Mother Refuses To Encourage Her Kids To Consider Ex's Wife As Their Mother

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When a woman's ex got with his coworker, Emily, the woman had a feeling she would be trouble. After being verbally abused and disrespected by Emily for years, the woman refused to let her kids call the woman 'mom'. When Emily demanded that the kids call her 'mom' and they refused, Emily and the ex got upset with the woman for not backing them up.

Are they in the right, or is the woman justified in her actions? Keep on reading to learn more about the situation.

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Mother refuses to let ex's new partner take her place👩‍👦‍👦

A woman has refused to encourage her children to consider her ex-partner's new wife as their mother. The woman and her ex separated due to multiple issues, including his close relationship with a woman named Emily. According to the woman, Emily was hostile towards her and pretended to be her ex's wife at work functions.

After the couple separated, the ex started a relationship with Emily, who reportedly became more hostile when she realized that the man's family still liked his ex. The woman claims that Emily has been verbally abusive towards her and has even shown signs of parental alienation.

Recently, Emily has been pressuring the woman's children to consider her as their mother, which the woman has refused to encourage. The situation escalated when Emily demanded the children take photos with her for their school newsletter, and they refused, stating that she was not their mother.

The woman's ex and Emily have accused her of being a bad parent and teaching her children to disrespect women. The woman now seeks judgment from Reddit on whether she is in the wrong. Read on for the reactions and comments on the situation.

Custody concerns: Commenters support OP's decision to not encourage ex's wife

HistoricalInaccurate | HistoricalInaccurate

Commenter defends NTA against accusations of disrespecting women.

semcg | semcg

Document everything and keep Emily away from your children 📝🚫

ghostofumich2005 | ghostofumich2005

Woman refuses to force kids to accept ex's wife as mother. NTA

CrystalQueen3000 | CrystalQueen3000

Mother refuses to consider ex's wife as mother, receives support

frenchEthanhope | frenchEthanhope

Kids witnessed Emily's behavior towards their mother, refusing to respect her.

ColdstreamCapple | ColdstreamCapple

Document everything and keep up the positive standard. NTA 👍

ohnosandpeople | ohnosandpeople

Ex's wife not their mother, NTA. Parental decisions without her.

LouisV25 | LouisV25

Ex gets what he deserves, commenter approves 👍

itsmiddylou | itsmiddylou

Keeping an eye on the drama 👀

ForkShirtUp | ForkShirtUp

Teaching kids to respect those who show them respect 👍

letsdoitforthememes | letsdoitforthememes

Protecting your kids from verbal abuse. NTA! 👍

SeaWitch1031 | SeaWitch1031

Respectful stepmom supports ex's partner, kids' feelings matter ❤️

Sewcial_Warrior | Sewcial_Warrior

Emily's behavior causing rift, NTA for not forcing relationship.

CafeConCajeta | CafeConCajeta

Time to update custody agreement - commenter not the a**hole 🚨

Heavy_Sand5228 | Heavy_Sand5228

NTA, but is the ex's wife clueless? Kids are hostile.

Lost_Chair_551 | Lost_Chair_551

Putting the kids first, even if it means no stepmother 🚫👩‍👦‍👦

C_Majuscula | C_Majuscula

Ex's wife tries to position herself as parent in school community

Abject-Technician558 | Abject-Technician558

Kids' comfort comes first. NTA for respecting their feelings 👍

jrm1102 | jrm1102

Can't force kids to accept ex's spouse as parent. NTA.

Darth_Hufflepuff | Darth_Hufflepuff

Supportive comment applauds mother's decision on ex's wife as mother 👏

asianinindia | asianinindia

NTA! She's not their mother and can't order them around. Emily's not even his wife.

MissSuzieSunshine | MissSuzieSunshine

Step-parenting is about earning acceptance, not demanding it. 🙌

Somerandomedude1q2w | Somerandomedude1q2w

Polite advocacy for stepmother, NTA in ex's wife dilemma

Maleficent_Fox_5062 | Maleficent_Fox_5062

Kids have a mom, Emily overlapped, and she's rude. NTA.

Historical_Divide673 | Historical_Divide673

Support for not forcing kids to accept hostile ex's wife 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Ex's wife oversteps boundaries, pushes kids away. NTA.

Zach_203 | Zach_203

Commenters speculate on ex's motives and his new wife's character 😬

MRDolphinWasTaken | MRDolphinWasTaken

Supportive comment encourages full custody for the mother.

