I Told My Sister The Truth About Why I Moved Out On My 18th Birthday, AITA?

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Growing up was hard for me, after my parents' divorce, my dad turned on me and my siblings. I pieced together the truth and left home at 18. Recently, my sister asked me why I left and I tried to lie, but she kept pressing. I ended up telling her the truth, and now she won't talk to me. Our mom thinks I shouldn't have told her, but she asked for the truth. Am I the a**hole for giving it to her?

Child of divorce navigates parental manipulation, learns to empathize. ❤️

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🤔 Should she have told her sister the truth?

Divorce is never easy, especially for the children involved. But what happens when one parent is manipulative and uses their children to hurt the other parent? That's what happened to OP (23f) and her family. Her parents' divorce left her feeling confused and angry towards her mother for years until she finally discovered the truth. Despite the hardships she faced, she managed to build a successful life for herself. However, when her sister asked her why she moved out, she couldn't lie and told her the truth. But her sister didn't take it well and sided with their father, leaving OP questioning if she made the right decision. Was it fair for her to tell her sister the truth, knowing it would shatter her perception of their father? Share your thoughts and advice in the comments below.

Being honest with your sister was the right choice, NTA 🙌

FunkyOrangePenguin | FunkyOrangePenguin

Breaking free from a manipulative parent, NTA 👏

FancyPantsDancer | FancyPantsDancer

Abusers can be great to some and horrible to others 😔

Bruiscear | Bruiscear

Breaking the silence on abuse. Time to stop protecting abusers. 🤐

laundryandblowjobs | laundryandblowjobs

Honesty is the best policy, even if it's painful 💔

onesikone | onesikone

Being honest with your sibling about your abusive father, NTA ❤️

claireclairey | claireclairey

Sometimes the truth hurts 🤷‍♀️ #NTA

ClothesQueasy2828 | ClothesQueasy2828

Supportive comment about the commenter's mother's success 🎉

MoonGladeLadyBug | MoonGladeLadyBug

Opening up about abusive father, NTA. Important warning for sister.


Breaking free! 🙌🏼 NTA for telling the truth.

Legal-Needle81 | Legal-Needle81

Breaking free from toxic family is tough, but worth it! 🙌

TwoCentsPsychologist | TwoCentsPsychologist

Sometimes the truth hurts, but it's better than being in the dark 🤐

verbalblush | verbalblush

Honesty is the best policy 🤫

BunnySapphire | BunnySapphire

Honesty hurts 🤷‍♀️

Responsible-Pen-4386 | Responsible-Pen-4386

Sometimes the truth hurts, but it's better than a lie.

WildEndeavor | WildEndeavor

Sometimes honesty is the best policy 🤷‍♀️

Noir_Shield | Noir_Shield

Stay true to yourself, honesty is the best policy 🙌

Kanulie | Kanulie

Speaking the truth to protect a loved one 👏

appliancederekt | appliancederekt

Respect her boundaries, NTA commenter 🙌

iluvpines | iluvpines

Sibling seeks truth, finds it after 34 years, NTA 🕵️

maddiep81 | maddiep81

Honesty is the best policy, NTA 👍

FinalGirlMonica | FinalGirlMonica

Breaking free from a false reality 🙌

BDiddy_420 | BDiddy_420

Honesty is the best policy 🤫 NTA

manofmatt | manofmatt

Honesty is the best policy 😊

BostonRae | BostonRae

Setting the record straight 📝: Responding to accusations of being the a**hole for telling the truth to an 18-year-old sister.

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Honesty is the best policy 🤥🤫🙅‍♂️

Enviest0 | Enviest0

Honesty is the best policy, NTA. 🤷‍♀️

Technical-Dish3261 | Technical-Dish3261

Dealing with abusive parents is tough, but OP did the right thing 🙌

br_lily | br_lily

💥 A sibling's revelation leads to a realization, NTA.

somewhat_pragmatic | somewhat_pragmatic

Honesty is the best policy 😌👍

TheGriswoldFamily | TheGriswoldFamily

Discovering the truth after a loved one is gone 😢

chefwalleye | chefwalleye

Honesty is the best policy 👍 NTA, let her decide 🤔

Beautiful-Ad-7616 | Beautiful-Ad-7616

Honesty is the best policy 😇

MielikkisChosen | MielikkisChosen

Sister learns the truth about their dad, NTA ✨

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Family secrets and lies, NTA for telling the truth 🤫

Atala9ta | Atala9ta

Brutal honesty can be tough, but sometimes necessary. 👍

bkupisch | bkupisch

Answering honestly can be tough, but it doesn't make you a**hole. 👍

Weird-Roll6265 | Weird-Roll6265

Be prepared for ongoing support as sister confronts family issues 😢

natyjay | natyjay

Honesty is the best policy, even if it hurts, NTA 😔

ayykalaam | ayykalaam

👍You stood up to your narcissistic father, NTA🙌

Monkeygirl89000 | Monkeygirl89000

Sibling conflict over honest revelation of parental manipulation, NAH.

