After a miscarriage and her husband becoming the legal guardian of his autistic niece, this woman struggles with caretaking responsibilities as a part-time worker. She gets her old high-demanding job back, leaving her husband alone with the niece. Is she selfish or just fed up? The post has sparked controversial opinions from both sides. Read on for more details.
Woman Gets Job Back To Avoid Caring For Husband's Autistic Niece
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Woman gets old job back to avoid caring for autistic niece 💼
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Struggling with family conflict over job and caregiving responsibilities 🤷♀️
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🤔 Are they the a**hole in this situation?
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👩👧👦 Woman gets old job back to avoid caring for husband's niece 👩👧👦
After her husband became the legal guardian to his sister's daughter, a woman gave up her career to be a stay-at-home mom. However, after her sister-in-law passed away and she became the primary caretaker to her niece with non-verbal autism, dyslexia, and severe sensory issues, she found herself at her wits' end. When her husband failed to uphold his promise to take care of the child, she left to stay with her mother and got her old job back, which requires travel and in-office work. This decision has caused a rift between her and her husband's family, who think she is being selfish. What do you think - is she the a**hole in this situation?
Understanding and empathizing with autistic children is important. 💬
undonenofun | undonenofun
No a-hole here. Explanation needed 👀
Captains-Log-2021 | Captains-Log-2021
Former nanny shares experience of caring for autistic child, advises husband to get a caregiver. 💼👩👦👦
keenkittychopshop | keenkittychopshop
Husband's broken promise leads to unforeseen consequences 😕
SeventhSea90520 | SeventhSea90520
No blame, no shame. 🤷♀️ Niece's family should provide care.
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Having her old job back will allow for qualified help. 💪
Mundane-Currency5088 | Mundane-Currency5088
Don't let him off the hook! 🎣 Hold him accountable 👊
Remarkable_Sun6239 | Remarkable_Sun6239
Caring for a child with autism can be challenging. Take care.
kagomechan86 | kagomechan86
Being a caretaker is tough but don't blame the innocent girl 😕
adkai | adkai
Support worker advises on caring for individuals with disabilities 💚
DogBreathologist | DogBreathologist
Husband should take responsibility for his autistic niece's care 👨👩👧👦❌
Jac918 | Jac918
You did nothing wrong. He should take care of it. 👍
TheWanderingMedic | TheWanderingMedic
Caring for an autistic child requires specialized work and understanding 💙
spirtualscientist | spirtualscientist
Should she end her marriage over caring for his niece? 😕
LifeAsksAITA | LifeAsksAITA
Husband needs to step up. Dyslexia ≠ developmental disorder. 🙅♀️
Valayria12 | Valayria12
Don't have a child with this person.🚫💔
Late_Engineering9973 | Late_Engineering9973
Setting boundaries with family can be tough 😢
Former-Current6961 | Former-Current6961
Navigating family expectations and balancing responsibilities as a caretaker 🤔
YeouPink | YeouPink
Don't let anyone steamroll you into taking on unwanted responsibilities 🚫👊
Silent_Shadow123 | Silent_Shadow123
Taking on a special needs child is a huge undertaking 🤝
messymamajessie | messymamajessie
Taking responsibility for your actions. 👍
Evil_Genius_1 | Evil_Genius_1
Standing up for yourself and the child, NTA 🙌
amydehp | amydehp
Navigating caretaking responsibilities and personal fulfillment 💼👩👧
theflinkkid | theflinkkid
Marriage in shambles due to caring for autistic niece. ESH.
WhatanAsh | WhatanAsh
Don't be a martyr. Get your job back. 🙌
onetrack-pony | onetrack-pony
Husband's promise to be sole caretaker of niece unfair to OP 😔
gemini_trash_0612 | gemini_trash_0612
Breaking promises and shifting responsibility. 🤔
myzaco | myzaco
Savage advice to end a messy situation. 💔
Direct_Candidate_454 | Direct_Candidate_454
Encouraging response to woman avoiding caring for autistic niece.
cummy_devil_doll | cummy_devil_doll
Family responsibility or not? NTA for niece's care.
miriam377 | miriam377
Stand your ground! 💪🏼 Don't let them guilt trip you.
FlamiaTheDemon | FlamiaTheDemon
Suggestion for care homes and therapy for better preparation. 👍
Shemishka | Shemishka
Spouse taking you for granted? NTA suggests institutionalization.
AKA_June_Monroe | AKA_June_Monroe
NTA. Taking care of autistic niece not in job description. 💼👎
ProfileElectronic | ProfileElectronic
Husband lies about caregiving, NTA for avoiding responsibility. 💪
celestina047 | celestina047
Husband volunteers to care for autistic niece, drops it on wife. NTA
MSully94 | MSully94
Parent with experience empathizes with woman's tough situation ❤️.
