Father Refuses To Pay For Daughter's Wedding Over Conservative In-Laws

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A father on the popular subreddit AITA is in a predicament after his daughter excluded his husband and son from her upcoming wedding. The father had promised to pay for his daughter's wedding since she was a little girl, but after his daughter informed him that her future in-laws are conservative and religious and his husband could not attend the wedding, the father changed his mind.

The daughter was not happy with this decision and called her father selfish. The father's family and ex-wife also criticized him for being selfish. The father apologized for considering exclusion and decided not to pay for the wedding after his daughter refused to change her mind.

This conflict raises questions about the importance of inclusion in family events and the promises we make to our loved ones.

Father reneges on wedding promise, cites 'something' that changed mind 💔

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Loving father stands up for beliefs, denies payment for wedding 💔

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

A father's wallet closes as daughter's wedding wishes grow 🤑

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Father witheld wedding funds due to conservative in-laws' restrictions 🤵💰

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

No kids allowed at the wedding, including the bride's own son.

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Navigating conservative in-laws and wedding planning woes 😭

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Father refuses to pay for daughter's wedding amidst family drama

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Father under fire for backing out of wedding promise 🤔

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Father cuts wedding funds over conservative in-laws 🤵💰

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Mother forgives daughter for choosing conservative FIL over family.

largeseat3093 | largeseat3093

Father cancels wedding payment over conservative in-laws 👰

A father's promise to pay for his daughter's wedding was broken after the bride-to-be's conservative in-laws set rules that excluded the father's family. The daughter requested that her husband's parents, who are religious and conservative, not be made uncomfortable by the presence of the father's partner and their child at the wedding.

The father refused and insisted that if the in-laws were so important, they should pay for the wedding themselves. The daughter became angry and called her father selfish, picking favorites, and not thinking about her at all. Despite the daughter's apology, the father decided not to pay for the wedding.

This incident highlights the tension and conflict that can arise when differing values and beliefs clash in a family setting. The next section will feature reactions and comments on this controversial decision.

Daughter's entitlement and homophobia cause father to refuse payment 💰🚫

Ferret_Brain | Ferret_Brain

Standing up against bigotry. NTA wins this round 👍

lestrangerface | lestrangerface

Homophobia shouldn't be supported, NTA made the right choice.

Pale_Height_1251 | Pale_Height_1251

Stand your ground and don't finance bigotry. 🙅‍♂️

Cutewitch_ | Cutewitch_

Commenter supports father standing up to bigoted in-laws 💪

puentepe | puentepe

Wedding or a**kissing? NTA stands up to in-laws 🎩💍

blablamcbla | blablamcbla

Daughter's manipulative behavior exposed. NTA for standing your ground. 😒

leilo101 | leilo101

Dad stands up for his values and wallet 💰

bsb006 | bsb006

Supportive comment calling out daughter's selfishness. 🙌

QX23 | QX23

Daughter's wedding, conservative in-laws and a tough choice for father

HexStarlight | HexStarlight

Father stands up against closed-minded in-laws, refuses to pay for wedding. ✌🏻

[deleted] | [deleted]

Daughter's wedding called off over bigoted in-laws. NTA.

squeebops | squeebops

Father stands up for his beliefs and boundaries. 💪🏼

DasBleu | DasBleu

Agreeing with NTA comment, wedding drama ensues 🙄

Aluckysj | Aluckysj

Father stands up to disrespectful daughter over wedding costs 💰

Sugar_Peeps | Sugar_Peeps

Commenter defends father's decision and insults in-laws. 💥

OrangeSorbet09 | OrangeSorbet09

Supporting comment offers sympathy in tense family situation ❤️

[deleted] | [deleted]

Don't mess with dad's wallet 💰 NTA

CarlGustav2 | CarlGustav2

Father refuses to pay for daughter's wedding over conservative in-laws 💰

completemalarkey | completemalarkey

Father puts foot down on daughter's wedding expenses 💰

Annexus22 | Annexus22

Daughter prioritizes conservative in-laws over her own father. 🙄

daven1985 | daven1985

Daughter's behavior is heinous. Will future events be excluded? 😬

HelpMeUpPls | HelpMeUpPls

Stand up to homophobia at your wedding 💍👬

Beginning-Action5639 | Beginning-Action5639

Wedding drama: Pay for it but ban conservative in-laws? 🤔

[deleted] | [deleted]

Homophobic in-laws causing conflict at daughter's wedding. NTA.

Glum-Internet-6465 | Glum-Internet-6465

The only child? Sounds like daddy's little princess 🙄

Kashmir2020Alex | Kashmir2020Alex

Standing up to bigotry - Not the a**hole.

River_Song47 | River_Song47

Parental disappointment and hopes for their child's future. 😔

CoffeeAndDachshunds | CoffeeAndDachshunds

Not the a**hole! Let's hear more about this drama 👀

Mabelisms | Mabelisms

Father refuses to pay for daughter's wedding. NTA wins.

PA_Archer | PA_Archer

Daughter's wedding feud over conservative in-laws. NTA wins.

tiufan | tiufan

Father refuses to sponsor daughter's wedding over homophobic in-laws ❤️🏳️‍🌈

EggoStack | EggoStack

Daughter excludes father's family, demands wedding payment. NTA.

RebelScum427 | RebelScum427

Parenting disagreement sparks heated comment section 🔥

kepners | kepners

Daughter's desire to please in-laws may lead to lifelong unhappiness 😔

Realistic-Animator-3 | Realistic-Animator-3

Daughter demands wedding, father refuses - choose your battles 💰👰

Mammens10 | Mammens10

Supportive comment condemns exclusionary in-laws and offers sympathy.

Loriana320 | Loriana320

In-laws unaware of daughter's partner, OP receives NTA judgment.

