Man Tells Wife She Has To Do Most Of Housework As Stay-At-Home Partner

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A man has sparked a debate after telling his wife that she would have to do most of the housework as a stay-at-home partner. He said that since he is the one working, she should take care of the housework. His wife was upset and said she didn't want to spend her days doing all the housework. The man argues that it's the job of a stay-at-home partner.

Now, she's not talking to him. What do you think? Is he being misogynistic or is he right that it's her job as a stay-at-home partner? Share your thoughts in the comments on this situation.

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Weekend chores split, but stay-at-home partner doing most housework 🧹

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Who should do the housework when one partner is a SAHW?

A man and his wife got into an argument over household chores after she becomes a stay-at-home partner. The wife wanted to split the chores, but the husband believes that since she would be home all day, she should do most of the housework, while he only has to pick up after himself.

The wife thinks that she isn't a maid and doesn't want to do all the housework. The husband argues that it's the job of a stay-at-home spouse, and if she doesn't want to do it, she can go back to her old job. The two are not talking now.

Who do you think should be responsible for the housework in this situation? Share your thoughts and opinions in the comments below, along with Reddit.

NTA. Being a stay-at-home partner means managing the house and keeping it in order. OP's wife wants a lifestyle that she can't have. Chilling and having fun while the sole provider does most of the work. 👀

DepressedHealingGod | DepressedHealingGod

NTA. Being in a relationship is a partnership, and if one spouse is bringing in the moola, I say the lions share of housework should fall on the SAH spouse. It makes zero sense, regardless of gender 💪

Best-Refrigerator347 | Best-Refrigerator347

Partner wants a stay-at-home spouse but not the housework? 🤔

Makillrath | Makillrath

SAHM defends doing most housework, suggests fair share is subjective 😂

Boomerfierce | Boomerfierce

Suggests wife should work and pay for a maid. 💼🧹

MerlinBiggs | MerlinBiggs

Partner defends not helping stay-at-home wife with housework. 🏠

International_Yam_80 | International_Yam_80

NTA comment defends man's request for stay-at-home wife to do most housework.

tiredandcranky89 | tiredandcranky89

Partner expects contribution to house since bringing in income. NTA.

ceekerg | ceekerg

Partner tries to manipulate, commenter not the a**hole. 🤨

calaakla | calaakla

Fair division of household chores for stay-at-home partner. 👍

kootenayg86 | kootenayg86

NTA SAHM deserves help with housework from working partner. 💪

abousley13 | abousley13

NTA asks the SAHH to consider how the roles would be reversed.

throw_whey_protein | throw_whey_protein

Partner defends doing less housework, calls wife lazy. 🙄

Biteme75 | Biteme75

SAHP wants equal treatment, not a free ride. 👩🏻‍👩🏻

ogre215 | ogre215

Discuss expectations and compromise for housework as stay-at-home partner. 💬

bimmer007 | bimmer007

Fair split of chores for working and stay-at-home partners. 👍

Sure-Maintenance7002 | Sure-Maintenance7002

Stay-at-home partner should do all household chores, NTA commenter says 💪

Icy-Cherry-8143 | Icy-Cherry-8143

Commenter finds humor in situation, deems partner not at fault 🤣

PattersonsOlady | PattersonsOlady

Stay-at-home spouse should do laundry while multitasking. Compromise on chores.

Beltas | Beltas

"Housework is not a full time job" 💼💪

Tribes1 | Tribes1

Equal pay debate between stay-at-home partners sparks discussion 💰

risky_bisket | risky_bisket

NTA: Is being a trophy wife what she really wants? 🏆

PerpetuallyChaotic | PerpetuallyChaotic

Sharing household work with stay-at-home partner, with a catch

TeaPlease123 | TeaPlease123

Fair division of labor between partners discussed. 🤝

Aitasuperfan | Aitasuperfan

Clarifying the meaning of being a stay-at-home wife. 👨‍🍳

amaryca | amaryca

Fair division of household chores in a partnership. 👍

keepcalmandgetdrunk | keepcalmandgetdrunk

Equal partnership is important. NTA, she's being unfair. 👍

kipha01 | kipha01

Nostalgia hits hard with this 'Married with Children' reference 😂

Snippykins | Snippykins

Pregnant stay-at-home wife does everything, still feels lazy. NTA.

givemethatbekah | givemethatbekah

Partner refuses to do housework, suggests they find alternate solution. NTA 👍

That_Contribution720 | That_Contribution720

Partner refuses to share housework even while staying-at-home 🤔

labree0 | labree0

Fair division of household chores for stay-at-home partner 💪

Betweentheminds | Betweentheminds

Stay-at-home partner should handle most chores, occasional help is okay.

hugs4hire | hugs4hire

Fair judgement: Stay-at-home wife vs mother. No financial contribution?

ScorchieSong | ScorchieSong

NTA for expecting contribution, but consider partner's burnout 🤔

Anxious-Marketing525 | Anxious-Marketing525

SAHW wants to be NTA but wife thinks it's misogynistic 😟

TeepShow76 | TeepShow76

Trash or bins, is the real issue division of household chores?

Jo_Doc2505 | Jo_Doc2505

Proud SAHW thinks NTA for not expecting hubby to help 🏠

Shmufkin | Shmufkin

Stay-at-home wife should maintain the home, NTA 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

SAHW says it's easy to do all chores in a day. NTA 😎

Jikininkiwrites | Jikininkiwrites

Communication is key! 🗣️💬 Have an honest talk about expectations.

Italianita | Italianita

Fair division of household chores without kids. 👍

alexoid182 | alexoid182

Stay-at-home partner should contribute to household chores. Divorce not necessary.

TaintedBeard | TaintedBeard

Supportive comment with a touch of humor 😄

bluebayou1981 | bluebayou1981

Partner refuses to contribute: Am I the a**hole? (NTA) 🤔

qumayo123 | qumayo123

Staying at home isn't fun or relaxing, it's work 💼💪

tap2323 | tap2323

Partner wants a choice: job or housework. NTA

ApplesAmIRightChat69 | ApplesAmIRightChat69

Stay-at-home spouse debates housework duties in funny exchange 😂

speakupicantseeyou | speakupicantseeyou

Fair to expect SAH partner to do most housework, but compromise needed 😊

saurellia | saurellia

Married to a spoiled brat? NTA for wanting change 🤔

SWG_138 | SWG_138

SAHW should do all housework and cooking while partner earns income 🏠💼

Tough_Oven4904 | Tough_Oven4904

SAHW defends NTA husband for dividing housework, calls wife lazy 😑

mewillia44 | mewillia44

Being a stay-at-home partner means more housework, NTA agrees 👍

scapegoatwife | scapegoatwife

Fair distribution of household chores as a stay-at-home partner.

BraceBraceBrace | BraceBraceBrace