Who's Birthday Is More Important- My Son's 1st Or My MIL's 50th?

Alfe Mercado
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When a woman's mother-in-law refused to reschedule her son's first birthday party, even though it fell on the same day as the mother-in-law's 50th birthday, she called her a crybaby. The mother-in-law is now not talking to the couple and her daughters are calling her an a**hole. Was the woman in the right for prioritizing her son's birthday or should she have moved the party to accommodate her mother-in-law's milestone birthday? Read the full story to find out what happened and share your thoughts in the comments below.

MIL's birthday overshadowed my son's birth- not a happy granny 👵

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Can't decide between my son's 1st bday or MIL's 50th? 🤷‍♀️

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Choosing between son's 1st bday and MIL's 50th, tough call.

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MIL vs. Son's 1st bday- whose is more important?

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MIL vs. son's 1st birthday🎂- family feud begins! 😠

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No joint party possible, MIL prefers fancy parties with friends.

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Whose birthday is more important? MIL's 50th or son's 1st? 🎂

A clash of two birthdays has caused a rift in the family. One is a milestone birthday and the other is a first birthday. The post_text describes how the MIL loves her birthday and was not pleased when the son was born on the same day. This year, both birthdays fall on a Saturday, and the OP wants to celebrate the son's birthday on that day. However, the MIL insists on having her party on the same day and expects the son's party to be held on another day. The OP thinks the MIL is being unreasonable and immature. The family is now divided, and the daughters have called the OP an a**hole. What do you think? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments section below.

Compromise is key. ESH. Baby doesn't care about dates.

Elcapitan2020 | Elcapitan2020

MIL's 50th deserves to be celebrated, but OP's behavior was nasty 😬

Anakerie | Anakerie

Compromise needed for son's 1st and MIL's 50th milestone celebration. 🎉

SailorPrincess28 | SailorPrincess28

Commenter called out for prioritizing son's birthday over MIL's 50th 🤔

Any-Pay-974 | Any-Pay-974

Give MIL her 50th, your son won't remember his 1st.

amej117 | amej117

MIL's 50th vs. son's 1st bday debate. YTA, prioritize MIL?

Afraid_Salamander_14 | Afraid_Salamander_14

Your son's 1st birthday isn't more important, YTA. Have separate parties.

beesknees3330 | beesknees3330

Commenter calls out ridiculous behavior in a blunt but fair way 😬

fakemonalisa | fakemonalisa

Celebrate both, but don't make MIL's 50th about you 🎉

rhinosorcery | rhinosorcery

A comment pointing out the immaturity of the situation.

mm172 | mm172

It's not about the 1-year-old, but sharing milestones is tricky 🎂

chiterkins | chiterkins

Celebrate both! 🎉 But don't forget whose milestone it is.

Billy1510 | Billy1510

Skip the awkwardness and celebrate MIL's 50th milestone birthday 🎉

slutforlibraries | slutforlibraries

Celebrate your MIL's milestone, your child won't remember 🎂🎉

sigusch | sigusch

MIL's 50th is a milestone, but is the argument deeper? 🤔

wheres_the_revolt | wheres_the_revolt

Commenter receives YTA judgement, but sympathizers chime in 🤔

highwoodshady | highwoodshady

MIL's 50th on a Saturday vs son's 1st birthday. ESH.

AnarchyMoose | AnarchyMoose

Prioritize your MIL's 50th, your son won't remember anyway 🤔

Shining_Sparks | Shining_Sparks

MIL's milestone birthday or a 1st birthday- YTA for pushing yours.

MoistUniversities | MoistUniversities

Immature OP called MIL 'crybaby', YTA for not apologizing.

JesicaVDH | JesicaVDH

Communication breakdown leads to MIL being labeled an a**hole 🤔


Choosing between a 1st birthday and a 50th, ESH.