Creative_Trick_3818 | Creative_Trick_3818

Mother stands her ground against pressure to consider ex's wife as their mother. NTA 🙅‍♀️

DynkoFromTheNorth | DynkoFromTheNorth

Mother stands up for her right to be the only 'mom'. 👏

Curious-Drag6871 | Curious-Drag6871

Ex's wife wants to be 'mom', commenter says NTA 👍

Churchie-Baby | Churchie-Baby

Commenter expresses concern over ex's wife's behavior and intentions 😬

wasicwitch | wasicwitch

NTA advises OP on custody and visitation for in-laws.

OneTwoWee000 | OneTwoWee000

Ex's new wife wants to be the mother to your kids 🤨

Successful_Dot2813 | Successful_Dot2813

Don't be an a**hole to the kids' mother, NTA

MundanePlanet | MundanePlanet

Supportive comment against infidelity with a hint of sarcasm 😏

Minute_Box3852 | Minute_Box3852

New stepmom learns hard way children have mom they love ❤️

fuzzybitchbeans | fuzzybitchbeans

Letting kids choose their relationships. 🙌

CamelOfHate | CamelOfHate

Putting ex's wife as mother can end relationship with dad 🤔

Hotcheetogyurl | Hotcheetogyurl

Document everything and report to the judge! 📝

PromptFun5741 | PromptFun5741

Supportive comment and children's bravery praised with laughter emoji.

ragnarocknroll | ragnarocknroll

Keep reporting to protect your kids from manipulative ex's wife 🚨

HomicidalNymph | HomicidalNymph

Commenter defends NTA stance with a sassy 🤷🏻‍♀️ and receives a conflicting reply.

-restingwitchface | -restingwitchface

Commenter judges ex's wife, but is it fair?

moves_likemacca | moves_likemacca

Kids decide who their mother figure is, not the ex's wife 🙅‍♀️

Flossy1384 | Flossy1384

Defend your kids against disrespectful ex's wife. 🛡️

BellaPrima_Rose_Lee | BellaPrima_Rose_Lee

Supporting children, documenting incidents and disliking stepmother. 🙅‍♀️

MindfulTornado | MindfulTornado

Step-mom claiming 'mom' privileges and lying about being bio mom 😠

Comfortable-Salt3132 | Comfortable-Salt3132

Defending the idea that 'Mum/mom' and 'Dad' are earned titles 💯

[deleted] | [deleted]

Teaching kids to not respect demanding individuals. NTA victory 👍

spicyfood333 | spicyfood333

Supportive comment with practical advice for difficult situation. 🤞

PugGrumbles | PugGrumbles

Concerned commenter offers advice for dealing with ex's new partner

mkat23 | mkat23

Log every detail and play the long game. NTA 👍

Inevitable_Speed_710 | Inevitable_Speed_710

Keep fighting for what's right! 👊🏼

Shot_Western_2755 | Shot_Western_2755

NTA needs to involve a judge ASAP! Ex's wife is combative and disrespectful towards the kids.

scarletcross37 | scarletcross37

Supportive comment defends mother's decision regarding ex's wife

veemar1977 | veemar1977

Standing up for yourself and your kids. NTA 👏

Feeling_Put6879 | Feeling_Put6879

Support for not forcing kids to consider ex's wife as mom.

SatelliteBeach123 | SatelliteBeach123

Respect for step-parents is earned, not demanded 👍

Asleep-Tomorrow-8180 | Asleep-Tomorrow-8180

Putting the kids first, not the demands of an abusive ex 👏🙌

Princess-of-Power-42 | Princess-of-Power-42

No sympathy for the other woman. NTA, you're right.

SheepherderWild3578 | SheepherderWild3578

Seek legal action to protect your parental rights. 👍

PositivelySingleMom | PositivelySingleMom

Child involvement in arguments can affect mental health. 💭

jamiepx8 | jamiepx8

Protect your kids from the ex's wife, NTA. 📱💪

Buffalo-Empty | Buffalo-Empty

The struggle of co-parenting with an intrusive stepmother 😒

[deleted] | [deleted]

Commenter calls out OP's behavior with a touch of sarcasm 🙄

geminigoddess621 | geminigoddess621

Stepmom should respect OP and her kids' wishes. NTA 👏

RosieGirl7667 | RosieGirl7667

Avoiding stepmom doesn't make mom an a**hole 👀

mzpljc | mzpljc

Teach truth, not hate! 🙌🏼

FishtankBaby | FishtankBaby

Supportive comment applauds OP for prioritizing kids' autonomy and opinions 👏

well_listen | well_listen