Mother Doesn't Make a Big Deal Out of Son Coming Out as Gay, AITA?

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When her son comes out to her, a mother is nonchalant, telling him she doesn't care that he's gay. This causes a rift in her family, with her brother insisting that coming out is a big deal and she should have shown more support. The mother has always raised her children to believe that everyone is equal, regardless of sexual orientation, and that coming out is only necessary if transitioning. While her ex-husband agrees with her, her son is hurt that she didn't make a bigger deal out of his coming out, causing him to storm out of the house. The family is divided on whether or not the mother's response was appropriate. What do you think - is the mother the a**hole for not making a bigger deal out of her son coming out, or is her reaction understandable in the context of her beliefs about equality?

Co-parenting with ex-husband after son comes out, heartwarming story ❤️

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Cooking up a storm while keeping kids entertained. 🍴👨‍👧‍👦

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Nonchalant coming out to mom during meal prep - heartwarming response ❤️

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Accepting mother creates safe space for child, heartwarming 🏳️‍🌈

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Supportive mother's response to son coming out as gay ❤️👏

vivianne86xo | vivianne86xo

Son comes out, dad reacts poorly, ex-husband to the rescue 👏

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Supportive mother's response to son coming out as gay 💜

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Accepting your child's sexuality should always be a big deal 🏳️‍🌈

A mother's reaction to her son coming out as gay has sparked a debate. While she wanted her children to know that everyone is equal and should be treated as such, her son expected her to make a big deal out of it. The mother, who was busy cooking a meal for the family, simply acknowledged her son's sexuality and did not think it was necessary to express pride in him for coming out. This caused her son to storm out of the house and go to his father's. While some family members agree with the mother's viewpoint, others believe that coming out is a big deal and should be celebrated. Regardless of personal beliefs, it is important to remember that accepting and supporting your child's sexuality is crucial for their mental and emotional well-being. In the next section, we will look at some reactions to this story and discuss how we can create a more accepting and supportive environment for the LGBTQ+ community.

Mother's dismissive reaction to son's coming out causes hurt, YTA.

unapproved_dentist | unapproved_dentist

YTA for not giving your son the support he needed. 😔

Superstar32131 | Superstar32131

Mother's dismissive response to son coming out as gay: YTA

TheEmpressIsIn | TheEmpressIsIn

Dismissive response to son coming out as gay, definite YTA.

riobhcas | riobhcas

Mother's lack of support when her son came out as gay and outing him to the family without his consent, Soft YTA.

Midnightstratus | Midnightstratus

YTA for not acknowledging your son's courage in coming out 🏳️‍🌈

Mirianda666 | Mirianda666

Prioritizing dinner over son's coming out, YTA. 🚫🍴

ananchorinmychest | ananchorinmychest

Parent's dismissive response to coming out, hurt son's feelings 😢

Substantial-Fox-4905 | Substantial-Fox-4905

Empathize and support your son when he comes out. 👍

jbh01 | jbh01

Supportive parent, but privacy concerns raised by commenters. 🏳️‍🌈

AkiliosTheWolf | AkiliosTheWolf

Acknowledging the significance of coming out goes a long way ❤️

Emotional-Ebb8321 | Emotional-Ebb8321

Accepting your child's identity is a big deal. 🤝

macfak | macfak

Mother's dismissive response to son coming out sparks debate. 🏳️‍🌈

alexoid182 | alexoid182

Invalidating son's coming out and outing him? YTA, apologize immediately 🏳️‍🌈❤️

Zoenne | Zoenne

Acceptance is crucial even when it's not a big deal. ❤

occamsrazor2020 | occamsrazor2020

Outing your son without his consent is disgusting, YTA 💔

curvycurly | curvycurly

Normalize coming out, but still validate your child's moment 🌈

redditorshavenosense | redditorshavenosense

Why a 'I don't care' response to coming out is hurtful 😔

dreadedwheat | dreadedwheat

Parent's self-validation overshadows son's coming out, YTA 🏳️‍🌈

Rufescens | Rufescens

Mother outs gay son to family, YTA 🏳️‍🌈🚫

jayakiroka | jayakiroka

A comment calling out a huge YTA for outing their son.

geven87 | geven87

Be supportive of your son's decision, YTA. 🌈💛

thatbtchshay | thatbtchshay

Parent outs son, commenters deem them an a**hole, YTA confirmed

lenbusterr | lenbusterr

Don't minimize your child's coming out, love and support 🌈❤️

mellysox | mellysox

Your son's coming out is more important than burning food 🌈

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Addressing LGBTQ+ as NSFW is discriminatory 🏳️‍🌈

RozzERzZ | RozzERzZ

Offering support is important, a simple gesture can make difference ❤️

theshadowppl9 | theshadowppl9

Seek advice from LGBT-friendly communities to better support your son 🏳️‍🌈

damnedfiddler | damnedfiddler

OP's NSFW tag shows homophobia, not understanding of NSFW.

piemakerdeadwaker | piemakerdeadwaker

Supportive mom stressed with cooking, NAH for asking son to wait 👍

jg700 | jg700

Reacting to a son coming out: NTA or could be better? 🤔

sweet101trash | sweet101trash

Apologize to your son and be there for him, YTA 😔👨‍👦❤️

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Parent's poor handling of son's coming out, YTA 😒

benoz11 | benoz11

Dismissive mother outs son, labeled YTA by comment.

0_Shinigami_0 | 0_Shinigami_0

Food over son? YTA 🤦‍♀️

han5gruber | han5gruber

Apologize and reassure your son, it's never too late ❤️

gripschi | gripschi

Ignoring your child's needs? YTA 🤔

lamamaloca | lamamaloca

Listen and support, not dismiss. YTA 👎

wpel_142 | wpel_142

Support your son's journey, even if you don't understand it 💛

Bachpipe | Bachpipe

Ignoring the importance of coming out, YTA. 🏳️‍🌈

NewBromance | NewBromance

Acknowledging your son's courage is important, YTA 😔👎

Plasticman4Life | Plasticman4Life

Selfish mother criticized for not supporting son's coming out 🏳️‍🌈

mizuchiiiii | mizuchiiiii

Mother's distracted reaction to son coming out, NTA 🌈

glynndah | glynndah

Outing your son and saying 'I don't care' doesn't make you NAH 🤔

JohnnyTeardrop | JohnnyTeardrop

Respect your child's privacy, outing them is not cool. YTA 💔

RyotsGurl | RyotsGurl

Insensitive reaction to son's coming out, YTA 😕

Fovillain | Fovillain

OP's dismissive response to son coming out as gay, YTA 🤨

SwimmingCoyote | SwimmingCoyote