Husband Refuses Wife's Suggestion to Change Family Christmas Tradition

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Christmas traditions can be a sensitive topic, especially when different families have different ways of celebrating. In a post on r/amitheasshole, a husband shared his wife's proposal to change how his family does Christmas. While she believes Christmas should be more "kid-friendly", he thinks it would be controlling and inappropriate to suggest changes to his family's long-standing traditions. Read on to find out how the couple navigated this tricky issue and whether Reddit thinks the husband is in the wrong.

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Kids rule Christmas in wife's family with 1000 gifts each 🎁

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Mom excludes grandkids from Christmas gifts, sparking family tension 🎁

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Family discord over gift-giving tradition and child supervision 👪🎁

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Breaking tradition: Wife suggests gift-giving for family's kids 🎁

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Wife suggests kid-focused Christmas, husband denies due to tradition

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Husband defends family tradition, wife calls him controlling 🤷

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Husband refuses wife's proposal to change Christmas tradition 🎄

The age-old debate of whose family to spend Christmas with is a common one. For this couple, they rotate between each other's families every year. However, they have very different Christmas traditions. The wife's family is all about the kids and making the day kid-friendly, while the husband's family focuses more on the adults and great food. The wife suggested they make Christmas more child-friendly by only buying gifts for the kids, but the husband refused, fearing that it would offend his family. The wife feels that Christmas should be about making the day special for the kids, while the husband believes that it's inappropriate to try and change his family's traditions. It's a tricky situation that many couples can relate to. What are your thoughts? Have you ever had a disagreement about holiday traditions with your partner's family? Let's discuss in the comments below.

Boring Christmas tradition causing comparison, but NTA for doing things different. Wife's suggestion not demand.

Damnbee | Damnbee

Excluding kids from Christmas celebration is an ESH move 🎅🏼

Meggers26 | Meggers26

Suggesting changes to family traditions can be touchy. ESH 🤔

Peasplease25 | Peasplease25

Putting mom's tradition above kids' happiness makes YTA, listen to wife.

RafRafRafRaf | RafRafRafRaf

Wife suggests Christmas tradition change, husband refuses. Commenters say YTA.

BentBent12 | BentBent12

Debate on whether children should have their own section at Christmas

Worried_Economist_38 | Worried_Economist_38

Wife and kids might be better off spending Christmas with her family 🎄

The_Krudler | The_Krudler

Commenter calls out husband for being controlling and rude 🤨

FireFurFox | FireFurFox

Suggesting alternative plans for Christmas without ruining traditions ❄

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🎄 Don't dismiss compromise as control, YTA. Listen to wife.

EnRouted | EnRouted

Compromise is key, YTA. Consider your wife's perspective 🎄❤️

AliGeeMe | AliGeeMe

Are separate Christmas celebrations for adults and kids outdated? 🤔

bunnybunny690 | bunnybunny690

Two extreme families collide in a Christmas tradition debate 🎄

MissConduct0120 | MissConduct0120

Time for a new tradition? 🎄 Create your own holiday memories

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Grandmother's Christmas tradition emotionally neglects grandchildren, wife supported

Plenty-Green186 | Plenty-Green186

Compromise for a magical Christmas for the kids 🎄❤️

NancyNuggets | NancyNuggets

Commenter sympathizes with wife's Christmas tradition grievances 🎄🎁

ColdForm7729 | ColdForm7729

Wife wants to include kids in Christmas but mother-in-law refuses. 💔

TragedyPornFamilyVid | TragedyPornFamilyVid

👍Growing up with separate kid and adult spaces at family gatherings was normal and fun. It helped kids learn to behave in different situations and be respectful. The outrage over this tradition is ridiculous.🤦‍♀️

randoperson42 | randoperson42

Celebrate both families on Christmas with a simple compromise 🎄❤️

curly_lox | curly_lox

A cautionary tale about prioritizing family traditions over family happiness 😔

zeeyellowdart | zeeyellowdart

Couple prefers alternating Christmas to preserve family traditions 🎄

throwaway378495 | throwaway378495

NTA comment defends family Christmas traditions against criticism.

lifetooshort4bs | lifetooshort4bs

Christmas should be enjoyable for everyone, not just kids or adults 🎄

Primary-Criticism929 | Primary-Criticism929

Compromise on holiday traditions for a win-win situation 😊

BootsNblueEyes | BootsNblueEyes

Commenter thinks husband is the a**hole for subjecting kids to bad tradition 🤨

mezobromelia1 | mezobromelia1

Prioritize your family over your mother. YTA - 🤷‍♀️

ScarletteMayWest | ScarletteMayWest

Husband receives judgement as 'YTA' for not accommodating wife's suggestion.

AdamOfIzalith | AdamOfIzalith

The debate over Christmas traditions and family priorities 🎄

TrashMonster2020 | TrashMonster2020

Respect your wife's feelings, but NTA for keeping tradition 🎄

EvilGodCookie | EvilGodCookie

Christmas is about family, love and peace, not just kids 🎄❤️✌️

Alert_Sorbet4016 | Alert_Sorbet4016

Husband prioritizes family tradition over children's happiness. YTA.

FewCycle5 | FewCycle5

Supportive comment defends family tradition against entitled wife 🎄

annrkea | annrkea

Navigating family traditions and new additions can be tricky 🎄❤️

0biterdicta | 0biterdicta

Commenter shares personal experience and suggests a small compromise.

Time_Act_3685 | Time_Act_3685

Wife suggests changing family tradition, gets shut down. NTA 👍

dancing_chinese_kid | dancing_chinese_kid

Making Christmas kid-friendly: gift exchange ideas and family compromise.

Traditional_Towel18 | Traditional_Towel18

Consider the kids' feelings too 🎅🏼🎁 It's important to make them feel included.

Specific-Ad1764 | Specific-Ad1764

Mother's favoritism during Christmas causes distress and exclusion. YTA.

joeyandanimals | joeyandanimals

User calls out husband for not wanting to change Christmas tradition 🎄

piipiistorm | piipiistorm

Commenter calls out husband for red flag behavior during holidays 🚩

ExistingEffort7 | ExistingEffort7

Defending family traditions 🎄👪

Pinkie_Flamingo | Pinkie_Flamingo

Skipping Christmas sounds like a good idea 😊

thankuhexed | thankuhexed

Wife wants kid-friendly Christmas, husband says NTA. Compromise needed 🎄

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Consider the kids' feelings too. Maybe have two gatherings instead? 🎄

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Disagreement over Christmas tradition leads to accusations of being controlling 🎄👨‍👩‍👧

meva535 | meva535

Create new traditions with your family, don't be YTA 🎄

not_levar_burton | not_levar_burton

Commenter argues OP lacks empathy for those hurt by tradition 🤔

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Commenter defends Christmas tradition, receives critical reply

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Divided Christmas traditions impacting family's happiness. 🎄

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Kids' happiness should come first. YTA for prioritizing tradition.

Accomplished_Cup900 | Accomplished_Cup900

Commenter challenges OP's parenting choices, sparks debate. 🤔

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