Mother-in-Law Wants to Host an Online Memorial for My Miscarriage, AITA for Refusing?

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A woman who recently suffered a miscarriage is being called "cold and unfeeling" by her mother-in-law for refusing to hold an online memorial service for the pregnancy. Despite not feeling emotionally attached to the pregnancy, the woman's MiL is devastated and wants to invite a large group of family members to the virtual service.

The woman's husband is caught in the middle of the dispute and is already stressed from dealing with his grieving mother. The woman is seeking advice on whether or not she is in the wrong for refusing the memorial service.

Read on to find out more about this difficult family situation.

Dealing with a personal loss, refusing MIL's online memorial

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

MiL wants online memorial for my miscarriage, AITA for refusing?

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

MIL wants a Zoom memorial for my miscarriage, AITA? 💻

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

Respecting my miscarriage is my right, not my mother-in-law's. 💔

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

Dealing with insensitive mother-in-law after miscarriage, advice please? 💔

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

Respecting my grief or prioritizing her mourning? 🤔

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

MIL wants to host a memorial for miscarriage, OP refuses 🤔

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

MIL's fertility struggles and emotional attachment to my miscarriage

stupidbraindreams | stupidbraindreams

Refusing an online memorial for a miscarriage, AITA?

Losing a child is one of the most difficult experiences a parent can face. But what happens when the mother doesn't feel the same level of grief as the rest of the family members? In this post_text, a woman's mother-in-law wants to host an online memorial for her miscarriage, but the woman is not upset about it at all. She refused to let it happen, and now her mother-in-law is calling her cold and unfeeling.

The woman feels that she wasn't attached to the pregnancy, and it's the equivalent of crying over her period every month. This has caused tension between her and her husband, who is stressed out from dealing with his mother's grief. The woman is questioning whether she's in the wrong for not wanting to go through with the memorial.

Readers are left wondering if the mother-in-law is being too pushy, or if the woman is being insensitive. Stay tuned for the comments and reactions to this controversial topic.

A discussion on grieving and personal preference after a pregnancy loss.

Creatableworld | Creatableworld

Mother-in-law's insensitive behavior towards grieving OP sparks backlash.

OatmealCookieGirl | OatmealCookieGirl

Mother-in-law's pushy behavior met with justified backlash. 🙅‍♀️

Kay_Elle | Kay_Elle

NTA for refusing MIL's request, OP needs to set boundaries 🚫👵🤐


Mother-in-law's insensitive proposal for miscarriage memorial, NTA's response.

Dookwithanegg | Dookwithanegg

Learn about Ring Theory for grief support, not MIL's comfort.

ThistleDewToo | ThistleDewToo

Respectful support for personal grieving; MIL needs to back off. 💛

Sam_Renee | Sam_Renee

Commenter defends OP's decision, with humorous comparison 🤣

rip-texas-lmao | rip-texas-lmao

Respect your boundaries, NTA. 🙏

owenamador | owenamador

Commenter sympathizes with mother-in-law but defends OP's decision, NTA.

FriedEngineer | FriedEngineer

NTA. Miscarriage is a sensitive topic, MIL should respect that.

520throwaway | 520throwaway

MIL wants a memorial for your miscarriage. NTA for refusing 💔

imabanddork | imabanddork

Mother-in-law's selfishness causes distress, commenter says. 🙄

Pripyatic | Pripyatic

Grieving should be WITH, not TO a person. NTA.

marjomind | marjomind

Respectful NTA comment shuts down excessive mother-in-law proposal 💪

Portie_lover | Portie_lover

Mother-in-law's insensitive proposal for miscarriage, NTA for refusing 🚫💻

FeliciaaFancybottomm | FeliciaaFancybottomm

Empathetic response shuts down insensitive mother-in-law. 🙌

DinahDrakeLance | DinahDrakeLance

Don't let anyone hijack your grief. You're NTA 🙏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respectful NTA comment suggests MIL wants memorial for herself 🤔

Eternaljudgment | Eternaljudgment

Mother-in-law's proposed memorial is all about her, NTA for refusing 😔

Trin_42 | Trin_42

User finds it odd that mother-in-law wants to host a memorial 💭

Thin_Link5976 | Thin_Link5976

MIL making it about herself, NTA for refusing 🙄

RevolutionaryPaper97 | RevolutionaryPaper97

Respectful NTA comment, mother-in-law insulted OP. Keep pregnancy private.

[deleted] | [deleted]

Mother-in-law oversteps boundaries, NTA for refusing online memorial.

Darkskinellie1 | Darkskinellie1

Mother-in-law is being selfish, NTA for refusing 🙅‍♀️

baggleboots | baggleboots

Miscarriage is a sensitive topic, NTA for declining MIL's offer.

billy_the_kid16 | billy_the_kid16

Grieving parents should have full control over how to process loss ❤️

Delicious_Lobster468 | Delicious_Lobster468

NTA. MIL needs therapy. You don't owe her anything 💜

throwaway798319 | throwaway798319

Mother-in-law plans secret online memorial for OP's miscarriage, NTA.

