Friend Wants To Take Paternity Test, AITA For Trying To Talk Him Out Of It?

Alfe Mercado
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A man seeks advice on how to bring up a paternity test with his wife. Despite the baby looking just like him, he feels he needs to be certain. The man's friend tries to persuade him not to go through with it, highlighting the potential hurt that could be caused to his wife, who recently gave birth and is going through a tough time. The friend also questions why he would need a test based on no evidence, causing a rift in their friendship. Is the friend in the wrong for trying to stop the paternity test or is the father right to want to be certain? Read on to find out more.

No doubts about baby's paternity, friend still wants test 🤔

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Navigating paternity test request from 'mgtow' friend, advice needed.

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Friend doubts partner's fidelity, asks for paternity test 😕

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Supporting a friend during postpartum depression, not accusations. ❤️

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Is it fair to ask for a paternity test?

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Friend wants paternity test, but it may end the relationship 🤔

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Supporting friend's paternity test - Gender bias is not cool 🙅

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Empathize with mother's trauma, discourage paternity test. 🤰🔍

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Trying to convince friend that paternity test is hurtful, AITA?

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To test or not to test? A friend's dilemma 👶

A friend's request for a paternity test on his newborn has left the poster wondering if he's the A-hole for trying to talk him out of it. Nick's friend believes it's a good idea to take the test to be certain, but the poster thinks it could hurt Nick's wife Jess, who just had a traumatic birth, leading to postpartum depression. The poster tried to make Nick see how hurtful accusations like this can be by asking him how he would feel if Jess asked for a paternity test on them. Nick is now mad at the poster for not supporting and helping him, but the poster maintains that Jess needs support and love, not accusations of cheating. Do you think Nick is in the wrong for wanting the test or is he justified in wanting to be certain? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

NTA comment and replies provide examples of similar situations and highlight the potential consequences of getting a paternity test in a loving relationship. The lack of basic biology knowledge and empathy of some men is astonishing. Letting Nick get the test may nuke his relationship, and his wife would be better off alone. 🤦🏻‍♀️

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NTA for discouraging friend's toxic behavior and protecting Jess.

TheTrueAHWasInsideUs | TheTrueAHWasInsideUs

NTA. Friend wants paternity test, risking divorce and hurting wife.

Potential-Reply729 | Potential-Reply729

A family member's deceit caused a slow death for a relationship 💔

badnewsfaery | badnewsfaery

Commenter calls out friend's motives, sparks MGTOW debate 🔍💡

venturebirdday | venturebirdday

Support Jess, Nick's actions speak volumes. 💔

Gwenbyn | Gwenbyn

NTA for calling out friend's unnecessary paternity test, support Jess 💪

little500HondaCBR | little500HondaCBR

A friend wants a paternity test, NTA for suggesting honesty.

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

A friend accuses his wife of cheating after she gave birth, NTA

VerlinMerlin | VerlinMerlin

Men in stable relationships demanding paternity tests is disgusting 🤢

CupofCursedTea | CupofCursedTea

A savage reply that speaks volumes 📩💔

unconfirmedpanda | unconfirmedpanda

OP advises friend to let Nick ruin his own relationship.

preciousbodyparts | preciousbodyparts

Friend's marriage at stake over paternity test, 'friend' an a-hole 👎

DocSternau | DocSternau

NTA! Friend's request for paternity test is suspicious 🤔

DatguyMalcolm | DatguyMalcolm

Curiosity about Nick's character sparks discussion on paternity tests. 🤔

SuddenWhole | SuddenWhole

Commenter calls out MGTOW ideology, receives support from replies 💪

toofat2serve | toofat2serve

Commenter sympathizes with Jess and suggests distancing from friend.

Open_YardBox | Open_YardBox

Encourage your friend to think twice about ruining his marriage 🤔

zilnosnibor | zilnosnibor

A mistrustful seed can grow into a divorce. 💔

throwaway1975764 | throwaway1975764

Trust issues in a relationship - break up or take test?

Usual-Worry8412 | Usual-Worry8412

NTA wants paternity test, but what happens if he gets it? 🤔

AforAuPair | AforAuPair

Commenter warns friend against paternity test, calls him an idiot 💥

tatasz | tatasz

Avoid the MGTOW trap, don't lose your family 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦💔

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Controversial gender bias discussion in the replies 🤔

Sufficient-Figure470 | Sufficient-Figure470

Recruit some male supporters to back you up with flying monkeys 🐒

billlevansatmariposa | billlevansatmariposa

Toxic friend plants seed of doubt, NTA for objecting paternity test 🤨

Old_Razzmatazz4191 | Old_Razzmatazz4191

Should paternity tests be the default? NAH’s opinion sparks discussion.🤔

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Unsupportive sperm donor causes trauma for new mother. 😔

Radiant-Habit4660 | Radiant-Habit4660

Supporting Jess and calling out Nick's hypocrisy. 🙌

Timoss_and_all_moss | Timoss_and_all_moss

Sad situation 😔 NTA for supporting Jess

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Woman shares experience with DNA test and advises caution, NTA

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New dad prioritizing paternity test over wife's recovery, NTA.

not_your_bird | not_your_bird

Paternity tests should be mandatory to avoid future heartbreaks. 💔

The-End-of-All-Days | The-End-of-All-Days

Opinion on paternity tests and potential consequences discussed.

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The gravity of knowing outweighs the offence, NTA 👍

Own_Air_5945 | Own_Air_5945

Don't let a paternity test ruin your relationships 😕

Lalalelo94 | Lalalelo94

Commenter sympathizes with mother, warns friend about looking guilty. 😬

AbraCaDerp | AbraCaDerp