Saskenzie18 | Saskenzie18

Have your child's party on Sunday for MIL's 50th. 🎉

Bimbo_Laggins | Bimbo_Laggins

Don't let your grudge ruin your son's first celebration 🎉

showerbulb | showerbulb

Joint party could have been a wonderful celebration! YTA.

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NTA but MIL wants to set a standard for future birthdays 🎂

Ziggywife1990 | Ziggywife1990

Setting boundaries with a self-centered MIL demanding a party change.

Himkano | Himkano

MIL's 50th birthday vs son's 1st - who wins? 🎂

YouretheAH | YouretheAH

Mom chooses son's 1st bday over selfish MIL's 50th celebration.

Spell_Blade | Spell_Blade

MIL wants a birthday showdown with son's 1st birthday? ESH

BreathOfLizard | BreathOfLizard

Compromise and communication are key for conflicting celebrations 🎉

cyahzar | cyahzar

Celebrating milestones: Whose should come first? 🤔

Octavia9 | Octavia9

Husband's absence in MIL's 50th vs son's 1st birthday conflict?

The__Riker__Maneuver | The__Riker__Maneuver

Disagreement over birthday scheduling leads to immaturity. 🙄

k2aries | k2aries

NTA for prioritizing son's 1st bday over MIL's 50th 🎉

Court-Humble | Court-Humble

Your son's 1st birthday and your MIL's 50th, who wins? 💥

kacastro | kacastro

Power struggle with MIL over birthdays, details needed 🤔

Beckylately | Beckylately

User thinks OP is TA for not compromising on party date 💥

Melin_Lavendel_Rosa | Melin_Lavendel_Rosa

MIL's 50th is more important than son's 1st bday. YTA.

Valerain_Alice | Valerain_Alice

Commenter questions the importance of a baby's party, ESH.

Latenight-crybaby | Latenight-crybaby

Celebrating milestone birthdays on the day is important, YTA.


A first birthday is special but MIL needs to grow up 🙄

MamaofTwinDragons | MamaofTwinDragons

Dealing with a narcissistic MIL on your son's 1st birthday 🎂

casualquasar | casualquasar

MIL's 50th is a milestone birthday, YTA for dismissing it 🎉

Special_Respond7372 | Special_Respond7372

MIL upset about grandkid's 1st bday overlapping with her 50th. ESH.

blueskittleskid | blueskittleskid

Why not make it a joint party? 🎂🎁 It's a happy coincidence!

asianingermany | asianingermany

Don't let stubbornness ruin your son's big day. 🎂

Sunkisst88 | Sunkisst88

Is MIL's 50th more important than OP's son's 1st? 🤔

angelxe1 | angelxe1

Don't let MIL's demands ruin your son's first birthday! 🎂

StressedBird | StressedBird

Birthday battle: Baby's 1st vs MIL's 50th 🎂🎉

Devanear | Devanear

YTA for prioritizing your child's 1st birthday over MIL's 50th 🎂

pommypuddle | pommypuddle

Everyone sucks here, but who gets the bigger party? 🎉

facinationstreet | facinationstreet

Prioritize your son's 1st birthday and have MIL's party later 🎉

forest_fae98 | forest_fae98

Celebrate your MIL's milestone and plan your son's party later 🎂

maggiecath | maggiecath

Don't be a brat, it's just a child's birthday 🎂

BlondeUnicorn20 | BlondeUnicorn20

Age doesn't matter when it comes to birthdays 🎉

sayhummus | sayhummus

Birthday dilemma gets spicy with an ESH verdict 🔥

Organic_Extension750 | Organic_Extension750

Coordinate the parties and find a reasonable compromise 👍

greentea1985 | greentea1985

MIL's 50th vs. Son's 1st: YTA for prioritizing the latter 💥

Mantis_Cosmonaut | Mantis_Cosmonaut

Celebrate your son's milestone, not MIL's selfishness. NTA 🎉

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Celebrate both with a happy compromise 🎉👶🏻🎂👵🏻

risqueandreward | risqueandreward

Family drama takes the cake 🎂😑

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