After 21 years of marriage, a wife is refusing to move for her husband's job. The couple moved frequently during the husband's time in the navy, and even after he left, they continued to move for his career. However, after finally settling down in a new state and finding a good job, the wife is not willing to uproot her life again. Her husband is pushing her to move for a new job opportunity, but the wife is standing her ground. She believes that she has supported her husband's career enough and that it's time for him to consider her needs. However, her husband is calling her selfish and not supportive. What do you think? AITA for refusing to move again?

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Moving constantly for a partner's job can be difficult, especially for someone who has had to sacrifice their own career for it. After years of moving, this wife has finally found a job she loves and has made a life for herself, but her husband wants to move again for his job. With their son in college nearby and a great job in her field, she has put her foot down and refused to move again. Is she being selfish or is her husband asking too much? Read on to find out more and see what others have to say.
NTA wife supported husband's career for 21 years, it's her turn.

shak1071 | shak1071
Husband expected wife to sell and pack house every time - NTA!

poochonmom | poochonmom
Stand your ground and polish that backbone 💪

PiewacketFire | PiewacketFire
Husband calls wife selfish for not moving again for his job 🙄 #NTA

TypicalManagement680 | TypicalManagement680
Partner's repeated moving request may be suspicious and selfish. #NTA

NotSoAverage_sister | NotSoAverage_sister
"This is THE LAST move" - mil spouse retired, husband's job

SillyCdnMum | SillyCdnMum
Partner's job shouldn't always come first, prioritize happiness and partnership ❤️

SlightlyTwistedGames | SlightlyTwistedGames
Putting yourself first for once is not being selfish. 🙌

Redefined421 | Redefined421
Standing up for yourself and refusing to be a doormat. 👏🏼🙌🏼 #NTA

type1error | type1error
Don't let your husband's job dictate your entire life. 💪

QuixoticLogophile | QuixoticLogophile
You deserve happiness too 💕 Stand up for yourself

RainbowSequins | RainbowSequins
Stand up for yourself! 💪 Posting on r/relationshipadvice is a good idea.

MorgainofAvalon | MorgainofAvalon
After decades of supporting his career choices, it's time for him to support yours. 💪

hey-demons-its-me-ya | hey-demons-its-me-ya
Career support goes both ways. Remote work could be solution 🙏

Commercial_Wallaby9 | Commercial_Wallaby9
Wife pushed to move 21 times for husband's job calls it quits. 🎉

Petulia_Gristle | Petulia_Gristle
Supportive comment to someone whose spouse wants to move.

baggleboots | baggleboots
Marriage is a partnership, not a one-way street 🤝

SnooGuavas4531 | SnooGuavas4531
Childhood spent moving constantly, now refusing to move again.

Maeve4159 | Maeve4159
Wife stands up for herself after multiple moves for husband's job 👏

ohmsms | ohmsms
Husband values career over wife's needs, NTA for refusing move 🙅♀️

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Former military spouse shares their experience and supports OP's decision 🤝

DerbyDogMom | DerbyDogMom
Husband's desire to move may not be about the job 🤔

Salem729606 | Salem729606
Wife sacrifices everything to support husband's moving obsession. NTA.

OpheliasTragedy | OpheliasTragedy
Honest conversation about career and compromise needed 💼💬

pixelunicorns | pixelunicorns
Stand up for yourself! 💪 You deserve support too.

conancas | conancas
Spouse's selfishness leads to wife's relocation refusal. 🤷♀️

tangerine-trees- | tangerine-trees-
Military spouse empathizes with wife's situation. NTA.

veloxaraptor | veloxaraptor
Don't let him guilt-trip you. Stand your ground 💪

Cardabella | Cardabella
Choosing where to live is a joint decision. He's being selfish 😒

rich-tma | rich-tma
Time for him to support you after two decades. ✌️

historyerin | historyerin
Veteran affirms wife's decision to prioritize herself over husband's job 💪

deadlyhausfrau | deadlyhausfrau
Moving frequently isn't for everyone. Husband needs to respect that. 👍

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"Put your foot down" 🤷♀️👣: Wife's refusal to move again.

little-princess129 | little-princess129
Supporting each other is key! 🤝

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Time for a role reversal! NTA 👏👏

pbc85 | pbc85
Don't let him bug you! 🐜 Stand your ground. 🏡

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Communicate your feelings early on to avoid sudden rejections. 💬

MTB8306 | MTB8306
Stand your ground! It's your turn to be supported 💪

ltisdale | ltisdale
Moving AGAIN? 🙅♀️ NTA deserves a stable home and friends.

TomoyoJinx | TomoyoJinx
Compromise is key in relationships, no one's an a**hole here 😊

Nsfwputitinyourmouth | Nsfwputitinyourmouth
Don't let him undermine your career. You deserve better 🙅♀️💼

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Support is a two way street 🤝 NTA

dataminer-x | dataminer-x
Mom's refusal to move for dad's job. NTA!

firefightersgirl76 | firefightersgirl76
Wife criticized for not moving again for husband's job. NTA.

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Commenter defends wife's decision against unsupportive husband.👊

Mrsbear19 | Mrsbear19
Stand up for yourself and your job, you're not selfish 😤

mfruitfly | mfruitfly
Supportive comment, prioritize your needs for a change ❤️

CuppCake529 | CuppCake529
After 20 years of supporting him, it's about time for reciprocation 🤝

Billi_Pilgrim | Billi_Pilgrim
Don't be a fool! Moving for a job in this economy? 😒

w11f1ow3r | w11f1ow3r
Stay tuned for updates! 🤞

cewallace9 | cewallace9
Compromise is key for a happy marriage 💍💕

Tiger1833 | Tiger1833
Wife refuses to move for husband's job, sparks gender debate 💥

smothered_reality | smothered_reality
Supportive comment calls out husband's selfishness 🤨

annabananafin | annabananafin
Putting your spouse first doesn't mean sacrificing your happiness 😌

WritPositWrit | WritPositWrit