SquishySpark | SquishySpark
Husband signed up for it, he should be the caregiver 💼👩💻
TheDerbLerd | TheDerbLerd
Working with autistic kids is tough, NTA for not wanting responsibility 😔
torianii | torianii
A valid point raised about the niece's support system.
Difficult_Plastic852 | Difficult_Plastic852
Spouse's responsibility or not? NTA chose herself over obligation.
IllustratorNew8801 | IllustratorNew8801
Support for standing up against unfair caregiving responsibilities 👏👏
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Woman's insensitive behavior towards autistic niece raises concerns (ESH)
occamslizard | occamslizard
Stand up for yourself! 💪 You deserve to be heard.
cassandrafishbones27 | cassandrafishbones27
"Husband promised to take care, but didn't": NTA stands strong 🙌
aDirtyMartini | aDirtyMartini
Exploring day programs for adults with disabilities 🌞
stephoneme | stephoneme
Don't sacrifice your career for caregiving. NTA ✌🏻
NiobeTonks | NiobeTonks
Asking the important questions about long-term care for niece 🤔
yayrose | yayrose
Care for a disabled child leads to marital troubles. ESH.
StockComprehensive96 | StockComprehensive96
Equal parenting responsibilities. 👍
fragilemagnoliax | fragilemagnoliax
Divorce emoji. OP not responsible for husband's actions.
Admirable_One99989 | Admirable_One99989
YTA for leaving a child with zero supervision 🤷♀️
AggravatingTear2879 | AggravatingTear2879
Specialized facilities can provide better life quality for special needs individuals.
DreamingDragonSoul | DreamingDragonSoul
Parent of autistic child offers support and advice ❤️
RepresentativeAir208 | RepresentativeAir208
NTA: You are not responsible for your husband's niece 🙅♀️
oldcreaker | oldcreaker
Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries. You go girl! 💪
SetiG | SetiG
Don't let your husband take advantage of your good nature 😤💔
Individual-Rush-6927 | Individual-Rush-6927
Don't be an unpaid nanny! 🚫👩👧👦 Stand up for yourself and your time. 💪
ForestOfHandsNTeeth | ForestOfHandsNTeeth
Spouse assumes care, gets upset when refused. NTA 🚫👨👩👧👦
Iamconfusion454 | Iamconfusion454
Parent of an autistic child sympathizes with OP's burnout and husband's lack of support.
Professional_Disdain | Professional_Disdain
Family needs to figure out niece's care, not OP. NTA 🤷
Cool-Clerk-9835 | Cool-Clerk-9835
Comment suggests divorce due to husband's behavior. 🤔
kombucha_shroom | kombucha_shroom
Caregiving responsibilities strain marriage, NTA suggests hiring help or placement.
Flat_Contribution707 | Flat_Contribution707
Spouse can't volunteer your care. NTA 👍
Impressive-Bench9223 | Impressive-Bench9223
Husband wants credit but not responsibility for autistic niece. NTA.
yikesyikes777 | yikesyikes777
Taking a stand for yourself and setting boundaries 💪
Blim4 | Blim4
Husband made a unilateral life choice, now suffering consequences 😔
jeynespoole | jeynespoole
Support for woman who avoided caring for autistic niece 👍
Math-n-Tacos | Math-n-Tacos
Not the a**hole for refusing to bear his responsibility 👍
psyk2u | psyk2u
Husband wants her pregnant wife to care for autistic niece. NTA.
Pinkie_Flamingo | Pinkie_Flamingo
Protect your finances and seek resources for niece's care. NTA 👍
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OP faces tough decision: care for niece or husband's job?
LeoMcShizzzle | LeoMcShizzzle
Take control of your life 💪 Don't let guilt-trips dictate it.
dominic_rock | dominic_rock
Husband lied about caring for autistic child; wife not the a**hole 💪
LunaLittleBlue | LunaLittleBlue
NTA - Legal help needed for disabled niece's care 🤔
Jennings_in_Books | Jennings_in_Books
Family support and broken promises lead to NTA judgement 👍
MiaW07 | MiaW07
Advice from an autistic person on caring for an autistic child 🧩
piefanart | piefanart
Family drama and abandonment surrounding autistic niece, everyone sucks here 😔
FPSPoonzy | FPSPoonzy
Not wanting to be a caretaker is understandable. 🤷♀️
Miserable_Sail4774 | Miserable_Sail4774
Compassionate NTA declines responsibility to care for husband's niece with autism ❤️
Bored-governmet-work | Bored-governmet-work
Seeking help and resources for caring for special needs niece ❤️
Pumpkin1818 | Pumpkin1818
Dealing with an unsupportive spouse in caretaking is unrealistic 💔
Ladyt1978 | Ladyt1978
Marriage goals not aligned, NTA for not wanting sole responsibility.
whita309 | whita309
