Friend Group Excludes Me From Trip, Am I Wrong For Not Inviting Them To Mine?

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A group of friends who have been traveling every New Year since they were 16, planned a trip to Greece for 2021. However, the ex-best friend of the writer told them that Amy, the girlfriend of the writer's ex, was uncomfortable with her going on the trip. The writer's friends agreed that she should not come on the trip to avoid drama. The writer didn't go and stopped hanging out with them as much. Now, with the new year coming up, the writer has plans with their roommate to go to Amsterdam, but their friends assumed they could come along. The writer told them it was not a group trip, causing a fight. Was the writer wrong for not inviting their friends on their trip? Read on to find out.

Exciting or disappointing update? Let's find out! 🤔

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Starting fresh! New trip, new people, new memories! 🌴✨

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Reconciliation with ex and friend group, moving on peacefully ✌

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Excluded from trip, forgiveness given but friendship lost. 💔

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Grateful OP thanks supportive community for advice and love ❤️

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Secretly venting on Reddit about exclusive friends 🤫

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Annual New Year's trip, but am I invited this year?

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Navigating post-breakup friendships and group dynamics 🤔

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Excluded from Greece trip for being single, friends side with boyfriend's ex

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Excluded from friend's trip, hurt by their agreement. 💔

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Excluded from trip, friends assume invite to mine. Awkward confrontations?

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Planning a solo trip after being excluded, am I in wrong? 🤔

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Navigating friendship drama, seeking advice and grabbing coffee ☕

newyearstrip68 | newyearstrip68

Excluded from friend group trip, now planning my own 💫

Being excluded from a group trip can be hurtful, especially when it's with friends you've known for years. In this post, the author shares their experience of being left out of a trip to Greece by their friend group because of their history with one of the members' new partners. Despite feeling hurt, the author moved on and made plans to go to Amsterdam with their roommate. However, when the friend group assumed they were invited and the author clarified that it was a trip for just themselves, tensions rose and they had a fight. The author is now wondering if they were wrong to end years-long friendships over a petty argument. Read on to find out what happened and see what advice the commenters have given.

Calling out bad behavior 👀👀👀 #BTA

jtj5002 | jtj5002

You're NTA for excluding them from your trip. 🚫✈️

TeeKaye28 | TeeKaye28

Being excluded from a friend group's trip - NTA, friend's loss 😒

RootlyBasil | RootlyBasil

Standing up for yourself: NTA for not inviting them 👍

Ancient-Regular4007 | Ancient-Regular4007

Excluded from trip, but who needs those petty friends anyway? 🌴👋 NTA

[deleted] | [deleted]

No trip for them! 🙅‍♀️ NTA wins this one.

justSomePesant | justSomePesant

Excluded from trip, but not from revenge. Revenge is sweet 🍭

XaryenMaelstrom | XaryenMaelstrom

Being excluded by coupled up friends, justified NTA reaction 💁‍♀️💅

shorthumanfemale | shorthumanfemale

You deserve better friends 💔 #NotTheA-Holes

musetoujours | musetoujours

Excluded from friend group's trip, now invites them to yours?

djincognito | djincognito

Go make new friends in Amsterdam! 🌷👋

UsernameCheckOuts | UsernameCheckOuts

Years of friendship disregarded for new member, NTA for exclusion.

FuzzySquish_123 | FuzzySquish_123

Standing up for yourself and being the bigger person. 🙌

OurLadyOfCygnets | OurLadyOfCygnets

Stand your ground! 🙌 Don't let them spoil your fun!

OsageBrownBetty | OsageBrownBetty

Plan your own trip and leave them behind! 🌴🧳

PutThatOnYourPlate | PutThatOnYourPlate

Don't waste your time on fake friends 🚫🙅‍♀️ Enjoy your trip! 🌴

Blonde2468 | Blonde2468

You're not being petty, they're out of line. 🙅‍♀️

Lurkingentropy | Lurkingentropy

Planning a trip for bad friends? NTA for not inviting.

[deleted] | [deleted]

True friends don't throw you under the bus 🚍💔

WatercoLorCurtain | WatercoLorCurtain

Friends pick sides and NTA chooses a new path 🛣️

Ancient_Bluejay_7314 | Ancient_Bluejay_7314

Excluded from trip because of girlfriend, now expected to host? #NTA

turbomonkey3366 | turbomonkey3366

Enjoy Amsterdam with your roommate! 🎉 They're not real friends. 😔

ComorbidlyAtPeace | ComorbidlyAtPeace

Amy starts drama but blames commenter; 🤔

Artic_Foxknot | Artic_Foxknot

New girl, new roomie, new friends 🤷‍♀️ #NTA

cheesepierice | cheesepierice

Stand your ground! You're not the a-hole 🙅‍♀️🚫


You do you 🤘🏼 No need to invite exclusives.

saveyboy | saveyboy

Standing up for yourself is important. 🙌 Good for you!

Right-Ad-7588 | Right-Ad-7588

Standing up for yourself and enjoying your own vacation 🌴👋

aviva1234 | aviva1234

This commenter is not having it! 😤🙅‍♀️

luniixyn8803 | luniixyn8803

Growing out of friendships in early 20s is bittersweet 😢

Senior-Salamander-77 | Senior-Salamander-77

Good on you for standing up to unfair treatment 👍

coolbeenz68 | coolbeenz68

Real friends don't pick 'randos' over you 😒 #NTA

SunnyBunchy | SunnyBunchy

You don't owe them anything. 🤷‍♀️

hewtab | hewtab

Excluded from trip, now they want to come? NTA.