Kettlewise | Kettlewise

Honesty is the best policy! 🙌🏼

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Sibling learns tough love lesson about enabling toxic behavior. 💔

jeswalsurprise | jeswalsurprise

Telling the truth to my sister about my abusive father 🙅‍♂️

FlexibleMorality1 | FlexibleMorality1

Transitioning to adulthood can be tough, but OP is NTA 👍

IndependentBid1854 | IndependentBid1854

Don't ask the question if you can't handle the truth 🤷‍♀️

ManicPanicPeach | ManicPanicPeach

Telling the truth about abuse to family members, NTA 👍

lilyofthevalley2659 | lilyofthevalley2659

Honesty is the best policy, even if it hurts 😢

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Encouraging reflection and honesty, NTA 👍

Proper-District8608 | Proper-District8608

Honesty is the best policy 👍, NTA wins this round!

Flustered-Flump | Flustered-Flump

Sister pressed for truth, now needs time to process 🤔

MatchaTea2691 | MatchaTea2691

Advice for dealing with abusive parent, prioritizing mental health 🧘‍♀️

JCWa50 | JCWa50

Sometimes honesty hurts, NTA for telling the truth 🙌

Mean-Reaction6354 | Mean-Reaction6354

Breaking the silence on abuse, NTA for telling the truth.

corgihuntress | corgihuntress

Breaking free from toxic family dynamics, NTA 🙌

diaperedwoman | diaperedwoman

Honesty is the best policy 🤫

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You go, not the a**hole! 🙌

PlatypusConsistent96 | PlatypusConsistent96

Sister is an ignorant buffoon, NTA for telling truth 🙌

hauntedyew | hauntedyew

Honesty is the best policy 🤝 NTA

angelmakr9 | angelmakr9

Standing up to abuse, NTA shares the truth 🙌

Scribe101858 | Scribe101858

Breaking the cycle of abuse, NTA for speaking up. 💪

JCBashBash | JCBashBash

Standing up to abuse, NTA! 🙌

MeikyuuDays | MeikyuuDays

Honesty isn't always easy, but it's the right thing. NTA 🙌

Snorlaxstolemysocks | Snorlaxstolemysocks

Glad you escaped! 🙌 NTA

Otherwise_Impact4579 | Otherwise_Impact4579

You go! 🎉 Short and sweet, NTA.

FinnFinnFinnegan | FinnFinnFinnegan

Honesty is the best policy, give her time to process 💭

NightBard | NightBard

The power of honesty, NTA wins the day 🙌

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No a-hole here! Share your story in the comments below 🙌

Ladykaesong | Ladykaesong

Honesty is the best policy, NTA 🙌

Samoyedfun | Samoyedfun

Congratulations on getting out! 🎉

SmoothScaramouche | SmoothScaramouche

Honesty is the best policy, NTA! 🤞

Princessofcandyland1 | Princessofcandyland1

Honesty is the best policy 🤥👍

DevilSilver | DevilSilver

Brutal honesty prevails, NTA. 🤐

mphflame | mphflame

Sometimes, honesty is not always the best policy, NTA 🤐

626bluestitch | 626bluestitch

Glad to see you and your mom are living happily now! 😊

Caribe92 | Caribe92

Sister asked for truth, didn't like it, NTA 🤷‍♀️

a-_rose | a-_rose

Honesty without guilt. 🙌

Quicksilver1964 | Quicksilver1964

Honesty is the best policy 🤥🤫

Defiant_Ingenuity_55 | Defiant_Ingenuity_55

Being honest with family is tough! Good for you! ✊

Winter_Wolverine4622 | Winter_Wolverine4622

Discovering the truth after being lied to for years, 🤔 give her time.

mikesspoiledwife | mikesspoiledwife

Heartwarming support for OP and their mother ❤️

Mahogany993 | Mahogany993