When a father discovers that his daughter's fiancé's family is descended from members of a hate group, he takes a stand against racism and forbids his daughter from marrying into the family. However, his daughter insists that her fiancé does not share his parents' beliefs and accuses her father of being an a**hole. The father is torn between his desire to protect his daughter and his fear of pushing her away. Is he being too harsh, or is he doing what any good father would do? Read on to find out what Reddit users had to say about this contentious issue.
Father Opposes Daughter's Engagement Due To Family's Racist History
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Opposing engagement due to family's racist history and pushback concerns
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Father opposes daughter's engagement due to family's racist history 😔
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Opposition to daughter's engagement over family's racist history 🤔
A father expresses his opposition to his daughter's engagement due to her fiancé's family's racist history. The family moved to a small town where they never integrated well. The fiancé's family hosted an engagement party where they shared their family history, which includes being descendants of a hate group. The father believes that marrying into such a family is a bad idea, but the daughter disagrees. While she was unaware of the family's history, she believes that she can point out the ways in which his parents are wrong. The father remains unconvinced, and tensions between the two have escalated. What do you think? Is the father being unreasonable or is he right to be concerned about his daughter's future with a family that has a racist past?
Father struggles to accept daughter's engagement to racist family. 🤔
Sk111W | Sk111W
NTA for opposing daughter's engagement to racist family, but accepting it is difficult.
cocoataylor | cocoataylor
Commenter makes a dark but valid point about future generations.
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Engagement too fast, NTA suggests lying about daughter's race 🔥
KittyKittyMuffinPile | KittyKittyMuffinPile
Father disapproves daughter's engagement but won't disown her. Loaded statement?
parliboy | parliboy
Uncomfortable questions to ask your daughter's partner and his family 😬
KarenOfRequirement | KarenOfRequirement
Silence in the face of racism is complicity. 👏
Ellamation | Ellamation
Engaging debate on whether Dan's racism is a deal-breaker. YTA.
singing_stream | singing_stream
Engaging with a difficult situation and questioning the son's loyalty 😕
KarenOfRequirement | KarenOfRequirement
Confusion over post's flair sparks discussion among commenters 😕
floweringmelon | floweringmelon
Parental love vs. standing up against racism. 🤷🏼♂️
rileygreyy | rileygreyy
Daughter defends fiancé's racism, commenter questions her morality 🤔
HeliosOh | HeliosOh
Commenter defends father's actions in opposing daughter's engagement.
Elendel19 | Elendel19
Father seeks advice on talking to daughter's fiancé about racism.
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Daughter wants to marry a klan member, can she change him? 💔
Starlight_Sparrow | Starlight_Sparrow
Suggests using a fake DNA test to challenge family's racism.
Xhadiel | Xhadiel
Speaking up about disliking in-laws can prevent future conflict. 🗣️
Beantownbrews | Beantownbrews
Commenter defends OP's decision to oppose daughter's engagement
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Daughter wants to marry into a racist family. Father's response?
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Black woman expresses concern over daughter's fiancé's racist family history.
Accomplished_Cup900 | Accomplished_Cup900
Respectful advice on relationship boundaries and personal opinions.
zombiemiki | zombiemiki
Is Dan responsible for his parents' racism? YTA commenters discuss.
Papabrounch | Papabrounch
Daughter aware of family's history, unbothered by it. 💁♀️
terpischore761 | terpischore761
Support without control - NTA comment sets boundaries 👍
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Supportive comment encourages daughter's independence in choosing partner 🙌
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Parent opposes daughter's engagement due to family's racist history
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Respectful reply acknowledges father's feelings, but empowers daughter's decision ✌️
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Standing up against racism is right, but refusing to accept change isn't.
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Father expresses valid concerns over daughter's fiancée's family's racism.
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Let her love who she wants 💕👩❤️👨
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Daughter's engagement causes family tension, is everyone at fault?
Moggetti | Moggetti
Supporting daughter's engagement to a non-racist is crucial 👍
knharp | knharp
Emotions run high as father struggles with daughter's engagement 💔
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Father's racist beliefs threaten daughter's engagement. 🤦♂️
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Father's racist history affects daughter's relationship choices - YTA called out!
Belt_Right1234 | Belt_Right1234
Confusion over NTA judgment sparks discussion among commenters 🤔
NoctemEmpress | NoctemEmpress
Daughter's engagement to a racist family - ESH, father failed to raise an anti-racist daughter, but she's an adult now.
Master-Opportunity25 | Master-Opportunity25
Supportive comment encourages father to let daughter make her own choice 💕
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🙌 Not the a**hole! Opposing racism is the right thing.
Sandybutthole604 | Sandybutthole604
Growing up in a racist environment can be unlearned 😌
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Father opposes daughter's engagement due to family's racist history - Support for standing against racism 🙌
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Don't marry someone with plans to turn them into someone you like 😕
drewmana | drewmana
Daughter wants to marry despite family's racist history; everyone sucks.
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Father's racist views challenged by commenters, YTA if you interfere.
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Controlling father accused of racism by commenters. 🤨
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