Momo_fdz_0721 | Momo_fdz_0721

Excluded from trip you organized? Not the a**hole. ✌️

tee_ran_mee_sue | tee_ran_mee_sue

Don't let them guilt trip you. Your plans, your choice. 🌴

RavenRaving | RavenRaving

Don't beat yourself up, enjoy life and travel! 🌴🧳

heyarea | heyarea

Go enjoy your trip! 🎉 Don't feel bad about not inviting them.

Particular_bean | Particular_bean

Growing up means being selective with friends. Evaluate their worth 👍

rtsmurf | rtsmurf

Letting go of toxic friends is difficult but necessary 💪

Nupsz | Nupsz

Roomie time! 🏠👯‍♀️ No room for exclusion. NTA.

Plenty_Metal_1304 | Plenty_Metal_1304

Time for new friends! 🕰️

speedstars | speedstars

Betrayed by friends for ex's gf, NTA for not inviting them

geman11 | geman11

Find a friend group that values you for you 👏

[deleted] | [deleted]

Travel plans cancelled over friend group drama 💔

Chaos_and_Pickles | Chaos_and_Pickles

Call out hypocritical friends with this NTA comment 🔥

FewLooseMarbles | FewLooseMarbles

Excluded from trip, made own plans, not wrong. NTA 👏

beaglerules | beaglerules

Stand your ground! 🙌 You don't need that negativity in life.

WittyButter217 | WittyButter217

Not the a**hole. Tell us more, we're listening 👂

moose_arecool | moose_arecool

True friends stick by you and don't exclude you. 🤝

4U2NV1981 | 4U2NV1981

Sometimes friendships end, NTA for not inviting them. Enjoy trip 🌴

meifahs_musungs | meifahs_musungs

You deserve better! Find new friends for your next trip 🌴👋

overlook447 | overlook447

You go, Glen Coco! No invite, no return invite! 🙅‍♀️

Ardara | Ardara

Exclusion backfires 🤷‍♀️ NTA takes the high road

Thotleesi94 | Thotleesi94

Don't cancel your trip for bad friends 🚫👋 You deserve better! 💁‍♀️

acrylicmole | acrylicmole

Don't get your mind in a pretzel over their antics 🤯

justsupersayinit | justsupersayinit

Honesty is the best policy 👍

asand82 | asand82

Excluded from friend group trip, justified in feeling hurt.

stalefuzzball85 | stalefuzzball85

Setting boundaries is important. 👍

xchancla | xchancla

Stand up for yourself and your trip! 🎒🌴 NTA

kanna172014 | kanna172014

Find new friends and plan your own awesome trip! 🌴👋

divinexoxo | divinexoxo

Excluded from annual trip, seek apology or move on? 🤔

Sea-Recognition-1140 | Sea-Recognition-1140

Don't let them make you miss out on your vacation 🌴😎

Noir_Faery | Noir_Faery

Planning a separate trip doesn't make you TA 👌

HecateAtTheGate | HecateAtTheGate

Stand up for yourself and cut off toxic friendships. 👍

[deleted] | [deleted]

Find yourself better, more mature friends. 🙌 #NTA

boobiesiheart | boobiesiheart

Excluded from trip, but NTA. Where did Amy go? 🤔

UpSideRat | UpSideRat

Don't waste your energy on fair weather friends ☀️👋

CaraMorrow | CaraMorrow

You're in the clear! Details inside. 🙌

Beesweet1976 | Beesweet1976

Tips on being a great friend and finding real ones. 🤝

Guilty-Ad4966 | Guilty-Ad4966

Ex-friends betray OP, deserve to be excluded from trip.


Taking control of the situation and planning your own trip 🌴

AllHailLordBezos | AllHailLordBezos

Commenter rightfully stands up for themself, cutting off toxic friends 👏

MarketingCoding | MarketingCoding

Don't feel guilty for being excluded from the trip. #NTA 🙅‍♂️

MattFoley00 | MattFoley00

Choosing a new girlfriend over a long-time friend, NTA

Sweet_Caterpillar150 | Sweet_Caterpillar150

Prioritizing a stranger over a friend? NTA, end the toxicity 💪

Dyils | Dyils

Plan your own trip without fair weather friends. 🏝️


Excluded from trip, OP's NTA for not inviting 'friends'.

Melodic-Living-588 | Melodic-Living-588

Excluded from trip but not from making new plans 🎉 #NTA

Violet351 | Violet351

Enjoy your trip with your roommate! 🌴🌊

Tannim44 | Tannim44

This comment is a reminder for later, stay tuned!

TheeNatorious | TheeNatorious

Excluded from trip, but not from revenge. NTA 👏

A-R-U | A-R-U

Your 'friends' may not be worth keeping in your life 🤷

MeanSeaworthiness995 | MeanSeaworthiness995

You're in the clear 🙌 Keep doing you!

Ordinary_Meaning_602 | Ordinary_Meaning_602

Betrayed by your friends? You're not the a**hole! 🙅‍♀️

Talithathinks | Talithathinks

Excluded friend calls out memory problems, NTA confirmed. 🤔


Excluded from friend group's trip, commenter not in the wrong 🚫👥

Alustrianna | Alustrianna

Ouch! A straightforward reply that hits hard 😩

Explicit_Pickle | Explicit_Pickle

Engage with your travel agency clients - I mean friends - NTA 🧳

Ok_Breakfast9531 | Ok_Breakfast9531

Don't waste your time with fake friends, go on adventures instead! 🌄

icecreamtaco15 | icecreamtaco15

Find friends who value your feelings 🙌 #NTA

Sangetem | Sangetem

Cutting off toxic friends, 👍 for taking care of yourself

Intelligent-Meet2417 | Intelligent-Meet2417

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is important 🙌

Wyshunu | Wyshunu

Enjoy your trip! Your friends excluded you, don't feel guilty.

[deleted] | [deleted]

You don't need toxic friends to have a good time 🎉

BellesBooks | BellesBooks