Go live!

andreacbp | andreacbp

Mother wants free childcare and ignores sibling age gap. NTA.

Mamertine | Mamertine

Live your life, age gap doesn't dictate sibling relationship. 🙌

Bitter-Conflict-4089 | Bitter-Conflict-4089

Don't sacrifice your future for your mom's guilt trip. NTA 👏

Left-Car6520 | Left-Car6520

Don't let your mother's double standards hold you back 👍

ApprehensiveTruth330 | ApprehensiveTruth330

Don't let your mom take advantage of you! 🚫👶 NTA.

katoolah | katoolah

Mom wants free help, but you're NTA for prioritizing yourself 🙌

swissmtndog398 | swissmtndog398

Putting your life on hold for someone else's selfishness? NTA 💪

OhNoaDynamiteshark | OhNoaDynamiteshark

Don't let guilt dictate your future 🚫🧑‍🎓

DaJuganhut | DaJuganhut

Don't put your life on hold for a hypocritical mom 🙅‍♀️. Go abroad and design your own future 🌎✈️💃

LA_grad | LA_grad

Take the study abroad trip and cherish the time you have💕

Rhomya | Rhomya

Escape abroad 🛫, don't let your mom hold you back 🚫

Lola_leila | Lola_leila

Empowering response to mom's selfish decision, NTA! 💪

Samu_2020_15 | Samu_2020_15

NTA prioritizes college and future, won't be around for new baby.

rak1882 | rak1882

Teen stands up to mom's unrealistic expectations about new baby. 🙅‍♀️

Wolfenbro | Wolfenbro

Mom disappointed in daughter not being free babysitter 🙄

discobrad85 | discobrad85

Choose scholarship, not babysitting. NTA for prioritizing your future 💪

eyore5775 | eyore5775

Prioritizing education over family? NTA says it's okay 📚👨‍👩‍👧

Traveling-Techie | Traveling-Techie

Family priorities can't always be scheduled 📅 NTA

Irish_Amber | Irish_Amber

Don't feel guilty for prioritizing your future 🎓🙅‍♀️

Vegetable_Advisor584 | Vegetable_Advisor584

Follow your dreams! 🌟 Don't let anyone hold you back. 🚀

Appropriate-Bat2762 | Appropriate-Bat2762

Stand your ground! Your life, your journey 👊

Slow-Confection-3110 | Slow-Confection-3110

Live your life, don't put it on pause for others ⏸️🚫

SettingAble7760 | SettingAble7760

Leaving one child but expecting free babysitting from another? 🤔🙅‍♀️ #NTA

ulalumelenore | ulalumelenore

Don't let your mom's selfishness derail your future 🚂👩‍🎓

Apprehensive-Fox3187 | Apprehensive-Fox3187

Mom expects sister to put life on pause for new baby 😒

inkpaperdream | inkpaperdream

Take control of your future 💪, stay connected with your brother 👥.

GrammyGH | GrammyGH

Mom's hypocritical guilt-trip backfires. NTA ⭐️

angirrr | angirrr

Protect yourself and your future. Move out and stay safe! 💸

IDGAFabtURFeeling | IDGAFabtURFeeling

Supportive comment applauds teen's plans to travel, calls out selfish mom ❤️✈️

lolaleb | lolaleb

OP is not the a**hole for not wanting to pause life 🙌

Megmca | Megmca

Don't let guilt hold you back 🚶‍♀️💨

Lonely_Shelter_4744 | Lonely_Shelter_4744

Follow your dreams 🌟 and your dad's advice 👨‍👧

nifty1997777 | nifty1997777

Don't give up your dreams, you're NTA 🌟

mak-ina-myn | mak-ina-myn

Live your life! 🎉 You're not the a-hole here.

Dazzling-Cold6080 | Dazzling-Cold6080

Congrats on the new baby, have fun and stay safe! 🎉

fjewel95 | fjewel95

Don't let her 'start over' at your expense 😒🚫

pistachiobees | pistachiobees

You're an adult, don't let your mom's choices derail you 🚂

ProfPlumDidIt | ProfPlumDidIt

Maintain a bond despite the distance. 🤝

My_Dramatic_Persona | My_Dramatic_Persona

Empowering response to guilt-tripping mom. Follow your dreams! 💪🏻

MyLilPiglets | MyLilPiglets

Commenter calls out mom for using new baby as excuse 🤬

AlanFromRochester | AlanFromRochester

Encouragement to follow dreams despite family pressure. 🌟

jazzzhandzz | jazzzhandzz

Mom wants a free babysitter 🍼 but teen won't budge NTA 👍

Careless_Bluejay_113 | Careless_Bluejay_113

Follow your dreams! You're an adult now 👏🏼


Putting your future first isn't selfish. NTA 👏

friendlily | friendlily

Live your life! 😎 NTA for moving forward.

ClaireHux | ClaireHux

Don't let her decision hold you back 🚫👶 Live your life on your terms

cryinoverwangxian | cryinoverwangxian

Live your life 🙌, you're not the a**hole!

Affectionate_Yam_961 | Affectionate_Yam_961

Congratulations on your scholarship! NTA for pursuing it 🎉

Scarryfish | Scarryfish

Supportive comment with insight about mom's behavior, no replies.

Herbighazeleyes | Herbighazeleyes

Having an older sibling can bring unexpected joy ❤️

Euphoric-Kitchen7912 | Euphoric-Kitchen7912