Mother 'forces' Son to Wait to Marry High-school Girlfriend, Now Accused of Ruining Their Relationship

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A mother's decision to encourage her son to wait to marry his high-school girlfriend has caused a rift in their relationship. The son had multiple college options but wanted to stay in town and get married. His mother, concerned about his future, encouraged him to wait and promised to pay for his tuition if he did. Years later, the son graduated college and announced his engagement to his girlfriend. However, during a family dinner, the girlfriend accused the mother of paying her son not to marry her and actively trying to ruin their relationship. The son has since apologized for his girlfriend's words, but the situation has caused tension between the couple as they navigate their future. Read on to find out more about this family's dilemma.

Mother opposes son's marriage plans to prioritize his education 🎓

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Mother defends her decision to delay son's marriage for college funds 💰

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Mother delays son's marriage, jeopardizes his relationship with fiancé 💔

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Accusations of meddling in son's relationship cause holiday drama 🤔

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Son's words twisted by girlfriend? Family divided on mother's decision

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Mother defends decision to delay son's marriage for education goals.

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Bakery worker dreams of being SAHM, waits for long-distance love 💕

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Couple's future uncertain after mother's meddling, law school aspirations revealed

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Mother's interference causes doubts in high-school sweethearts' relationship ❤️

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Mother accused of ruining son's relationship for encouraging college education

A mother's decision to encourage her son to attend college before tying the knot with his high school sweetheart has caused a rift between the couple and the family. The mother, who wanted her son to fulfill his ambitions, offered to pay for his tuition if he waited a year or two to get married. The son agreed and graduated college this year while maintaining a long-distance relationship with his girlfriend. However, when the couple announced their engagement, the son told his fiancée that his mother was the reason for the delay in proposing. This led to a heated confrontation during Christmas dinner, with the girlfriend accusing the mother of paying her son not to marry her and actively trying to ruin their relationship. Although the son has apologized and cleared the air with his fiancée, the incident has brought up other issues between the couple regarding their future plans. Read on for the internet's advice on the matter.

Protective mom gets called 'evil' by immature future DIL.

type1error | type1error

NTA. Son's girlfriend may not be marriage material. 🤔

ArwenandEowyn | ArwenandEowyn

NTA, mother's actions were right, Fran's behavior is concerning 😬

sour_lemons | sour_lemons

Mother defends decision to delay son's marriage, accused of ruining relationship

Old-Poet6587 | Old-Poet6587

NTA. Clear the air with your DIL ASAP 👌

kingshwarma | kingshwarma

Christmas dinner turned into a disaster with future MIL accused of ruining relationship 🎄

dancing_chinese_kid | dancing_chinese_kid

Giving ultimatums to your children isn't easy, but necessary. NTA 👍

Ok-Cauliflower-1388 | Ok-Cauliflower-1388

Choosing college education over early marriage - NTA wins

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Fran's limited career options may have contributed to relationship issues 🤔

scininja99 | scininja99

MIL gets schooled about marrying an educated man vs. boy 👨‍🎓👦

Yellobrix | Yellobrix

Commenter calls out tackiness of OP's language, receives agreement.

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Curious if there's a history of drama with Fran 🤔

Thamwoofgu | Thamwoofgu

Don't rush into marriage just because you graduated together 🚫

FamousOhioAppleHorn | FamousOhioAppleHorn

NTA comment and reply point out potential issues in son's marriage 😬

SlinkyMalinky20 | SlinkyMalinky20

Delaying marriage for education causes red flag reaction from girlfriend 😐

Peasplease25 | Peasplease25

Small town life can limit big ambitions, wise advice given 👍

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Mother stands by decision to delay son's marriage for education 🎓

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Concerns raised over girlfriend's mental health, QAnon mentioned.

Practical-Friend3576 | Practical-Friend3576

Son needs to communicate clearly with Fran, Dan is AH 🙄

happybanana134 | happybanana134

Sassy comment suggests son should just wait forever for love 💔

walkerbyfaith | walkerbyfaith

Long engagement may be best. 🤔

dodie2599 | dodie2599

Supportive parent suggests alternate career paths for son's future with 💕.

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Encouraging education before marriage can prevent heartbreak 💔

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

Delaying marriage for education is a wise move. NTA 👍

JurassicParkFood | JurassicParkFood

Delaying engagement: reasonable parenting or relationship ruiner? 🤔

thirdtryisthecharm | thirdtryisthecharm

Son not ready for marriage, needs to learn communication skills.

EmpressJainaSolo | EmpressJainaSolo

Supportive comment defends mother's decision to prioritize son's education 📚

Gullible-Tondonian | Gullible-Tondonian

Wait for it! Don't rush into a relationship 😌

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Commenter reflects on her past mistake with a touch of humor 😅

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Mother's advice leads to relationship trouble, commenters sympathize

Manofthedecade | Manofthedecade

Mother-in-law shames son's girlfriend for wanting to get married. NTA.

Hefty_Candidate_4902 | Hefty_Candidate_4902

You dodged a bullet 💔 NTA, let it go.

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Son's betrayal leads to girlfriend's overreaction 🤔

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Encouraging son to go to college ruined his relationship? 🤔

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Small town, small mind. A mother accused of meddling.

Steups13 | Steups13

Miscommunication and anger might have ruined Dan and Fran's relationship 😔

MegaDerppp | MegaDerppp

The mystery of Fran's college years solved 🕵️‍♀️🕵️‍♂️

VegasRoy | VegasRoy

Mother delays son's marriage for college, accused of ruining relationship. NTA.

Issyswe | Issyswe

Son's high school sweetheart may not be worth the drama 😕

1976Raven | 1976Raven

"NTA - Education first, Fran 🎓👍"

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Mother helps son pursue education, girlfriend blames her for breakup. 🤔

Melin_Lavendel_Rosa | Melin_Lavendel_Rosa

Commenter warns mother that Fran still hates her and offers NTA judgement.

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Parenting done right 👍🏽 Encouraging education for a brighter future 🌅

bluemewrobin | bluemewrobin

NTA, but family drama causing tension. Keep distance for peace.

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Supporting young love or setting up for failure? 👰💔

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Mother receives support after son's breakup, insults girlfriend.

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When parents prioritize education over marriage 💍📚

Wren1101 | Wren1101

Supportive advice for son's rocky relationship 🤝

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Mother's tough love pays off, preventing son's heartbreak ❤️

Jizzlike_Mclovin | Jizzlike_Mclovin

A déjà vu story with a different twist 😲

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Delaying marriage for a few years can avoid heartbreak later ❤️

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