EmpressFox64 | EmpressFox64

Don't be a cash cow for a daughter who distances herself 🐄

Awkward-Pollution177 | Awkward-Pollution177

Father withholds wedding funds, raising concerns about daughter's relationship 👰❤️

mellejane | mellejane

Stand your ground, dad! 🙌 Homophobia is never okay. 👎

TerminusEst86 | TerminusEst86

Heartbreaking comment on missing a father's presence at weddings 💔

Notnormalnothuman | Notnormalnothuman

Standing up against homophobia is always the right thing. NTA 🌈

NotForKeeps626 | NotForKeeps626

Commenter shares personal experience with homophobia and supports OP

RaZZeR_9351 | RaZZeR_9351

Enjoy your money 💰 and let her deal 🤝 with her intolerant in-laws.

mothrflower | mothrflower

Commenter sympathizes with OP and condemns bigotry 🤝

chefkimberly | chefkimberly

Choosing your own family over bigoted biological relatives. 👏

Sturken | Sturken

Commenter argues daughter is the a**hole for not standing up to in-laws

No_Weight_6756 | No_Weight_6756

NTA for not funding wedding with homophobic in-laws 💍❌

yecatz | yecatz

Celebrate love, not hate. Stand up for inclusivity ❤️🌈

Designer-Mirror-7995 | Designer-Mirror-7995

Daughter's in-laws demand exclusion, father refuses to fund wedding

boots_82 | boots_82

Father confronts daughter's dishonesty and stands up for himself. 💪

Unlikely-Speaker-614 | Unlikely-Speaker-614

Daughter's holier-than-thou wedding sparks controversy among in-laws. NTA.

Khanyi437 | Khanyi437

Daughter wants money, not acceptance. NTA stands firm 🙅‍♂️

kwenthryth | kwenthryth

Supportive comment applauds father's decision, offers wedding attendance as incentive

Opposite-Mode-9387 | Opposite-Mode-9387

👍 Father's decision not to pay for daughter's wedding due to conservative in-laws is justified

LonelyNC123 | LonelyNC123

Father refuses to pay for daughter's wedding over conservative in-laws. NTA

BrokenDragonEgg | BrokenDragonEgg

NTA! Let's hear it for the not-the-a-hole crew! 🙌

tabbikat86 | tabbikat86

Wedding cancelled over conservative in-laws? Yikes! 😬

SmackaHam | SmackaHam

Advice for avoiding conflicts with conservative in-laws at wedding.

Melleboiii | Melleboiii

Daughter expects father to pay for wedding but exclude him 🤔

sandchild111 | sandchild111

Supportive comment against daughter's homophobic in-laws. 💗

anonymousbee14 | anonymousbee14

User questions the veracity of the story and claims it promotes divisiveness 🤔


Supportive comment defends OP's decision, calls out hypocritical callers 👍

Forward-Two3846 | Forward-Two3846

Supportive comment advocates for LGBT rights and acceptance.

BiPolarBenzo | BiPolarBenzo

Father refuses to pay for daughter's wedding over conservative in-laws

shawn0811 | shawn0811

Daughter needs to stand up to in-laws, NTA father won't pay 💰

YeahYouOtter | YeahYouOtter

Father stands his ground against controlling in-laws, NTA 🙌

anken74 | anken74

Father with conservative in-laws refuses to pay for daughter's wedding

BlueBelle2019 | BlueBelle2019

Daughter's request implies hiding gay husband, reevaluation of relationship necessary. #NTA 🌈❤️

thechort7 | thechort7

Daughter prioritizes in-laws over father's identity for wedding cost 💰👨‍❤️‍👨

mca2021 | mca2021

Not the a**hole! Let's hear more opinions 👂🏼💬

organizedcj | organizedcj

Outdated traditions causing family conflict at daughter's wedding 🥴

Katiepearce6686 | Katiepearce6686

Commenter criticizes daughter's choices and suggests alternative use of wedding funds 😒

PresentationBig4969 | PresentationBig4969

Supportive comment receives no backlash 👍

Sad_Investigator6160 | Sad_Investigator6160

Support for father standing up against conservative in-laws 💪

awfullthingg | awfullthingg

Stand up for yourself and your partner! 💪 NTA

TheVoicesAreMine | TheVoicesAreMine

Daughter's values clash with conservative in-laws, father not AH.

becca41445 | becca41445

Heartbreaking NTA comment on father refusing to pay for daughter's wedding 💔

ash-hole89 | ash-hole89

Daughter wants wedding but doesn't care about father's feelings. NTA 💰

Lopsided_Grass_7644 | Lopsided_Grass_7644

Commenter supports the father's decision with anger. 💥

Necessary_Program_83 | Necessary_Program_83

Daughter's wedding canceled over conservative in-laws. NTA strikes back 👀💰

nomadicpny | nomadicpny

Daughter's wedding cancelled over conservative in-laws, NTA to refuse payment 👍

Spicymoose29 | Spicymoose29

Wedding canceled after father's conservative family feud. 🚫💍

Astricozy | Astricozy

Wedding finances lead to family drama. 🎩💍

meifahs_musungs | meifahs_musungs

Wedding drama: Bride's conservative in-laws already driving family apart. 😬

amaerau03 | amaerau03

Daughter's hurtful choices show in-laws > own family. NTA.

Mission-Cloud360 | Mission-Cloud360

What's NYA? We need more context here 🤔

Exact_Club_5673 | Exact_Club_5673

Supportive comment calls out daughter's disrespect, offers hope 🤞

pinguaina | pinguaina

Mature response to daughter's wedding, family trip instead 👏

ISeaBlueInSunnyCalif | ISeaBlueInSunnyCalif