SevsMumma21217 | SevsMumma21217

Respectful NTA comment shuts down inappropriate mother-in-law proposal 🚫💻

lady_k_77 | lady_k_77

Compassionate comment offers support and advises setting boundaries with MIL 🤝

AtomicFox84 | AtomicFox84

Don't let anyone guilt-trip you, NTA 🙌

fitzthefox | fitzthefox

Setting boundaries with MIL after miscarriage, NTA 💔

RNBQ4103 | RNBQ4103

Mil oversteps boundaries, NTA stands firm 💪

purplegypsy79 | purplegypsy79

MIL's behavior is unfathomably awful, NTA 🙅‍♀️💔

vvitchofthevvood | vvitchofthevvood

MIL tries to host a memorial for miscarriage, NTA for refusing 💔

Techsupportvictim | Techsupportvictim

Commenter's reaction to a boundary-stomping mother-in-law 🤯

adotfree | adotfree

Respectful NTA comment showcases importance of personal mourning process. 🙏

Used_Competition_954 | Used_Competition_954

Agree with NTA comment, but let's keep the language clean 💬🙊

mrsagc90 | mrsagc90

Setting boundaries with in-laws, 🚫👩‍👩‍👧‍👦

somedumbguy84 | somedumbguy84

Grief is personal. Sharing it publicly can be overwhelming. NTA

Book_devourer | Book_devourer

Agreed! MIL is way out of line 😬

[deleted] | [deleted]

Miscarrying is tough, but it's okay to be okay. 🙏

LokiRook | LokiRook

Miscarriage is a personal experience. You decide how to cope.

trainpk85 | trainpk85

User calls out mother-in-law's weird behavior, NTA.

RiByrne | RiByrne

Respectful NTA declines mother-in-law's invasive offer for public memorial.

Mary-U | Mary-U

Mother-in-law's insensitive request adds insult to injury. NTA.

bornabuckeye75 | bornabuckeye75

You have the right to grieve on your own terms ❤️

Bob4Cat | Bob4Cat

Setting boundaries with grieving MIL, NTA but empathize 💔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respectful NTA comment shuts down mother-in-law's cringey suggestion 💪

Cultural-Guide1325 | Cultural-Guide1325

Validation for choosing to grieve privately, NTA 🙌

gamemamawarlock | gamemamawarlock

MiL's insensitive request for a miscarriage memorial: NTA

SydeSplitter | SydeSplitter

Your miscarriage, your rules. NTA for setting boundaries 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Respectful boundaries are important for grieving process. 💞

NaryaGenesis | NaryaGenesis

Setting boundaries with MIL for future child, NTA. 🤰🚫💻

Tinkerrific | Tinkerrific

NTA. The mother-in-law's coping mechanism is messed up 😕

timebomb969 | timebomb969

Respectful NTA comment. Mother-in-law should back off. 🙅‍♀️

zbh92 | zbh92

MIL's inappropriate request deserves a gentle but firm response 🙅‍♀️

Illustrious-Band-537 | Illustrious-Band-537

NTA. Miscarrying is a difficult experience and personal. 💔

merpancake | merpancake

Take time to grieve. Your mother-in-law should support you ❤️

EmpressJainaSolo | EmpressJainaSolo

MiL's behavior is selfish and odd, NTA OP 👍

Sunny906 | Sunny906

User warns OP to keep an eye on MIL for 'baby rabies' 😱

Lennyisabadcat | Lennyisabadcat

Grieving mother refuses MIL's offer for a memorial, receives unwanted advice.

rbaltimore | rbaltimore

Setting boundaries with mother-in-law after miscarriage, NTA.

emilouwho687 | emilouwho687

Setting boundaries is important, NTA for refusing MIL's proposal.

emr830 | emr830

Respectful NTA commenter validates OP's feelings and boundaries 🙌

Knittingfairy09113 | Knittingfairy09113

MIL's idea of hosting memorial is not helping, 🤦‍♀️

[deleted] | [deleted]

Protecting private medical info, NTA for refusing MIL's request. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

MIL trying to host online memorial for miscarriage, NTA.

PlushieTushie | PlushieTushie

Grieving is personal. MIL overstepped, NTA for refusing. 😢

Librscor | Librscor

Commenter expresses shock and disbelief at mother-in-law's behavior 🤯

One-Place-973 | One-Place-973

Setting boundaries with a grieving mother-in-law 🛑💔

that-1-chick-u-know | that-1-chick-u-know

Mother-in-law's strange request for online memorial after miscarriage, NTA

huffliestofpuffs | huffliestofpuffs

Respect your loved ones' way of grieving. NTA 🙏

CaptainMalForever | CaptainMalForever

Your loss, not hers. Set boundaries and prioritize your healing ❤️

_Bisclavert | _Bisclavert